JustPearlyThings - May 19, 2023


Pearl Drops TRUTH BOMBS On Modern Women


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10 minutes

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24

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43

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In this episode we talk about cheating on your wife and how to deal with it. We also talk about why men cheat on their wives and why women cheat on them. We talk about how a woman cheats on her husband and why a man cheaters on his wife.

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00:00:00.000 Isn't that what it's all about these days, though?
00:00:02.960 It's dealing with reality as it is.
00:00:05.320 We live in a day and age where women can make money off of being on social media, 1.00
00:00:11.560 you know, taking provocative pictures and stuff like that.
00:00:15.120 And where, you know, it's desirable for men to have loads of women chasing after them. 1.00
00:00:20.880 Isn't that...
00:00:21.800 It's not like...
00:00:22.980 Yeah, but it's like, do you want to deal with those women? 1.00
00:00:25.360 As a guy, like, why would you want to deal with a girl that's in the club every weekend? 0.96
00:00:29.440 Why would you want to deal with a girl that wants to do girls' trips while she's in a relationship? 1.00
00:00:33.460 Yeah, why?
00:00:34.540 I think girls' trips is okay.
00:00:37.020 Like, definitely go with your girls, have a good time.
00:00:39.240 That's not saying that you have to be out in the club sleeping with whoever.
00:00:42.620 Yeah, that's true. 0.98
00:00:43.080 But for me, if I was in a relationship, you would not catch one photo of me with my bum out, tits out, nothing. 1.00
00:00:51.560 Like, that shit, that's foul to me. 1.00
00:00:54.160 Like, I don't like that as a woman. 1.00
00:00:56.420 And, like, I know us girls, like, we've seen things and been like, well, she has a boyfriend, though.
00:01:01.700 You know, she has a boyfriend, she has a man, though. 0.61
00:01:03.700 You know, it's not right.
00:01:05.380 And girls encourage each other to cheat on those trips. 1.00
00:01:08.380 Yeah.
00:01:09.000 You know, you're smiling because you're thinking of something.
00:01:11.260 I mean, I can see it.
00:01:12.100 I can see it.
00:01:12.660 It's funny because I really think it depends on your friendships.
00:01:15.460 That's why when you get into a relationship, it's so important to look at who are these, like, who are these man's friends and who are my friends.
00:01:23.100 Like, when I have, when I get married, I hope that my husband, he also has friends that are married and, you know, don't want to cheat on their wives.
00:01:30.940 Because show me your friends and I'll show you who you are.
00:01:32.980 There's no man that doesn't want, there's no man that doesn't want to cheat on his wife.
00:01:36.400 I don't believe that fact.
00:01:38.740 I'm going to find a high value godly man.
00:01:40.900 That is what I'm going to find.
00:01:42.860 And I'm not talking about, don't bring up the Old Testament, Eva.
00:01:47.540 Have you seen the churches these days?
00:01:49.840 Have you seen the churches?
00:01:51.340 No, but I'm not talking about a man that just goes to church.
00:01:55.240 I'm talking about a man that has a relationship with God.
00:01:57.700 There's a big difference.
00:01:59.200 And I will find, no, I don't want a priest because there's a lot of priests that don't have a relationship with God.
00:02:03.100 They just want to make money from church.
00:02:04.460 But the key word is you said want.
00:02:06.220 Every man wants to cheat.
00:02:07.500 That's like asking a man not to be a man. 1.00
00:02:09.020 Every guy, when he sees a hot girl, when he sees a hot girl, wants to fuck her. 1.00
00:02:14.760 I think natural instinct, yeah, but that love is supposed to take over. 1.00
00:02:19.680 It's about loving too.
00:02:21.580 You've got to love your girl.
00:02:22.580 Yeah, you might have the desire, but it's about you.
00:02:24.460 You're exactly right.
00:02:25.200 You're actually going out there to do it.
00:02:26.420 You're exactly right.
00:02:26.920 And when a woman loves a man, she doesn't even see other men.
00:02:29.340 That is so true.
00:02:30.560 Okay, I'm not done though.
00:02:33.980 Because a man can love his wife with all his heart and want nothing more than be a good father, a protector, tuck his children in, hold his wife at night. 1.00
00:02:44.600 But if you think that he doesn't want to get pussy on the side, you have lost your mind. 0.99
00:02:48.400 But why does that side, like what is the root of that? 0.99
00:02:51.920 It's how men are.
