JustPearlyThings - August 08, 2023


Pearl Made This Modern Woman RETHINK Her Stance


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10 minutes

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2,292

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297

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Misogyny

28

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22

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In this episode, we discuss what we like in a woman and what we don't like. We talk about our ideal partner, what we look for in a partner and who we would choose to be in a relationship. We also talk about the bare minimum that women should offer to a man when it comes to dates.

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00:00:00.000 What are your standards?
00:00:01.000 Caribbean ting?
00:00:02.000 Light scale?
00:00:03.000 Island girl.
00:00:04.000 Island girl.
00:00:05.000 I like Caribbean women. 1.00
00:00:06.000 That's just what I like.
00:00:07.000 That's what my heart lies.
00:00:08.000 Island girls only. 0.97
00:00:09.000 Does she have to make a certain amount of money? 1.00
00:00:11.000 No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:00:13.000 Can she be overweight? 1.00
00:00:14.000 Does she have to be in shape? 1.00
00:00:16.000 I don't mind a little tummy and all that.
00:00:18.000 You get me?
00:00:19.000 I don't discriminate.
00:00:20.000 I don't discriminate.
00:00:21.000 I don't discriminate.
00:00:22.000 I would be like too pale, right?
00:00:24.000 No, no, no, no.
00:00:25.000 I thought you said Caribbean thing.
00:00:27.000 Caribbean girls.
00:00:28.000 As long as you can wind your waist.
00:00:30.000 You're good to go.
00:00:31.000 You're good to go.
00:00:32.000 Okay, so I'm not hearing any standards really.
00:00:35.000 No, no, no, no.
00:00:37.000 Obviously this is a level, but we like what we like.
00:00:40.000 I'm hearing like anything goes.
00:00:42.000 What about body count?
00:00:44.000 Any body?
00:00:45.000 I don't ask the question.
00:00:46.000 We don't ask the question.
00:00:47.000 We don't ask the question.
00:00:48.000 We don't ask the question.
00:00:49.000 We want peace of mind.
00:00:50.000 I don't ask that question.
00:00:51.000 Who has higher standards?
00:00:52.000 Men or women? 0.78
00:00:53.000 Women. 0.81
00:00:54.000 Women. 0.81
00:00:55.000 Yeah.
00:00:56.000 Yeah, women. 1.00
00:00:57.000 We always talk about how women should be treated like queens. 0.98
00:01:00.000 Why don't we ever talk about how men should be treated like kings?
00:01:03.000 Facts.
00:01:04.000 I agree.
00:01:05.000 100%.
00:01:06.000 Men should be treated like kings, alright?
00:01:07.000 You should be treated like kings.
00:01:08.000 Facts.
00:01:09.000 You see women, yeah?
00:01:10.000 Women, listen. 1.00
00:01:11.000 We love women at the end of the day. 1.00
00:01:12.000 But at the end of the day, it's just the standards are too high.
00:01:14.000 They put pressure on men, alright?
00:01:15.000 I don't feel pressure on it.
00:01:16.000 But listen, as long as she's an island girl, she's on her grind, we can move. 0.99
00:01:20.000 What is your ideal partner?
00:01:22.000 I don't even know.
00:01:23.000 Just someone that treats you right and that doesn't look elsewhere as well.
00:01:27.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:01:28.000 I mean, I'm not going to lie.
00:01:30.000 If you want them to be your partner, they're going to have your kids.
00:01:33.000 So they, like...
00:01:34.000 No, wait, wait.
00:01:35.000 Stop me.
00:01:36.000 Stop me.
00:01:37.000 No, I don't know.
