Pearl Tried Explaining This To The Panel
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss what it means to be a woman in the modern dating world, how to cook for your man and how to be the best woman you can be to your man. We also talk about the difference between a woman and a man in the dating world and why women should cook for their men.
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the reason i'm a bit more sensitive towards women is because i obviously you guys are saying your
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reality is different but my reality it's always been you've got to be better for your man so
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my world has always been about the men and i'm and i'm like so what is it doing for me so yeah
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i've got to learn to cook clean do all this stuff take care of my man but how is he helping me
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emotionally how is he helping me feel good but men that's not their job to help you emotionally
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that's like where i think that's no okay okay okay yeah but they don't want to they don't they
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don't want to hear so this is this isn't all this for what what am i like okay you can't i'm not
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saying they should never like talk to you or what like ignore you all the time but i'm just saying
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like like typically historically you wouldn't even see your husband that much that's not their job
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you've had to your friends like your relationships with men and this is something i learned like one
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time okay i had an ex-boyfriend and i was talking and i was like this person and he was just like
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shh i don't care oh i don't care and at first i was like what do you mean you don't care like i
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was like that was so rude but i like sat and thought about it and i'm like you know what i'm
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like dumping my problems onto him and that's not his job he's not my therapist like we don't want
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a guy that's dumping all his problems onto us and we're okay we're okay in a companion
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right but i'm saying i'm saying so again again like they remember this is things that we look for
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from men but men don't look for from us and so and that's that's what i'm doing all this for you
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what are you doing for me that's exactly what i'm saying i don't want i don't want to be cooking for
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my man i don't want to i'll tell you i'll tell you so that's what they look so but i'm saying like
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you're always going to get protection and that's the one thing like so okay okay okay okay okay but if
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the world but if the world if someone if someone okay i'll tell you living living here living here
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i i wish i had a boyfriend because it it scares me a lot of times like living like just you know like
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people know where the studio is sometimes right and there are crazy people and i'm like it would be so
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nice if i had a guy here just like not even just like if he was staying here and it would be like
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like if something happened i know he would like there's some level of comfort you have with just
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having a man next you and knowing that if goes south you don't have to call the police that he's
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going to protect you like you know they say women prefer fat guys with muscles over skinny men
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yeah that makes sense because it's like le i everyone's i agree that's i would take that too
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not sure and do you know why why for example for me i love to cook for people and one of the things
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that i love the most as well is to cook for my man and i'll tell you why because at the end of the
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day whether or not i'm a bad girl and i'm you know successful and i can do my own shin i don't need
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the man it feels nice to me to show somebody you know love through food love through things that you
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are actually much better at doing obviously i would don't mind if a man can cook for me great if he can
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go for himself great but i like to cook why because then when i go out he'll pay for me maybe
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or he'll fulfill a certain role of chivalry that today in today's age is not needed but because
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i fulfilled my role of chivalry as a woman he'll give me that because we can't say oh he needs to
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pay a guy that don't pay on the first date a guy don't don't do this all of these things okay there's
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there's a transaction with that which means you also cater to if a woman if a woman don't cook on the
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second date then she then she ain't wifey we've never heard that that's what i'm saying it's like the the
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double but i think it depends on what you want in a man like you saying you want a man that will um
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help you financially but i don't to me that's not a priority because what i want is that's not a
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father someone that would be a good father to my kids he's gonna be there i need time do you i need
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you to okay okay question would you prefer if if all would you okay prefer let's talk about prefer
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if you could would you want a guy that made more money than you if all things all okay okay okay
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okay okay okay let's let's wait wait wait okay if you could would you prefer a man that's stronger
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than you okay okay if you could would you prefer a man that's smarter than you maybe can fix things
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around the house yes no okay so that's what i'm saying there are other things that men bring
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that you get just from having a man around outside of money like i love that i can call my like we all
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know as women and maybe maybe you guys are better than me my my air pressure light is always on my oil
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has never changed my my smoke alarm battery will always be beeping and am i it's like when the men
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come around and they're like how are you living like this like my dad will like run around you're
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smiling i bet you can think of a time where someone's done this right and they run around and
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they'll they'll just fix everything and just be like why are you doing this and it's it's just something
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like comforting like i i feel better like if i'm stressed or whatever i just love talking to my
