JustPearlyThings - October 23, 2023


Pearl Says Modern Women Can't Handle The Truth

Topics
preferences
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Lizzo Fat Amy Boob J-Lo
This Unhinged Single Mother Gets Kicked Out For Saying This Trash Modern Women Are Bad Communicator

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Length

10 minutes

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197.42

Word count

2,128

Sentence count

268

Harmful content

Misogyny

36

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Toxicity

51

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Hate speech

13

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In this episode, we talk about fat shaming, Lizzo and her weight, and how to deal with it. We also talk about how we need to grow a thick skin and get over our fear of fat people.

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00:00:00.000 I think as women, we're too soft, and we need to get thicker skin. 1.00
00:00:03.180 And especially if he's making fun of something that you can change.
00:00:06.780 Because we make fun of short men all the time.
00:00:09.520 And until we stop doing that, until we stop doing that,
00:00:13.640 we have no right to tell men what they can and can't prefer.
00:00:17.920 But it was a peak America experience, too. 0.76
00:00:21.100 Because basically, I went to America, and a fat girl got mad at me because she was fat. 1.00
00:00:26.120 Well.
00:00:27.180 I was just like, you know.
00:00:28.300 And that's the thing.
00:00:28.840 Because if there was no truth in that, you weren't a bit of angry as she was.
00:00:33.260 Did you trigger her anyway?
00:00:34.940 Oh, she was super triggered.
00:00:36.220 But did you trigger her?
00:00:37.120 What did you do?
00:00:37.940 We need to at least hear this.
00:00:38.920 Because a fat person will not get angry if you don't.
00:00:41.860 I wrote those three things in the chat.
00:00:43.580 That's all I did.
00:00:43.960 Sometimes the truth needs to be told.
00:00:46.360 Some people need to.
00:00:47.520 I agree.
00:00:48.260 And the other thing I don't understand is like,
00:00:51.420 celebrities like Lizzo will lead with their weight.
00:00:54.820 Yes.
00:00:55.100 And that's what she's leading with.
00:00:56.680 Because she's in these super scantily, like, she's wearing basically nothing.
00:01:00.880 And that's what she's leading with.
00:01:02.440 And then she gets mad when people comment on her weight. 1.00
00:01:05.280 Adele was overweight.
00:01:06.420 Nobody commented on it.
00:01:07.600 Also.
00:01:07.700 Because she didn't lead with it until she lost it.
00:01:10.800 Then they commented.
00:01:11.680 She just had a good voice.
00:01:12.640 And then they said that she might have not been well when she lost the weight.
00:01:16.560 Yeah.
00:01:17.140 That's like Fat Amy as well.
00:01:19.040 Like, she's known as Fat Amy.
00:01:20.420 But like, she's lost all that weight.
00:01:22.540 And she looks amazing.
00:01:23.640 The one with the blonde hair.
00:01:23.960 Are you talking about pitch?
00:01:24.880 Perfect pitch.
00:01:26.020 That was from walking.
00:01:27.280 Yeah.
00:01:27.720 All she did was walk. 0.99
00:01:28.600 And even Lizzo, she wore like a thong to a basketball game with kids. 0.85
00:01:34.000 No.
00:01:34.180 And it's like even.
00:01:34.800 But I think that's a separate thing.
00:01:36.200 She should have just covered up.
00:01:37.240 If you look at her Instagram, she knows kids follow her. 0.99
00:01:39.840 It looks like soft core porn. 0.96
00:01:41.500 It literally does. 0.72
00:01:42.200 I'm not upset for that.
00:01:43.660 I'm not done with that. 0.99
00:01:44.440 It's like if an Instagram model leads with her body and men call her a slut. 1.00
00:01:49.580 You've got to expect the criticism. 0.99
00:01:50.640 Yeah.
00:01:50.960 If you lead with.
00:01:52.420 Like if an Instagram, even a thin one, it's like an Instagram model.
00:01:56.120 She's wearing nothing. 0.99
00:01:57.020 And then people call her a slut. 1.00