00:02:52.880 It's primal.
00:02:53.440 It's truly, like if I could snap my fingers right now and make that feeling go away, I think I'd be worth 10x what I'm worth.
00:03:01.040 And I would do the deal.
00:03:02.280 I would pay a million dollars to make that thought go away.
00:03:04.640 That was what I was going to ask next.
00:03:06.100 Yeah, absolutely. 0.92
00:03:06.600 Isn't it harder for you to be high value and have sex with so many women because where's the time for that? 0.99
00:03:11.860 But what you don't understand, a real high value man doesn't have to chase women.
00:03:13.920 Women chase him. 1.00
00:03:14.920 Yeah, exactly.
00:03:15.740 I know that.
00:03:16.120 Which is the problem, right?
00:03:17.100 Isn't it hard on?
00:03:18.100 Because even if you want to be a good man, it's in your face.
00:03:21.440 You see?
00:03:22.360 Like, I don't, look, I'm not trying to be disrespectful to you guys.
00:03:24.680 So it's down to the discipline then of the man.
00:03:27.640 It's down to the discipline of the man because it's in your face every day, but at the same time, even though it's hard, it's still a thing where, okay, cool.
00:03:35.460 Am I going to do it?
00:03:36.120 Am I going to have the discipline not to have sex with this person and focus on something that's important?
00:03:39.400 Let me tell you what happens to a man.
00:03:41.540 I do want to answer your question because I think it's important.
00:03:43.780 I want to finish this, though.
00:03:46.940 Everything that drives a man to get out of bed and work his ass off is generally around the thought of sex.
00:03:52.160 Just so you know, men build, invent, build, and maintain society in pursuit of women, okay? 1.00
00:03:58.380 And a man works his whole life to get himself in a certain place, financially, physically, all these things, the man he becomes.
00:04:05.840 And then at the end of that, you tell him you get one woman forever. 1.00
00:04:08.500 He would tell you to fuck off. 1.00
00:04:10.360 It is very, very hard to do that. 1.00
00:04:12.800 And a real high-value man will tell his girl what's up instead of lying like a fucking coward. 0.99
00:04:19.400 No, but that's why I feel like the missing piece is actually God because you say the high-value man will do all these things for sex, 0.99
00:04:26.480 but a high-value man of God, he will be doing all these things because he wants to put God first in his decisions.
00:04:31.660 Let me be completely clear.
00:04:32.720 Low-value men will do it, too. 0.99
00:04:34.620 What's the question?
00:04:35.280 Yeah, but who wants a low-value man? 1.00
00:04:38.500 Exactly, and that's a great point.
00:04:41.360 If you have two men, you can pick two men.
00:04:43.720 A low-value man that's going to cheat and a high-value man that's going to cheat.
00:04:46.280 Which one are you going to pick? 1.00
00:04:46.920 Because they both will cheat on your ass. 1.00
00:04:47.980 It's better to be single than to be cheated on. 1.00
00:04:51.740 You're avoiding the question.
00:04:52.740 Which one?
00:04:53.940 Which one would I pick?
00:04:55.000 Yeah.
00:04:55.840 One is going to give you a better life, children, love you, be there for you.
00:05:00.040 I don't want to pick.
00:05:01.680 Oh, you don't want to pick?
00:05:02.240 I don't want to pick.
00:05:02.820 I'd rather be single.
00:05:04.080 So you're diverting the question.
00:05:05.080 And with no kids.
00:05:05.920 I'm diverting the question.
00:05:07.600 I don't want to pick.
00:05:08.760 I believe, yeah, at the end of the day, I don't believe every man cheats.
00:05:14.820 Well, every man doesn't cheat, but every man has the propensity or the desire for variety.
00:05:19.840 Definitely.
00:05:20.400 And that's what I went to, loyalty versus ability.
00:05:23.020 Yeah, I rather loyalty than love at the end of the day.
00:05:26.400 But I know how men are. 1.00
00:05:28.180 That's bullshit. 0.99
00:05:28.680 But at the end of the day, it's not bullshit. 1.00
00:05:30.300 You're telling me. 0.75
00:05:31.400 I rather loyalty than love any day of the week, any day of the month, whenever.
00:05:35.980 Loyalty than love, what?