00:01:38.000 They just can't be, like, they've got to be taller than me.
00:01:41.000 At least here.
00:01:42.000 Yep.
00:01:43.000 How tall is that?
00:01:44.000 I don't know.
00:01:45.000 At least here.
00:01:46.000 At least here.
00:01:47.000 At least here.
00:01:48.000 Is there a certain amount of money he has to make?
00:01:52.000 No.
00:01:53.000 But at the end, like, I think, it doesn't matter how much money they make at the time,
00:01:57.000 but they've got to have drive, because in life...
00:02:00.000 They've got to be comfortable.
00:02:01.000 If you don't have any money between you, well, it's both ways, then you're going to struggle
00:02:06.000 in life.
00:02:07.000 But they don't have to have money to start, but they've got to have ambition to change it.
00:02:10.000 So if you dated a guy with no money, he has to be working on it.
00:02:13.000 That's fair.
00:02:14.000 I mean, it's fair.
00:02:15.000 Yeah.
00:02:16.000 For me, I wouldn't go with a guy who had my money.
00:02:19.000 I mean, if he's got absolutely nothing to be able to do with them.
00:02:22.000 Like...
00:02:23.000 I don't know.
00:02:24.000 No, I wouldn't...
00:02:25.000 Someone who is broke, come on.
00:02:27.000 Are you alright?
00:02:28.000 Yeah.
00:02:29.000 I'm alright.
00:02:30.000 Like, you...
00:02:31.000 If you were broke, he'd be fine, but...
00:02:33.000 Oh.
00:02:34.000 Yeah.
00:02:35.000 I mean, they've got to have some money to be able to do, but...
00:02:38.000 It doesn't matter what they're spending on me.
00:02:41.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:42.000 Have you heard of women say they've accepted the bare minimum? 1.00
00:02:45.000 No.
00:02:46.000 You've never heard that term?
00:02:47.000 Yeah, like the bare minimum.
00:02:48.000 I accepted the bare minimum.
00:02:50.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:02:51.000 What is the bare minimum?
00:02:53.000 The bare minimum is I got taken on a date and I get treated nicely.
00:02:56.000 That's the bare minimum.
00:02:57.000 That's the bare minimum.
00:02:58.000 That's the bare minimum, yes.
00:02:59.000 What are you...
00:03:00.000 Messaging me.
00:03:01.000 Contacting me.
00:03:02.000 If you're really trying to be special, you take me on a date, you'll plan it, you'll
00:03:04.000 pick me up, everything.
00:03:06.000 Camera zone.
00:03:07.000 What do you feel like is the bare minimum you should offer to a man?
00:03:10.000 Contacting them.
00:03:11.000 Responding.
00:03:12.000 Okay.
00:03:13.000 Yeah.
00:03:14.000 Do you think it's fair for him to expect you to, like, cook for him and clean if he's
00:03:16.000 paying for you?
00:03:17.000 No.
00:03:18.000 No, if he's paying for me, it's 50-50.
00:03:19.000 Okay.
00:03:20.000 That has to be from both sides.
00:03:22.000 So do you feel like it should be 50-50 when it comes to paying for dates?
00:03:25.000 That should be 50-50? 0.94
00:03:26.000 For dates, realistically, a man should be doing all of that because you're courting
00:03:30.000 me.
00:03:31.000 Yeah.
00:03:32.000 You want me.
00:03:33.000 I want you, but you want me more than I want you.
00:03:34.000 So what do men get out of the deal? 0.78
00:03:35.000 Because that's what I've...
00:03:36.000 I've heard...
00:03:37.000 For me, it's my presence.
00:03:38.000 Like, I'm there.
00:03:39.000 That's it.
00:03:40.000 But anyone can be there.
00:03:41.000 I know, but for a man that actually wants you, I'm there.
00:03:45.000 I'm giving you my time.
00:03:46.000 Yeah.
00:03:47.000 That's it.
00:03:48.000 When is he giving you his time?
00:03:49.000 He is.
00:03:50.000 But men are men.
