Pearl's Thoughts On Pr0n
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Summary
In this episode of the podcast, we have a special guest on the show who is a sex and relationship coach and sex educator. We talk about sex, porn, sex education, and sex education in general. We also talk about the difference between women and men when it comes to sex and sexual education.
Transcript
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man the relationship stuff's very tricky especially now everything's so easy to get
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energy from or contact with a girl on any app if you want to meet somebody it's for you maybe
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a lot a lot of guys have trouble with that do you think so one out of three men are either virgins
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or haven't had sex in the past year under 30. that's hard to believe especially with this day
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this day and age well yeah because how tall are you five ten five ten that puts you top like
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25 percent of men average guys five eight maybe thirty why does that put women off do you think
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shorter men um i think it's because we have an instinct like to be protected so like i think
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it's just like natural the same way that like men are repulsed by women with high body counts
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it's like the same thing what do you think of porn of porn yeah i've never seen porn yeah why why
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because i don't know i feel like you should avoid things you can become addicted to
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um and it's kind of interesting i feel like porn has saved a lot of marriages because the dudes
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don't cheat as much um i don't really have a strong opinion either way i think it's
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like you should just be careful of anything you can get addicted to is my opinion because
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one bad addiction can ruin your life and so that's why as many things as like i can just stay away from
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that i could be addicted to i try yeah because it darkens the amygdala in the brain porn oh does it
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so people see the world differently and i think it's over 80 percent upon as sexual abuse oh wow
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yeah so that's why i think a lot of people gravitate towards it because it's rewarding the brain
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it's a reward system so if they're people are masturbating whatever and it's with their brain and then
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we see people's objects we don't see them as human beings but it's up what what about sexual energy
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exchange do you know about that like people having sex and the exchange that comes with that do you
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believe that can because i've watched some of your videos and that's where why i reached out with
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i think is it five if a woman sleeps with five men it lowers her chances of having a happy marriage
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is that correct how did you how do you know this um rollo tomasi yeah do you know who that is he did
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a whole episode on like the effects of body count he links all the studies in it um and that's one of
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the ones he talks about so what about body counts so if a girl's been with five men at lower chances from
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is it 80 to yeah if she's a virgin it's 80 after 10 years if she's slept with five or more it's down to
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i thought it was 25 i used to say 25 it's 30 i got that five percent off but um yeah i mean but
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for guys it's funny like their marital satisfaction goes up like it's the best when they're both
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virgins but like a dude if he's slept with like i can't remember the exact number but it's like roughly
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four and then roughly 10 the dude that has had 10 partners is happier than the dude that had four
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done it i mean i think it's just common sense like i i a lot of stuff that i say i feel like
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it's just common sense like men always have been able to sleep around women always haven't been able
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to sleep around and just because we have birth control now and we can do it it doesn't you can't
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undo biology the same way women are attracted attracted to success height muscles like they don't
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tell us not to be attracted to those things but they tell men they can't be repulsed by hoes
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but you can't undo like biology but back in the day then women were virgins were apparently like
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everything we read could be all bullshit but they say they were virgins men used to get people used
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to get married off 16 17 have kids without women do you think that's why relationships lasted longer
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because it was more of a a bond a bond um yeah you could well i just think there was consequences
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like i just think there's shitty people and there's good people but if you take away consequences
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more people do the wrong thing so when birth control was developed in the 1960s like that
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allowed women to sleep around if more women get the opportunity to sleep around because they can't
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get pregnant more of them are going to do it and then you pay them to be single mothers you put in no
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fault divorce you take away all the consequence and so even like people that you know might be on the
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fence about leaving their husband if they're getting paid to do it bye why do you think so many people
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are cheating now um i mean i think people have always cheated i mean i think 8 000 years ago it
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was like 17 women to every one man so men have always had multiple girls always throughout all of
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history it's crazy though because you've got some marriages who can have four waves you get some men
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who struggle to keep one that who what's right or what's wrong that there's so much information out
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there it confuses people yeah but i believe it confuses people that even with the porn thing and
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people watching porn people having relationships and when i was growing up it was cool to as many
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birds as you want it was cool and that was me to get numbers on the bedpost and have a number and beat
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not realizing the extent it has in your mind because it never makes you happy in my own opinion like
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it never made me happy it made me happy for that you have no looked pretty happy yeah but again like
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was it all do you know what i mean like yeah i get you you know what i mean like is it's kind of
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cd as well like because we're glorifying people like this like where it's cool and people always women but
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earlier maybe i was maybe the happiest man on the planet but it just doesn't feel feel normal in
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my opinions i've got older and a bit wiser and educated myself on certain things and it's to see
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the world a bit differently but who knows what's your longest relationship um it was two years and
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how was that for you it was good it was cool have you been brokenhearted yourself oh yeah of course
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that's painful in itself yeah and then even all researching we can do and all the research
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that's do you think that helps with someone who come into your life now or do you think it will
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make you more paranoid um no i mean i think the more trauma you've gone through or like heartbreak
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you've gone through the worse it is like in the future i mean i like to think i'd learn from it and
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like get better in the future but i just think in general like the less like my parents have only been
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with each other and only dated each other and i just think it's better when they don't have exes
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you know like that's not good for any relationship do you think men can change no well yes yes um i
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think they usually get worse over time i think people it's funny i asked my dad this because he
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didn't like one of my ex-boyfriends and um i asked him i was like do you think people like get better do
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they change and then he's like yes they get worse over time typically it's scary to think though that if
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you're getting worse over the years like men cheat and they say yeah what is it the same lepers can't
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change their spots where as if they can't change but people do change people do make changes i've
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made changes but i still question the old me like were they drinking drugs because every day i still
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think it getting drink getting coke or just getting having a mad one like yeah but you still are who
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you are you just don't do those things anymore yeah and i think most people go back to what they know
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i think there's exceptions and maybe you are but i think like most people i'll give you an example most
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people get fatter over time i think the metabolism shows down as well but you just you get tested as
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