JustPearlyThings - March 26, 2023


Pearl Granted These Celebrities a Divorce


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2,346

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In this episode we discuss the divorce rate in the modern society and the reasons why it is so high and why we should be worried about it. We also discuss the role of divorce in society and why it should be illegal.

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00:00:00.000 base your relationships off your parents relationship and if you watch your mom or your dad constantly
00:00:05.560 belittle themselves and constantly let themselves get walked over you're going to let yourself get
00:00:09.560 walked over if you're their gender because it's more likely to be the woman you're going to think 0.96
00:00:14.640 it's okay if my man treats me like crap because like domestic violence you're more likely to be
00:00:19.760 domestically abused it's actually most domestic violence is two-sided like a lot of girls claim 1.00
00:00:24.240 domestic violence but they hit first again and you're actually more likely to be in a domestic
00:00:28.400 violence um where if it's one-sided abuse like women are more likely to be in um more likely to 0.93
00:00:32.980 hit men one-sided than what men are to hit women okay fine well whatever gender is your whatever
00:00:38.200 gender gets belittled you're if you're that gender you're gonna let yourself get walked over like that
00:00:42.980 so do you think people should just like never get divorced is that like your position yeah like do
00:00:48.580 you think divorce should just be like illegal like yeah i gave will smith the divorce no no i gave will
00:00:53.340 smith the divorce because you said that like you said that they should try their hardest like johnny
00:00:57.700 was johnny dot married i'd give that man a divorce okay but you're like in some situations
00:01:02.480 divorce is legitimate you acknowledge that yeah i think in front of god you said you made your
00:01:07.480 vows in front of god and let's face it for richer for richer poorer for sickness and in hell
00:01:12.300 has less value less than half the percent of the uk so much what do you mean i mean to you
00:01:19.200 not not to people of not wait wait wait wait not to people of faith but statistically but
00:01:25.660 statistically as a country we have belonging but not believing true true true however however that's
00:01:31.340 why marriage is outdated that's like why we're in a post-marriage society that's why that wait wait 0.99
00:01:36.080 that's why people are getting married less and less and less what's people's justification that
00:01:39.900 the staying in a marriage isn't working out because they can't say anymore god god wants me to do this
00:01:44.980 what do they say to themselves when they're unhappy and then it's about it's about my kids
00:01:49.080 that's that's what i would you you said before you do acknowledge that wait hold on you do
00:01:53.420 acknowledge there are situations where divorce is acceptable to you of course yeah like okay but
00:01:58.420 here's my point do you not think the two people involved in that marriage are the best people to
00:02:03.640 judge when that situation has arrived yeah i think if that was true i don't think it would be a 50
00:02:08.040 percent divorce rate i don't think i don't think the number one reason wait i don't think the number
00:02:14.240 one reason would be financial but that's yeah but that doesn't exist in the vacuum though like there
00:02:19.200 is other things like that stuff changes when you add more details like are they more educated than it
00:02:23.620 like i think it lowers or if they're if they come from a two-family home where everyone is still
00:02:29.080 married then it goes up like it's there are things that change yeah it's fact so it's not like
00:02:33.820 you know every time you get married it's a coin flip it depends on your personal situation
00:02:37.860 and things going on there are some situations that are better and worse true yeah and there's
00:02:43.000 some situations you're like you should get divorced in your mind yeah exception's not the
00:02:48.160 rule i don't i don't think 50 percent of marriages should end in divorce and my whole point but like
00:02:52.340 you're missing my point because you're trying you're trying to like get me on something small
00:02:55.760 but that's what wait wait wait it's the whole point is that we have a me me me culture where
00:03:02.180 it's me and my happiness before the family and where i think i should put my feelings before the
00:03:07.200 family in extreme situations sure i believe in divorce will smith i don't know if johnny
00:03:12.540 def was married to that woman but i'll give you both divorces i'll get wait wait i'll give you 0.96
00:03:18.040 both divorces but in general it's like we just have such a selfish like modern women are selfish 1.00
00:03:24.360 yes and and it's wait and it's about me before my family and i just think that's wrong but it's
00:03:30.480 reflective of the society we like in the uk and america we have very capitalist societies and that
00:03:35.780 is individualism and if you were in a more socialist society where it was more about the
00:03:39.800 community then you would find families wouldn't split up as often and and the fact is it's not
00:03:43.760 just women like men and women equally are becoming no no because women are the ones leaving women are 0.97
00:03:49.480 the ones leaving women leave 70 to 80 percent of the time wait women leave 70 to 80 percent of the
00:03:55.660 time 90 percent of their college educated if anything i think women have become more selfish 1.00
00:04:00.620 because we're bailed out of every bad decision we may be allowed to be more selfish wait so
00:04:04.680 wait wait no i'll tell yeah because every time we make a bad decision we're bailed out if we're bad
00:04:12.120 with their money there's women's shelters if we sleep around there's birth control if we get pregnant 1.00
00:04:15.620 we can have an abortion if wait if we if we don't get the abortion and we get married they they can 1.00
00:04:20.920 we can divorce them and take half if we or we can put the kid on child support or the dad on child
00:04:26.840 support go ahead as well um when it comes to marriage that there's there's almost no incentive
00:04:32.820 for a man to leave um more often than not there are men who are just who are still breathing about
00:04:39.140 dying every single as we're speaking right now so it's like what you lose from a man leaving the
00:04:44.660 marriage in comparison to women leaving marriage there's just it's it's more incentivized for the 1.00
00:04:48.620 women to leave it's just facts as a man a woman's gonna take half your money and you probably won't 1.00
00:04:53.080 have access to your kids that's why it's tripping to keep her yeah most men would literally rather
