JustPearlyThings - July 12, 2023


Pearl SCHOOLS The EVERYBODY Child Custody


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5 minutes

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221.7119

Word count

1,239

Sentence count

83

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Misogyny

18

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11

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In this episode, we discuss the issue of fathers wanting access to their kids and why women will fight to keep their kids from seeing their kids. We also discuss why it s more common than people think and why men should fight for custody.

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00:00:00.000 Um, but I do think that the second thing going on is we only hear the woman's side. 0.74
00:00:04.240 And I think we have an innate like proclivity to just believe women when they tell us things.
00:00:08.740 And I think a lot of times if you heard the man's point of view, like I know someone that
00:00:12.620 like is literally destroying like a man's reputation on social media and the husband
00:00:18.020 reached like saying he's a deadbeat dad.
00:00:19.700 He left all this stuff.
00:00:20.780 The husband reaches out and says that she left with the kid and she hasn't had access
00:00:25.760 to him or he hasn't had access.
00:00:27.640 Now, who's right?
00:00:28.860 Who's wrong?
00:00:29.420 Right.
00:00:29.560 We, we don't actually know, but, but I will tell you, it is a lot more common than people
00:00:33.860 think that men want to see their children and the women will not give them access out of 0.99
00:00:38.720 spite.
00:00:39.420 I don't personally, and I'm not disagreeing with you.
00:00:41.560 I know they exist.
00:00:42.220 I don't personally know any women like that, not disputing they exist. 0.93
00:00:45.800 However, I think the ratio is not as, as much.
00:00:48.680 I think the ratio is much larger that women are trying to get help from their baby fathers.
00:00:54.320 They're trying to get financial help.
00:00:55.500 They're trying to get emotional help, physical help, looking after the kids.
00:00:59.300 So that she can have a little life of her own social life, you know, before she's an old 0.98
00:01:02.620 woman with cats. 1.00
00:01:03.800 You know what I mean?
00:01:04.100 She might want to date.
00:01:05.020 It's okay for him to get a girlfriend.
00:01:06.800 She can't get her next man. 1.00
00:01:08.000 You know, it's a lot of double standards.
00:01:09.260 Well, I think, I think if that were true, then more women would let men have 50-50 custody. 0.97
00:01:14.260 They let them, the man doesn't do it.
00:01:15.800 No, it's not true.
00:01:17.080 It's, again, men only get access 10% of the time.
00:01:20.340 Do you realize how small of a number that is?
00:01:22.820 10%.
00:01:23.260 Like, we can agree, they're shitty moms, they're shitty dads, but 10%?
00:01:27.600 Who, who, who, um, can I ask you?
00:01:29.600 And a lot of times, a lot of times what the, what the left will do is they'll say, why don't
00:01:32.780 these men fight for custody?
00:01:34.000 So I'm going to go back to that story.
00:01:35.540 One phone call, this woman calls the police, the whole community thinks he's an abuser.
00:01:39.800 Okay.
00:01:40.220 Now he's lost his reputation.
00:01:41.880 He's lost his friends.
00:01:42.640 A lot of these men go so crazy, they lose their jobs.
00:01:45.240 Now, by the time they get to court, the court says, why haven't you been in the kid's life
00:01:48.720 for a year and a half?
00:01:49.520 And the woman, there's no consequence for keeping the man from his kids.
00:01:53.340 There will be a consequence, it's when the kids grow older, it's when the, you're right.
00:01:57.700 It's when the kids grow older, but they also don't talk about parental alienation.
00:02:01.480 And when we, we have examples of celebrities that this happened in front of our eyes, like
00:02:05.840 think of Kanye, Kanye loved his mom, comes to find out that his mom that he loved, right?
00:02:12.100 He was on her side, had never had took him out of, I think it was Atlanta or like some,
00:02:17.420 some, somewhere down South and took him to Chicago without the father's consent.
00:02:21.100 And I've interviewed guy after guy, after guy, where a lot of times the woman will leave 0.99
00:02:25.320 the state or leave the country and he gets a no say.