00:01:58.220 Well, you're leading with that. 0.99
00:01:59.500 So let me ask you a question then.
00:02:00.740 So I'm sitting here.
00:02:02.020 I'm wearing.
00:02:02.700 I don't know what this is called.
00:02:03.720 But it doesn't have.
00:02:04.740 A boob tube.
00:02:05.420 Boob tube. 0.72
00:02:06.020 There we go.
00:02:06.560 Boob tube. 0.72
00:02:07.340 I don't know my fashion.
00:02:09.000 So if I had a smaller chest, people probably wouldn't pick up on the fact.
00:02:14.440 But I'm wearing a boob tube.
00:02:16.360 Right. 0.99
00:02:16.700 But because I have breasts and they are quite large, someone might go, oh, she's got big boobs. 1.00
00:02:21.720 And she isn't. 0.83
00:02:22.300 She dressed a bit funnily.
00:02:24.040 Like she's putting her weight out there.
00:02:25.880 Am I putting my weight out there?
00:02:27.720 Or am I just wearing clothes? 0.98
00:02:29.080 I mean, I would say you're putting your boobs out there. 1.00
00:02:31.560 Like if you have them out. 0.99
00:02:32.720 Yeah. 0.99
00:02:33.100 Are you putting your boobs out there? 1.00
00:02:34.360 I would say no, because I'm not built the same as you. 0.99
00:02:37.140 Okay.
00:02:37.420 So it's subjective.
00:02:38.720 No, it's based on what we can see.
00:02:40.760 So if you can't see my boobs and we can see yours. 0.98
00:02:43.660 But am I leading with my weight based on what I've put onto it?
00:02:46.320 I wouldn't say you're leading with your weight. 0.91
00:02:47.960 I'd say that like your boobs are very, like they're out. 0.97
00:02:50.520 Yeah, they are. 0.99
00:02:51.460 Lizzo is way more sexualized than you are right now.
00:02:54.120 She absolutely is.
00:02:54.820 We're not saying you're that.
00:02:56.800 But her point is valid though. 0.91
00:02:58.340 If you see a woman walking down the street in that top with your size breasts compared to 1.00
00:03:03.600 someone with a 32 double A, you are not going to look at that woman in the same way. 1.00
00:03:08.820 Same way.
00:03:09.700 I just think the other woman.
00:03:10.900 But I think life isn't fair.
00:03:14.780 I'm tall.
00:03:15.520 So things are short about me.
00:03:17.220 I'll tell you a story.
00:03:19.580 When I was in high school, I got kicked out of homecoming because I had like a day to
00:03:23.040 find my volleyball dress.
00:03:24.380 And I couldn't find one that fit me because I had just waited too long.
00:03:27.820 And so it was way too short and they sent me home.
00:03:30.400 And I could have whined and been like, oh, poor me.
00:03:33.260 No, like I waited until the last minute and that was the, that was the hand dealt.
00:03:36.940 But there's an, there's in regards to like, you know, like what Sophie said, you know,
00:03:42.080 Sophie, right?
00:03:42.620 Yeah.
00:03:42.860 Yeah.
00:03:43.120 So Sophie said earlier, like she just ignores guys that are like five foot five.
00:03:46.960 Like I'm the same way when I see a woman's a cup. 1.00
00:03:48.860 I'm like, I don't see anything here.
00:03:50.040 Like, you know, and they, and they did a, they did a, they did a study too.
00:03:54.420 Like the way women like disproportionately desire a man that is super tall. 0.63
00:04:01.860 Cause like tall men are really, really short, a small percentage of the population. 0.73
00:04:06.200 That's the same way guys want women with big breasts. 1.00
00:04:09.160 Did you know that? 0.89
00:04:09.900 I agree.
00:04:10.880 Like the big breasts, like, cause they, they did a lot of, um, data based upon men's 1.00
00:04:15.300 preferences.
00:04:15.640 And then like the guys who are ordering sex dolls, the average breast size they wanted 0.56
00:04:23.060 was American D cup or larger, you know, I'm a boot man myself too. 0.78
00:04:29.420 I'm old school. 0.99
00:04:30.120 I don't, this whole new ass thing. 0.98
00:04:31.400 I'm not about it. 0.95
00:04:37.340 But you know, it's so interesting.
00:04:39.460 People would call you misogynistic for that preference.
00:04:41.980 I have a question on, on preferences. 0.98
00:04:51.580 So if I said, Hey guys, men don't like old fat, single mothers. 0.99
