JustPearlyThings - Pearl DESTROYED This Modern Woman For Saying THIS

00:00:00.000 What is the role of a wife?

00:00:03.540 I expect you'll say it's to bear children.

00:00:06.740 No, that's not what I would say.

00:00:07.980 No, okay.

00:00:09.280 Well, to be supportive, I think, and encouraging, and kind, and respectful, and give men a lot of what they need, as long as it isn't insane and ridiculous.

00:00:18.060 I think I work as a dominatrix, and I think too often wives fail to do that, and men come to me for things that women should often be providing themselves.

00:00:24.860 Yeah, question, actually.

00:00:27.320 I have a theory.

00:00:29.780 I'm like, what can we learn from sex workers?

00:00:32.520 And I think one thing I've always heard from sex workers is a lot of times men seek out sex workers because their wives are not sleeping with them.

00:00:39.580 Is that true?

00:00:41.020 Yes, I'm sure that's true, or just listening to them, actually, or just respecting them.

00:00:44.400 I had a man recently pay me so he could cry in my arms because their son had just died, and his wife just wasn't providing any emotional support.

00:00:52.140 Or they just really want their wives to wear stockings, and I don't think that's really unreasonable.

00:00:56.460 Yeah, I don't sleep with men, so I'm not entirely confident on that.

00:01:02.400 How does that work with your husband who doesn't mind?

00:01:04.780 No, he thinks it's just ridiculous and fun.

00:01:07.080 Yeah, he just hears the beating noises, and she's off again.

00:01:10.160 He doesn't think spanking's sexy at all, so he's fine.

00:01:13.220 But you don't do anything sexually with them?

00:01:15.320 No, just beat them up.

00:01:18.300 Wow, that's interesting.

00:01:19.400 Do you know women that do have sex with them?

00:01:21.640 I don't, actually.

00:01:23.340 No, it just stops at the beating.

00:01:24.780 It's just you kind of live in your own little world.

00:01:26.600 Yeah, really, yes.

00:01:28.800 What is the role of a wife?

00:01:30.440 I'm not married, so does my opinion really count?

00:01:33.280 It still counts.

00:01:34.320 I mean, the question is, does the average chick know the role of a wife?

00:01:37.980 Okay, wow.

00:01:42.840 My mum, she cooks, she cleans, she loves, she supports, she fends for her kids.

00:01:51.560 She goes with her instincts, womanly instincts.

00:01:57.580 I don't know if everyone's got them, but she is amazing.

00:02:00.840 And my dad is still there, still there supporting her, and she's still there supporting him.

00:02:10.040 So what I've seen her do over all these years, because I was together, well, from before I was born,

00:02:18.360 they're in their 50s now.

00:02:20.360 Her just, even the business, they've opened up a business.

00:02:23.960 They've got teamwork now.

00:02:25.160 It's just, it's all about building.

00:02:30.380 She's built with her partner and her partner.

00:02:33.880 My dad, she's built him together.

00:02:37.160 She's built him?

00:02:38.240 Yeah, like together.

00:02:39.340 They build each other.

00:02:41.120 Okay.

00:02:41.580 And it's like, it's a team thing, you know?

00:02:45.200 Do you think they're equals?

00:02:47.680 Equals?

00:02:48.240 In marriage, are they equal?

00:02:50.740 Yes.

00:02:51.520 Yeah.

00:02:52.140 Yeah, yeah.

00:02:52.940 So you think your role in marriage is to be an equal, a teammate?

00:02:58.760 Well, I just feel like they've still been right.

00:03:01.620 They're happy.

00:03:02.420 They've been going on.

00:03:03.560 This is just what I've seen.

00:03:05.520 Obviously, I'm not going to go into my deep detail of my life and my family, but this is just my opinion.

00:03:10.940 I'm not married.

00:03:11.760 I've just seen what she's done.

00:03:13.460 And as a wife, they're still happy, boy.

00:03:18.260 Still together, still riding it.

