JustPearlyThings - Pearl's BRUTALLY HONEST Opinion On Marriage

00:00:00.000 or the concept of like they're not being that many consequences anymore i agree with you on this

00:00:03.600 but i think that's the reason why there's a change no i agree i mean i was thinking about it i'm like

00:00:07.760 really we're bailed out of every bad decision we make like it's like if we sleep around there's

00:00:11.760 like birth control and there's abortion right which i'm very like pro-life yeah um and even if

00:00:17.200 we get pregnant like we can put them on child support we can give it up for adoption like 1.00

00:00:20.800 which may be hypocritical my parents did that but um and and then even if we're bad with our money

00:00:26.560 like there's a million government benefits yeah and it's actually crazy in the uk i'm doing this

00:00:30.400 like divorce documentary um right now so you're you're given a divorce attorney what would know

00:00:36.400 it was something like when in cases of abuse the state pays for an attorney yeah i think it was

00:00:41.760 like five years ago or maybe seven roughly um the uk made it like that you get free counsel if um if

00:00:48.960 you are acute if you accuse a guy of abuse and so basically like with one phone call like if i'm

00:00:54.080 dating someone and i just decide you know i'm really just not feeling it anymore i can go to

00:00:58.720 the police get him arrested and he can't see his kids i can get them uh their version of a restraining

00:01:04.160 order there with one phone call kick him out of the house he lives in put him on child support until

00:01:08.880 the trial which oftentimes is like six months to a year and a half and then by the time we get to trial

00:01:14.080 he hasn't seen his kids in a year and a half and so now they give her primary custody because the kids

00:01:18.640 haven't been in their life even and there's no consequence for this and they also get a free lawyer and he

00:01:23.040 has to pay for his yeah that makes it rough um that when you consider a 70 uh i'm sorry 50 divorce

00:01:30.560 rate i don't know what it is in the uk it's roughly the same it's like 53 something like that yeah

00:01:35.280 and then the concept of the majority of those marriages are dissolved by women or the initiation

00:01:40.240 of divorces is initiated by women yeah like so for instance here would be the difference in like 0.99

00:01:44.560 me and like some other people in the space i will say if 70 or 75 of divorces are initiated by women

00:01:50.400 then it's a smart thing for a man to get a prenup but i'm saying that not because of women are hoes 1.00

00:01:54.560 i'm saying that because the stats show that the likelihood is she's going to initiate the divorce 0.88

00:01:59.680 and so she she should not be incentivized financially to initiate divorce with you this is something me

00:02:04.800 and brandon carter talk about all the time it's like what well i don't i don't think marriage is

00:02:08.560 marriage anymore okay like it's not it can't be marriage if you can get out for any reason yeah like

00:02:13.520 if you read marriage vows it's like for better for worse for richer for poorer and sickness and health

00:02:17.840 like all that so it's like is it really marriage if the average marriage is like eight years yeah

00:02:23.120 like that that's not marriage it's something else it's basically just like a contract for

00:02:26.320 a long-term relationship essentially uh i think it's sad like i don't say that in like but it's

00:02:32.320 interesting because when i first got into the red pill space i was so i was kind of triggered i was

00:02:35.840 like why are these guys so anti-marriage like my parents are good like they have these kids they

00:02:40.480 built this business together they both came from nothing like it seemed like a really good idea but then

00:02:45.680 i've been doing this divorce documentary and i'm just like i i can't think of a reason why i'd sign

00:02:50.320 up for that as a guy yeah um i don't know as much about the laws here but in the uk it's like crazy

00:02:56.080 yeah um that's another thing that rollo said which which was he prescribed he encouraged marriage in his

00:03:01.920 own life but he doesn't rec he doesn't like the idea of marriage uh the current way that it's done he

00:03:08.800 he gets i hate how much they run him up the flagpole for that yeah i it actually really bothers me

00:03:13.600 because they never i don't know that i think the fan is on but they never actually listen to what

00:03:18.320 he's saying yeah like because he's saying that the contract is bad like that's what he's against

