JustPearlyThings - March 26, 2023


Pearl Granted These Celebrities a Divorce


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10 minutes

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222.2924

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2,346

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1

Misogynist Sentences

14

Hate Speech Sentences

8


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 base your relationships off your parents relationship and if you watch your mom or your dad constantly
00:00:05.560 belittle themselves and constantly let themselves get walked over you're going to let yourself get
00:00:09.560 walked over if you're their gender because it's more likely to be the woman you're going to think
00:00:14.640 it's okay if my man treats me like crap because like domestic violence you're more likely to be
00:00:19.760 domestically abused it's actually most domestic violence is two-sided like a lot of girls claim
00:00:24.240 domestic violence but they hit first again and you're actually more likely to be in a domestic
00:00:28.400 violence um where if it's one-sided abuse like women are more likely to be in um more likely to
00:00:32.980 hit men one-sided than what men are to hit women okay fine well whatever gender is your whatever
00:00:38.200 gender gets belittled you're if you're that gender you're gonna let yourself get walked over like that
00:00:42.980 so do you think people should just like never get divorced is that like your position yeah like do
00:00:48.580 you think divorce should just be like illegal like yeah i gave will smith the divorce no no i gave will
00:00:53.340 smith the divorce because you said that like you said that they should try their hardest like johnny
00:00:57.700 was johnny dot married i'd give that man a divorce okay but you're like in some situations
00:01:02.480 divorce is legitimate you acknowledge that yeah i think in front of god you said you made your
00:01:07.480 vows in front of god and let's face it for richer for richer poorer for sickness and in hell
00:01:12.300 has less value less than half the percent of the uk so much what do you mean i mean to you
00:01:19.200 not not to people of not wait wait wait wait not to people of faith but statistically but
00:01:25.660 statistically as a country we have belonging but not believing true true true however however that's
00:01:31.340 why marriage is outdated that's like why we're in a post-marriage society that's why that wait wait
00:01:36.080 that's why people are getting married less and less and less what's people's justification that
00:01:39.900 the staying in a marriage isn't working out because they can't say anymore god god wants me to do this
00:01:44.980 what do they say to themselves when they're unhappy and then it's about it's about my kids
00:01:49.080 that's that's what i would you you said before you do acknowledge that wait hold on you do
00:01:53.420 acknowledge there are situations where divorce is acceptable to you of course yeah like okay but
00:01:58.420 here's my point do you not think the two people involved in that marriage are the best people to
00:02:03.640 judge when that situation has arrived yeah i think if that was true i don't think it would be a 50
00:02:08.040 percent divorce rate i don't think i don't think the number one reason wait i don't think the number
00:02:14.240 one reason would be financial but that's yeah but that doesn't exist in the vacuum though like there
00:02:19.200 is other things like that stuff changes when you add more details like are they more educated than it
00:02:23.620 like i think it lowers or if they're if they come from a two-family home where everyone is still
00:02:29.080 married then it goes up like it's there are things that change yeah it's fact so it's not like
00:02:33.820 you know every time you get married it's a coin flip it depends on your personal situation
00:02:37.860 and things going on there are some situations that are better and worse true yeah and there's
00:02:43.000 some situations you're like you should get divorced in your mind yeah exception's not the
00:02:48.160 rule i don't i don't think 50 percent of marriages should end in divorce and my whole point but like
00:02:52.340 you're missing my point because you're trying you're trying to like get me on something small
00:02:55.760 but that's what wait wait wait it's the whole point is that we have a me me me culture where
00:03:02.180 it's me and my happiness before the family and where i think i should put my feelings before the
00:03:07.200 family in extreme situations sure i believe in divorce will smith i don't know if johnny
00:03:12.540 def was married to that woman but i'll give you both divorces i'll get wait wait i'll give you
00:03:18.040 both divorces but in general it's like we just have such a selfish like modern women are selfish
00:03:24.360 yes and and it's wait and it's about me before my family and i just think that's wrong but it's
00:03:30.480 reflective of the society we like in the uk and america we have very capitalist societies and that
00:03:35.780 is individualism and if you were in a more socialist society where it was more about the
00:03:39.800 community then you would find families wouldn't split up as often and and the fact is it's not
00:03:43.760 just women like men and women equally are becoming no no because women are the ones leaving women are
00:03:49.480 the ones leaving women leave 70 to 80 percent of the time wait women leave 70 to 80 percent of the
00:03:55.660 time 90 percent of their college educated if anything i think women have become more selfish
00:04:00.620 because we're bailed out of every bad decision we may be allowed to be more selfish wait so
00:04:04.680 wait wait no i'll tell yeah because every time we make a bad decision we're bailed out if we're bad
00:04:12.120 with their money there's women's shelters if we sleep around there's birth control if we get pregnant
00:04:15.620 we can have an abortion if wait if we if we don't get the abortion and we get married they they can
00:04:20.920 we can divorce them and take half if we or we can put the kid on child support or the dad on child
00:04:26.840 support go ahead as well um when it comes to marriage that there's there's almost no incentive
00:04:32.820 for a man to leave um more often than not there are men who are just who are still breathing about
00:04:39.140 dying every single as we're speaking right now so it's like what you lose from a man leaving the
00:04:44.660 marriage in comparison to women leaving marriage there's just it's it's more incentivized for the
00:04:48.620 women to leave it's just facts as a man a woman's gonna take half your money and you probably won't
00:04:53.080 have access to your kids that's why it's tripping to keep her yeah most men would literally rather
00:04:57.260 just like just fade one in four marriages one in four marriages are sexless yeah oh and and like
