JustPearlyThings - Pearl Explains Why Modern Marriages Fail

00:00:00.000 you submit to the man and you said about cheating once is like okay but what if

00:00:05.280 it's multiple times would you say like what what would you have to walk so this

00:00:12.240 is this is a hard pill and this was a hard pill for me to swallow too like at

00:00:17.040 the end of the day we know sex is different for men and for women right we 0.93

00:00:20.760 know this like there's something innate like when you hate a bitch you'll call 1.00

00:00:24.480 her a whore right there's a reason we do this you know there's something innate 1.00

00:00:27.840 there's a reason girls don't want to say their body counts right because we know 1.00

00:00:31.400 it makes us less valuable and men they don't care like their their body counts 0.99

00:00:37.260 don't matter and I know you said you're gonna break up with I don't believe you

00:00:40.460 for a second sorry you're not really dumping a guy because he slept with a

00:00:44.220 bunch of people especially if you don't know I wouldn't want I know you wouldn't

00:00:47.760 want to you wouldn't you wouldn't want to know but you were right come on and so but

00:00:51.960 men it's like they just have a visceral reaction because for a thousand years if

00:00:55.360 they picked a promiscuous woman she was gonna like there was no way he would 1.00

00:00:59.760 know that the kid was his and then he could be giving his resources to a kid

00:01:03.220 that wasn't his and today that's a big problem I mean there's some estimates

00:01:07.120 that like 20% of men are raising kids that aren't theirs and then you look at

00:01:10.600 the data for women and body counts you know and if you've slept with more than

00:01:15.100 five people you have like a 20% chance of a happy marriage and they can lose

00:01:19.060 everything because of this again this is what happens when females lead so the 1.00

00:01:25.060 cheating thing is we know it's different right so I just think a tent like

00:01:31.380 cheating for women is getting attention from other men and cheating for men is 0.95

00:01:35.060 getting sex from other women because okay if you could pick one like most I'm 1.00

00:01:40.120 trying to explain this in the best way but most women would pick beauty for the 1.00

00:01:43.840 rest of their life over money or sex or if you asked men if they had to pick one of

00:01:48.560 the three they would pick sex or money maybe but probably sex right you know what I 0.99

00:01:53.860 mean like okay if you if you looked if you were like ugly but you got sex from 0.98

00:01:58.760 hot guys it wouldn't really mean anything like we value beauty we want to be

00:02:01.980 beautiful we want to be desired so it's like when we when you have wives that are 0.86

00:02:06.540 half naked right I think that's equally as cheating as a guy sleeping with another 0.71

00:02:10.940 girl I know no one no one really agrees with me on this but my logic is I think

00:02:15.340 women desire attention and men desire sex so I think it's a bit hypocritical you know to 1.00

00:02:21.220 come in and you know I just think sometimes we got to get off our high

00:02:25.060 horse and you know we're not perfect and they're not perfect either and I think

00:02:29.500 it's silly to break up a marriage because he's not perfect but I'm not

00:02:32.720 saying he should cheat I'm not saying it's good I I would be very hurt and I

00:02:37.420 hope you don't and the worst part is all these bitches are gonna try to get him to 1.00

00:02:40.260 cheat because I've talked about this I just know it I know how this is gonna go

00:02:43.820 but um yeah I don't does that make sense yeah I know it's a little it's a

00:02:50.380 little yeah yeah yeah yeah a lot to take in so yeah but I just think I think what

00:02:56.200 they've done is really dishonest to us because they've told us you are the

00:02:59.980 victim it's the end of the world when a lot of times the reason he cheats is

00:03:03.960 because he's demasculated a lot of times the reason he cheats is because he's

00:03:07.760 in a sexless marriage because women we've been told we can do no wrong and we're

00:03:11.520 just victims for forever we never ask about our part to play and usually when

00:03:16.540 a guy cheats the woman isn't innocent like there are very few times a girl is 0.54

00:03:20.780 being perfect wife and he cheats and I just I think it's silly that we don't