00:03:20.500 And that's just me.

00:03:21.200 What is the role of a wife?

00:03:24.200 To be the husband's helper.

00:03:26.520 To love, respect, and to submit to him.

00:03:30.660 Like, he is the leader.

00:03:33.360 And to just nurture the home.

00:03:35.880 Make a home.

00:03:36.880 Okay.

00:03:37.200 The house for him.

00:03:37.960 Yeah.

00:03:38.060 Yeah, I would say to love and support.

00:03:44.120 Be respectful.

00:03:46.100 And to listen.

00:03:50.020 Yeah, I think that's pretty much.

00:03:53.200 And yeah, be able to just give him what he won't be looking in other women for.

00:03:58.180 Oh, okay.

00:04:01.560 I would say exactly what she said, actually.

00:04:03.480 But that's kind of biblical.

00:04:04.780 Speak up to the mic.

00:04:06.280 Well, what she said, I agree with her.

00:04:08.660 All the things that she said.

00:04:10.720 The lady over there, I don't really know her name.

00:04:12.840 What's your name?

00:04:13.560 No, no.

00:04:14.920 Chantel.

00:04:15.440 Chantel.

00:04:15.880 Yeah, well, what Chantel said, I agree with her.

00:04:17.960 So, copy and paste.

00:04:19.100 That's what she said.

00:04:20.520 Exactly how I think a wife should be.

00:04:22.840 Okay.

00:04:23.300 What do you think?

00:04:23.880 What is the role of a wife?

00:04:25.020 Yeah, I totally agree with the last two guys.

00:04:28.040 Yeah, definitely, you know, to be a helper.

00:04:31.520 To respect, you know, commit in terms of like paying your role as a wife.

00:04:40.120 Okay.

00:04:42.160 Okay, so that would be to nurture, to reproduce.

00:04:46.520 Two other elements, I'll say to heal the sick and to feed the hunger.

00:04:52.360 And to contribute towards the legacy that the man's trying to obtain or maintain.

00:05:02.220 Should you obey your husband, point blank, period?

00:05:05.780 No.

00:05:07.060 No?

00:05:07.640 No.

00:05:08.120 No?

00:05:08.440 What about you?

00:05:14.660 Can we define obey?

00:05:16.080 I was about to say that as well.

00:05:17.800 Obey.

00:05:18.880 You don't know what obey?

00:05:19.960 I mean, I can get the definition.

00:05:21.160 You can't infer what it means.

00:05:24.420 I'll get you guys.

00:05:25.740 You mean just say yes to everything they say, basically?

00:05:28.780 The yes, girl.

00:05:29.520 Yes, yes, yes.

00:05:31.280 Submit to the authority of someone or comply with.

00:05:36.240 Should you obey your husband, point blank, period?

00:05:39.880 So you say no.

00:05:40.960 What do you say?

00:05:43.280 No.

00:05:44.060 No.

00:05:44.580 Okay, what do you think?

00:05:45.380 Yes.

00:05:45.960 Yes.

00:05:46.360 She's torn.

00:05:48.620 I see it.

00:05:49.240 I am.

00:05:49.740 She's like, I know the right answer, but I don't want to say it.

00:05:54.900 Yeah.

00:05:55.420 I think it's a bit of both.

00:05:57.160 I think there's certain things you should just completely agree with and other things that

00:06:02.260 you just...

00:06:02.880 How do you...

00:06:03.200 And that is no.

00:06:04.040 ...be able to...

00:06:04.740 Because really and truly, I agree with you.

00:06:07.960 There's certain things, yes, but you will say no to something.

00:06:12.120 I am going to say no.

00:06:12.620 So that is a no.

00:06:13.600 You won't always obey.

00:06:15.380 Okay.

00:06:17.780 That's a tricky one.

00:06:18.800 I would say, yes, you should obey, but only obey if he himself moves with godly principles.

00:06:26.720 Then, yeah, you should obey, because I mean, me personally, I obey God alone.

