JustPearlyThings - April 16, 2023


Pearl Pulled Up The Delusion Calculator After She Said This...


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In this episode, we discuss how important it is to be financially stable in a relationship and what we would do if we were in a situation where we didn't have enough money to support ourselves. We also discuss what it means to be a woman and a man and how to balance the two.

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00:00:00.000 really tall for me. Do you want a man that you can dominate? No not a man I can
00:00:04.620 dominate but I'd want a man that I feel like isn't gonna give me a reason to
00:00:09.900 want to dominate. Okay yeah so if he's do you think that a guy gets a little bit 1.00
00:00:16.140 more freedom when he's taller like you'd let him get away with more? Um he's
00:00:22.080 better looking taller no you would treat them exactly the same? No I treat them
00:00:25.680 exactly the same. But only the baby oil for the five sevens. I'm just putting out
00:00:29.940 no disclaimers guys next minute now please give me no no no so I'm just gonna
00:00:34.220 say no I'm just gonna have a little talk pack my stuff and I'm gone. Okay so it
00:00:38.180 sounds like would money be more important than looks to you? Um I'd say
00:00:43.360 money in a sense of ambition because after ambition the money will follow.
00:00:46.420 Yeah well ambition is money though. Ambition is just money later. Yeah so when
00:00:50.800 girls say that it's like. So I'm not gonna go over the currency of money I'm
00:00:54.060 gonna go the currency of ambition is a lot more important to me than the
00:00:57.360 currency of looks. Okay so if he's how old are you? 23. Okay so um let's say 45
00:01:03.660 year old guy. Jesus. He looks good though he looks he looks younger right? Okay right.
00:01:09.060 I don't know what you say about 40 year olds. But maybe maybe you're a little older at
00:01:16.000 this point let's say let's say you're you're 30 right okay but he's got
00:01:19.780 ambition but he's 45 and he's ambitious. I mean he's only he's had 25 years to be
00:01:28.600 ambitious you know. Yeah I mean I don't know. No my only point is it is money it's
00:01:34.840 just money later. Maybe yeah okay but it's not from the I'd say like from a bad
00:01:42.000 perspective I'm looking at the money. It doesn't have to be. Yeah I mean I think
00:01:46.760 most of you if you had daughters would not want them to date completely broke
00:01:49.980 men. Right? It doesn't have to be a negative thing. Yeah so yeah I'd say then
00:01:54.040 money more than looks. Money more than looks. Okay um what about you? Um money.
00:02:01.040 Definitely. She's easy. She's like you don't have to go through this. I am quite independent so if you can't match me or higher
00:02:09.400 no because I've been there done that you know supported my boyfriends when you know they had
00:02:15.080 little struggles. No. So for me that's like a number one thing you have to have
00:02:19.960 money. You have to be stable and that's that's just literally it. Would you date a guy you weren't
00:02:26.900 that attracted to but he was more financially stable? Um I don't think so no. Because I don't
00:02:34.760 want his money. I just want him to have his money. So for me. But if you have your own money what does
00:02:40.340 it matter if he has money? Because I don't want to be dipping in mine to give him. Like that's where
00:02:44.920 it comes. But he has to dip in his to give you when he takes you out on dates. That's his choice.
00:02:49.080 You know like I'm not saying oh to be with me you have to have money and pay all the bills.
00:02:53.880 I'm not saying that. I'm just saying that you need to have yours and I need to have mine and then
00:02:58.480 we'll be good. So it's not anything where I'm supporting you as a man. You know I have to look
00:03:04.640 at the examples that my father has and my father he's he's secure in his bag. You know like I'm
00:03:12.000 curious um and you don't have to answer this if you don't want to um do you make more than 70,000?
