JustPearlyThings - July 03, 2023


Pearl EXPOSES Men From Single Mother Homes


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Length

11 minutes

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Word count

2,057

Sentence count

219

Harmful content

Misogyny

13

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Toxicity

44

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Hate speech

6

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In this episode, I sit down with my daughter's dad and talk about his life growing up without a dad and how he dealt with it. We talk about how he handled it and how it affected his relationship with his daughter. We also talk about the importance of a good relationship with your mom and how important it is.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Just look how happy you were, well, it wasn't being recorded, but even when it wasn't being recorded, how happy you were when you were elated when you said, oh, my father, he was really happy, though, when I came back.
00:00:14.940 Yeah, yeah, he was.
00:00:16.960 Right?
00:00:17.320 Yeah.
00:00:17.540 But see how happy you were.
00:00:21.020 He was happy and then you were happy.
00:00:22.640 Right.
00:00:22.920 Because you feel that you are accepted.
00:00:26.020 You feel loved.
00:00:27.780 You feel welcomed.
00:00:30.000 You felt welcomed, accepted, embraced.
00:00:34.280 You felt safe to go back home.
00:00:38.460 Not just you could go back, but you genuinely felt warm and welcomed.
00:00:45.680 You felt a warm welcome.
00:00:47.620 Imagine if you didn't have a father that did that.
00:00:49.560 You know what I notice when you're talking about mommy issues?
00:00:51.980 Well, I can hear it in a guy's voice if he doesn't grow up without a dad a lot of times.
00:00:56.880 It's not 100%, but I don't really know.
00:01:00.460 I can't really describe why.
00:01:01.940 I can just tell.
00:01:03.200 Usually they have a slightly higher tonality and they kind of speak like a woman. 1.00
00:01:07.420 They use a lot of hands when they talk.
00:01:09.860 Like there's just certain like mannerisms you kind of pick up on, especially when they're
00:01:15.480 younger guys, especially.
00:01:18.040 But one thing I noticed was that a lot of times when guys have a visceral reaction to
00:01:22.540 like defend promiscuity or defend like single mothers to different. 1.00
00:01:29.000 Because, you know, you know, and the red pill space, you'll say like, don't date single 0.91
00:01:32.200 mothers, don't date whore, you know, just basic stuff. 1.00
00:01:34.540 And I'm like, why do I get this visceral reaction from the men? 0.99
00:01:37.760 Like they should agree with like, there's a group of men that just should agree on this
00:01:41.940 stuff.
00:01:42.480 But what I realized is that they're defending their moms.
00:01:44.800 A lot of them, because that's who raised them.
00:01:49.400 Go ahead.
00:01:50.260 No, I'm sorry.
00:01:50.860 No, no, that was it.
00:01:51.880 Go ahead.
00:01:52.200 You know, like anyone can fact check me.
00:01:57.800 Like out of respect for my wife, I don't put my ex-girlfriends who are in Vogue magazine.
00:02:01.780 But if you were to go on Google and put my name and go Google images, you will see at
00:02:05.720 least two of my ex-girlfriends who are in Vogue magazine.
00:02:07.920 I was here in London.
00:02:08.760 I lived in London for a little less than two months because my ex-girlfriend was modeling
00:02:13.040 in London.
00:02:13.900 So that's my resume in understanding women. 0.94
00:02:17.500 You know, I literally threw parties bringing a lot of fashion models. 0.77
00:02:20.540 That's hard.
00:02:21.040 Imagine getting one fashion model.
00:02:22.460 Imagine getting eight.
00:02:23.420 I had to, and I'm not Brad Pitt.