00:06:29.720 So if he moves with godly principles, then, yeah, I think you should obey.

00:06:33.100 I think it will lead you both into an unselfish route.

00:06:36.180 You both can...

00:06:37.400 Then, just reap the benefits of that.

00:06:40.100 So, yeah.

00:06:41.000 If he's got godly principles, then, yeah, you should obey.

00:06:42.920 I agree with the last bit, what he just said.

00:06:48.700 And I believe, yes, so long as it's not detrimental to the home.

00:06:54.100 Okay.

00:06:55.020 I would say if it's beneficial to both parties, yes.

00:06:58.660 How do you determine what's beneficial to both parties?

00:07:02.880 Hmm.

00:07:03.480 When your boss asks you to do something, do you say if it's beneficial to both parties?

00:07:09.840 Hmm.

00:07:10.160 To a boss, it will be beneficial to do it, because if not, you'd be fired, then you have

00:07:14.680 to look at the consequences of being fired, or having the consequences of you having a

00:07:18.620 rocky relationship with your boss now, saying that you don't want to comply.

00:07:21.720 So why will women submit to a boss, but not their husband?

00:07:24.820 Because that's not...

00:07:26.020 What?

00:07:26.360 You're not getting paid.

00:07:28.200 That's different.

00:07:29.100 I mean, do you want a guy that provides?

00:07:32.280 True.

00:07:33.160 When you think of it like that.

00:07:34.400 Yeah.

00:07:34.760 So my question is, why will we submit to a boss, but we have to say, oh, well, what's

00:07:39.840 in it for me when it's our husband?

00:07:41.520 Work is work.

00:07:42.180 We shouldn't be at home thinking that this is work.

00:07:44.580 No.

00:07:44.600 Right.

00:07:44.800 But it's the same dynamic.

00:07:46.120 It's an authority dynamic, right?

00:07:48.620 Mm-hmm.

00:07:49.740 I mean, it depends what you believe marriage is.

00:07:52.180 Because you seem to have more of an egalitarian model of marriage, which is really common,

00:07:56.360 where it's like 50-50, we have an equal say.

00:07:58.780 I don't believe in that.

00:07:59.980 Like, I think that you should listen to the men.

00:08:02.680 Is that you?

00:08:03.300 Have you got a partner?

00:08:06.220 Right, right, right, right.

00:08:09.940 No.

00:08:11.200 But I just think you can look at what works in history.

00:08:14.960 And it's literally like the egalitarian model has never worked.

00:08:21.240 Would you care to elaborate on that a bit?

00:08:23.840 All right.

00:08:24.300 Let's look at...

00:08:25.660 So basically, feminism, when did it start?

00:08:28.300 Like, the early 1900s.

00:08:30.660 And that's when you start seeing in the media that men are abusers.

00:08:33.740 You start seeing these propaganda campaigns where it's like, we're 50-50.

00:08:37.780 We both have an equal say, right?

00:08:40.300 And so it's like, the further, the more closer it's been to an egalitarian model,

00:08:46.740 then the less from a submissive, like, authority structure,

00:08:50.200 the more divorce rates have gone up, the less children we've had,

00:08:52.840 the less relationships have formed.

00:08:54.300 It was just really hard to get a divorce before, wasn't it?

00:08:57.980 That's related.

00:08:58.860 I mean, yeah, because I think today what we have, it's not marriage.

00:09:03.160 You know, it's like basically being in a relationship.

00:09:06.380 I think divorce should be illegal.

00:09:08.080 Yeah, I don't believe in that.

00:09:09.900 Yeah, I don't think...

00:09:12.240 I think once you're married, that's it.

00:09:14.860 Yeah, unless it's, again, the whole abuse word.

00:09:18.440 Then I don't think there's anything, even with cheating,

00:09:21.140 I think that can be worked out.

00:09:22.820 Wow, based.

00:09:24.160 Very based.

00:09:26.240 I do feel like if that's your husband, then that's who you've married.