00:03:17.820 No. Okay so the acting's not working just yet but soon give me give me the rest of 2023. Okay um
00:03:24.660 but I'm the sort of person I'm financially stable like I have savings you know I have like money
00:03:30.600 put to buy a house so for me I can go months without working and I'll be fine. So if I'm that
00:03:36.960 sort of woman then my partner needs to have some sort of stability or else I'm all the things that 1.00
00:03:44.040 I've worked hard for I'm now pouring into him and when you're in a relationship you pour into your
00:03:49.820 partner but it has to be to a certain extent you know I you need to match me or else then there's
00:03:56.660 issues financially if the woman's you know for me supporting the man constantly and I'm not getting
00:04:02.500 any kind of like what what do I respect out of you as a man if if you're not even financially stable
00:04:09.860 and that sort of you know. What is financially stable to you roughly how much? Um I wouldn't say
00:04:15.700 you need to at least from I don't look at it as yearly figures or at least probably income of two
00:04:24.200 and a half three grand a month at least at least because rent is probably a grand you know your
00:04:32.260 um utility bills your you know all that stuff probably takes up another 300 pounds so so the
00:04:39.600 remainder three grand at least two okay give me give me give me what you want give me the you're
00:04:44.020 saying in my mind in the real world yeah or in London living lifestyle no I'm asking what do you want
00:04:50.520 I want four grand four grand okay so what is that times 12 oh that's 48,000 because it's easy for me to
00:05:00.600 make four grand a month you get it so it needs to oh my gosh can we pull up can we pull up the
00:05:07.360 delusion calculator can we do you know what that is you google delusion calculator it just says what
00:05:13.960 percent of men make this okay it's okay is that my minimum was that my maximum that's also take home
00:05:20.320 so you've got to take at the tax oh yeah I was gonna say is that after or before that's after
00:05:23.800 we can put it in we can put it in but how much is that no that's before tax no you might not be
00:05:30.300 delusional I don't actually know I'm just saying I wanted to know I wanted to know what percent of
00:05:34.840 men make that amount of money minimum 2.5 a month I think that's like okay let's go female delusion 1.00
00:05:40.700 calculator go on okay there's this thing called female yeah so I mean there's a male one too but 1.00
00:05:46.240 the men it's like not so bad usually that's I saw it it must have been a man who created this
00:05:54.340 female dilution I mean men create most things in general uh go back uh no go back I think it's an ad 0.98
00:06:05.800 yeah that's an ad yeah um yeah there you go okay so put your put in your age are you able to put it
00:06:13.540 so they can see your reactions like wall okay like make it small I think blessing oh oh there we go can
00:06:23.740 you put in the middle a little bigger all right thank you
00:06:26.340 okay so what age my age or partners like yeah what age could he be he needs well I don't date too
00:06:49.040 high up so I'm 30 so he needs to be 30 to 30 till 33 uh 30 to 33 mm-hmm okay do you care about race
00:07:00.560 okay put him I won't go 35 but put him 30 to 35 okay but 29 to 34 okay can you make the box slightly
00:07:12.800 bigger I just I'm having a hard time reading it or can you zoom in on the page yeah there we go yeah
00:07:18.680 yes yes thank you you can still see that okay make it a little bigger no it's fine I have good
00:07:24.400 eyesight I just need to book an appointment I expect just age race and height yeah so uh race do you
00:07:30.460 care about race um sorry yeah I do care about race yeah black okay now how no prejudice to the
00:07:39.300 other races but I'm I'm comfortable with black first all right everyone has a type no I'm not 0.99
00:07:44.480 shading anyone um minimum height oh I didn't used to care about height but my boyfriend he's
00:07:51.600 actually 6'4 and I think that's like really cute um as long as they're not shorter than me
00:07:57.500 no 5'7 to 6 5'7 to 6 6'4 6' and then minimum income
00:08:04.580 do I want to want can he be can he be overweight um what's overweight obese like how much it's like
00:08:14.220 30 something percent body fat do you mean like he can't fit through the door obese or like um it's
