Pearl DESTROYED These O.F Models
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In this episode, we discuss self-esteem, beauty standards, and what it means to be a woman in the 21st century. We also discuss the importance of being honest with yourself and how to deal with the fact that you may not be the prettiest girl in the world.
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a seven and a half eight okay i think i'm i'm a 10 in the midwest have you scoot into the table
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depends on the city in la the number goes down uh okay in uh let's say you're in like a
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international hub somewhere oh international hub yeah i mean okay okay um like like la for example
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um i wouldn't on a good day a solid like a strong eight okay i would call myself a 10 but that's
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because i'm no matter who it is like no one's ever gonna think i'm the prettiest girl or like
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there's not ever there's always gonna be somebody that thinks i'm ugly so i'm just gonna call myself
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a 10 and be happy with that i like that you know what i mean well not everybody likes me not everybody
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has to okay we'll let everybody answer go ahead i'd give myself an eight if i was down south or
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in the midwest i'd be beyonce but here in la you feel me it really just depends on what part of well
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we're in santa barbara but i'm from la i'm from the hood so in the hood i'm definitely a 10 you feel me
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but when you go to beverly hills stuff like that you you fat you got a belly little fupa then yeah
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your number go way down so beverly hills versus the hood you know let me know more to love baby
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um i would rate myself like a seven or an eight okay i'd probably give myself a 6.5 or a 7 i think
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it depends on the city and state too like in florida maybe like a 7 but here in california maybe like a
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6.5 yeah i think i'm 6 6.5 i think that's about accurate you guys are kind of changing my mind i think
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he has a low volume but i was gonna say like a like a seven or eight but i'm gonna go with an eight
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i say five i think i'm an average chick oh not pretty no what that doesn't mean i don't think
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there's anything wrong with average i mean i think like there's nothing wrong with being average i
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think if you take 10 girls at the table like half of us probably are average yeah i think no one wants
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to be like honest with them just because you're not saying you're 10 doesn't mean you're not
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confident either there's a difference between realistic and just not confident i agree completely
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yeah i just i don't know why like we live in the society where average is seen as a bad thing like
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most people are average not everyone can be like if you think about if you're an eight that means
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you're in the top 20 of beauty you should have had top 20 of beauty results so that means um i don't
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know modeling contracts i don't know you know um eligible top 20 10 men in your dms or um
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i don't know but not not just like like taking you seriously but go ahead there's also been
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beauty studies um they've done where they've like had eight faces lined up of different like
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kinds of beauty supermodel beauty with the chiseled features and like you know what people
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actually find most beautiful is most familiar so it's like more the girl next door look that
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was actually rated the most beautiful or even like somebody like i've noticed like the more that i've
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been around couples um people tend to date people that we kind of resemble them or someone that they
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love like their mom or something i don't know why that is again it's probably the familiarity thing
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that she just pointed out but i've i've i've continued to notice more and more since being in
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la that a lot of people tend to date people that kind of look a little bit like them so it doesn't
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mean that necessarily like it's the beauty standard it's just beauty beauty in each beauty
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i'd like to say that beauty is not subjective it's objective there's been many studies like people
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tend to find the same things attractive like people might have like certain types where it
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differs a little bit but in general like it's not subjective it's yeah and every man woman in
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between is someone's type at the time not oh true yeah i think it's a question because i didn't want
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to get lip fillers until like like three years ago when it became popular to have big lips and as
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someone like yeah and i was bullied for my big lips growing up until it became like people were
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getting lip injections really like that's why i call myself i'm not going to hold on base what i
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think of myself on what anybody else thinks of me i look in the mirror every day and i like what i
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see yeah but that's delusional but it's true i like what i see in the mirror so in my mind okay then
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i okay in my mind i'm not saying that you have to say in my mind in my mind in my mind i'm a millionaire
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in my mind i'm a millionaire and a phd in my mind and i feel like that so therefore i am
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just because you like what you see in the mirror also that doesn't mean that you're a 10. a 10 is
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saying you are absolutely perfect so you're saying you don't have any acne your hair is perfect every
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single day like you're in the best shape of your life you're saying you have absolutely nothing that
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you think you can improve on yourself i'm not saying that but i'm saying that i would consider
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myself a 10. i don't know what other people would call me i think maybe you're thinking of different
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categories because objectively the golden ratio is a measure a measure of facial symmetry and it
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is objective you can look at someone's face and see how closely they match and so i think when a
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lot of people say what they're talking about is this is how i measure up to this ideal standard of
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beauty though i do think yeah you're right over time or whoever said that over time society does
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value different aspects of women's beauty as time changes yeah it's just i know for a fact that not