00:03:51.000 Men are ass.
00:03:52.000 I'm sorry, sorry.
00:03:53.000 Men are ass.
00:03:54.000 I'm so sorry.
00:03:55.000 What is the bare minimum for men and for women?
00:03:57.000 Exactly nothing.
00:03:58.000 Bare minimum for a girl? 0.97
00:04:00.000 I don't know.
00:04:01.000 A bare minimum for a girl. 0.99
00:04:02.000 The bare minimum for what?
00:04:04.000 What would you...
00:04:05.000 What's the bare minimum you would accept from a woman? 1.00
00:04:07.000 Big rats.
00:04:08.000 Big rats.
00:04:09.000 Big rats.
00:04:10.000 Men with dotty fingernails.
00:04:13.000 The bare minimum that's set from a girl. 0.91
00:04:15.000 A girl that is caring.
00:04:17.000 That's the bare minimum.
00:04:18.000 You've got to be caring as a female. 0.96
00:04:20.000 That's about it.
00:04:21.000 The rest I don't really care about.
00:04:22.000 A guy needs to see me once a week at least.
00:04:24.000 That's the bare minimum.
00:04:25.000 You need to clip your nails.
00:04:27.000 Clip his nails.
00:04:28.000 Question, what is the bare minimum men should expect from women? 1.00
00:04:31.000 So you have a brother.
00:04:32.000 I said, what is the bare minimum we should bring to a guy?
00:04:35.000 Be in there.
00:04:36.000 That's it.
00:04:37.000 You don't think that's like nothing?
00:04:38.000 That's nothing.
00:04:39.000 Bare minimum.
00:04:40.000 You said minimum.
00:04:41.000 Minimum means low.
00:04:42.000 Yeah.
00:04:43.000 Just be in there.
00:04:44.000 That's bare minimum.
00:04:45.000 I don't need to bring cash.
00:04:46.000 A dog can just be there.
00:04:47.000 Yeah.
00:04:48.000 I don't need to bring cash because unfortunately the patriarchy set it up so that I don't actually
00:04:53.000 have to bring money as a woman. 1.00
00:04:55.000 You want me to cook.
00:04:56.000 I can cook a little small one-two thing.
00:04:58.000 Mac and cheese?
00:04:59.000 Maybe a little bit of salt, a little bit of pepper.
00:05:02.000 Toast?
00:05:03.000 I can do toast.
00:05:04.000 Alright.
00:05:05.000 Listen, do you see the colour of my skin?
00:05:06.000 Of course I can do toast.
00:05:07.000 I can do a bit more than that.
00:05:08.000 That's a lot more than bare minimum.
00:05:10.000 So I always hear women say, I accepted the bare minimum. 1.00
00:05:15.000 Right?
00:05:16.000 No, no, no.
00:05:17.000 So I'm asking, what is it?
00:05:18.000 What is the bare minimum?
00:05:19.000 Standards.
00:05:20.000 Which are?
00:05:21.000 In what context though?
00:05:22.000 What is the...
00:05:23.000 Relationship or like generally?
00:05:24.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:05:25.000 Relationship.
00:05:26.000 What is the bare minimum?
00:05:27.000 Taking care of you.
00:05:28.000 Spending time with you.
00:05:29.000 Paying for the meals.
00:05:30.000 Texting everyday.
00:05:31.000 Communication.
00:05:32.000 Being honest.
00:05:33.000 Keeping it real.
00:05:34.000 Paying for you.
00:05:35.000 Buying your gifts.
00:05:36.000 I feel like that's bare minimum.
00:05:37.000 What is the bare minimum that men should... 0.78
00:05:39.000 That we should bring to the table for a man? 0.97
00:05:41.000 Care, love, respect.
00:05:43.000 Just matching their energy.
00:05:44.000 If they're doing good for us, I feel like we should do good for them.
00:05:46.000 Matching energy.
00:05:47.000 Matching energy.
00:05:48.000 Matching energy.
00:05:49.000 If they're not matching energy, then they gotta go.
00:05:51.000 We don't have time.
00:05:52.000 Good person.
00:05:53.000 If a man...
00:05:54.000 If a man pays your bills and is paying for dates and everything...
00:05:57.000 Just bring the wax.
00:05:58.000 Should...