00:02:25.240 So I'm not, I'm not Johnny Depp.
00:02:27.440 I'm not, I'm not GQ model.
00:02:29.580 So I really, and I'm not, and I wasn't rich.
00:02:31.820 So I really had to figure out how to talk to women to be able to get women to come out. 1.00
00:02:36.680 I have nothing to prove.
00:02:37.600 And I'm also a happily married man and I love my daughter.
00:02:40.680 I'm a loyal man to my wife.
00:02:42.500 So I'm looking, I talk about the game, like a lot of my Alpha King rules and stuff like that.
00:02:48.260 That's me when I was a bachelor.
00:02:49.740 Now I'm in my forties, but I still live that, that lifestyle.
00:02:56.540 And, and, and when I see men a lot, some of the stuff, Pearl, it is immaturity.
00:03:03.040 Also, some of the men that talk a certain way and women, some of it is just maturity.
00:03:11.400 It's, it's not, I also said stuff in my twenties and, you know what I mean?
00:03:15.800 Or my, I also said stuff that I might not feel now today.
00:03:20.000 You know, some of the guys, maybe they didn't get love from their mom.
00:03:24.240 And they're also not getting love in the nightclub.
00:03:27.260 They're also not getting love from the girl in their college.
00:03:30.900 They're just not getting love in general from a woman. 0.99
00:03:33.220 No wonder they're fucking bitter, right? 0.99
00:03:36.500 Or the guy, or the, or the girl. 1.00
00:03:39.200 Her dad doesn't give a shit about her. 1.00
00:03:42.100 She goes to the nightclub. 1.00
00:03:43.860 She gets drunk. 1.00
00:03:45.220 She gets fucked. 1.00
00:03:46.920 He doesn't, he doesn't call her anymore. 0.99
00:03:48.720 Or he just tells her, Hey, come over.
00:03:51.500 That's it.
00:03:52.460 Just come over.
00:03:54.020 Come on.
00:03:55.320 She wants, she wanted, you think, you think during the holiday, during her birthday, she didn't wish she had a father or a boyfriend.
00:04:02.440 She's suffering.
00:04:03.580 She's struggling.
00:04:04.760 You know, same with the dude.
00:04:06.960 I had a great relationship with my dad.
00:04:08.480 He's a very traditional man.
00:04:09.660 My dad to this day, it's, you know, he, it's, it's crazy.
00:04:14.480 Like I went out with my wife and this lady that he's with, my dad's a little bit of a playboy now, but he's traditional in the sense of when we went out, he refused to let me pay.
00:04:24.720 He refuses to let me pay for meals when he's with his, with a woman. 0.99
00:04:29.040 He's traditional in that.
00:04:30.400 Right.
00:04:31.460 You know, so I had a great relationship with my dad.
00:04:36.800 I do with my mom.
00:04:38.580 I love her so much, but I also have accepted for some people in your life.
00:04:45.180 It's okay to love some people from a distance.
00:04:48.260 Maybe I know my mother loves me.
00:04:50.140 I love her, but I think we've both realized it's okay to love each other.
00:04:54.720 from a distance and appreciate if we can just have one.
00:04:58.000 You guys like fell out or something?
00:05:00.660 It's just, it's just hard.
00:05:02.260 Yeah.
00:05:02.560 It's just, it's just really hard.
00:05:03.920 And, and, and, and I've, you know, I think when you lie on social media or you lie on TV,
00:05:13.460 right?
00:05:13.920 You're really just showing you're a coward, you know, like you're showing, like, like if you're 0.63
00:05:18.600 a man and you're not acknowledging you had issues, you know, it takes more bravery to 1.00
00:05:23.860 show, you know, that stuff, you know, like, yeah, like I, I handled my mommy issues by fucking 1.00
00:05:33.260 a lot of women. 1.00
00:05:34.820 Right.
00:05:35.280 They're my twenties and thirties.
00:05:36.540 That's a fact.
00:05:37.240 Like people will say, oh, you have mommy issues. 1.00
00:05:40.140 Yeah, I did.