00:05:05.520 let's be honest is it the women not sleeping with the men or the men not sleeping so why why are we
00:05:09.580 even so at this point from what everybody is saying i'm hearing it from all sides i feel like in today's
00:05:17.120 society the safest and probably healthiest thing for you to do is to have an agreement between a man
00:05:24.500 and a woman who agree on the values that they want to put on their child to grow feel to be whatever
00:05:30.500 human they want that child to be and leave it as that possession love marriage all of these things
00:05:36.260 are fantasies that really in today's age don't have as much standing what does have standing is a
00:05:41.320 respectful relationship with somebody and that doesn't mean you have to live together i would love
00:05:46.020 listen i swear to god i would love to to be able to have a man that will give me my children but he
00:05:51.080 does not have to have me and we can still cooperate and we can still raise the children together but
00:05:57.100 you have your own house i have my own house daddy has his own space he likes his house and daddy's
00:06:00.960 house is your house i have my own space i have my own house and mommy's house is also your house
00:06:04.640 and daddy can come to my house mommy can go to his house because we're good friends we get on really
00:06:08.820 well we have a love for each other why would you want it like that because i don't think i can i don't want i
00:06:14.120 don't think i would be happy for the rest of my life and i would be able to actually give the kind
00:06:19.540 of love and the kind of good energy and positivity to my child when i have somebody else attached to
00:06:26.020 me that because in so many ways because we're different people just in general they will drag
00:06:30.600 my energy down sometimes and i don't think it's fair but you're putting your happiness before the kids
00:06:34.640 it goes back to like what i've been saying you're getting interested i'm going i'm teaching listen
00:06:41.140 i'm going the other way my happiness and this is the thing i know this very well because i know when
00:06:45.880 my mom came when we came to england i remember my mom had to work in all these things my mom's
00:06:49.940 happiness was something that was very important to us seeing her struggle seeing her suffering that
00:06:54.560 way seeing it to go through all of these things was really impactful on us are you not in control of
00:06:59.560 your emotions no of course i can be in control of my emotions but if i'm happy okay so then can you
00:07:04.440 can you put on a happy front for your kids uh the thing is you can put on a happy front for your kids
00:07:09.200 but this is the thing about kids that most people tend to forget children are not stupid do you
00:07:13.780 understand you can always catch what you can always know when things are not okay with mommy or daddy
00:07:18.380 things change your behavior will change no matter how much you try to pretend and fake it
00:07:22.160 you will always be visible and that's why i would say nowadays save yourself and actually be with
00:07:28.220 somebody not be with them forever but have a good contract i think good relationship with
00:07:32.520 somebody i think that's the future of dating as long i don't think it's going to be the two house
00:07:36.280 thing rent is too high in london but but but i do think that like long term it's going to be like
00:07:42.800 long-term relationships outside of marriage and if people do get married they'll date for longer
00:07:46.980 first is where it seems to be going i think that's what's going to be because these days the way that
00:07:52.740 we're talking about women at this men are that then nobody's trusting anybody to actually have that
00:07:57.880 commitment for life the only way you can have a commitment for life is if you take away the
00:08:02.960 possession and the me and you together and you make it about the child so it doesn't even matter if
00:08:06.840 you're together or not because what you love the most is that kid and you want that kid to grow
00:08:10.000 happy so you get on and it's reflected in all aspects of life you don't have a job for life
00:08:14.220 anymore you have a few jobs and whichever job gives you the most money you stick with like it's not
00:08:19.140 i don't i think the family is just what's it just shows what's happening in society it's just a
00:08:25.140 reflection i beg to differ um reason being is that um i think once you once you have a child
00:08:33.300 it's not it's no longer about you it's really about the children and if it just means that you
00:08:38.600 just take it as a job and in front of the children because what children are that sponges right and
00:08:44.220 whatever you're referring to is whatever your mom exposed to you or whatever your father exposed to
00:08:49.060 in this if you're once you have children in my opinion you have to do the best that you can do
00:08:54.300 to give them the best possible upbringing in certain cases at your expense because
00:08:59.960 as statistics suggest that extra effort prevents a child from entering the prison system prevents a
00:09:07.860 child from going through certain development stages that they don't need to go through and he's going
00:09:11.080 to think so i just think like once you have a child in the picture of marriage or not
00:09:14.700 the child should be the priority irrespective of where you stand you the child comes first before
00:09:19.280 you in my opinion so that's that's pretty much what i was saying earlier like if if you're together
00:09:23.620 and you've got a kid and the relationship's not working out then just co-inhabit you can live
00:09:28.540 together and be roommates and live in the same house yeah as long as the kids see the the unit you
00:09:33.640 eat together at the dinner table all that kind of stuff that's the reason no but no no but if it's an
00:09:38.860 arrangement like you both agreed to like it's not what you're going to take your thing no but listen
00:09:42.980 it's not working between us yeah somewhere else have a separate room just just let just just let
00:09:48.980 the children see parents exactly if it's not working out we can come to an arrangement
00:09:52.620 we can say look i mean it's not i'm not we're not saying that we're not saying that's the ideal
00:09:57.580 situation but i'm just i'm putting like if i was in that situation and i think hmm i know it's better
00:10:03.640 for my kids if the mom and the dad are in the home and if for a couple years i just have to be in
00:10:08.180 separate bedrooms and figure out how to deal with this guy i don't like like i'm gonna do it i chose
00:10:12.820 to make a kid with him if i didn't want to do that i shouldn't have chosen to make a kid with him
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