00:09:29.960 You can work it out.

00:09:31.420 I mean, I think women cheat every day.

00:09:33.740 Yeah, I mean, women are the biggest cheaters in 2023.

00:09:37.820 How many women we see have ass pictures on Instagram,

00:09:41.620 being in happy, healthy relationships?

00:09:44.440 Wait, is that cheating?

00:09:45.260 Women...

00:09:46.060 Yes.

00:09:47.000 Is that cheating for you?

00:09:47.800 Yes, yes.

00:09:48.840 I think that is absolutely cheating.

00:09:51.300 What do you need to post a picture of your butt on Instagram for

00:09:54.200 when you have a husband?

00:09:55.100 What kind of butt?

00:09:56.020 Like, you know, just out here, just showing their new clothes and underwear.

00:09:59.380 Yeah, I agree.

00:10:00.740 I think a selfie is cheating.

00:10:03.040 Really?

00:10:03.720 What do they need to see your beauty for?

00:10:05.620 You got a man.

00:10:06.440 Girl, we're going to be walking on the roads.

00:10:08.620 Everyone's going to see the faces now.

00:10:10.140 What do you...

00:10:10.400 I mean, yeah, outside.

00:10:12.160 But, like, what are you posting it online for?

00:10:13.860 How is that cheating?

00:10:15.000 Also, let's talk about...

00:10:16.540 Let's talk about women.

00:10:17.760 It's like, we're like, oh, cheating is the worst thing

00:10:20.060 that could ever happen to us.

00:10:21.660 Well, I mean, are you a virgin on your wedding day?

00:10:24.540 No.

00:10:24.940 So, it's like, maybe we should get off our high horses.

00:10:28.460 It's like, a man cheats once.

00:10:30.420 50 to 70% of the time, it's a one-time thing.

00:10:34.320 So, meaning he'll never do it again.

00:10:36.060 Most guys don't really get offered like that.

00:10:38.960 So, then the women are like, oh, cheating is the worst thing ever.

00:10:42.220 Like, when men are programmed to just screw random chicks.

00:10:45.700 So, your man's screwing random chicks?

00:10:47.860 No, no.

00:10:49.080 Look, look, I mean, I don't wish to be cheated on.

00:10:53.160 I do not want to be cheated on.

00:10:54.780 You would accept it.

00:10:55.420 I think that it's silly to throw away a marriage when you have children

00:11:00.900 for your own personal feelings.

00:11:03.600 Because I think once you have a child, it's not about you anymore.

00:11:07.120 Yeah.

00:11:07.520 But one cheat, I get that.

00:11:10.040 Everyone, no one is perfect.

00:11:11.600 I'm not saying I'll be happy with it.

00:11:13.000 You're going to ride because there's kids involved.

00:11:15.520 What if it's consistently, the man don't respect you at all,

00:11:18.160 and he's giving his good friends to the king weenies into another wheel weenies.

00:11:23.280 All right.

00:11:23.980 All I want, how did women reproduce historically?

00:11:28.680 We got the attention of high value men, right?

00:11:31.660 The highest, the best guy in the tribe.

00:11:34.120 We'd pull up our skirts and be like, look, take me in, right?

00:11:37.820 Right.

00:11:38.040 That's how we survive.

00:11:39.440 How did women, or how did men survive?

00:11:42.080 They'd become big, get resources, right?

00:11:44.660 They'd get strong.

00:11:45.700 And what would they do?

00:11:48.180 They would screw a bunch of chicks.

00:11:49.720 That's how they survived.

00:11:50.920 So I think that sex is to men like attention is to women.

00:11:54.180 That's my belief.

00:11:55.380 And I think if we're going to go off this logic, we've never cheated.

00:11:59.180 None of us have flirted with another guy in a relationship.

00:12:02.420 None of us have posted a provocative picture.

00:12:05.340 We're all virgins on our wedding days.

00:12:07.200 I just think, like, maybe we should come with a little bit of humility.