00:05:41.380 And that's how I handled it. 1.00
00:05:42.200 Fucking a lot of women. 1.00
00:05:43.480 What would I have done differently? 1.00
00:05:45.660 I would have gone to therapy, to be honest.
00:05:48.720 Someone will say, oh, go make money, go to the gym.
00:05:50.660 I already did those two things.
00:05:53.160 I already did those two things.
00:05:54.260 Okay.
00:05:55.000 But what else?
00:05:56.200 Well, how about my mental health?
00:05:57.340 The gym cannot cure all mental health issues.
00:06:00.340 Working, making money cannot cure all mental health issues.
00:06:03.160 That's something I know that's popular on social media.
00:06:05.360 I disagree with that.
00:06:06.600 I think you can work hard, make a lot of money, go to the gym.
00:06:09.440 These are good things that can help you.
00:06:11.420 But there's guys that commit suicide.
00:06:13.440 There's guys that are, that are suffering from depression.
00:06:16.960 They can't get out of it.
00:06:18.580 They're trying.
00:06:19.200 They're working out six days a week.
00:06:20.460 They're making money.
00:06:21.180 They're still suffering.
00:06:21.920 Yeah, I think a mental health professional and faith can help anybody, you know?
00:06:28.040 And I think if you're going through something hard, get some help.
00:06:31.760 I don't think there's any shame in that. 0.98
00:06:33.900 I wish I would have spoken to somebody earlier about my issues with my mom instead of fucking 0.99
00:06:38.000 so many women. 0.99
00:06:39.040 I don't think it really necessarily, I just delayed growing up.
00:06:43.420 Right.
00:06:44.180 Well, see, the issue though with therapy nowadays is, don't you think there's so many crazy therapists? 0.95
00:06:51.920 My therapist was a gay man who was a Bernie supporter who became a Trump supporter. 0.64
00:06:58.360 Did you make him a Trump supporter?
00:07:00.440 Is that you?
00:07:00.980 No, no.
00:07:01.340 He was already a Trump supporter.
00:07:04.180 He was a Trump supporter.
00:07:06.280 And I just thought it was, he was very unconventional.
00:07:10.200 He was unconventional.
00:07:10.820 Nothing against like therapy as a whole.
00:07:13.220 I just, I'm actually, I went to school for psychology this year because that was part of like the
00:07:19.300 volleyball program.
00:07:20.120 Like they gave, like when I came here, they gave me like free school with it.
00:07:23.720 Basically.
00:07:24.780 I didn't end up finishing it because this kind of got too much for me to handle, but I just
00:07:29.400 saw the women becoming therapists and I was like, Jesus Christ, these are who is helping
00:07:33.140 people. 1.00
00:07:33.840 They're nuts. 1.00
00:07:34.540 They're crazy. 1.00
00:07:35.200 So like, how does a guy differentiate the difference between a good one and a bad one?
00:07:39.840 Cause I'm just saying firsthand experience.
00:07:41.880 I've been in school with the people becoming therapists. 1.00
00:07:44.240 God, they're nuts. 1.00
00:07:45.580 They're so crazy. 1.00
00:07:47.120 Like. 0.96
00:07:48.540 Yeah, no, no, I understand.
00:07:50.300 And they indoctrinate you in the schools too.
00:07:52.480 It's like wild.
00:07:53.920 The thing is, is that now education has become like something else.
00:07:59.420 Like, yeah, like I would say like I graduated high school, 1998.
00:08:05.160 So in 1909, in the 1990s.
00:08:07.720 I was born 96.
00:08:11.420 Yes.
00:08:16.160 You were born in 1996.
00:08:18.060 Yes.
00:08:18.700 Yeah.
00:08:18.880 I was in high school.
00:08:20.000 Wow.
00:08:20.480 Yeah.
00:08:20.720 I was in high school.
00:08:21.980 November 4th.
00:08:22.940 It must've been a good day for you.
00:08:25.720 The world was graced with me.
00:08:27.620 Yeah, it was a great day.
00:08:30.340 Yeah.
00:08:30.700 It was a lot of sunshine that day.