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dad and my brothers like there's just something about talking to like masculine men where it's
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like you just feel better i mean it's great for a man to be masculine of course but what i'm saying
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is i value more in a man i want a partner i like i don't care about all this fixing light bulb we can
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get someone to do that i need someone that cares about me after i've had a long day off i would be
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really curious i want to talk to you and be like but when men such a long day i want you to just listen to
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me but when men when women talk to men they're like okay you're telling me all this stuff what's
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the solution they want to know how are you going to fix whatever it is you're telling me or is the
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solution at least you've been a companion no no they're they want you they they really don't care
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about the venting is mental clutter they're like okay you've told me all this stuff but you're not
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going to fix it don't come back to me and say the same stuff that you told me the day before
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fix it and move on that's that's how men's brain works we come up with a solution together that's
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what i mean that's how it's worked and maybe because okay okay so question question that's
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why i know that men can do your last relationship how long was it uh i'll be like oh i don't like
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to get personal uh like nearly uh okay okay okay i was just gonna say longer than six months yeah yeah
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okay okay did you end it or did he i ended it okay so so this is just from the men's point of
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view okay women will say i want an emotionally available man and this isn't just you remember
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i see you in different bodies every day and and it's like so then like what they'll do is they'll
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realize that the same men they said were emotionally available i dated him we also ended it with yes and
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and so and i've asked this question a lot it's very rare it was the other way around typically when i ask
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this like oh he was emotionally available i got the things i wanted it's like well why did it end
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usually she ended it but i'm not gonna because i i respect you don't you don't have you don't have
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to say why i don't have to say why i won't go into it i respect all my exes i think they were amazing
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i've dated very good men i respect them they were kings right but the reason i wouldn't even say like
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the full reason but in terms of just the reason a lot of women leave a relationship is because they
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didn't have other things that keep them excited so things like being ambitious for example or a man
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that is confident in himself a man that um wants more for himself in life those are the stuff that
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sometimes if it's missing or maybe a man that doesn't take care of himself like yeah you could be
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emotionally available to me i love that and that's the reason i stayed with you but i need you to also
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work on yourself did you not you know be a better man and if you don't want that for yourself it's a
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bit harder did you not did you not ask them these questions or know this stuff before you got into
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a relationship i'm not gonna talk about my relationship no no i just just like no no no no
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i just wanted like this is simple yes and i don't want to like go deep into it were you like did you
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have those i think you never really know someone until you're in a relationship i think it takes a
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lot of time to know the type of person it is because when you get into a relationship you see
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the good stuff because things i've always prioritized is i want a great family like i do not want to be a
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single mother and so i will always pick them i don't care about how much money you are i don't care
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about protector i need a man that's going to be a good father to my children and usually those are men that
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are good communicators so so this is this is i'm just going to tell you what remember what you said
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this is contradicting what you said because if you don't care about money then you don't care if
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he's ambitious and that's if you don't remember earlier you were talking about how you didn't care
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so much about money you care more about emotionally i don't care about him paying for me because i'm
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ambitious but i'm saying then so so if you're ambitious and if you're ambitious then okay okay okay
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but i know so that translates into money in the future right so okay okay okay so but this is why
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right right okay but this is why men don't really trust what women say because you're saying oh i
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don't care about the money but when you when you're presented with a man he's like i'm good with the
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money i have i'm not that ambitious you're like no i can't stay for this if it came across that i said
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i don't care about a man that likes has money i i care about a man that's ambitious right you don't have
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to have money right now but you need to be hard working and wanting money when i say i don't care
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about money it means i'm not gonna go for a man purely because of money because i'm also hard
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working i'm ambitious so i'm not gonna put that on you to pay for my lifestyle because i want to
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prioritize other characteristics in a man but to say that i don't care about money yes i do i do because
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i i love money myself i gotta make money so my man's gonna make money but i'm just saying this is
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why men like don't believe what women say because we constantly contradict ourselves and it's like
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the other question i'm just telling you how the men would hear what you said if you said oh they're
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great guys um but they were bums they would either hear that you you date losers or they would hear
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that you're not loyal because you leave good men this is just i'm telling you how they would take it as
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