JustPearlyThings - Pearl EXPOSES Modern Women To Their Face

00:00:00.000 again if you and my my general consensus is no one has a real plan no if you don't have a choice

00:00:05.180 if you don't have a plan you just get out and work if that's your only option you get out and

00:00:09.100 work if that's the only way you're going to make money why would you not do it well i i think

00:00:13.320 there's going to be a lot of women that are homeless or men no why would men not have the 0.98

00:00:19.480 same kind of issues women well the difference is the difference is like women get don't typically 1.00

00:00:27.000 or women always typically get bailed out so there's always a woman's shelter or benefits you 1.00

00:00:31.860 can get if you get divorced you can take his money and my question is what would happen if the system

00:00:36.560 changed where men typically have to face reality there's no men's shelters waiting to bail them out 0.85

00:00:41.660 some men are on benefits but it's not the majority it's the majority women on benefits

00:00:46.360 so my question is one day if the government stops bailing us out if men stop bailing us out

00:00:52.820 and we can't make money on beauty like we used to what are we going to do what and the crazy thing

00:00:58.820 is women are so readily um they are so ready to take on that risk of doing life on their own 0.99

00:01:05.400 with all these crazy things you've said but they wouldn't take that risk with a man that's crazy to

00:01:10.640 me that's actually tapped like it's it's like putting the cart before the horse it's like you're not

00:01:15.980 even thinking about and it's like you said women don't like a lot of women don't think about the future

00:01:22.480 they think about now and what's happening right around them especially these young ones they think

00:01:27.240 oh i'm beautiful i'm always going to be beautiful the reality is you might say that now but you

00:01:32.460 actually don't know what your 30s is going to be like you don't know what you're going to look like

00:01:35.880 when you're 30 you don't know what you're going to look like when you're 35 you might be getting

00:01:39.420 all the attention from men now you actually don't know how soon that's going to change you're believing

00:01:44.740 that it's going to stay long enough for you to monetize and do this or that you don't even know if

00:01:49.140 you're going to fall sick tomorrow and you're not going to be able to do your only fans anymore you

00:01:52.740 you have no idea of these things but you would still you're still willing to take that risk on

00:01:57.340 your own than to actually look for a man and take and do life with him i mean if you lived your whole

00:02:02.940 life in fear of you know what's going to happen tomorrow then you may as well i mean it doesn't have

00:02:08.080 to be fear but it you know maybe i think us women would benefit more with a little bit of planning 1.00

00:02:13.920 i'll give you i'll give you i'll give you an example okay well this kind of has to do with

00:02:18.800 that you know i think my life probably wouldn't have been better if i didn't chase i chased a 0.91

00:02:23.360 volleyball career for like my early 20s and it's stupid it doesn't even make money you make like

00:02:27.980 negative money playing volleyball and you know i think in general women we could you know do a 1.00

00:02:33.260 little more planning in general um all right what when do you want to get married

00:02:38.420 uh when i meet somebody that i'm in love with i i came close to marrying somebody okay what happened

00:02:49.780 and i was pretty heartbroken for a while so i was quite anti-marriage and now i'm kind of

00:02:55.100 what what happened why didn't you marry him um because 1.00

00:02:58.400 well he was from saudi arabia so it was had quite different ideologies slightly um

00:03:07.180 about male and female roles i guess oh you didn't want to play your role

00:03:14.200 it's slightly different it's not really what's the what's the role of a wife 0.96

00:03:19.320 things that um slightly different in uh what marriages what was what was i guess in um i i can

00:03:30.960 understand that but i'm trying to understand like what was different um i think it was probably on

00:03:39.040 maybe sometimes on the other extreme too much where females can't um have any voice or be able to do 1.00

00:03:47.080 anything for themselves at all what were you it was too much and also what were you not allowed to do

00:03:51.740 i just it just wasn't right for me so i just don't i just i didn't see it working yeah as opposed to the

00:04:02.560 western ideology where no the thing is that there was but you do realize that in the west women 1.00

