Pearl Says Modern Women Can't Handle The Truth
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about fat shaming, Lizzo and her weight, and how to deal with it. We also talk about how we need to grow a thick skin and get over our fear of fat people.
Transcript
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I think as women, we're too soft, and we need to get thicker skin.
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And especially if he's making fun of something that you can change.
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And until we stop doing that, until we stop doing that,
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we have no right to tell men what they can and can't prefer.
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Because basically, I went to America, and a fat girl got mad at me because she was fat.
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Because if there was no truth in that, you weren't a bit of angry as she was.
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Because a fat person will not get angry if you don't.
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And the other thing I don't understand is like,
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celebrities like Lizzo will lead with their weight.
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Because she's in these super scantily, like, she's wearing basically nothing.
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And then she gets mad when people comment on her weight.
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Because she didn't lead with it until she lost it.
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And then they said that she might have not been well when she lost the weight.
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And even Lizzo, she wore like a thong to a basketball game with kids.
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If you look at her Instagram, she knows kids follow her.
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It's like if an Instagram model leads with her body and men call her a slut.
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Like if an Instagram, even a thin one, it's like an Instagram model.
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So if I had a smaller chest, people probably wouldn't pick up on the fact.
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But because I have breasts and they are quite large, someone might go, oh, she's got big boobs.
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I mean, I would say you're putting your boobs out there.
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I would say no, because I'm not built the same as you.
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So if you can't see my boobs and we can see yours.
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But am I leading with my weight based on what I've put onto it?
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I wouldn't say you're leading with your weight.
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I'd say that like your boobs are very, like they're out.
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Lizzo is way more sexualized than you are right now.
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If you see a woman walking down the street in that top with your size breasts compared to
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someone with a 32 double A, you are not going to look at that woman in the same way.
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When I was in high school, I got kicked out of homecoming because I had like a day to
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And I couldn't find one that fit me because I had just waited too long.
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And so it was way too short and they sent me home.
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And I could have whined and been like, oh, poor me.
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No, like I waited until the last minute and that was the, that was the hand dealt.
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But there's an, there's in regards to like, you know, like what Sophie said, you know,
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So Sophie said earlier, like she just ignores guys that are like five foot five.
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Like I'm the same way when I see a woman's a cup.
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Like, you know, and they, and they did a, they did a, they did a study too.
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Like the way women like disproportionately desire a man that is super tall.
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Cause like tall men are really, really short, a small percentage of the population.
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That's the same way guys want women with big breasts.
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Like the big breasts, like, cause they, they did a lot of, um, data based upon men's
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And then like the guys who are ordering sex dolls, the average breast size they wanted
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was American D cup or larger, you know, I'm a boot man myself too.
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People would call you misogynistic for that preference.
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So if I said, Hey guys, men don't like old fat, single mothers.
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I would want to know why what's, what's because men just don't typically pick women that are
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Men don't typically pick women that are fatter.
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Although they're adults, um, I'm an older woman.
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I'm just talking about, no, I'm talking about it.
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We all carry sex and people, sexiness differently.
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It's just whether you're not, you, do you think you're equally like, do you think if a guy
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had you at 20 with no kids versus you now with four kids, who are they picking?
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Probably now, but not because of the way that I look, but because I'm a very much a healed
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I, I, I'm telling you most of men will just, just for sex only.
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I got a friend that actually likes older women.
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So there's two sides to the men who like older women.
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So one side is like, they may have been, you know, touched by an older woman when she
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was younger or, or older women is all he can get.
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Because I know a few people on social media, myself, that prefer older women.
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Not gonna lie, I would go there with some of them.
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Older women sometimes want younger men as well.
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So, I would not really pretend, like, I would not really have a choice.
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If I had the choice, I would go for younger because I personally believe that younger men
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It's actually, it's actually a, it's actually a normal, like, that happens a lot older women
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But it's because men don't have as much leverage on the sexual marketplace.
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So, men, like, their, their peak, if you look at dating apps, where they have the most options,
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it's, like, roughly around, like, 35 to 37, where women have the most options, roughly
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Imagine, for me, I, I'm, the men that I attract now, I mean, there's a variation in ages, but
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a majority, they're not, they're not even as old as my older son.
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That's the point because they don't have as many options.
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When men are young, they can't, they can't sleep with as many women.
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So, it's, like, the older women have less options and the younger men have less options.
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Where it's, like, the, the 35-year-olds, like, typically date the younger, the younger women.
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And I'm not saying, like, how am I, like, like, I think the average age gap is, like,
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like, each prefer, like, five to seven years difference.
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But, but it starts with looks and men find 22-year-olds the most attractive, roughly.
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I will say this, too, at, at right now, because with the way society is structured,
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like, men are just being slammed with sexual images nonstop.
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Like, the moment we wake up, like, how about some sex?
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And so, this has caused male thirst to be at an all-time high.
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And so, dudes are, like, you know, when guys get good with game and, you know, getting
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with a bunch of women, that sex, that ejaculation, that hunt is all based upon dopamine.
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And so, you got these guys that are just searching for that next dopamine hit.
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And then, also, I don't think we've ever had a period in time where older women were doing
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I think, like, back in the day, they'd be like, you know, yeah.
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You know, you have, like, the J-Los, and you got all these different women.
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I don't keep up with celebrities, but J-Lo's the only one I know.
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But, like, you know, they're older women in their 40s and 50s, right, that are, like,
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Yeah, but I also think it doesn't really count until you're married, really, or in a long-term
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relationship with kids, because that seems to be the new marriage nowadays.
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Because I think a lot of times, as women, we'll mistake sexual attention for relationship
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Yeah, because a lot of women, they'll conflate the fact that a million dudes are in their
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But I would say 99% of those dudes, they're going to fuck you a couple times and disappear.
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Yeah, and then you're going to be like, oh, I thought you liked me.
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No, I am guilty about, like, nothing like people do it.