JustPearlyThings - April 06, 2023


Pearl SHUTSDOWN Disrespectful Bimbo


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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

223.4338

Word count

2,172

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

11

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Toxicity

11

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Hate speech

13

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Summary

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In this episode we discuss cheating in relationships, open relationships, polygyny, cheating in a monogamous relationship and cheating in open relationships. We talk about cheating and why men cheat and why women cheat. We discuss cheating and how to deal with cheating.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 do you know what's crazy is that there are women who want open relationships too so you just have 0.97
00:00:04.700 to find that for me but for me i have an issue with dishonesty when you when a woman communicates 0.99
00:00:10.840 to you and lets you know that she just wants she wants monogamy and you say i want that too but
00:00:16.440 then that's not the reality of what you're living because there are women there's there's somebody 1.00
00:00:20.180 for everybody so if you want to if you want to be with someone and you don't want to be tied
00:00:24.240 tied down i think women are in a in a different age now where a lot of women don't actually 1.00
00:00:28.260 want to be tied down too so you can easily find that but i think that women aren't honest with 1.00
00:00:33.640 ourselves and like kind of lie because i'm sorry a lot of times girls will date a guy and they know
00:00:38.660 he's a cheater yeah they know he gets girls it's like what did you think would happen even even
00:00:43.080 there's a lot of women that entertain men that are in relationships or are married or even you know 1.00
00:00:47.700 there's there was a guy that actually like he's he speaks on polygamy well polygyny so the man
00:00:53.160 being able to have multiple not women and um so he recently sort of messaged me about you know
00:00:59.080 would would i entertain him and i said does your person know you know that's your status and he
00:01:04.760 was like no i said why would i entertain a man who speaks about it but isn't practicing it do you get
00:01:09.220 what i mean like if you come correct that's something i can consider if it's a part of my
00:01:12.820 lifestyle but if you're gonna lie then lie like why would i be entertaining that also that's not
00:01:17.160 polygyny if your partner is not aware people in their relationship they are very aware of their
00:01:22.540 position they're very aware that there's other wives other girlfriends stuff like that exactly 1.00
00:01:25.980 so you're cheating yeah exactly do you think if we accept cheating the first time you're basically
00:01:31.040 saying it's okay no the rest yeah i mean because i feel like if you accepted the first time and you
00:01:38.840 said okay you can cheat and i will stay then why would he not do it again but i feel like a man will
00:01:44.080 cheat regardless whether you stay or you don't because you could be then technically single and
00:01:48.240 you will go back and forth with him for months or years no no i think that i don't think staying
00:01:55.200 the first time will enable like will mean he can carry on doing or he's gonna get away with that i
00:02:01.140 think that people are first of all people are humans i think that when we get in relationships we
00:02:04.820 have this idea of like ownership with people and i think that is i think that's a that's not a good
00:02:10.060 thing so people are humans humans make mistakes and i think sometimes as well unfortunately some
00:02:15.620 people don't know what they have until you're at the point of kind of losing it and there are some
00:02:20.140 men who they cheat one time and they realize that actually that why did i do that kind of like that
00:02:25.860 doesn't i could lose they realize what they have and what they could lose and so it kind of it
00:02:32.140 changed that they don't cheat again i know of men like that but at the same time give them two years
00:02:36.660 you'll do the same thing again i don't i don't believe that because i know more life men who
00:02:40.740 have cheated once i don't know they haven't they get better at 50 50 years if you want to be like
00:02:46.360 married long term 50 years is a long time people are their habits no but you know what it is i feel
00:02:51.340 like men cheat more when you tell them not to or when you put pressure for them to have to be
00:02:55.840 monogamous i feel like if you're if you're not trying to buy pressure can i just say that when
00:03:02.100 the women talk about alpha about oh those are not the men that we like well the two men that cheated
00:03:07.180 on me i wouldn't call them i made them the alpha period so they weren't somebody that there's
00:03:13.000 ordinary people one was really obese it wasn't like anybody that anybody else would want
00:03:17.600 so i made them the alpha so as far as i'm concerned if a man's gonna cheat they're gonna cheat
00:03:24.120 that is a word because because everybody's on about this alpha you can get a man that's like
00:03:29.720 an ordinary everyday man like what they were and according to how you are as a woman you make them 1.00
00:03:34.800 your alpha so nobody was looking at them as an alpha do you know it's some guys yeah and that that
00:03:40.100 is such a word because some guys are not what society what a lot of women see as desirable but i think
00:03:46.100 i think there's something in many that when a woman likes them they just think oh i feel like 0.96
00:03:52.000 it makes them feel like i'm the shit now yeah there's an ego boost and so then they start walking 0.65
00:03:56.980 in that spirit and then they think i can do anything i want to do no but wait what you're basically saying 0.97
00:04:02.380 is that you understand why men behave the way they behave but you still get angry at the way they
00:04:06.760 behave because we get angry at the dishonesty no because think about this way and this is where
00:04:12.460 society is geared towards women like men have to sacrifice what they have to do naturally to 0.97
00:04:16.800 conform to what a woman wants a man wants to spread his seed that's what he's driven to do so 0.85