00:04:09.220 actually like it's actually the reverse yeah what you're what you're talking about in saudi arabia in

00:04:13.960 the west is the reverse so women it's completely different yeah yeah yeah yeah the extremities are 1.00

00:04:19.260 so so knowing that you guys had different values what made you date him in the first place was he

00:04:24.720 hot well no it wasn't it's complex i don't know it's not that complicated like what was it give me

00:04:31.400 like three things that made you date him your values were so different like what were you doing

00:04:36.860 well i think some of our values were the same okay so then why didn't you marry him

00:04:43.340 because i wanted to have a bit more of my own life as well like i didn't want to just be in

00:04:50.400 the shadow of being just with a guy okay you don't think that's a plus to be with a guy

00:04:55.760 of course you're just saying it as a negative that's why i'm asking because it felt like a negative

00:05:01.820 yeah like you don't want to just be with a guy and that's that's your own existence i just found

00:05:06.600 that a little bit when you're married do you think your identity is supposed to be in yourself or your

00:05:10.820 family both you can have your own individual identity and be a have a family unit okay do

00:05:18.940 you think it works that way the more individual identity women have had the better outcomes we've 0.99

00:05:24.800 had i think it depends on how the levels of it you know you don't want to be like the thing is when

00:05:32.700 when you sometimes when couples get together you can be so too much about the other person and then

00:05:38.860 you lose yourself and you don't know your your own self that's a really like feminine point of 0.95

00:05:43.020 view because we hate when guys are too into us men like it yeah if they if they actually like you 0.91

00:05:48.840 they're into that they there's no you're too into me if you're hot enough if you're kind of ugly 0.98

00:05:54.340 they're not yeah but beyonce did a number on women so women have this like they think they want 1.00

00:06:02.880 to be like beyonce where the man is important and the woman is important but if you look at the

00:06:06.640 reality of the world the kind of man you want go and look at all their wives who knows like 0.93

00:06:12.160 lebron james wife look at that um look at all the most important people with christian ronaldo look at

00:06:17.360 um the president nobody knows their wife they just know them as the first lady so the reality is if

00:06:23.720 you want a certain kind of man you're more than likely not going to be as important as him that's

00:06:28.280 the fact yeah and i can speak on that myself like being a married woman i think that there is this

00:06:33.340 notion in society where women want to be at the forefront women want to have the say they want 1.00

00:06:38.260 to be able to control their man and for me like with my husband he is the leader of our relationship

00:06:43.420 he he leads he provides he protects and i i'm definitely the fan he's the celebrity that's the

00:06:50.700 dynamic that works and i think that that's what we are missing in our society now because it's just

00:06:55.300 like the women want to be at they want all the attention like who is it um curry steph curry oh yeah 1.00

00:07:01.440 came out and was like i don't get attention from guys and it's like you're married to one of the

00:07:05.820 most powerful like well-respected sportsmen and you're worried about why people don't give you

00:07:10.820 attention and like yeah steph curry i'm ayesha curry you know i think he's a basketball right i don't

00:07:18.540 know i don't know much about sports well i think we've been we've been told that like we're so

00:07:22.820 important for so long that we just have this propaganda saying that you shouldn't lose anything

00:07:27.560 in marriage and and the truth what if you're told you're not important and the truth is you're

00:07:32.160 supposed to lose part of your identity you interrupt a lot you know i'm sorry i just i just i felt quite

00:07:38.100 strongly about i know what if you feel what if you're told the opposite if you thought the opposite

00:07:41.920 that you're not important like that comes you're not that you're not that important i just don't

00:07:46.260 understand why we have this society where you're so special most people are average most people aren't

00:07:51.900 that important yeah um and i think the family's important i think that's what it's supposed to be

00:07:57.420 the family's more important than you as a whole yeah exactly and also like if you look at how a

00:08:02.660 dynamic in a relationship works if you're both trying to be the boss you're both trying to be the

00:08:06.940 ceo you're both trying to take control of the relationship and lead it there's going to be conflict