00:02:28.080 And so a lot of guys don't fight because they see all their friends getting screwed in divorce
00:02:32.820 court because, and I've even talked to divorce lawyers about this.
00:02:36.560 It's like when a man, when a woman has a kid that is not your kid, it's hers. 0.81
00:02:40.200 Because if you go to court and you want to spend, so now he's been paying child support
00:02:44.360 for a year, sometimes a year and a half, he goes to court.
00:02:46.880 And now he has to pay lawyer fees to maybe get the kid for a 10% chance.
00:02:51.740 Are you going to do that?
00:02:52.880 A lot of guys just say, screw it.
00:02:54.600 I have no say.
00:02:56.120 And the rest of my life, I access to my child is dependent on how she feels because the other
00:03:01.720 thing is women can do the same process. 1.00
00:03:04.000 He could win, maybe get 50, 50 custody, which he probably won't.
00:03:08.100 She'll still probably get primary custody because she's been the primary caregiver for the last 1.00
00:03:11.980 year.
00:03:12.280 So she'll still probably get it.
00:03:13.580 They don't ask why and the crazy thing is she can do it again.
00:03:19.780 So like I'll talk to guys, they got close to 50, 50 custody.
00:03:22.940 Like maybe they'll get three days a week or two days a week and they're happy with that.
00:03:26.720 Then he does something she doesn't like.
00:03:29.000 Boom, she calls the cops again. 1.00
00:03:30.360 I even, I have seen text messages of the woman trying to get the husband to hit her saying,
00:03:36.020 I wish he would just hit me.
00:03:38.720 And they literally in court, they didn't care.
00:03:41.380 She still got primary custody. 0.98
00:03:43.000 How crazy is that?
00:03:44.460 I'm telling you, this is so common.
00:03:46.720 Like this is the number one DM.
00:03:48.520 I do not get any more DMs than about this documentary.
00:03:51.680 So the way that men can be proactive in this case is to seek legal representation first, 0.63
00:03:59.020 which is there is a benefit to seeking first.
00:04:01.020 But I'll tell you, I'll tell you the problem is a lot of guys don't see this coming because
00:04:05.280 the women, they can go to their doctor and start this process and they can go to women's 1.00
00:04:09.200 shelters.
00:04:09.460 There's like nine women's shelters for every one men's shelter. 0.89
00:04:12.460 There are not men's shelters like that.
00:04:14.420 So women go to the women's shelter. 1.00
00:04:16.140 And what they do there is they give them a whole story to tell them about the father
00:04:21.100 of their children.
00:04:22.320 And this could, you know, this could just be hearsay.
00:04:24.200 But I've heard this from so many different guys where they go to the women's shelter and
00:04:27.780 they'll say, okay, he's Nigerian.
00:04:29.560 You have to say this about him.
00:04:30.660 He's Eastern European.
00:04:31.440 You have to say this about them.
00:04:33.400 Like a certain story based on their culture.
00:04:36.560 I mean, I've had multiple guys.
00:04:39.120 I've had multiple.
00:04:40.780 I've had multiple.
00:04:41.940 No, I don't even think it's sociopathic.
00:04:43.620 I just think women have so much power in this regard. 1.00
00:04:46.400 And I think like, okay, we take female evil, right? 1.00
00:04:50.700 What's female evil? 1.00
00:04:51.660 It's spite.
00:04:52.300 Like women can be very manipulative and very spiteful. 1.00
00:04:55.180 What's male evil?
00:04:56.180 Aggression, right?
00:04:56.920 Like they kill someone, they get angry.
00:04:59.080 And so it's like, okay, if we legally gave men guns when they were at their angriest, 0.51
00:05:04.540 what would they do?
00:05:05.360 They would kill more.
00:05:06.340 When we legally give women the tools to destroy a man's life, they're going to do it more because 1.00
00:05:12.460 it's legal, because they can't.
00:05:14.620 And the women's shelters make this all possible. 0.99
00:05:17.160 And when you follow the money, they all like the lawyers, the number one, the lawyers have
00:05:21.400 no incentive to even help the men because who's the lawyer's number one client?
00:05:26.140 Mothers.
00:05:27.080 So if you win too many cases, you're not going to be recommended.
00:05:30.020 That's the number one client from the lawyer.
00:05:31.600 Like all of the money, it follows, like it's a whole system.