Pearl Granted These Celebrities a Divorce
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Summary
In this episode we discuss the divorce rate in the modern society and the reasons why it is so high and why we should be worried about it. We also discuss the role of divorce in society and why it should be illegal.
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base your relationships off your parents relationship and if you watch your mom or your dad constantly
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belittle themselves and constantly let themselves get walked over you're going to let yourself get
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walked over if you're their gender because it's more likely to be the woman you're going to think
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it's okay if my man treats me like crap because like domestic violence you're more likely to be
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domestically abused it's actually most domestic violence is two-sided like a lot of girls claim
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domestic violence but they hit first again and you're actually more likely to be in a domestic
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violence um where if it's one-sided abuse like women are more likely to be in um more likely to
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hit men one-sided than what men are to hit women okay fine well whatever gender is your whatever
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gender gets belittled you're if you're that gender you're gonna let yourself get walked over like that
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so do you think people should just like never get divorced is that like your position yeah like do
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you think divorce should just be like illegal like yeah i gave will smith the divorce no no i gave will
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smith the divorce because you said that like you said that they should try their hardest like johnny
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was johnny dot married i'd give that man a divorce okay but you're like in some situations
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divorce is legitimate you acknowledge that yeah i think in front of god you said you made your
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vows in front of god and let's face it for richer for richer poorer for sickness and in hell
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has less value less than half the percent of the uk so much what do you mean i mean to you
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not not to people of not wait wait wait wait not to people of faith but statistically but
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statistically as a country we have belonging but not believing true true true however however that's
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why marriage is outdated that's like why we're in a post-marriage society that's why that wait wait
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that's why people are getting married less and less and less what's people's justification that
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the staying in a marriage isn't working out because they can't say anymore god god wants me to do this
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what do they say to themselves when they're unhappy and then it's about it's about my kids
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that's that's what i would you you said before you do acknowledge that wait hold on you do
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acknowledge there are situations where divorce is acceptable to you of course yeah like okay but
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here's my point do you not think the two people involved in that marriage are the best people to
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judge when that situation has arrived yeah i think if that was true i don't think it would be a 50
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percent divorce rate i don't think i don't think the number one reason wait i don't think the number
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one reason would be financial but that's yeah but that doesn't exist in the vacuum though like there
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is other things like that stuff changes when you add more details like are they more educated than it
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like i think it lowers or if they're if they come from a two-family home where everyone is still
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married then it goes up like it's there are things that change yeah it's fact so it's not like
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you know every time you get married it's a coin flip it depends on your personal situation
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and things going on there are some situations that are better and worse true yeah and there's
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some situations you're like you should get divorced in your mind yeah exception's not the
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rule i don't i don't think 50 percent of marriages should end in divorce and my whole point but like
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you're missing my point because you're trying you're trying to like get me on something small
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but that's what wait wait wait it's the whole point is that we have a me me me culture where
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it's me and my happiness before the family and where i think i should put my feelings before the
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family in extreme situations sure i believe in divorce will smith i don't know if johnny
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def was married to that woman but i'll give you both divorces i'll get wait wait i'll give you
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both divorces but in general it's like we just have such a selfish like modern women are selfish
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yes and and it's wait and it's about me before my family and i just think that's wrong but it's
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reflective of the society we like in the uk and america we have very capitalist societies and that
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is individualism and if you were in a more socialist society where it was more about the
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community then you would find families wouldn't split up as often and and the fact is it's not
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just women like men and women equally are becoming no no because women are the ones leaving women are
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the ones leaving women leave 70 to 80 percent of the time wait women leave 70 to 80 percent of the
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time 90 percent of their college educated if anything i think women have become more selfish
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because we're bailed out of every bad decision we may be allowed to be more selfish wait so
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wait wait no i'll tell yeah because every time we make a bad decision we're bailed out if we're bad
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with their money there's women's shelters if we sleep around there's birth control if we get pregnant
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we can have an abortion if wait if we if we don't get the abortion and we get married they they can
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we can divorce them and take half if we or we can put the kid on child support or the dad on child
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support go ahead as well um when it comes to marriage that there's there's almost no incentive
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for a man to leave um more often than not there are men who are just who are still breathing about
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dying every single as we're speaking right now so it's like what you lose from a man leaving the
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marriage in comparison to women leaving marriage there's just it's it's more incentivized for the
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women to leave it's just facts as a man a woman's gonna take half your money and you probably won't
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have access to your kids that's why it's tripping to keep her yeah most men would literally rather
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just like just fade one in four marriages one in four marriages are sexless yeah oh and and like
