Pearl EXPOSES Modern Women To Their Face
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about why women should be planning for the future and what it means to be a woman in today's society. We also discuss why women don't want to get married and why they are more willing to take the risk of doing life on their own than men.
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again if you and my my general consensus is no one has a real plan no if you don't have a choice
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if you don't have a plan you just get out and work if that's your only option you get out and
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work if that's the only way you're going to make money why would you not do it well i i think
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there's going to be a lot of women that are homeless or men no why would men not have the
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same kind of issues women well the difference is the difference is like women get don't typically
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or women always typically get bailed out so there's always a woman's shelter or benefits you
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can get if you get divorced you can take his money and my question is what would happen if the system
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changed where men typically have to face reality there's no men's shelters waiting to bail them out
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some men are on benefits but it's not the majority it's the majority women on benefits
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so my question is one day if the government stops bailing us out if men stop bailing us out
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and we can't make money on beauty like we used to what are we going to do what and the crazy thing
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is women are so readily um they are so ready to take on that risk of doing life on their own
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with all these crazy things you've said but they wouldn't take that risk with a man that's crazy to
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me that's actually tapped like it's it's like putting the cart before the horse it's like you're not
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even thinking about and it's like you said women don't like a lot of women don't think about the future
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they think about now and what's happening right around them especially these young ones they think
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oh i'm beautiful i'm always going to be beautiful the reality is you might say that now but you
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actually don't know what your 30s is going to be like you don't know what you're going to look like
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when you're 30 you don't know what you're going to look like when you're 35 you might be getting
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all the attention from men now you actually don't know how soon that's going to change you're believing
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that it's going to stay long enough for you to monetize and do this or that you don't even know if
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you're going to fall sick tomorrow and you're not going to be able to do your only fans anymore you
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you have no idea of these things but you would still you're still willing to take that risk on
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your own than to actually look for a man and take and do life with him i mean if you lived your whole
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life in fear of you know what's going to happen tomorrow then you may as well i mean it doesn't have
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to be fear but it you know maybe i think us women would benefit more with a little bit of planning
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i'll give you i'll give you i'll give you an example okay well this kind of has to do with
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that you know i think my life probably wouldn't have been better if i didn't chase i chased a
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volleyball career for like my early 20s and it's stupid it doesn't even make money you make like
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negative money playing volleyball and you know i think in general women we could you know do a
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little more planning in general um all right what when do you want to get married
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uh when i meet somebody that i'm in love with i i came close to marrying somebody okay what happened
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and i was pretty heartbroken for a while so i was quite anti-marriage and now i'm kind of
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what what happened why didn't you marry him um because
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well he was from saudi arabia so it was had quite different ideologies slightly um
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about male and female roles i guess oh you didn't want to play your role
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it's slightly different it's not really what's the what's the role of a wife
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things that um slightly different in uh what marriages what was what was i guess in um i i can
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understand that but i'm trying to understand like what was different um i think it was probably on
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maybe sometimes on the other extreme too much where females can't um have any voice or be able to do
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anything for themselves at all what were you it was too much and also what were you not allowed to do
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i just it just wasn't right for me so i just don't i just i didn't see it working yeah as opposed to the
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western ideology where no the thing is that there was but you do realize that in the west women
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actually like it's actually the reverse yeah what you're what you're talking about in saudi arabia in
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the west is the reverse so women it's completely different yeah yeah yeah yeah the extremities are
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so so knowing that you guys had different values what made you date him in the first place was he
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hot well no it wasn't it's complex i don't know it's not that complicated like what was it give me
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like three things that made you date him your values were so different like what were you doing
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well i think some of our values were the same okay so then why didn't you marry him
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because i wanted to have a bit more of my own life as well like i didn't want to just be in
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the shadow of being just with a guy okay you don't think that's a plus to be with a guy
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of course you're just saying it as a negative that's why i'm asking because it felt like a negative
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yeah like you don't want to just be with a guy and that's that's your own existence i just found
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that a little bit when you're married do you think your identity is supposed to be in yourself or your
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family both you can have your own individual identity and be a have a family unit okay do
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you think it works that way the more individual identity women have had the better outcomes we've
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had i think it depends on how the levels of it you know you don't want to be like the thing is when
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when you sometimes when couples get together you can be so too much about the other person and then
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you lose yourself and you don't know your your own self that's a really like feminine point of
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view because we hate when guys are too into us men like it yeah if they if they actually like you
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they're into that they there's no you're too into me if you're hot enough if you're kind of ugly
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they're not yeah but beyonce did a number on women so women have this like they think they want
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to be like beyonce where the man is important and the woman is important but if you look at the