00:08:20.640 fine I don't health is something that can change okay so that's okay minimum income minimum three
00:08:27.080 grand so let me put that I'm gonna do the conversion for you because I don't actually and that's take home
00:08:33.200 right you know enough yeah you want tax on top of that he's gonna be earning like 70 grand a year
00:08:36.540 at least okay so after tax I don't mind okay so how how much um so three grand that's your final
00:08:44.280 answer yeah okay three thousand pounds because this isn't uh three thousand seven hundred u.s. dollars
00:08:53.880 so that's times 12 that's 44,000 um us dollars
00:08:59.120 okay wait now so what percent of men do you think fit that criteria before we do it um at least
00:09:07.320 at least 30 percent okay
00:09:10.800 the age the age of the race is gonna bring that up what do you mean the age of the race
00:09:19.240 three percent did we do a merch or did we do it it's similar it's similar wow so three percent
00:09:26.660 three percent yeah yeah go go ahead your turn go ahead your turn wow put it put in your criteria
00:09:32.960 oh yeah your turn oh no okay it's okay you know age i'd say 25 to 30
00:09:40.260 okay uh race um
00:09:47.900 oh guys if you didn't hear um king forgot to exclude married people so it's probably
00:10:00.820 1.5 um okay race did you say i'm gonna go for any race any race okay minimum height um five seven
00:10:13.480 ex obese no exclude obese minimum income no discrimination by me by the way it's just my
00:10:23.920 preference people um i think it's okay to discriminate who you should be discrimin you should discriminate
00:10:30.320 and who you date oh i don't know because i don't want people to discriminate on me but anyway
00:10:33.700 so minimum income you should be picky with who you sleep with like come on that's true you're
00:10:40.060 straight um minimum after tax i'd say take home at least 2.5 okay that is
00:10:49.440 3,130 i can't do math so i need to calculate it times 12 okay that's 37,000 okay
00:10:59.820 that's after tax i'm gonna go for in the this is the yeah but okay 40 is fine
00:11:07.280 okay what do you think what do you think i'm gonna go for 15 15 okay go down
00:11:14.640 i was too close yes leanie um okay you wanna go i know what i so wanna go yeah go ahead go ahead
00:11:26.100 because my age range is like higher so um i want to go like 38 no actually i want to go 40
00:11:33.480 if it's only can you do five years or can you do more than five years
00:11:35.920 it's like 38 to 48
00:11:39.380 what about married men you're gonna go for a married man no no okay take them off take off 0.98
00:11:46.060 those married men
00:11:47.380 not worried about the race minimum height 511
00:11:52.720 oh i feel you minimum income it's got to be over 100k a year
00:11:59.080 by the time you're that way it's 100k in a panam pounds yeah okay so that's 100 and
00:12:08.580 they roughly put 120 us dollars that's roughly what percent of men i'm hoping when they get to
00:12:14.840 the age we're looking like early 20s 21 22 22 percent of men yeah girl there ain't no chance
00:12:23.740 no chance no chance no chance wow oh 0.49 wow my pool is small like one percent of
00:12:31.780 one percent of people in the uk are only on over 100k wow and that's all races girls you better 1.00
00:12:39.700 choose now um go ahead oh okay um let's do like 18 to like 23
00:12:48.520 and um no married men
00:12:52.900 i should have said that in mind oh black
00:12:57.760 um six foot
00:13:02.260 um um oh no no obese people
00:13:08.520 um respect for me
00:13:10.520 um let's do like tk per month
00:13:16.340 oh that's yeah um 2k is roughly
00:13:21.340 two like three
00:13:23.940 american no i'm i need to
00:13:26.480 um
00:13:28.620 uh that's two five american so that's times 12 that's 30 000
00:13:37.740 what's the last one all right oh i think that's it um what percent of men do you guys think that is
00:13:49.740 like 10
00:13:50.740 no no not too low you think lower
00:13:53.240 like five i'm gonna guess five oh my god it's just like one no wow how much money do you think young men are made
00:14:02.740 more than they are what do you think like 2k is a lot for someone yes in that age that's when you're going to like uni and stuff like that but you're figuring things out you think but like with like someone who's like just going straight into work and is like working full time
00:14:16.740 that's not that they still won't get that yeah they won't get that this is why men are struggling
