JustPearlyThings - Pearl HUMBLES This Modern Woman

00:00:00.000 children it's not we act like there's no option but a lot of people they just really don't have

00:00:04.820 options they can't they they can't have a baby at that moment right there's there's so many um

00:00:11.680 families that want to baby there's so many families that are like waiting to adopt that

00:00:16.080 especially with all the first because people are having kids later and later they're all the

00:00:19.340 fertility issues and a lot of people i know we always talk about the foster care system but

00:00:23.480 if you put a baby into the foster care system they're most likely going to be adopted the issue

00:00:28.500 is the parents that wait to do it because like most people don't want to you know adopt like a

00:00:33.600 five seven ten year old system is horrible but i'm saying there's a lot of there's a lot of there's a

00:00:39.960 lot of any child to go through i agree with you but that's why it's important to give them up for

00:00:44.060 adoption when they're babies it's a lot easier to find a family to adopt them when they're babies

00:00:48.920 because the issue is a lot of like incompetent mothers try to keep the kid and they just can't 1.00

00:00:53.340 take care of it then social services takes it away and the problem is most um like families 0.99

00:00:58.560 they're not looking to adopt like a five-year-old from like a crackhead or something like you know

00:01:02.860 that comes with a lot of problems but if you do that at birth it's a lot easier to find a family

00:01:07.280 to adopt i feel like i feel like i feel like this generation and it's like now that abortion is

00:01:16.080 becoming more i mean you couldn't even talk about it years ago like people would be like we wouldn't

00:01:22.300 be sat here talking about abortion and we think it's right and we think it's wrong and we wouldn't 0.98

00:01:27.020 be able to because it's it wasn't it was so hush hush and shameful um because morally it's wrong like

00:01:36.440 that's what we're told and the thing is we're breeding kids that are think about the future so the

00:01:44.960 future if we're all like this now and there's problems and there's issues and you know there's

00:01:49.920 issues in the family and things like that and there's children this child is going through it

00:01:54.360 they're going to grow up with other issues as well as what they've got from their parents this is why

00:02:00.800 and then it's going to be more and more this is why i think it's so important for women to pick 1.00

00:02:05.200 husbands get married and stay married which you would do if abortion wasn't imagine if abortion was 1.00

00:02:11.500 banned yeah i think women would would be would take more care with picking their partners and that's 1.00

00:02:17.880 and that's the problem is i just think we have we live in a culture that promotes promiscuity and i

00:02:22.740 don't necessarily like do what you want to do but the issue is that when you act selfishly everybody

00:02:29.380 suffers and the kids suffer especially because if you if you leave your husband now you know your kid's

00:02:34.900 staying in a single mother home or boyfriend or you don't pick a good dad no i agree with you you know

00:02:39.920 in regards to like women picking better guys but at the same time i have seen many case where girls 1.00

00:02:46.240 think they've picked a really good guy you know i mean he's ticking all the boxes but but but it's a

00:02:51.880 facade it's a lie and he's toxic but my question to them is what and i just have a hard time believing

00:02:58.580 that the parents didn't say anything and even if maybe they don't have the best home life that their

00:03:02.820 friends didn't say anything in my experience the people that are in toxic relationships have everybody

00:03:08.600 around them telling them they're in a toxic relationship and they don't listen it might

00:03:12.580 not be toxic that's the thing now it might not be any abuse and things like that it just might be a

00:03:18.160 case where maybe the man just doesn't care as much as he let on you know and that's that's the thing

00:03:24.280 you know if he doesn't care that much then there's certain things that he won't do i think that's an

00:03:29.140 unrealistic expectation like i like because throughout life like sometimes your husband's going to care

00:03:35.260 more or care less like i just think you can't make emotional decisions that affect the whole family

00:03:42.060 based on things that change and feelings change love is an emotional decision that's why people

00:03:46.580 make poor decisions when they are in love they look past all of the terrible things and it's a it's a

00:03:52.040 it's a hormonal chemical reaction that makes you crazy so that's why people make poor decisions it's

00:03:57.960 not like they are rational in their thought when they're like oh yeah i definitely want to have a kid