00:05:59.000 Should...
00:06:00.000 Should he expect you to cook and clean?
00:06:02.000 No.
00:06:03.000 No.
00:06:04.000 You bring the wax.
00:06:05.000 I don't like it.
00:06:06.000 No.
00:06:07.000 Never.
00:06:08.000 Never.
00:06:09.000 Why not?
00:06:10.000 Could you bring the wax?
00:06:11.000 No.
00:06:12.000 That's bare minimum.
00:06:13.000 Why am I going out of my way?
00:06:14.000 We can take turns.
00:06:15.000 It's a two-way thing.
00:06:16.000 Well, you wouldn't say it's both ways if he's paying for shit?
00:06:20.000 If they treat me right and do everything for me, I'm going to return that energy so we're
00:06:23.000 equal.
00:06:24.000 I'm not doing more than you and you're not doing more than me.
00:06:26.000 So then, in the name of equality, wouldn't you do that back for him?
00:06:31.000 Anything he does for me, I'll do back for him.
00:06:33.000 It's matching energy.
00:06:34.000 So you would pay for dates 50-50?
00:06:36.000 Yes!
00:06:37.000 I would treat...
00:06:38.000 No, no, no.
00:06:39.000 Okay, I did something.
00:06:40.000 Not the first date, but I'll treat him.
00:06:41.000 If he treats me, I'll treat him.
00:06:42.000 If he treats me, I'll treat him.
00:06:43.000 If he treats me, I'll treat him.
00:06:44.000 From time to time or, like, 50% of the time?
00:06:46.000 Time to time.
00:06:47.000 I'll surprise him.
00:06:48.000 I'll treat my man.
00:06:49.000 So that's not matching energy, though, because he's still doing more than you're doing for
00:06:52.000 him.
00:06:53.000 He's getting the wax.
00:06:54.000 But you also get the date, like...
00:06:55.000 I believe that.
00:06:56.000 I believe in 50-50, but not in the beginning.
00:06:59.000 Yes.
00:07:00.000 I'll match 50-50, but in the beginning, I feel like he has to pay for the first date, definitely.
00:07:04.000 Just think of Andrew Tate.
00:07:05.000 Come on.
00:07:06.000 It's purposely saying the shit that people...
00:07:10.000 They will get upset people.
00:07:11.000 We are a generation where people give attention to things that get upset.
00:07:15.000 Think negative things.
00:07:16.000 Like, most of the times, we don't really care about the positive things that happen in front
00:07:19.000 of our eyes.
00:07:20.000 We're just looking for the negatives.
00:07:21.000 So that's what he's doing, just to be viral and get money, whatever.
00:07:25.000 But I think he's saying bullshit at the same time, saying things that make sense.
00:07:29.000 But he's just playing with the crowd.
00:07:31.000 Can't lie.
00:07:32.000 I think anyone who supports him, outside of his misogynistic view, so...
00:07:37.000 People can say he speaks good about financial situations, but anyone who thinks that is
00:07:43.000 not an ally for women, because he speaks so...
00:07:46.000 He's so detrimental to women, so don't give him the time of day. 1.00
00:07:50.000 And I think guys that listen to him are red flags as well.
00:07:53.000 I'm a head out!
00:07:55.000 Listen, I'm a head out, because listen, yeah.
00:07:57.000 I don't even know...
00:07:58.000 I've never watched that man's video in my life.
00:08:00.000 I don't know, yeah.
00:08:01.000 He's all over TikTok.
00:08:02.000 All over my TikTok for you page.
00:08:03.000 I have never watched a video, but I see him everywhere.
00:08:06.000 I'm guessing he's not the best in terms of the opinion of women.
00:08:10.000 So, do you think he's misogynistic?
00:08:12.000 From what I gather, I didn't say it, but they said it, and I don't disagree with that person.
00:08:17.000 Let's say that.
00:08:18.000 So, have you heard of Andrew Tate?