00:12:11.400 That it's not like the end of the world if he sleeps with another person.

00:12:15.100 And it can be worked through.

00:12:17.200 Yeah, but what if it's consistently?

00:12:18.860 Wouldn't you feel a bit upset?

00:12:20.660 What about all that loyalty that you've given that man, that love, that energy?

00:12:24.840 And then they're just giving that good body to someone else.

00:12:27.660 Well, why did you do that before marriage?

00:12:31.860 No, but marriage is marriage.

00:12:34.220 No, but you were supposed to.

00:12:35.640 What are you supposed to be on your...

00:12:37.560 You haven't committed.

00:12:38.100 What are you supposed to be...

00:12:39.740 Okay, did you want to be married?

00:12:41.620 Did most women want to be married?

00:12:43.100 Yes.

00:12:43.400 Did we know that on our wedding night we were supposed to be virgins?

00:12:46.960 Most people knew that.

00:12:48.320 No, no, most of us are not.

00:12:50.220 And that's my point.

00:12:51.520 It's not to say it's okay, but it's like, where is the humility?

00:12:55.160 Yeah, but you've got to throw all that virgin talk in the bin right now.

00:12:57.680 We need to get back to the fact that when you're married,

00:12:59.860 are you saying it's all right to just completely keep getting consistently cheated on

00:13:03.220 without you feeling affected by it?

00:13:05.080 I wouldn't say consistency.

00:13:05.640 You know, wait, hold on.

00:13:06.660 I wanted her to answer that because I'm not asking questions for no reason now.

00:13:10.400 Wouldn't you feel a little bit upset like he's been...

00:13:13.200 Sorry, I'm just going to finish what I'm saying because I was just saying something.

00:13:16.960 I wanted to know.

00:13:17.640 Wouldn't you feel like that's a little bit...

00:13:19.620 Sorry, am I getting cut?

00:13:21.180 Oh, it was a valid point.

00:13:22.200 I'm going to...

00:13:22.340 Look, it's not the valid point.

00:13:25.100 It's that my producer was talking first.

00:13:26.940 Yeah, but I was talking and he cut into me and I was trying to wait.

00:13:28.880 I know, but he's allowed to do such a show.

00:13:30.660 He's allowed to do that.

00:13:31.520 It doesn't matter.

00:13:32.040 You asked the question, so I was asking.

00:13:33.180 I'm going to let him go and then you can go.

00:13:35.340 Okay, I'm going to let him go and then you can go.

00:13:37.040 Go ahead.

00:13:37.480 Yeah, so here's the thing about it.

00:13:40.040 Yeah, you can laugh what you want, but here's the thing about it.

00:13:43.140 The reality is a man that is going to be cheating on you consistently is one of two things.

00:13:48.580 Either he has always been a cheat and you knew and you decided to get married to him,

00:13:52.840 which is entirely your fault.

00:13:55.560 Or let's do what the women usually do.

00:13:58.560 If he just started cheating out of the blue and he does it consistently,

00:14:02.360 maybe you should ask yourself, why is he cheating?

00:14:04.840 What are you doing wrong?

00:14:05.840 Because that's what we always ask when a woman cheats.

00:14:08.440 Or what did the man do?

00:14:09.840 So maybe you should ask yourself, why did you cheat?

00:14:11.660 I 100% agree.

00:14:13.320 I agree.

00:14:13.980 Yeah, I agree with him as well.

00:14:15.280 I'm just putting other points, boy.

00:14:17.320 Okay, what's your...

00:14:18.260 Throwing it out there, but I definitely agree.

00:14:19.060 What is your question?

00:14:20.060 Oh, I forgot now.

00:14:21.220 Do I go cut?

00:14:22.020 That's it.

00:14:22.420 Oh, no.

00:14:22.840 Finish.

00:14:23.580 I'm those type of people.

00:14:25.100 All right.

00:14:25.580 You cut me up again.

00:14:26.740 All right.