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everybody's gonna find me beautiful some people will some people will women make 70 i'm gonna go
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with what i like but women make remember women make 70 to 80 percent of consumer buying decisions so all
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the media is marketed towards women it's not for men what men what men likes really has not changed
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natural more natural you see but i said earlier like it really does depend on the country and it does
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depend on where you're living because it's a lot different in america than it is in israel i lived in
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israel for over four years and the beauty standards there while completely different when i got
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back here when i got back here i went and i wanted a nose job right away as soon as i got back i went
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and got botox i went and got lip filler i didn't feel beautiful here by beauty standards at all but
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when i lived in israel i was very confident and i felt great because they're they don't care about
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those beauty standards right they don't care about them they've done studies on this like with men all
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over the world i mean i i lived there first i mean i've lived okay i've lived in germany i've lived all
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over the world too so we could go back and forth and then the i lived game but in general men tend to
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find the same things attractive i don't believe that's true at all but okay well but what do you
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think men find attractive um i mean fit feminine friendly in general um symmetrical face i mean i
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think you kind of know it when you see it if we're being honest supposedly like um you know biologically
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like where the men are attracted to like a woman that looks like she's capable of bearing a child
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so like yeah to me that's the only way that we can say what we know men like because it's all
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different between what men like yeah it's not it's not that one thing like oh if you have a small
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nose every man is gonna like you men in general aren't that picky and also i don't like supermodels
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some men like the bbl big booty latinas like everyone has a different type so you can't just
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put men into like a certain category i mean men really aren't that picky they swipe right on dating
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apps like 50 of the time like men just really they're not picky on who they fuck but they're picky
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on who they want to marry yeah and who they want to show off yeah and another thing is is you can be
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you can be the complete you can be the complete and total package and get delivered to the wrong
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house i'm just saying you can be you can be what somebody is dying and praying for and not get
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the choosers so then you pick the wrong house no i'm saying no i'm saying i'm saying you can walk
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into a room and be attend to somebody in that room but go up to the wrong guy i mean not really
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not okay okay let's let's let's do it let's do a different example is is lizzo going to be a 10
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anywhere no lizzo if she goes to japan that's exactly what i'm that's exactly what i'm saying
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no no but she's not going to be a 10 anywhere i mean we could argue that maybe like you know
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well yeah she will be a 10 somewhere like i said in the hood she's just like every woman they have
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they could be the exact perfect package for the perfect person right but that's exactly what i'm trying to
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say lizzo if you want to use her as an example she's a beautiful woman right right i think what
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she's getting at every single person on earth i mean i have common sense i think that that's where
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you get in i think that's where you get it wrong sometimes we have to we have to generalize in order
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to have conversations sometimes we know we have to otherwise if we're gonna have a conversation
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about every single exception we're gonna be here all day
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if i said you guys look like lizzo would you take it as a compliment
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her body and her face and her confidence and the way that she carries herself hell yeah
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i think she's beautiful i can find beauty in every single woman though like that's just me
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i think what pearl was trying to get at is that it's okay to be normal it's okay not to be a 10
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out of 10 in society standards everybody is told nowadays that they're special and that you're a 10
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you're a 10 no let's be for real we have to be honest with ourselves we go out into the world i'm
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gonna go out somewhere somebody doesn't like black girls guess what i'm gonna have to do except that
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people don't like black girls i'm gonna go out there and change the world's opinion no that doesn't
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make that doesn't change how you feel about yourself yeah but i mean but i feel about myself
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because i'm going off of society standards of what i look like i feel that way but she's saying
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the question was to rate our looks not ourselves there's a big difference
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okay but come on even if we're gonna go off personality what we all have perfect 10 no no i'm
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saying like there's no areas for improvement in your personality no that's not what we're saying at all
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no i mean it is when you're saying you're a 10 if you're including per because you said
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where you stand in society no but i said i said i said if we were telling even if we were going
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personality that's what i said that's true yeah but it's i think that we're having a little bit
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of confusion about objectively there is an objective beauty standard you can look at a woman and there
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are different across races across ethnicities across all different types of things there are women
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who are objectively beautiful when they walk in a room you know that's a 10 you know it you know it
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when you see it but there is relative beauty like like like you were saying it depends on where you
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are and you may have somebody who for that for that culture for that area that's a 10 and it looks
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different than the objective 10 that all most people if you have a room full of a thousand people