00:03:25.260 ever look in the mirror first before pointing the finger and you know so and I

00:03:30.880 think it can be worked through you know there are people that found out about a

00:03:34.280 family across town and they stayed and stuck it out like I I know someone um you

00:03:40.320 know I have a relative who her um he he had a whole side chick and he left the 0.99

00:03:46.480 family for the side chick right and literally the side chick died I know she 1.00

00:03:51.500 and this woman was so Catholic she prayed for a solution she was like God

00:03:54.860 please bring like bring my husband back like do you see how different that

00:03:58.060 mindset is like God I just want my husband like please I need my they don't 0.96

00:04:02.160 make women like that anymore think about Jolie that song right now we have 1.00

00:04:06.200 Taylor Swift songs of a decade of her like getting ran through and just being

00:04:10.280 the victim and poor me poor me and nothing like she seems like a nice woman 1.00

00:04:14.660 but nobody's told her reality where you had the women of 50 years ago Jolie singing 1.00

00:04:19.580 like please don't take my man you know she's like begging I need him we don't 1.00

00:04:24.540 have songs like that anymore we don't have movies like that anymore it's never

00:04:28.180 like I need my husband it's I don't need a man and I just think it's like

00:04:32.200 programming and brainwashing and I think a lot of times women ruin good things 1.00

00:04:36.860 because we think we can do better and we don't wait so you wouldn't mind if

00:04:41.040 your like boyfriend cheated I would mind I would be like no so would you say like

00:04:47.120 because I again I listen and I hear what you're saying but again it seems a bit

00:04:52.880 black and white and it can be gray no I think most things are pretty black and

00:04:57.220 white and I think that's how men think I think women we have our emotions so

00:05:01.420 we're like oh and I know there's there's a middle ground like I think if

00:05:05.260 he got a bitch pregnant I'd be home I think I think that might be but I would 1.00

00:05:10.660 still the goal would always be to work it out like I think that should be the

00:05:13.800 goal like if you can work it out why would you not work it out but our

00:05:17.000 immediate gut reaction is leave leave leave and I just don't think that should

00:05:20.620 be the gut reaction I think the gut reaction should be did I do anything wrong

00:05:24.820 how did I contribute to the situation what if he's just like a guy that likes to

00:05:29.560 cheat you know I think it's did you really not know that before you got

00:05:33.640 married well I mean yeah that's why I'm single no that's why I'm not married yet

00:05:37.800 no right well I I think I think women it's like pick your poison it's like we 1.00

00:05:42.520 want a guy that's super hot you know guys that are super attractive are gonna be

00:05:47.600 tempted to cheat a lot they want a guy moral high ground right some of them have

00:05:51.720 good morals okay so standing okay so when you had moral high ground did you wait till

00:05:56.020 you were married where was your where was your morality it's like I never

00:06:00.220 cheated I know no but but but but I'm saying you cheat on your future has

00:06:04.000 marriage is supposed to be two virgins and the woman's virginity is way more 0.99

00:06:07.720 important than the males you know not happening so now they're both they both

00:06:11.200 are not whether their body counts high or low it doesn't matter but they're both

00:06:15.400 not and they both they've decided to be together and get together so I'm saying

00:06:20.620 like women don't pick monogamy when we have the most choice so when do women have the 1.00

00:06:24.980 most choice at like 22 23 that's when we have like you know the world is our

00:06:29.900 oyster we're we're we're the hottest and we could do anything we can make 100k a

00:06:34.040 month on only fans we could go get married but women like we don't pick 1.00

00:06:39.040 monogamy but like men their peak is like 35 that's when they're the hottest they

00:06:43.580 make the most money they've dealt with women so it's like when they get the most 0.99

00:06:47.500 choice we immediately judge them for cheating and we immediately but it's like

00:06:51.920 when we had the most choice we didn't choose to get married and all I'm saying