00:03:22.640 he likes the institution of marriage but like today's marriage isn't marriage but it actually

00:03:26.720 it really irritates me because they always misquote what he says yeah but it's like they're not

00:03:31.360 listening yeah i'm used to that yeah misquoted for what he says yeah um so the thing is with the

00:03:36.400 marriage deal um and i've heard this too you know what if you talk to justin wall or sneaker or whatever

00:03:41.280 they're gonna say i wouldn't have a legal marriage right or marriage including the state

00:03:45.200 but i would have i would have a marriage outside like a religious but it doesn't even matter like

00:03:49.680 that's a sad thing half the guys i interview i guess it's funny it's a divorce documentary but

00:03:54.480 but um half of them aren't even married it's just with the kids like what i can't think of a way

00:04:00.560 they're losing their kids and not married which in which in case in the united states i know you have

00:04:04.000 a much harder time keeping custody so if you just for those of you don't understand if a man and a

00:04:07.920 woman have kids together and they're not married the likelihood of the woman taking the children 1.00

00:04:11.680 full custody is actually much higher yeah if they're married yeah well in the like i had guys

00:04:17.680 that i interview where they avoided like the legal marriage just but the same thing happened to them 0.89

00:04:21.840 they're put on child support um they were accused of abuse and it's really sad to see like it is so

00:04:28.560 sad when i enter like i've interviewed so many guys were like i i'm i i wouldn't be surprised if

00:04:33.280 they committed suicide so that's another thing we're going to talk about is that men being zeroed out

00:04:37.600 after the age of 40 in their 40s and 50s when there's their financial destitution and then their

00:04:42.800 their wives have left them they're nine times as likely to commit suicide yeah no i i see it like

00:04:47.680 i've interviewed these guys like there's one guy this state um literally like he was warning like his

00:04:52.960 his wife or girlfriend or whatever basically got into this like feminist group and that's like the 1.00

00:04:58.480 other thing because they'll be like oh just find a good girl but even a good girl can get like the 1.00

00:05:01.680 wrong friends or in the wrong group and that's what happened to a lot of these guys and so they would

00:05:06.240 like they would get into um so like she would get into this like feminist group and they would start 1.00

00:05:11.600 like talking or whatever and the the crazy thing that happened was he was warning the state saying

00:05:18.560 like this like this is getting out of hand like these these people are like the group is crazy yeah

00:05:22.960 and one of the girls in his the friend group killed the son out of spite like these are the people like

00:05:28.320 i literally have talked to and um the state then took the other guy's child away

00:05:34.160 so like not only did they not listen to him when he warned them about like that group they took his

00:05:39.120 kid away and now he's in like foster care it's becoming one of these things where you can imagine

00:05:43.200 in those court systems they're like well we don't know what's going on so let's just go ahead and give

00:05:47.200 it to the mother well they're using heuristics to just make the the the trials quicker and faster

00:05:52.960 well and i didn't realize that in family court it's not about evidence it's not a balance of

00:05:56.720 probabilities i'm sure you probably know this but like civil court you know you don't yeah in a

00:06:02.080 criminal court it's going to be uh beyond a reasonable doubt yeah in a civil case which

00:06:06.960 this would be a civil case you have a preponderance of evidence yeah so that's that's that you have a

00:06:11.200 preponderance so that's a different thing you can be held 40 liable or 60 liables two people get in a

00:06:16.720 car accident so this would probably be a similar situation no the way it works though is there's

00:06:20.880 like six or seven types of abuse okay and so like i don't know exactly what the number is but let's just

00:06:26.080 say it's like on a scale of one to ten and if you get a score of let's just say a six or seven

00:06:30.240 you're considered abusive and the problem is they're expanding the definition of abuse so

00:06:34.320 they're saying like coercive control is abusive if i don't want to like go out if you don't want

00:06:38.320 me to go out clubbing with my friends if um financial abuse so you you didn't let me spend

00:06:44.080 five thousand dollars on the credit card i can even say that you you graped me because i didn't actually

00:06:48.960 want to have sex when we were married like like and it's crazy and if a guy gets like a six out of ten