00:04:02.840 with this absolute psycho regardless of gender we could say the reasons for it but i mean this is

00:04:08.500 why historically the family would help pick out the husband because we knew like there's a reason

00:04:13.320 there's a reason like they kept women away from like the guy like the dad would say like threatened

00:04:18.160 to shoot him basically you've heard that right that phrase you know the shotgun grab shotgun wet like

00:04:23.080 there's a reason we had phrases like that because women um it just seems like when we're left to our 1.00

00:04:28.220 own devices like the last hundred years we started moving out of the apartment around 1920

00:04:32.120 before that um women lived with their families and then got married and it just seems like the

00:04:37.060 more reproductive choice we have the worst choices that we make so it doesn't seem like we do a very

00:04:41.780 good job which is why it's important to have men that care about you helping you i don't necessarily

00:04:46.080 think that people made better decisions in the past they just weren't able to leave those decisions

00:04:50.440 regardless because they just had no choice so there are plenty of miserable marriages that's not true

00:04:55.900 there was a stigma there was a stigma against divorce so what evidence do you have of that

00:05:00.720 um the the fact that women couldn't leave no what evidence do you have that they were just miserable

00:05:07.280 because i'm not saying they were all miserable i'm saying that they couldn't leave what percent do

00:05:12.180 you think i'm not going to pull random statistics out of my mouth no but i'm just trying to understand

00:05:15.780 because if you think 10 percent were miserable that's very different than 80 percent no so what i would

00:05:20.360 say is it would fill the gap between the the marriage gap that there is now that is in decline

00:05:26.540 so there was always going to be more marriages in a point of time where you didn't have other choices

00:05:30.760 right so i'm not saying that all of those marriages in the past were unhappy because i'm sure like my

00:05:36.000 great my grandparents and my great-grandparents were together for the whole of their lives wait wait

00:05:39.880 wait but that's the problem right there right there you're making marriage about happiness and it's

00:05:44.460 not about happiness it's about family and legacy and duty that's what it's about marriage

00:05:49.180 why is it not all it should be about quality of life because you because modern women you want 0.99

00:05:53.880 everything so you're like i want i want my i want an intact family duty i want i want and now

00:05:59.920 i want to be happy on top of happiness happiness is basic no you cannot rely i cannot i cannot stand

00:06:07.740 when people women will blame men for them not being happy your happiness is a choice your happiness 0.96

00:06:12.380 is your own emotions you cannot blame other people for your own emotions so happiness is in a 1.00

00:06:18.120 constant state right anyone that's trying to be happy for the whole of their lives is a moron 0.96

00:06:22.500 because that's impossible you you have parts of happiness but there's a difference between someone 0.97

00:06:27.240 um that can't make you happy all the time which i agree is impossible between that and someone who

00:06:32.940 actively makes you miserable and quite sad and depressed or anxious but you still but that's still

00:06:38.780 wrong you said makes you makes you you cannot make me feel anything you you cannot so if they're

00:06:45.720 doing a lot of horrible things it will affect you well one one if he's doing a bunch of horrible

00:06:50.760 thing it's probably you probably didn't have your your father vet him which he should and but number

00:06:57.300 two i i think it's putting a lot of responsibility on the men for trying to make them in control of your

00:07:02.520 happiness you just said about the father vetting him so that's putting a responsibility on a man of some

00:07:07.160 sort to say to your father i think i think it would be wise i think we would have better outcomes

00:07:11.700 maybe so if some people don't have their fathers around and i and i agree with you but why is that

00:07:17.040 it's because women left because women leave the majority of the time 70 to 80 percent of the time 1.00

00:07:21.620 i promise you yeah and i don't know the statistics so don't ask me but i promise you yeah women will 1.00

00:07:27.320 not leave a man that is treating them well i'm telling you i disagree they won't sexing them good 0.99

00:07:33.580 we have been talking this whole show about how women reproduce with these bad men

00:07:43.180 yeah because some men sell dreams so so yeah you know and i've been guilty of that in my early days

00:07:49.220 what can i say we've just you know i have to i have to keep it real about how but like let's watch what

