JustPearlyThings - Pearl Tried Explaining This To The Panel

00:00:00.000 the reason i'm a bit more sensitive towards women is because i obviously you guys are saying your

00:00:04.480 reality is different but my reality it's always been you've got to be better for your man so

00:00:10.080 my world has always been about the men and i'm and i'm like so what is it doing for me so yeah

00:00:15.840 i've got to learn to cook clean do all this stuff take care of my man but how is he helping me

00:00:20.560 emotionally how is he helping me feel good but men that's not their job to help you emotionally

00:00:25.680 that's like where i think that's no okay okay okay yeah but they don't want to they don't they

00:00:31.440 don't want to hear so this is this isn't all this for what what am i like okay you can't i'm not

00:00:35.760 saying they should never like talk to you or what like ignore you all the time but i'm just saying

00:00:39.520 like like typically historically you wouldn't even see your husband that much that's not their job

00:00:45.040 you've had to your friends like your relationships with men and this is something i learned like one

00:00:49.760 time okay i had an ex-boyfriend and i was talking and i was like this person and he was just like

00:00:55.520 shh i don't care oh i don't care and at first i was like what do you mean you don't care like i

00:01:03.360 was like that was so rude but i like sat and thought about it and i'm like you know what i'm

00:01:07.280 like dumping my problems onto him and that's not his job he's not my therapist like we don't want

00:01:12.240 a guy that's dumping all his problems onto us and we're okay we're okay in a companion

00:01:18.960 right but i'm saying i'm saying so again again like they remember this is things that we look for

00:01:23.840 from men but men don't look for from us and so and that's that's what i'm doing all this for you

00:01:29.520 what are you doing for me that's exactly what i'm saying i don't want i don't want to be cooking for

00:01:34.240 my man i don't want to i'll tell you i'll tell you so that's what they look so but i'm saying like

00:01:38.480 you're always going to get protection and that's the one thing like so okay okay okay okay okay but if

00:01:44.480 the world but if the world if someone if someone okay i'll tell you living living here living here

00:01:52.320 i i wish i had a boyfriend because it it scares me a lot of times like living like just you know like

00:02:00.000 people know where the studio is sometimes right and there are crazy people and i'm like it would be so

00:02:04.720 nice if i had a guy here just like not even just like if he was staying here and it would be like

00:02:11.040 like if something happened i know he would like there's some level of comfort you have with just

00:02:16.320 having a man next you and knowing that if goes south you don't have to call the police that he's

00:02:20.640 going to protect you like you know they say women prefer fat guys with muscles over skinny men 0.99

00:02:27.120 yeah that makes sense because it's like le i everyone's i agree that's i would take that too

00:02:32.640 not sure and do you know why why for example for me i love to cook for people and one of the things

00:02:40.240 that i love the most as well is to cook for my man and i'll tell you why because at the end of the

00:02:46.000 day whether or not i'm a bad girl and i'm you know successful and i can do my own shin i don't need

00:02:52.480 the man it feels nice to me to show somebody you know love through food love through things that you

00:02:58.160 are actually much better at doing obviously i would don't mind if a man can cook for me great if he can

00:03:03.040 go for himself great but i like to cook why because then when i go out he'll pay for me maybe

00:03:10.480 or he'll fulfill a certain role of chivalry that today in today's age is not needed but because

00:03:16.000 i fulfilled my role of chivalry as a woman he'll give me that because we can't say oh he needs to

00:03:21.680 pay a guy that don't pay on the first date a guy don't don't do this all of these things okay there's

00:03:27.280 there's a transaction with that which means you also cater to if a woman if a woman don't cook on the 1.00

00:03:32.240 second date then she then she ain't wifey we've never heard that that's what i'm saying it's like the the

00:03:37.360 double but i think it depends on what you want in a man like you saying you want a man that will um

00:03:43.360 help you financially but i don't to me that's not a priority because what i want is that's not a

00:03:48.960 father someone that would be a good father to my kids he's gonna be there i need time do you i need

00:03:54.160 you to okay okay question would you prefer if if all would you okay prefer let's talk about prefer

00:04:00.960 if you could would you want a guy that made more money than you if all things all okay okay okay

00:04:05.680 okay okay okay let's let's wait wait wait okay if you could would you prefer a man that's stronger

00:04:12.080 than you okay okay if you could would you prefer a man that's smarter than you maybe can fix things

00:04:19.520 around the house yes no okay so that's what i'm saying there are other things that men bring

00:04:26.240 that you get just from having a man around outside of money like i love that i can call my like we all

00:04:32.240 know as women and maybe maybe you guys are better than me my my air pressure light is always on my oil 1.00

00:04:38.240 has never changed my my smoke alarm battery will always be beeping and am i it's like when the men

00:04:45.520 come around and they're like how are you living like this like my dad will like run around you're

00:04:50.160 smiling i bet you can think of a time where someone's done this right and they run around and

00:04:55.200 they'll they'll just fix everything and just be like why are you doing this and it's it's just something

00:05:00.080 like comforting like i i feel better like if i'm stressed or whatever i just love talking to my

00:05:06.800 dad and my brothers like there's just something about talking to like masculine men where it's