00:04:57.260 just like just fade one in four marriages one in four marriages are sexless yeah oh and and like
00:05:05.520 let's be honest is it the women not sleeping with the men or the men not sleeping so why why are we 0.87
00:05:09.580 even so at this point from what everybody is saying i'm hearing it from all sides i feel like in today's
00:05:17.120 society the safest and probably healthiest thing for you to do is to have an agreement between a man
00:05:24.500 and a woman who agree on the values that they want to put on their child to grow feel to be whatever 1.00
00:05:30.500 human they want that child to be and leave it as that possession love marriage all of these things
00:05:36.260 are fantasies that really in today's age don't have as much standing what does have standing is a
00:05:41.320 respectful relationship with somebody and that doesn't mean you have to live together i would love
00:05:46.020 listen i swear to god i would love to to be able to have a man that will give me my children but he
00:05:51.080 does not have to have me and we can still cooperate and we can still raise the children together but
00:05:57.100 you have your own house i have my own house daddy has his own space he likes his house and daddy's
00:06:00.960 house is your house i have my own space i have my own house and mommy's house is also your house
00:06:04.640 and daddy can come to my house mommy can go to his house because we're good friends we get on really
00:06:08.820 well we have a love for each other why would you want it like that because i don't think i can i don't want i
00:06:14.120 don't think i would be happy for the rest of my life and i would be able to actually give the kind
00:06:19.540 of love and the kind of good energy and positivity to my child when i have somebody else attached to
00:06:26.020 me that because in so many ways because we're different people just in general they will drag 0.98
00:06:30.600 my energy down sometimes and i don't think it's fair but you're putting your happiness before the kids
00:06:34.640 it goes back to like what i've been saying you're getting interested i'm going i'm teaching listen
00:06:41.140 i'm going the other way my happiness and this is the thing i know this very well because i know when
00:06:45.880 my mom came when we came to england i remember my mom had to work in all these things my mom's
00:06:49.940 happiness was something that was very important to us seeing her struggle seeing her suffering that
00:06:54.560 way seeing it to go through all of these things was really impactful on us are you not in control of
00:06:59.560 your emotions no of course i can be in control of my emotions but if i'm happy okay so then can you
00:07:04.440 can you put on a happy front for your kids uh the thing is you can put on a happy front for your kids
00:07:09.200 but this is the thing about kids that most people tend to forget children are not stupid do you
00:07:13.780 understand you can always catch what you can always know when things are not okay with mommy or daddy
00:07:18.380 things change your behavior will change no matter how much you try to pretend and fake it
00:07:22.160 you will always be visible and that's why i would say nowadays save yourself and actually be with
00:07:28.220 somebody not be with them forever but have a good contract i think good relationship with
00:07:32.520 somebody i think that's the future of dating as long i don't think it's going to be the two house
00:07:36.280 thing rent is too high in london but but but i do think that like long term it's going to be like
00:07:42.800 long-term relationships outside of marriage and if people do get married they'll date for longer
00:07:46.980 first is where it seems to be going i think that's what's going to be because these days the way that
00:07:52.740 we're talking about women at this men are that then nobody's trusting anybody to actually have that 1.00
00:07:57.880 commitment for life the only way you can have a commitment for life is if you take away the
00:08:02.960 possession and the me and you together and you make it about the child so it doesn't even matter if
00:08:06.840 you're together or not because what you love the most is that kid and you want that kid to grow
00:08:10.000 happy so you get on and it's reflected in all aspects of life you don't have a job for life
00:08:14.220 anymore you have a few jobs and whichever job gives you the most money you stick with like it's not
00:08:19.140 i don't i think the family is just what's it just shows what's happening in society it's just a
00:08:25.140 reflection i beg to differ um reason being is that um i think once you once you have a child
00:08:33.300 it's not it's no longer about you it's really about the children and if it just means that you
00:08:38.600 just take it as a job and in front of the children because what children are that sponges right and
00:08:44.220 whatever you're referring to is whatever your mom exposed to you or whatever your father exposed to
00:08:49.060 in this if you're once you have children in my opinion you have to do the best that you can do
00:08:54.300 to give them the best possible upbringing in certain cases at your expense because
00:08:59.960 as statistics suggest that extra effort prevents a child from entering the prison system prevents a
00:09:07.860 child from going through certain development stages that they don't need to go through and he's going
00:09:11.080 to think so i just think like once you have a child in the picture of marriage or not
00:09:14.700 the child should be the priority irrespective of where you stand you the child comes first before 1.00
00:09:19.280 you in my opinion so that's that's pretty much what i was saying earlier like if if you're together
00:09:23.620 and you've got a kid and the relationship's not working out then just co-inhabit you can live
00:09:28.540 together and be roommates and live in the same house yeah as long as the kids see the the unit you
00:09:33.640 eat together at the dinner table all that kind of stuff that's the reason no but no no but if it's an
00:09:38.860 arrangement like you both agreed to like it's not what you're going to take your thing no but listen
00:09:42.980 it's not working between us yeah somewhere else have a separate room just just let just just let
00:09:48.980 the children see parents exactly if it's not working out we can come to an arrangement
00:09:52.620 we can say look i mean it's not i'm not we're not saying that we're not saying that's the ideal
00:09:57.580 situation but i'm just i'm putting like if i was in that situation and i think hmm i know it's better
00:10:03.640 for my kids if the mom and the dad are in the home and if for a couple years i just have to be in
00:10:08.180 separate bedrooms and figure out how to deal with this guy i don't like like i'm gonna do it i chose
00:10:12.820 to make a kid with him if i didn't want to do that i shouldn't have chosen to make a kid with him
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