00:04:58.920 Is that offensive to you? 0.72
00:05:01.920 Well, if they don't, they don't. 0.89
00:05:03.540 There's no old fat single mothers here. 1.00
00:05:05.080 I would want to know why what's, what's because men just don't typically pick women that are 0.99
00:05:12.160 older.
00:05:12.720 Their, their options go down on dating apps.
00:05:15.560 Men don't typically pick women that are fatter. 0.99
00:05:18.200 Their options also go.
00:05:19.400 Wait, wait, wait.
00:05:20.140 Men also don't typically pick women with kids.
00:05:23.840 Their options go down.
00:05:25.220 Okay.
00:05:25.620 So I'm, I'm, I, I have children.
00:05:28.220 Although they're adults, um, I'm an older woman.
00:05:32.580 Yeah, but you're sexy, you're sexy though.
00:05:38.740 They're different.
00:05:39.380 These are a lot of pride to you.
00:05:41.260 You're clearly an exception to the rule.
00:05:43.420 Those rare cases.
00:05:46.640 So who are we speaking about here?
00:05:48.760 Non-sexy women. 0.96
00:05:50.100 I'm just talking about, no, I'm talking about it.
00:05:51.940 We all carry sex and people, sexiness differently.
00:05:54.940 It's just whether you're not, you, do you think you're equally like, do you think if a guy
00:05:59.080 had you at 20 with no kids versus you now with four kids, who are they picking?
00:06:04.520 Four grandkids.
00:06:05.260 I think just three kids.
00:06:06.100 Oh, sorry, sorry, sorry.
00:06:07.100 Three kids, four grandkids, right?
00:06:08.700 Probably now, but not because of the way that I look, but because I'm a very much a healed
00:06:13.060 person of the person I used to be.
00:06:14.640 The way you are.
00:06:15.500 The way I am now and who I am now.
00:06:16.900 I, I, I'm telling you most of men will just, just for sex only. 0.95
00:06:20.380 For sex only. 0.95
00:06:21.340 For sex only, well then obviously more now. 0.99
00:06:22.980 There we go. 0.93
00:06:23.500 I get that.
00:06:24.540 The majority.
00:06:24.920 The majority.
00:06:26.060 Because again, it's eye candy, isn't it?
00:06:28.000 We all want a bit of eye candy.
00:06:29.540 Yeah.
00:06:30.040 You know, when I look at a man.
00:06:30.720 Men think sex first, relationship after. 0.98
00:06:33.160 I got a friend, I got a friend.
00:06:34.580 I got a friend that actually likes older women. 1.00
00:06:37.920 Yeah, older women. 0.99
00:06:38.620 But listen, I'll push, I'll push back on that.
00:06:42.860 So there's two sides to the men who like older women.
00:06:44.840 It's a little dark.
00:06:45.700 So one side is like, they may have been, you know, touched by an older woman when she
00:06:53.600 was younger or, or older women is all he can get.
00:06:59.260 So he fetishizes it.
00:07:00.860 He's like, I like older women. 1.00
00:07:02.740 Because I know a few people on social media, myself, that prefer older women. 0.99
00:07:12.020 Your, your male friends prefer older women. 0.70
00:07:13.960 Some of them.
00:07:14.620 How old are they?
00:07:15.320 Are these guys like good looking chads?
00:07:17.740 Are they like good looking chads?
00:07:18.700 He's good looking.
00:07:19.600 Not gonna lie, I would go there with some of them.
00:07:21.760 Yes.
00:07:21.980 Is his mother present in his life?
00:07:24.360 I don't know that much.
00:07:27.100 Well, my friend.
00:07:28.120 Older women sometimes want younger men as well. 1.00
00:07:30.440 For example, I'm 43, yeah.
00:07:34.780 So.
00:07:35.160 You don't look it.
00:07:35.740 Girl, guys my age.
00:07:37.480 I'm younger.
00:07:37.940 Don't necessarily look that great.
00:07:39.360 So, I would not really pretend, like, I would not really have a choice.
00:07:45.240 My choice would not be older men. 1.00
00:07:47.440 But.
00:07:48.000 If I had the choice, I would go for younger because I personally believe that younger men 1.00
00:07:53.020 just look better than the guys my age.
00:07:54.880 Look better or perform better?
00:07:57.240 I agree.
00:07:57.300 I agree.
00:07:57.360 I agree.
00:07:57.480 But it's.
00:07:57.560 I agree.