00:08:11.500 like and there and there's this notion with feminism now that a woman being under a man is something 1.00

00:08:16.840 that's so detrimental to us when actually having a man to to lead you and that doesn't mean that

00:08:22.800 you're his slave like i think this negative notion that feminism has has sold us is really sad because 0.99

00:08:28.120 at the end of the day if you choose a good partner if you vet a guy and you make sure that he is going

00:08:32.760 to be a good leader he has all the right qualities then you don't have to see yourself as second class

00:08:37.400 like my husband's the leader but we discuss things he comes to me for my opinion he respects me

00:08:42.980 so so so so much the same way that i do and it doesn't mean that i'm lesser than him it just

00:08:48.260 means that i accept my role and i i nurture him i make sure that i keep the house tidy i cook i clean

00:08:54.680 i bake i do absolutely everything and i work as well but i know that that's what makes our relationship

00:08:59.880 work well and i'm not trying to fight with him i'm not trying to be the leader i know he's the leader

00:09:04.440 and that creates harmony in our home but i think that's beautiful like if you've got a healthy marriage

00:09:09.340 and a healthy relationship i'm all for it i think that's great i just don't think i was was that's

00:09:14.740 why it wasn't but i'm just saying now i'm still open to marriage just that one didn't work i'm curious

00:09:20.420 who taught you that uh he did really yeah i was actually blue pill before oh my god yeah i used to

00:09:28.260 what where was he from yeah he's a nigerian oh okay yeah i was like

00:09:32.100 i was like it can't be here you didn't learn that but no but he grew up here i mean he came here when

00:09:39.620 he was seven so but he has you know he has his identity in his in his nigerian heritage but then

00:09:45.480 also his british culture but i was very brainwashed by feminism i believed in you know all of all of

00:09:51.800 the things that people tell us nowadays i loved beyonce i was completely beyonce is a beyonce says one

00:09:59.940 thing and does another thing beyonce tells women that they should be independent get on to the next 1.00

00:10:04.580 man or the single ladies she's married she settled down with jay-z he cheated on her and she still 1.00

00:10:10.380 stayed with him so clearly all of the feminist stuff that she speaks about is not actually how

00:10:14.640 she's living her life so if she just stayed with him for the for the children though at the end of

00:10:20.060 the day she's being an independent woman but she still stayed so her family came first and her

00:10:25.380 marriage came first so she's saying one thing and doing another and it's contradicting if you

00:10:29.480 know i think it's just a song though would you stay with your man if he cheated on you

00:10:32.780 yes i would because like paul said like there's so much you would stay with your man if he cheated on

00:10:38.540 you if we could work it out yes fair enough and whatever you whatever you just said is irrelevant 0.95

00:10:42.840 why doesn't you just go cheat then why does it why is it irrelevant because it's ridiculous 0.92

00:10:46.760 because why is we submissive why is we submissive to a man that's not even going to care about

00:10:50.800 your feelings but this is the thing like you you are saying that he's not caring about my feelings

00:10:55.880 obviously like you just didn't hear anything we said about the male biology about the sperm

00:11:00.040 like i live in reality so i know that something might happen and i'm not going to let that break

00:11:05.240 down my entire life and my you know my entire relationship obviously we have to work on things

00:11:09.500 we have to to speak about things but to me it's not the end of the world like paul said it's not the

00:11:14.360 end of the world but do you expect it do i expect it to happen because because you've given him

00:11:20.240 more the excuses you expect it i'm just curious i'm just living in reality if it it's likely that

00:11:25.680 it would happen it doesn't it doesn't it doesn't mean it doesn't mean she expects it it's not

00:11:29.840 embarrassing i mean you're a sugar baby you're just like okay my husband's allowed to cheat on me 1.00

00:11:38.160 he's just listening right now she didn't say no she she didn't say he's allowed to work it out 0.97

00:11:44.160 at the end of the day what's the point of the matter

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JustPearlyThings - August 21, 2023

Pearl EXPOSES Modern Women To Their Face

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