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let's be honest is it the women not sleeping with the men or the men not sleeping so why why are we
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even so at this point from what everybody is saying i'm hearing it from all sides i feel like in today's
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society the safest and probably healthiest thing for you to do is to have an agreement between a man
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and a woman who agree on the values that they want to put on their child to grow feel to be whatever
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human they want that child to be and leave it as that possession love marriage all of these things
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are fantasies that really in today's age don't have as much standing what does have standing is a
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respectful relationship with somebody and that doesn't mean you have to live together i would love
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listen i swear to god i would love to to be able to have a man that will give me my children but he
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does not have to have me and we can still cooperate and we can still raise the children together but
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you have your own house i have my own house daddy has his own space he likes his house and daddy's
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house is your house i have my own space i have my own house and mommy's house is also your house
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and daddy can come to my house mommy can go to his house because we're good friends we get on really
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well we have a love for each other why would you want it like that because i don't think i can i don't want i
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don't think i would be happy for the rest of my life and i would be able to actually give the kind
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of love and the kind of good energy and positivity to my child when i have somebody else attached to
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me that because in so many ways because we're different people just in general they will drag
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my energy down sometimes and i don't think it's fair but you're putting your happiness before the kids
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it goes back to like what i've been saying you're getting interested i'm going i'm teaching listen
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i'm going the other way my happiness and this is the thing i know this very well because i know when
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my mom came when we came to england i remember my mom had to work in all these things my mom's
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happiness was something that was very important to us seeing her struggle seeing her suffering that
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way seeing it to go through all of these things was really impactful on us are you not in control of
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your emotions no of course i can be in control of my emotions but if i'm happy okay so then can you
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can you put on a happy front for your kids uh the thing is you can put on a happy front for your kids
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but this is the thing about kids that most people tend to forget children are not stupid do you
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understand you can always catch what you can always know when things are not okay with mommy or daddy
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things change your behavior will change no matter how much you try to pretend and fake it
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you will always be visible and that's why i would say nowadays save yourself and actually be with
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somebody not be with them forever but have a good contract i think good relationship with
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somebody i think that's the future of dating as long i don't think it's going to be the two house
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thing rent is too high in london but but but i do think that like long term it's going to be like
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long-term relationships outside of marriage and if people do get married they'll date for longer
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first is where it seems to be going i think that's what's going to be because these days the way that
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we're talking about women at this men are that then nobody's trusting anybody to actually have that
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commitment for life the only way you can have a commitment for life is if you take away the
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possession and the me and you together and you make it about the child so it doesn't even matter if
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you're together or not because what you love the most is that kid and you want that kid to grow
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happy so you get on and it's reflected in all aspects of life you don't have a job for life
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anymore you have a few jobs and whichever job gives you the most money you stick with like it's not
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i don't i think the family is just what's it just shows what's happening in society it's just a
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reflection i beg to differ um reason being is that um i think once you once you have a child
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it's not it's no longer about you it's really about the children and if it just means that you
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just take it as a job and in front of the children because what children are that sponges right and
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whatever you're referring to is whatever your mom exposed to you or whatever your father exposed to
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in this if you're once you have children in my opinion you have to do the best that you can do
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to give them the best possible upbringing in certain cases at your expense because
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as statistics suggest that extra effort prevents a child from entering the prison system prevents a
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child from going through certain development stages that they don't need to go through and he's going
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to think so i just think like once you have a child in the picture of marriage or not
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the child should be the priority irrespective of where you stand you the child comes first before
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you in my opinion so that's that's pretty much what i was saying earlier like if if you're together
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and you've got a kid and the relationship's not working out then just co-inhabit you can live
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together and be roommates and live in the same house yeah as long as the kids see the the unit you
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eat together at the dinner table all that kind of stuff that's the reason no but no no but if it's an
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arrangement like you both agreed to like it's not what you're going to take your thing no but listen
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it's not working between us yeah somewhere else have a separate room just just let just just let
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the children see parents exactly if it's not working out we can come to an arrangement
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we can say look i mean it's not i'm not we're not saying that we're not saying that's the ideal
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situation but i'm just i'm putting like if i was in that situation and i think hmm i know it's better
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for my kids if the mom and the dad are in the home and if for a couple years i just have to be in
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separate bedrooms and figure out how to deal with this guy i don't like like i'm gonna do it i chose
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to make a kid with him if i didn't want to do that i shouldn't have chosen to make a kid with him
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