00:07:57.860 But it's.
00:07:58.360 I agree.
00:07:58.860 But it's.
00:07:59.360 It's actually, it's actually a, it's actually a normal, like, that happens a lot older women 0.97
00:08:05.120 with younger men.
00:08:05.820 Yeah.
00:08:05.920 But it's because men don't have as much leverage on the sexual marketplace. 1.00
00:08:09.900 So, men, like, their, their peak, if you look at dating apps, where they have the most options,
00:08:14.700 it's, like, roughly around, like, 35 to 37, where women have the most options, roughly 1.00
00:08:20.000 around, like, 22.
00:08:21.520 Yeah.
00:08:21.800 Yeah.
00:08:22.160 Yeah.
00:08:22.400 Yeah.
00:08:22.420 Imagine, for me, I, I'm, the men that I attract now, I mean, there's a variation in ages, but
00:08:28.540 a majority, they're not, they're not even as old as my older son.
00:08:33.400 Younger.
00:08:33.940 Right?
00:08:34.240 No.
00:08:34.460 They are.
00:08:35.180 I know.
00:08:35.400 They are young.
00:08:35.840 I know.
00:08:36.280 Right.
00:08:36.760 That's the point because they don't have as many options.
00:08:39.100 When men are young, they can't, they can't sleep with as many women. 1.00
00:08:41.880 They have less options.
00:08:42.800 So, it's, like, the older women have less options and the younger men have less options. 0.76
00:08:46.680 So, they tend to go together.
00:08:48.300 That's interesting.
00:08:48.900 Yeah.
00:08:49.180 Where it's, like, the, the 35-year-olds, like, typically date the younger, the younger women.
00:08:54.580 And I'm not saying, like, how am I, like, like, I think the average age gap is, like,
00:08:58.140 like, each prefer, like, five to seven years difference.
00:09:00.960 But, but it starts with looks and men find 22-year-olds the most attractive, roughly.
00:09:04.760 I will say this, too, at, at right now, because with the way society is structured,
00:09:08.880 like, men are just being slammed with sexual images nonstop. 0.94
00:09:13.960 Like, the moment we wake up, like, how about some sex? 0.99
00:09:16.700 You know? 0.99
00:09:17.460 Yeah.
00:09:17.700 And so, this has caused male thirst to be at an all-time high.
00:09:22.200 Yeah.
00:09:22.560 And so, dudes are, like, you know, when guys get good with game and, you know, getting 0.53
00:09:28.160 with a bunch of women, that sex, that ejaculation, that hunt is all based upon dopamine.
00:09:33.760 And so, you got these guys that are just searching for that next dopamine hit. 0.95
00:09:38.520 You know what I mean?
00:09:39.460 And then, also, I don't think we've ever had a period in time where older women were doing 1.00
00:09:44.360 their best to stay sexy.
00:09:47.680 You know what I mean?
00:09:48.560 I agree.
00:09:48.840 I think, like, back in the day, they'd be like, you know, yeah.
00:09:51.740 You know, you have, like, the J-Los, and you got all these different women. 1.00
00:09:56.020 I don't keep up with celebrities, but J-Lo's the only one I know.
00:09:58.580 But, like, you know, they're older women in their 40s and 50s, right, that are, like, 1.00
00:10:03.780 trying to be super sexy. 0.97
00:10:06.200 So, when you're sexy, you know, guys are dogs. 1.00
00:10:08.960 Guys are fucking dogs. 1.00
00:10:10.300 And so, they're going to come after you. 1.00
00:10:12.320 Yeah, but I also think it doesn't really count until you're married, really, or in a long-term
00:10:18.340 relationship with kids, because that seems to be the new marriage nowadays.
00:10:21.860 Because I think a lot of times, as women, we'll mistake sexual attention for relationship
00:10:25.500 attention, and they're not the same.
00:10:27.300 That's huge.
00:10:28.180 Yeah, because a lot of women, they'll conflate the fact that a million dudes are in their 1.00
00:10:32.500 DMs, right, and, like, hollering at them. 1.00
00:10:35.460 But I would say 99% of those dudes, they're going to fuck you a couple times and disappear. 1.00
00:10:40.440 Yeah, and then you're going to be like, oh, I thought you liked me. 0.99
00:10:43.540 No, I am guilty about, like, nothing like people do it.