00:04:21.960 that's what he's driven to do so i always say that men should have practice discipline i've done so
00:04:26.440 myself because i know it's important to successful monogamous relationships however because women are 1.00
00:04:32.060 given sex like you're born of value in terms of the sexual marketplace a man has to earn his right 0.93
00:04:36.940 to have sex so when he sees an opportunity he's going to take it more time as if he lacks discipline
00:04:42.660 and can i just say that i believe that most of the time it's nobody wants these men until he's got a
00:04:51.020 woman yeah yeah and it's not like the women don't know oh he's got he's got he's got a woman if he
00:04:59.400 didn't have a woman i don't think that they would want that man but it's just that they always want a 1.00
00:05:04.200 man that somebody else has got yeah that just makes it easy for them to cheat yeah it's pre-selection
00:05:10.860 like so historically like we wanted men that got other women because it was a sign that he could
00:05:15.180 take care of us too if he could take care of them and that's the thing coming back to eddie's point i
00:05:18.820 think what society doesn't realize is that men don't have to cheat if you want multiple partners
00:05:24.100 that you're going to be responsible for which i think is possible you need to be honest and do it
00:05:29.480 but it's this whole okay i can jump from this girl to this yeah but i don't i don't think i don't
00:05:34.360 think most men want two wives it's like two headaches if you've seen the way women behave 1.00
00:05:40.840 there's nothing worse than having two of you in one place this is this is the problem with men 1.00
00:05:45.480 you don't want it because you can't handle it but then you don't want to be monogamous if you can't
00:05:50.020 be monogamous be single don't be with one i mean but why would they why would they why would
00:05:55.900 they have to like like i mean i'm sorry if you're in the top 10 20 percent of guys they don't have
00:06:00.980 to just be single they can have a girlfriend and they can no but let me let you guys stop
00:06:05.700 when they can get a girlfriend cheat on her and we just talk to the panel y'all stay
00:06:10.140 no no but this is y'all stay this is the problem it's not that it's not that you need to have a
00:06:16.660 girlfriend and cheat on her have a girlfriend and tell her i'm not monogamous so if you want to be
00:06:21.600 with me and i give you these perks yeah but why would he do that when he can just cheat on you
00:06:25.880 and y'all stay but this isn't but then when you get the toxic behavior from her don't mole
00:06:29.780 when she then vandalizes your whole property okay okay why why do we why do we put our bad decisions
00:06:34.600 onto men okay isn't that like you're just toxic no it's because i like i've i've been cheated on 0.92
00:06:39.720 before it wasn't it wasn't fun but i never did anything toxic or crazy or any any of the shit that i 0.98
00:06:45.500 hear girls say that that's a you that's a you problem no man no man can make you do crazy 0.99
00:06:49.760 you're either crazy or you're not no do you know what it is i agree for me personally i don't call 1.00
00:06:53.620 it crazy things i just shit i call it disrespect and reacting to disrespect okay for example i feel 1.00
00:06:59.540 like when a woman doesn't react and a man cheats and he gets away with it he doesn't learn that this 0.98
00:07:04.440 has hurt or impacted someone when a woman then reacts he has to either have discussions with her
00:07:09.160 or he needs to realize right this was a repression of it okay but but in these situations everyone
00:07:14.380 reacted and on the couch i didn't react i didn't i'm saying even in your you reacted you you were
00:07:22.240 going through his phone you were telling him like whatever and and like looking at his messages or i
00:07:26.900 can't remember exactly how you said you found out so you did react he didn't learn his lesson because
00:07:31.620 he had like a million side pieces no no no but he never confirmed that he cheated or anything
00:07:38.200 yeah but you know but that's what i'm saying and my reactions were they yeah so when i first left
00:07:45.020 when i left when i first got the okay this must be confirmation because obviously all the girls
00:07:50.080 yeah i reacted to that yeah and he was like i can't tolerate this cool and then i left him but then
00:07:56.000 he did write me letters saying he wants me back i never went back sorry i just want to say it i don't
00:08:01.200 think i don't think you necessarily need to react because i know you made a point about reacting
00:08:05.620 for him to understand that this is wrong because i don't react like the way you react to things that's
00:08:11.020 this is how i react to things if you do something that's wild that's crazy disrespectful to me
00:08:14.980 i'm sorry cool that's what you've done and i keep you moving so with me in my situation that i did i
00:08:20.600 didn't react i let you know that okay this is what you did this is not on it's not something i'm going
00:08:24.960 to stand for and i kept moving and years later he's still wanting to have me back yeah but so i don't
00:08:30.820 think you need to necessarily react to get to let a guy understand what he's doing wrong yeah no and
00:08:36.640 i also i agree what you said earlier where you said how because i think i hear a lot of women 1.00
00:08:40.780 sometimes say stuff like oh he made me crazy no sis that was in you you're either you're either you're
00:08:47.620 either crazy or you're not like no so my point is i would never refer to it as a woman reacting to
00:08:55.500 it however she reacts for me i wouldn't say it's crazy because i feel like society say oh it's crazy
00:08:59.920 that's her reaction it's crazy no but the reason i say it no but what exactly i'm saying it's her
00:09:06.860 expressing her emotions and she's enraged and you're not a child you're not okay you're not you
00:09:11.480 guys wait you're not you're not a child you're a grown adult i'm sorry stop stop interrupting me 0.98
00:09:16.300 you're not a child you're a grown adult if you make if you do something crazy you're crazy you can't
00:09:21.660 blame it on other people like nobody can make you do anything like that that's that's like what a
00:09:26.180 child would say i think i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this
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