00:06:55.440 and and the women's shelters are in on it like because basically they'll go to the women's 0.94

00:06:59.040 shelters all these feminists are there telling the girls exactly what to say based on like your 1.00

00:07:03.360 background so they have like um a story to give the girls for each like this is what you say for 0.95

00:07:08.560 a nigerian guy this is what you say for a polish guy like it's it's wow yeah it's crazy i i wanted to

00:07:14.480 i couldn't find someone crazy enough to do this with me but i've literally wanted to like

00:07:18.480 find people that could like try to go inside of the system to like show this because i've heard

00:07:23.200 this from multiple guys yeah that is crazy the thing is like let's just say somebody's

00:07:28.880 listening to this right now and they're like well you know most women wouldn't do this and i and i

00:07:32.640 understand where that argument would come from my point is you would be incentive if you wanted to

00:07:36.560 keep your kids and you're a woman and you understood that all i have to do is in the short term play 0.55

00:07:41.120 fast and hard with the rules and i get to keep my kids what would you be willing to say like for

00:07:45.520 anyone who's out there who just thinks that this never happens what would you be willing to say to

00:07:50.160 take your kids away from your partner would you be willing to say that he did these things to you and

00:07:54.160 then if you were aware that there was a system and was being coached through that system in order

00:07:59.200 to do these things what would you be willing to do well and i and i think of like male and this is

00:08:04.160 kind of a weird thought process i have but i think of like male evil and female evil and like if you take

00:08:09.520 male evil to its extreme i i think of like aggression right like murder like whatever like mao zedong and

00:08:16.480 pol pot adolf hitler yeah yeah yeah and when i think of female evil to its extreme i think of spite okay and 0.59

00:08:24.000 i think like women like we're at our worst when we're in like a relationship where we feel like 0.98

00:08:28.560 we were wrong whether we were we weren't we're at our worst and right now like the government

00:08:32.160 is giving us the power to do the absolute like to do awful things when we're like at our worst that's

00:08:37.040 like you know how many more people how many more guys would like kill if the government incentivized

00:08:42.080 them to do that yeah like when they're their most angry so let's talk about this i think it's it's i

00:08:46.800 wasn't planning on this subject but this is you'll probably find this interesting so i have some friends

00:08:50.320 of mine that are worth a couple hundred million dollars we'll just use bolzerian as an example dan bolzerian

00:08:53.840 he lives a couple blocks from here right so dan uh has girls sign an nda when he comes when they come

00:08:58.720 into his house and he has cameras in every single room specifically for the reasons that you talked

00:09:02.720 about and we had this discussion before and he said i've never had a problem because beforehand we

00:09:07.200 establish we film everything and like it's one of these things where i tell guys to film everything

00:09:12.960 you guys you notice whenever there's a fight on fresh and fit immediately everyone takes out their phone

00:09:16.960 because they're afraid that the girl is and by the way there's a group of girls behind uh chris that their 0.86

00:09:21.840 specific job like i see their specific job is to get the girls out of there without the men touching 1.00

00:09:26.720 those girls does that make sense because that's what that's the world that we live in now so they 1.00

00:09:30.960 make sure and then they film everything so that make sure that there's no um you've seen the situations

00:09:36.400 before where somebody's accused of a crime and then the video comes out and it's completely the

00:09:39.600 opposite of what they say um is that they do that and i think it's really smart i i encourage guys to

00:09:45.120 do this all the time never type anything in a chat that's going to incriminate you

00:09:49.040 because let's just say a girl and a guy go back and forward on ig like they're dming each other

00:09:54.720 and then the girl goes and deletes all of her messages and it just looks like the guy has just

00:09:57.920 been stalking her screenshots it and sends it to her friends so i don't write incriminating stuff on

00:10:02.560 there okay i recommend people don't do that and then whenever there's any kind of altercation i say

00:10:06.560 film everything yeah as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a

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JustPearlyThings - May 25, 2023

Pearl's BRUTALLY HONEST Opinion On Marriage

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