00:08:20.000 I think Andrew Tate, I like him.
00:08:22.000 I like him, because he's controversial.
00:08:23.000 Yeah.
00:08:24.000 He's controversial.
00:08:25.000 I like controversial men.
00:08:26.000 You know?
00:08:27.000 He has his own opinion, but I agree 80% things, what he say, especially about the government.
00:08:36.000 And some things about men, men have to provide for the women. 0.85
00:08:41.000 Yeah.
00:08:42.000 Especially...
00:08:43.000 You gotta pay off that debt!
00:08:45.000 You gotta pay off that debt!
00:08:47.000 Okay, but Andrew Tate, you know, he's a millionaire.
00:08:50.000 Yeah.
00:08:51.000 Correct.
00:08:52.000 He has a lot of money.
00:08:53.000 So, do you agree that he should have been banned on all social media platforms?
00:08:56.000 Yeah.
00:08:57.000 He has money, so he doesn't need social media.
00:09:01.000 I don't know.
00:09:02.000 I don't really care.
00:09:03.000 I can't lie.
00:09:04.000 Definitely.
00:09:05.000 It's good that it's been taken away from social media, but a lot of other people should
00:09:09.000 be taken away from social media at the same time.
00:09:11.000 I don't think banning him made much of a difference, because it wasn't his own platforms
00:09:15.000 that were promoting it.
00:09:16.000 Yeah.
00:09:17.000 It was other platforms.
00:09:18.000 So, yeah.
00:09:19.000 I don't think banning him made that much of a difference.
00:09:22.000 Why did they ban him, but the women that say men ain't shit and men are trash get to 1.00
00:09:27.000 say that freely?
00:09:28.000 Why is that?
00:09:29.000 No.
00:09:30.000 Because it's a personal view on men as a whole.
00:09:34.000 People can be feminists, people can have their views on men, women. 0.98
00:09:39.000 Just because they've said one line, men are trash, that doesn't mean they need to be 0.98
00:09:43.000 off social media.
00:09:44.000 Andrew Tate has slandered women, he has assaulted women, and he is just a general misogynist
00:09:50.000 and extremist, so he shouldn't be allowed on these platforms.
00:09:53.000 I think we live in a world where it ain't fair.
00:09:57.000 And, unfortunately, it ain't fair.
00:09:58.000 At least you're honest, yeah.
00:09:59.000 It ain't fair, you know what I mean?
00:10:01.000 There's double standards for women, double standards for men.
00:10:04.000 Unfortunately, that's just how the cookie crumbles.
00:10:06.000 To be honest, because women rule. 1.00
00:10:08.000 I don't think that's a good enough answer, but honestly...
00:10:11.000 Maybe you're being honest.
00:10:13.000 Yeah.
00:10:14.000 Women have time to drag men on social media, but men don't have time like that to sit down 1.00
00:10:19.000 and start to drag women. 1.00
00:10:20.000 Do you get what I mean?
00:10:21.000 Women aren't working, so, like, we're staying at home. 1.00
00:10:28.000 Do you want to say, because we're talking about, like, assault, that, like, Cardi B shouldn't
00:10:32.000 be given a platform because she's admitted to assaulting a man? 0.94
00:10:35.000 I don't know anything about her.
00:10:37.000 I mean, like I said, what matters is what do we give attention to?
00:10:41.000 These people are famous just because we give attention of the fact that they're extremists
00:10:45.000 and they say bullshit all the time.
00:10:47.000 The only reason I'm asking is I just want to see if people actually want equality.
00:10:51.000 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:10:52.000 So, like, I mean, I think if we're going to take him down for that, we should take the
00:10:56.000 women down that say men ain't shit. 0.99
00:10:57.000 Like, I think that's sexist.