00:06:55.920 is maybe we could have some understanding for it and see where

00:06:58.680 they're coming from because their sex is in front of them 24 7 they're wired to 0.86

00:07:04.300 fuck damn near like we have phrases like he'll fuck anything and that that says 0.77

00:07:08.200 it's not as emotional as it is for us like if we cheat we cheat to leave you

00:07:13.380 know what I mean like we're not we're not she's not and we're like we're getting

00:07:15.980 out of this bitch but like when men cheat it's just like god damn it the 1.00

00:07:19.560 stripper came on to me but every time these girls came these girls up were 1.00

00:07:24.160 chasing me down in the bar because I was married like no it's true yeah yeah and

00:07:30.560 so she said she's gonna hit your boyfriend up pal yeah I'm not that's why I said

00:07:36.320 that's why people but but this is this is my point it's like I just think the goal should

00:07:46.700 always be to work through things what if he hits you what about abuse and in a

00:07:50.740 marriage so you know what's funny women hit men more than men hit women one-sided 0.98

00:07:54.640 women women are much more violent than men yeah I it's like we just can't be 1.00

00:07:59.480 violent that's a funny thing it's like saying you know someone without a gun well

00:08:03.020 you didn't shoot anybody well they didn't have a gun she stopped her but the 0.94

00:08:09.320 point is like so so infants I'm gonna I'm gonna we'll circle back to that but

00:08:15.080 but infants and the elderly they're actually much more likely like women are 1.00

00:08:19.300 more likely to kill them so you know you know I think a lot of times when you say

00:08:23.460 oh he hit me well what did you do to bring that a great what did you what did

00:08:27.620 you what did you do to bring that anger out of him I saw a clip of a girl that 1.00

00:08:30.840 insulted a guy's dead son and was taunting him then he then he freaked out

00:08:34.920 and hit and sometimes it's like guys just like they could only take so much and

00:08:38.700 they're verbally abused so much and again I'm not saying like you should accept that

00:08:43.680 right but again I think the goal should always be to work through it did I play

00:08:47.700 a part and if you didn't you know and he's an abusive guy the my next question

00:08:53.080 is did you not know that before yeah I'm actually asking hypothetically yeah we're

00:08:58.020 talking about with truth through thick and thin so I'm just throwing like I mean

00:09:01.680 I'm a Catholic like what yeah what if this happens in them I'm a Catholic so I

00:09:05.820 would I would say separate and again make the goal to be to get together that

00:09:10.380 that should be the goal you know I I know it's like can I speak from a man's

00:09:15.120 point of view because obviously I'm a man from my own male experience and from most of

00:09:24.300 the men I know it's very hard and it takes a very certain types of

00:09:31.020 circumstances for a man to change who he is on the inside so if a man is an abuser

00:09:37.500 he has always been an abuser that like when women say oh well he changed in a

00:09:42.360 marriage if he changed during the marriage then you definitely had a path to play in it

00:09:46.020 if if if he didn't change during marriage then you you probably decided to ignore the red flags

00:09:54.000 I think women do provoke men like they just if you look at if you look at this is what we said 1.00

00:10:01.500 that women typically don't pick the right things so why why do we have a lot of women that for some 1.00

00:10:07.380 reason just always seem to have a toxic ex we love toxic toxic men just have a toxic yeah and and if

00:10:16.200 you look at the stats literally how many men are dating these women so if all of you are having toxic

00:10:22.880 exes and more than 50% of men are not even in a relationship so what does that tell you but also

00:10:28.980 you have um the ex got the ex-girlfriend's always the crazy ex-girlfriends yeah so it works both

00:10:34.980 ways it's the same thing that's my point because it's the ex-girlfriend is always a crazy ex-girlfriend

00:10:40.660 right but that is typically almost every woman but then the men are toxic are just a few I think women 1.00

00:10:47.280 do provoke men but I think that like it's kind of like they do like it a little bit when they get slapped up

JustPearlyThings - August 21, 2023

Pearl Explains Why Modern Marriages Fail

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