00:14:21.960 this is why men are struggling
00:14:24.120 i used to do recruitment and i i haven't gone to uni and i used to recruit people that had just come out of uni
00:14:30.740 and they were you're going on like 23 some companies might give you 26 like max if you're just coming out but you can obviously make commission on that but again that's a good six nine months if you're putting in that hard work like hours
00:14:44.920 yeah did we do the whole couch everyone's gone on the couch yeah money
00:14:50.140 okay do your do your oh ben i didn't i don't i think money is vulgar so i don't ask about it i don't talk about money
00:14:58.820 but like i just will assume based on like what we're doing and like where you're taking me
00:15:04.100 yeah you have money yeah i like i have no idea how much my boyfriend earns he just owns a business and he handles his own finances
00:15:10.700 so good job you got him here's the chart
00:15:13.420 okay so how how how old
00:15:16.840 uh when you were on the market
00:15:19.580 oh that's a really hard question to be honest because i have dated old
00:15:24.320 i have gone old before but like now i'm not judging you but now i'm trying to have babies so i've gone like younger
00:15:29.460 what isn't that counterintuitive i would think that's counterintuitive now
00:15:33.660 so before i was dating a guy like who was like middle-aged and he'd like already had his kids and stuff
00:15:38.240 oh here so now i'm dating a guy like in his mid-30s because he's you know
00:15:42.340 i'm sold out um so like i don't know it depends if i'm dating like marriage so
00:15:47.380 how old are you again i'm 25 okay so 20 would you go no i wouldn't go younger than myself
00:15:52.960 okay so 25 is the minimum 40 yeah okay
00:15:56.820 i'm 26 so that's roughly mine too
00:16:00.360 um okay any race oh yeah any race
00:16:04.060 height i'm not i don't really have any height restrictions i think yeah
00:16:10.820 so five foot i don't yeah i don't i think if i fell in love with them it wouldn't bother me
00:16:17.700 so five foot you're good yeah okay put her five foot i don't think that many percentage of people are five 1.00
00:16:23.120 have you ever have you ever dated a guy shorter than you yeah i've dated someone five six before
00:16:27.880 wait no i'm five foot five i've dated somebody like my height okay but not shorter but i don't
00:16:34.320 meet many men shorter than me because yeah i'm just an average type woman so like a pool of men is
00:16:39.120 smaller minimum income i don't know i don't know um but i just i i just you know i've never really
00:16:49.820 talked about money i don't look at the bill when it comes like my boyfriend pays for things but like
00:16:52.840 i just don't look but then also when i was younger like i when i was 19 like my boyfriend paid for
00:16:57.260 everything and he was 18 and like he didn't have any money yeah he still paid for everything he just
00:17:02.800 took me to things within his means do you know what i mean yeah so if money's i'm just asking a rough
00:17:08.320 estimate so you're looking to marry a guy like 30k if i want to have his babies like i want him to 1.00
00:17:15.060 be able to support my children i guess i could compact my salary so that's like roughly 40 us roughly
00:17:22.000 what percent i'm gonna guess like 20 i'm gonna guess 20. it also depends on your circle though
00:17:32.360 because i don't know any men that earn less than that go down down oh 12 i was wrong
00:17:37.820 does this surprise you guys does this surprise you no not at all women always come up with these
00:17:46.240 crazy numbers for men oh they're going 100 grand no they don't to be able to earn a living you don't
00:17:52.340 need to be added as much as you as you think um even to be able to support support a family i know
00:17:58.060 times are getting harder because of the cost of living but um yeah i think it's just world and this
00:18:02.480 is why they're just struggling societal pressure lack of communication is the main main reason why
00:18:08.560 men are deleting themselves and it's such a huge problem it's a bit of an unspoken concern because
00:18:15.320 of this and that's what so tell me why did you say 120k i just think that's like um
00:18:26.320 what like the from being married and stuff like that that's where our financial position was so
00:18:33.040 that's kind of like my baseline as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized
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