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reality of the world the kind of man you want go and look at all their wives who knows like
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lebron james wife look at that um look at all the most important people with christian ronaldo look at
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um the president nobody knows their wife they just know them as the first lady so the reality is if
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you want a certain kind of man you're more than likely not going to be as important as him that's
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the fact yeah and i can speak on that myself like being a married woman i think that there is this
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notion in society where women want to be at the forefront women want to have the say they want
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to be able to control their man and for me like with my husband he is the leader of our relationship
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he he leads he provides he protects and i i'm definitely the fan he's the celebrity that's the
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dynamic that works and i think that that's what we are missing in our society now because it's just
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like the women want to be at they want all the attention like who is it um curry steph curry oh yeah
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came out and was like i don't get attention from guys and it's like you're married to one of the
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most powerful like well-respected sportsmen and you're worried about why people don't give you
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attention and like yeah steph curry i'm ayesha curry you know i think he's a basketball right i don't
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know i don't know much about sports well i think we've been we've been told that like we're so
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important for so long that we just have this propaganda saying that you shouldn't lose anything
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in marriage and and the truth what if you're told you're not important and the truth is you're
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supposed to lose part of your identity you interrupt a lot you know i'm sorry i just i just i felt quite
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strongly about i know what if you feel what if you're told the opposite if you thought the opposite
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that you're not important like that comes you're not that you're not that important i just don't
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understand why we have this society where you're so special most people are average most people aren't
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that important yeah um and i think the family's important i think that's what it's supposed to be
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the family's more important than you as a whole yeah exactly and also like if you look at how a
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dynamic in a relationship works if you're both trying to be the boss you're both trying to be the
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ceo you're both trying to take control of the relationship and lead it there's going to be conflict
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like and there and there's this notion with feminism now that a woman being under a man is something
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that's so detrimental to us when actually having a man to to lead you and that doesn't mean that
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you're his slave like i think this negative notion that feminism has has sold us is really sad because
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at the end of the day if you choose a good partner if you vet a guy and you make sure that he is going
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to be a good leader he has all the right qualities then you don't have to see yourself as second class
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like my husband's the leader but we discuss things he comes to me for my opinion he respects me
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so so so so much the same way that i do and it doesn't mean that i'm lesser than him it just
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means that i accept my role and i i nurture him i make sure that i keep the house tidy i cook i clean
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i bake i do absolutely everything and i work as well but i know that that's what makes our relationship
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work well and i'm not trying to fight with him i'm not trying to be the leader i know he's the leader
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and that creates harmony in our home but i think that's beautiful like if you've got a healthy marriage
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and a healthy relationship i'm all for it i think that's great i just don't think i was was that's
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why it wasn't but i'm just saying now i'm still open to marriage just that one didn't work i'm curious
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who taught you that uh he did really yeah i was actually blue pill before oh my god yeah i used to
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what where was he from yeah he's a nigerian oh okay yeah i was like
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i was like it can't be here you didn't learn that but no but he grew up here i mean he came here when
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he was seven so but he has you know he has his identity in his in his nigerian heritage but then
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also his british culture but i was very brainwashed by feminism i believed in you know all of all of
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the things that people tell us nowadays i loved beyonce i was completely beyonce is a beyonce says one
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thing and does another thing beyonce tells women that they should be independent get on to the next
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man or the single ladies she's married she settled down with jay-z he cheated on her and she still
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stayed with him so clearly all of the feminist stuff that she speaks about is not actually how
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she's living her life so if she just stayed with him for the for the children though at the end of
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the day she's being an independent woman but she still stayed so her family came first and her
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marriage came first so she's saying one thing and doing another and it's contradicting if you
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know i think it's just a song though would you stay with your man if he cheated on you
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yes i would because like paul said like there's so much you would stay with your man if he cheated on
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you if we could work it out yes fair enough and whatever you whatever you just said is irrelevant
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why doesn't you just go cheat then why does it why is it irrelevant because it's ridiculous
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because why is we submissive why is we submissive to a man that's not even going to care about
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your feelings but this is the thing like you you are saying that he's not caring about my feelings
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obviously like you just didn't hear anything we said about the male biology about the sperm
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like i live in reality so i know that something might happen and i'm not going to let that break
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down my entire life and my you know my entire relationship obviously we have to work on things
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we have to to speak about things but to me it's not the end of the world like paul said it's not the
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end of the world but do you expect it do i expect it to happen because because you've given him
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more the excuses you expect it i'm just curious i'm just living in reality if it it's likely that
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it would happen it doesn't it doesn't it doesn't mean it doesn't mean she expects it it's not
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embarrassing i mean you're a sugar baby you're just like okay my husband's allowed to cheat on me
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he's just listening right now she didn't say no she she didn't say he's allowed to work it out
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at the end of the day what's the point of the matter