00:07:53.940 women do if we're reproducing with the bad men that means we're picking them i mean we you there's a

00:07:59.340 reason we have phrases nice guys finish last there's a reason it's not there for no reason

00:08:04.300 but that's not all women i'm not saying it's all women but it's a significant portion enough that we

00:08:09.800 have a phrase that everybody knows yeah besides um the reason why we're having a lot of problems

00:08:15.020 with marriage today is because it's the same reason we're having a lot of problems in other areas of

00:08:18.660 society this new age we try to redefine things we try to change the meaning of words we try to change 0.77

00:08:24.100 the meaning of what things stand for marriage was never about love happiness or all of that crap

00:08:29.780 marriage was marriage was about survival marriage was about bringing together two families bringing

00:08:36.100 together resources to ensure the survival of your offsprings that's what marriage is for 0.78

00:08:41.200 so at the bedrock of marriage should lie duty and responsibility not love and happiness

00:08:46.820 but we have more than enough people on the earth for for us sort of like not to choose love

00:08:54.980 that's not true that's not true that's not true billion people no but the the issue is right now we

00:09:01.700 have a below replacement rate even if you have so yeah even if you have 100 million people if you're

00:09:06.100 not replacing um the people that are dying as quickly as you should then eventually that civilization is

00:09:14.260 going to crash and it has happened this is not something that is what predicting to happen that

00:09:17.700 we don't know it has happened throughout history can i ask you a question king do you think it would

00:09:23.380 be a massive problem if there wasn't that many human beings on a planet because in my opinion

00:09:30.180 i don't think we're more important than the planet i think the planet is more important than us as a

00:09:34.580 species god if you make houses cheaper that would be great the thing is if there weren't enough human

00:09:39.700 beings on earth human beings would would make um repopulating the earth more of a priority than love 0.87

00:09:45.860 and that's what happened in the past that's why where we are today so the battery is the reason why

00:09:50.580 the reason why the battery is falling is because we are all comfortable now we all can be selfish we

00:09:56.020 don't have to worry the way our three women have had an abortion exactly but is it a bad thing though

00:10:02.740 is my question would it be a bad thing if there was less human beings on a planet because we said

00:10:06.820 there's 8.4 billion people right now my issue is all this stuff is playing god like i i just don't

00:10:12.820 think as humans we have the right to play god so you have the right to decide when life begins you

00:10:18.820 have the right whether the child lives or dies like i just think we get into all these policies where

00:10:24.260 you're you're literally playing god yeah because i suppose you know if a man and woman create a life

00:10:29.700 if that's if is that playing good in your in your eyes then um no well there's a there's a huge thing

00:10:37.220 about population control right now yeah which drives me mad like it's it's just um that's like really

00:10:48.100 trying to control all of us and so that's why they're pushing for things that will cause

00:10:55.620 a massive drop in the population the government will step in at some point and there will be

00:11:02.900 incentives for people to have kids it will be inevitable or we can ban divorce abortion well i

00:11:09.860 find that encouragement is usually more successful for not having a dystopian country than than you know

00:11:16.580 it's like by being encouraging where because it makes people feel oppressed and then they don't tend to

00:11:20.660 feel very happy well we're not this isn't about feelings i like outcomes well right now the

00:11:25.860 incentives well right now the outcome is that we're giving women the ability to feel free have

00:11:32.900 an abortion and and they're doing it they're doing generally humans respond better to positive 0.66

00:11:38.980 reinforcement than negative you would agree then that child support should be banned because we

00:11:44.740 don't want to give people positive reinforcement for breaking well it's the women that are having the 1.00

00:11:49.140 kids so no they're the ones well that is an incentive for them if you take that away they would be even

00:11:54.660 less no no i don't think so i think there would be more intact families i think when you pay women 1.00

00:11:59.700 to leave they will well we're just talking about more children at the moment not necessarily more

00:12:04.340 families no i was talking about families the whole time okay some people some families is a different

00:12:10.420 yeah yeah yeah i think families are good so the the thing with chinese 1.00

JustPearlyThings - July 03, 2023

Pearl HUMBLES This Modern Woman

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