00:14:27.660 All right.

00:14:28.300 Yeah, but I think a lot of times as women, we just think we're the hot shit.

00:14:32.580 And I just think we could use a little bit of humility and understanding.

00:14:36.220 Men are...

00:14:36.700 Men are...

00:14:37.040 Look it.

00:14:37.820 What if men left us every time we sought attention from other men?

00:14:41.860 We would be so goddamn single.

00:14:44.540 Oh, my God.

00:14:45.540 In this generation?

00:14:46.720 Attention or slept with other men.

00:14:48.600 Attention.

00:14:49.460 That's what I'm saying.

00:14:50.240 Because how did we...

00:14:51.500 Like, to me, those are the same.

00:14:53.000 Seeking attention from another guy is the same as getting sex from another girl.

00:14:57.120 Okay.

00:14:58.500 Well, yeah, it's not right.

00:14:59.840 It's just not right in any way.

00:15:01.720 It's something that is hard for anyone to really get over.

00:15:05.440 Like, how often do women go out in provocative clothes in a relationship?

00:15:09.720 How often do women go out to a club in a relationship?

00:15:12.600 We weren't virgins on our wedding days.

00:15:14.740 My whole point is, men are programmed to sleep with anything.

00:15:18.360 Guys have a hard time turning down easy sex.

00:15:21.520 It's probably not even you.

00:15:23.380 It's just the sex was there.

00:15:24.680 Or maybe it was you.

00:15:26.300 And, you know, I just think it's about the kids.

00:15:29.400 So, yeah, I would stick it out.

00:15:31.340 I believe every man will do their dirt.

00:15:33.500 I definitely believe it.

00:15:35.160 Regardless, even if you think that you're doing the best thing.

00:15:37.980 But it's not something that every woman can accept.

00:15:41.880 It's something mentally.

00:15:43.320 Wouldn't it be easier to just...

00:15:44.760 This is how I think about it.

00:15:46.340 Wouldn't it be easier to just accept it?

00:15:49.540 It would be so much easier to just accept being here, dog.

00:15:53.100 Yeah, no, seriously, I was thinking about this.

00:15:55.220 Wouldn't it be easier to just accept it might happen?

00:15:58.140 I have a theory.

00:15:59.100 Like, because otherwise you're going to be in his phone,

00:16:01.160 checking where he's doing.

00:16:01.980 And they're like, what are you going to do?

00:16:03.840 Mentally, it would disturb your brain.

00:16:05.120 I feel like...

00:16:05.860 You know, it's a choice.

00:16:07.280 It's a choice.

00:16:08.100 Go ahead.

00:16:08.400 I feel like within the first year of a relationship,

00:16:11.140 a man is tempted to cheat just to make sure that that girl is the girl

00:16:14.700 that he wants to be with.

00:16:15.900 But that's just my mentality of thinking of the relationship-wise.

00:16:20.880 I always feel like it happens within the first year.

00:16:23.300 And if it happens after the first year, yeah,

00:16:24.900 there's something wrong with the woman.

00:16:26.300 There's something wrong within the relationship.

00:16:27.700 But I think men just like...

00:16:29.700 I just think sometimes when, like, a hoe is there and willing,

00:16:34.000 the guy's just like, you know, a work trip.

00:16:39.220 It's like, go ahead.

00:16:40.100 I mean, I wouldn't say if a man cheats,

00:16:41.940 then there's something wrong with the woman.

00:16:43.340 Sometimes men cheat because they're just depressed.

00:16:45.280 It's just there.

00:16:45.900 Oh, depressed.

00:16:46.620 Yeah, I mean, some men cheat because they just don't feel...

00:16:50.280 They don't see any value.

00:16:51.400 But then would you not class that as something,

00:16:53.460 as the woman is not giving him?

00:16:54.460 Because why is your man depressed when you don't know your man is depressed?

JustPearlyThings - July 29, 2023

Pearl DESTROYED This Modern Woman For Saying THIS

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