00:08:31.880 Yeah.
00:08:32.260 Yeah.
00:08:32.440 I'm sure it was.
00:08:36.320 Someone was elected that day.
00:08:38.120 It was my birthday.
00:08:39.000 Yeah.
00:08:39.520 I don't know who.
00:08:40.760 Well, back in 1996, 1997, the idea of, you know, being a man and woman, having marriage,
00:08:47.460 that was, that was normal.
00:08:49.460 Yeah.
00:08:49.800 So now I can imagine how, how the people in 2023, my therapist was like,
00:08:57.620 you know, 60 years old, like 60, maybe 55, 60.
00:09:01.500 So in his generation, it might've been even more traditional.
00:09:04.880 Yeah.
00:09:05.180 Uh, but, but, uh, I could imagine the ones now in 2023.
00:09:09.880 So, so you, you were.
00:09:11.640 It's not the same education.
00:09:13.160 What do you mean?
00:09:13.760 Oh, just now at high school now and college now is not how it was in the 1990s.
00:09:19.480 It's become very, very, very, well, it started before that when they subsidized education in
00:09:26.100 the sixties.
00:09:26.680 That's when you start to see the drop off and test scores.
00:09:29.260 Okay.
00:09:29.660 When like, they made college free and then they put all the woke stuff in the colleges.
00:09:34.300 Oh, okay.
00:09:35.220 It's gotten way worse though.
00:09:36.440 I will agree.
00:09:36.960 It's like way, it's, it's definitely not the same, but it did start in like the sixties,
00:09:40.760 seventies.
00:09:41.480 Well, I never remember, uh, in high school or middle school or elementary school seeing 0.73
00:09:47.040 like, you know, gay sex. 0.98
00:09:49.080 Oh no, it's way worse now. 1.00
00:09:50.440 Yes.
00:09:50.780 Yeah.
00:09:50.960 Like I never remember that.
00:09:52.440 Yes.
00:09:52.740 At all.
00:09:53.520 But even like sex ed as a whole, I don't know if that was around when you were in the
00:09:56.660 nineties, but that was like one of the things they put in schools.
00:09:59.320 Cause think about it.
00:09:59.940 They start with sex and they add sex, like they start with sex ed, then they add in the 0.99
00:10:03.320 gay stuff. 0.99
00:10:04.080 But we didn't have gay stuff. 0.97
00:10:05.180 We had sex ed. 0.87
00:10:06.100 Yeah. 0.81
00:10:06.380 We didn't have gay stuff.
00:10:07.400 Yeah.
00:10:07.640 But even the sex ed, like that's kind of part, I think anyway, that's like part of the indoctrination.
00:10:12.640 They do that now though, right?
00:10:14.400 Yeah.
00:10:15.000 Yeah.
00:10:15.200 Yeah.
00:10:15.880 Well, I mean, I, I've, I've heard that was like before even like I heard those in the nineties too.
00:10:21.380 Really?
00:10:22.080 I don't know.
00:10:22.500 Maybe where I was, they didn't have it.
00:10:24.480 No, no, honestly, I would tell you if they did.
00:10:26.880 Yeah.
00:10:27.300 But so, so you did in New York, you did, you worked in finance.
00:10:31.400 Yeah. 0.99
00:10:31.880 Then you, you screwed a lot of chicks. 1.00
00:10:34.220 That was cause, but, but it was also like the environment, you know, like you're working 0.93
00:10:39.040 at a nightclub, you're working at popular nightclubs.
00:10:41.580 Yeah.
00:10:42.240 Yeah.
00:10:42.460 20 year olds that want to go to nightclubs.
00:10:44.640 No, no judgment.
00:10:45.540 I'm just, I'm just saying back what you told me. 0.93
00:10:47.940 So, so you screwed a lot of chicks, you know? 0.88
00:10:51.000 Um, and also we're working in finance and not the nightclubs finance. 0.97
00:10:55.000 I did later.
00:10:55.600 I met, I, I, I got into finance from, because I was working and met a lot of billionaires,
00:11:01.780 literally, you know, and, uh, you know, just some of the wealthiest people in New York,
00:11:08.220 because they were the ones that could afford a five, 10,000, $15,000 table, not just from
00:11:12.820 New York, all over the world.