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from all over the world they know when somebody walks in that's a 10 objectively because you can
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see it's the facial symmetry it's just the math and our brains comprehend it as beauty 100 and if you
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bring somebody with blue eyes somewhere where they're predominantly not blue eyes they're
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immediately going to get like a double look or be held to like oh wow that's beautiful because it's
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not seen as often or whatever the case may be i'm not just i'm just saying blue eyes because i
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that's what i have so i'm not going to critique somebody else's look but yeah well i don't
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understand is who is the shot caller that said oh this is the perfect structured face this is what beauty
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is like it's just society who has the right to say that you're right you're not bringing up the golden ratio
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yeah some naughty it's just math it is and you know another thing is ridiculous to me is that okay
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this is what a 30 year old should look like this is what you should look like when you're 20 this
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is what i have a question i have a question how tall are you how tall are you 5 7 okay would you date a guy
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that's five foot i have really oh plenty of times five foot seven inches yeah i fucked a little
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four and seven let me tell you i look and he was probably winning double time yeah no look where i come
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from look you you just blessed and at my age you just blessed to get somebody that you feel me wants
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to show you some love honey and show you a good time honey so you got to go along with it baby if
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it's if it's your you feel me your type then it's your type height shouldn't matter you know what i
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mean yeah i don't i think that's shallow to be honest to to put somebody down just based off their
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women women do though if you look at the filters on dating apps though like most like the most common
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filter is six foot and up and most women have that filter on if they can i have a question i feel like
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most men like shorter women as well they do yeah that's my problem five two is like this they want
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a little tiny yeah mad short guys i know i used to give i used to give i used to date only
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so for those of you who are working in the adult industry i'm curious what you think your life will
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look like about 10 to 15 years in the future like what do you picture where do you picture your
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career is going i mean i've definitely been thinking about that a lot since i got pregnant
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and also before as well um that's also why i kind of stepped out of the corn industry itself because i
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was realizing that you know at least with only fans yes they can screenshot yes they can screen
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record everything and it can be put out on reddit or whatever but that i'm on the hub anyone can look
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me up and now it kind of sucks like looking back on it i don't regret my decisions because they got
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me to where i am today and the person that i am today and i will always be thankful for that
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um but i do wish i went ahead and did my research before and did things a lot differently than i did
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um because i i wonder did you know before you started so this is something so i'm a career
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coach and i help people find jobs without buying college degrees so i help people get into tech and
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different industries blue collar doesn't really matter whatever people want to do i'll help them
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figure out how to do it and so i'm curious about if if it's common knowledge that if you do that kind
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of work later on down the line it may show up an employer may choose not to hire you and they're
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legally allowed to do so and how have you like planned for that on down the line i went ahead i
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went ahead kiana still is my real name but i changed the spelling of it i use a fake last legally you
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changed it no okay so if i walk into a job they you can't correlate kiana kumani with my real name
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um what if they start like making technology to like find your face well they already have i mean if
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they already have then they already have but honestly after the work that i've done i don't see
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myself going back to nine to five um i do want to go to college and i do want to get my nursing
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degree because i do want to go and be a traveling nurse and help out in different countries and i
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don't think it really matters when you're going to be a nurse if you've done corn i don't see that
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as an issue because i'm i want to help well a lot of employers a lot of employers do and it will
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impact your prospects and if that if that is the case then that is the case but right now i'm trying
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to stack my money as much as possible and again invest in airbnb properties that's wise of you
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yeah yeah and do as much as possible i don't want to waste my money on stupid stuff yeah i think it's
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dumb that a lot of women in the industry get into the industry and they are so they have never had
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that much money before so they go and buy designer purses designer shoes they waste all they waste yeah
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they waste all their money they spend it and they don't learn how to do their tax forms they don't
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learn how they don't learn how to write off things that they're paying for on a daily basis to keep
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up with their own their own like look like when you're when you're an of model i can write off
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these nails every time i get them done i can write off everything do you all do your own taxes or do
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you have cpa i do my own i've i've because i did my business degree i actually like took courses and
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shit like that and i actually really really enjoy doing that i want to help more people do that when
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it comes to of um but no i definitely have a plan for after i'm done with the industry that i'm in
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right now did you start in only fans because you couldn't get a job with your degree as many of you
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know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform if
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