00:05:37.220 I like that.
00:05:38.120 I like that.
00:05:38.800 Wait, can we?
00:05:39.560 Oh my God.
00:05:40.380 Okay, so you would date Jonah Hill, the guy that looks like Jonah Hill.
00:05:45.740 He's loyal.
00:05:46.380 That's not my preference.
00:05:47.920 No, no, no, no, he's loyal. 1.00
00:05:48.600 You know how I know she's full of shit? 1.00
00:05:49.840 He's loyal. 1.00
00:05:50.240 Every girl on this couch has a host of men in their Instagram inbox right now that would 0.99
00:05:54.560 marry them tomorrow and be loyal forever.
00:05:56.440 They don't want those men. 1.00
00:05:57.800 Do you have men in your inbox?
00:05:59.060 Of course, everyone does.
00:06:00.500 Every one of those men.
00:06:01.520 I'm not denying every single girl wants a certain type of man.
00:06:04.940 But at the end of the day, he's not going to give you what you need.
00:06:07.560 I have a question out of the girls.
00:06:09.760 Who's been in a situationship before?
00:06:12.120 I've been in one.
00:06:12.840 So one, everyone.
00:06:14.180 Yeah.
00:06:14.460 Okay, so what were you doing then? 0.95
00:06:16.480 Yeah, it's ridiculous.
00:06:17.140 He wasn't loyal to you. 0.92
00:06:18.220 That's love of loyalty.
00:06:19.080 Do you know what, though?
00:06:20.420 I agree with you.
00:06:20.700 I don't agree with you.
00:06:21.960 Do you know what, though?
00:06:23.140 When you are really invested in someone and you want to put that time in, I completely
00:06:28.680 think that everybody else is blacked out to me.
00:06:31.360 It doesn't matter what else you bring.
00:06:33.460 It doesn't matter if I'm channeling for that guy, this guy X could come with a gazillion
00:06:39.020 cars, a gazillion houses, this and that.
00:06:41.400 I don't care.
00:06:42.320 I do not care because I want that one there.
00:06:45.580 And that's the reality.
00:06:46.620 And that's the same reason you won't leave him.
00:06:48.500 That's the reality of it.
00:06:49.640 But I could be dating a high value man who has everything in the world. 1.00
00:06:54.600 If you cheat on me, you're a bum to me. 0.99
00:06:57.300 Sorry. 0.97
00:06:58.100 Have you ever stayed with someone who cheated?
00:06:59.960 No.
00:07:00.520 Never?
00:07:01.020 No.
00:07:01.180 So, I've got a question.
00:07:02.880 So, you said something about, yeah, you said honesty, right?
00:07:05.980 So, clearly, honesty is not the primary, the key kind of characteristic because you've
00:07:11.860 all got DMs, right?
00:07:12.700 So, you can all find a loyal man, sorry.
00:07:15.240 You can't find a man in DMs.
00:07:17.480 Sorry?
00:07:18.080 I don't believe you can find a man like that.
00:07:21.000 In DMs.
00:07:21.500 In DMs like that.
00:07:22.400 So, you're telling me loyalty is your number one characteristic?
00:07:25.620 I feel like, in my personal aspect.
00:07:28.280 Wait, I have a question.
00:07:29.420 He's 5'2", but loyal.
00:07:30.700 Yeah, I feel like loyalty is the most important aspect.
00:07:33.760 Okay, so, height comes before loyalty.
00:07:36.020 There we go.
00:07:37.400 Now we're getting to the truth, isn't it?
00:07:39.380 I'm 5'9".
00:07:40.260 I think women sometimes work like the other way around. 1.00
00:07:42.800 They'll tell you the least important stuff.
00:07:44.340 He's broke.
00:07:45.560 He has no job and won't get a job, but he's loyal to you.
00:07:48.260 Of course, those things matter as well, but at the end of the day, in a real relationship.
00:07:51.260 No, I'm asking.
00:07:52.140 He's broke, but no job, but he's loyal.
00:07:55.040 Yeah, of course.
00:07:55.660 I'm staying.
00:07:56.640 I'm sorry.
00:07:57.260 I'm staying.
00:07:57.900 To be honest, I would stay if I knew he was a girl. 1.00
00:08:00.140 She's so full of shit. 1.00
00:08:01.480 She's so full of shit. 1.00
00:08:02.260 My daughter can just cap all you want, but at the end of the day, loyalty over anything. 1.00
00:08:05.660 But it's so funny.