00:05:11.120 like you just feel better i mean it's great for a man to be masculine of course but what i'm saying

00:05:16.000 is i value more in a man i want a partner i like i don't care about all this fixing light bulb we can

00:05:22.560 get someone to do that i need someone that cares about me after i've had a long day off i would be

00:05:27.520 really curious i want to talk to you and be like but when men such a long day i want you to just listen to

00:05:33.360 me but when men when women talk to men they're like okay you're telling me all this stuff what's 0.95

00:05:39.280 the solution they want to know how are you going to fix whatever it is you're telling me or is the

00:05:44.240 solution at least you've been a companion no no they're they want you they they really don't care

00:05:51.200 about the venting is mental clutter they're like okay you've told me all this stuff but you're not

00:05:55.520 going to fix it don't come back to me and say the same stuff that you told me the day before

00:06:00.400 fix it and move on that's that's how men's brain works we come up with a solution together that's 0.98

00:06:05.600 what i mean that's how it's worked and maybe because okay okay so question question that's

00:06:13.120 why i know that men can do your last relationship how long was it uh i'll be like oh i don't like

00:06:19.120 to get personal uh like nearly uh okay okay okay i was just gonna say longer than six months yeah yeah

00:06:25.840 okay okay did you end it or did he i ended it okay so so this is just from the men's point of

00:06:32.000 view okay women will say i want an emotionally available man and this isn't just you remember

00:06:36.720 i see you in different bodies every day and and it's like so then like what they'll do is they'll

00:06:42.240 realize that the same men they said were emotionally available i dated him we also ended it with yes and

00:06:48.320 and so and i've asked this question a lot it's very rare it was the other way around typically when i ask

00:06:53.760 this like oh he was emotionally available i got the things i wanted it's like well why did it end

00:06:58.400 usually she ended it but i'm not gonna because i i respect you don't you don't have you don't have

00:07:03.200 to say why i don't have to say why i won't go into it i respect all my exes i think they were amazing

00:07:08.560 i've dated very good men i respect them they were kings right but the reason i wouldn't even say like

00:07:14.880 the full reason but in terms of just the reason a lot of women leave a relationship is because they 1.00

00:07:22.240 didn't have other things that keep them excited so things like being ambitious for example or a man

00:07:30.160 that is confident in himself a man that um wants more for himself in life those are the stuff that

00:07:36.480 sometimes if it's missing or maybe a man that doesn't take care of himself like yeah you could be

00:07:41.120 emotionally available to me i love that and that's the reason i stayed with you but i need you to also

00:07:46.720 work on yourself did you not you know be a better man and if you don't want that for yourself it's a

00:07:52.800 bit harder did you not did you not ask them these questions or know this stuff before you got into

00:07:58.160 a relationship i'm not gonna talk about my relationship no no i just just like no no no no

00:08:03.520 i just wanted like this is simple yes and i don't want to like go deep into it were you like did you

00:08:09.120 have those i think you never really know someone until you're in a relationship i think it takes a

00:08:16.400 lot of time to know the type of person it is because when you get into a relationship you see

00:08:20.800 the good stuff because things i've always prioritized is i want a great family like i do not want to be a

00:08:26.240 single mother and so i will always pick them i don't care about how much money you are i don't care 0.95

00:08:30.960 about protector i need a man that's going to be a good father to my children and usually those are men that

00:08:36.640 are good communicators so so this is this is i'm just going to tell you what remember what you said

00:08:41.760 this is contradicting what you said because if you don't care about money then you don't care if

00:08:45.680 he's ambitious and that's if you don't remember earlier you were talking about how you didn't care

00:08:50.800 so much about money you care more about emotionally i don't care about him paying for me because i'm

00:08:56.400 ambitious but i'm saying then so so if you're ambitious and if you're ambitious then okay okay okay

00:09:03.200 but i know so that translates into money in the future right so okay okay okay so but this is why

00:09:09.520 right right okay but this is why men don't really trust what women say because you're saying oh i

00:09:14.400 don't care about the money but when you when you're presented with a man he's like i'm good with the

00:09:18.880 money i have i'm not that ambitious you're like no i can't stay for this if it came across that i said

00:09:24.400 i don't care about a man that likes has money i i care about a man that's ambitious right you don't have

00:09:30.160 to have money right now but you need to be hard working and wanting money when i say i don't care

00:09:34.800 about money it means i'm not gonna go for a man purely because of money because i'm also hard

00:09:41.680 working i'm ambitious so i'm not gonna put that on you to pay for my lifestyle because i want to

00:09:46.560 prioritize other characteristics in a man but to say that i don't care about money yes i do i do because

00:09:52.400 i i love money myself i gotta make money so my man's gonna make money but i'm just saying this is

00:09:56.800 why men like don't believe what women say because we constantly contradict ourselves and it's like

00:10:02.400 the other question i'm just telling you how the men would hear what you said if you said oh they're 0.96

00:10:05.920 great guys um but they were bums they would either hear that you you date losers or they would hear 0.84

00:10:12.800 that you're not loyal because you leave good men this is just i'm telling you how they would take it as 0.92

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JustPearlyThings - April 23, 2023

Pearl Tried Explaining This To The Panel

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