00:08:06.320 It's hard to find a broke man that won't cheat.
00:08:08.640 Exactly.
00:08:09.100 I feel like broke men are the ones that cheat the most because they have the most time.
00:08:12.280 Exactly.
00:08:12.840 A man that's been so successful, he knows what you want.
00:08:15.020 Do you realize one out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year?
00:08:19.720 Do you realize that you find 80% of men is unattractive? 0.72
00:08:22.580 Not okay.
00:08:23.240 Not average.
00:08:23.820 You look at 80% of men and you deem them unattractive.
00:08:26.500 Yeah.
00:08:26.780 You know, we only swipe right on dating apps 5% of the time. 0.99
00:08:29.780 So why do women say men are trash? 0.98
00:08:31.200 Because we're all sleeping with the same ones. 0.99
00:08:32.680 So whether you know it or not, you're doing it. 1.00
00:08:40.160 I feel like at the end of the day, women scream men are trash, men are trash, men are trash. 1.00
00:08:49.840 But they go for the same type of men. 1.00
00:08:52.360 They don't learn.
00:08:53.540 And I have my own values.
00:08:55.120 I have my own principles.
00:08:55.920 But at the end of the day, in a generalized form, women go for the same type of men.
00:09:00.200 And they want to be screaming, oh, this, this, and that.
00:09:03.040 But that's the type of men that you go through in the first place.
00:09:06.720 Like, you can't really complain.
00:09:08.280 What kind of men do you go to? 1.00
00:09:09.640 You haven't answered my question.
00:09:10.520 What's the number one characteristic?
00:09:13.560 So you said loyalty, which is cap.
00:09:15.140 So let's move that to the side.
00:09:16.760 So we know height is also important.
00:09:18.620 We know success is important.
00:09:20.440 You know their lifestyle is important.
00:09:21.820 How do you screen all these Instagram DMs?
00:09:24.680 I just want a genuine person at the end of the day.
00:09:28.000 A genuine person who's 5'2"?
00:09:30.200 What if he's really awkward?
00:09:32.080 Obviously, at the end of the day, with any person, there's genuine standards.
00:09:36.620 He's loyal, but he's really awkward.
00:09:38.240 He can barely make eye contact with you.
00:09:39.980 But he's loyal.
00:09:40.840 No, he's loyal.
00:09:41.440 There's genuine standards for each person.
00:09:43.540 There's genuine standards.
00:09:43.860 I need a yes or no.
00:09:45.420 I need a yes or no.
00:09:46.360 Very awkward.
00:09:47.420 Very awkward.
00:09:47.940 Can barely maintain eye contact with you.
00:09:50.060 But he's loyal.
00:09:51.240 Yes or no?
00:09:51.820 No, because I want someone that can.
00:09:53.320 But I thought the loyalty, that was the most important thing.
00:09:55.900 The loyalty is important, but loyalty isn't the only thing.
00:09:58.880 Yeah, there's obviously a lot of things that come of a relationship.
00:10:01.380 Yeah, but to be fair, you did say, they said, what's your most important thing?
00:10:04.020 And you said loyalty.
00:10:04.800 Yeah, because it is.
00:10:05.340 But clearly it's not, though, is it?
00:10:06.600 I'm not going to base the whole relationship off just loyalty.
00:10:09.060 That's the thing.
00:10:10.320 There's a lot of factors in relationship.
00:10:12.000 But there's a lot of factors that come first.
00:10:13.580 Yeah, of course.
00:10:14.740 Anyway, in my opinion, I think no one is loyal anymore.
00:10:17.400 Because most of the time I have clients that they are like, oh, yeah, no, my wife doesn't 1.00
00:10:21.980 need to know.
00:10:22.620 And I'm like, do you really think your wife is doing something else in this moment?
00:10:25.680 No.
00:10:25.940 Do you think she's at home waiting for you?
00:10:29.160 No.
00:10:29.640 She's probably getting someone else on a dating website to do the same. 1.00
00:10:33.560 But the only thing, she's doing it for free.
00:10:35.400 You're paying.
00:10:36.460 Women always know. 1.00
00:10:37.940 No problem.
00:10:38.380 Women always know. 1.00
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