JustPearlyThings - Pearl Tries To Educate Man Hating Feminist

00:00:00.000 so how how did how was their reaction like meeting you at first it was good but i know when it's

00:00:06.740 that the shift happened when she felt pregnant do you not think there's just emotions female 0.70

00:00:12.200 emotions when they're pregnant i i was i was too young i didn't understand nobody explained to me

00:00:16.580 i was not how was i supposed to know that oh okay she's acting like this because she's pregnant 1.00

00:00:21.220 and she also got a certain issue if someone spoke to me and said okay she's acting like this you 0.97

00:00:25.900 know being blamed for my brother my stepbrothers you know how losing my stepbrother is it's a bit

00:00:33.660 i just think like it's just hard for me to believe on the outside looking in that your mom had a

00:00:38.040 problem with you or your step sorry sorry stepmom stepmom had a problem with you your dad had a

00:00:42.620 problem with you and like my dad never had an issue with me until the end yeah i know but if he's

00:00:47.260 kicking you out it just seems like you probably had a part to play like it doesn't seem like you

00:00:51.520 should demonize all zimbabwe man yeah how is that a cultural problem that is a cultural problem 0.94

00:00:56.960 because i know i know a little bit like a little stepmoms and stepfem stepdad's families that get

00:01:03.980 along my my friend is as a stepmom and they pretty much get along so i don't know how it's like a zim 0.97

00:01:09.660 issue because my problem now is like you going with the narrative like oh zim men are like this

00:01:14.860 when we are not all like this and the culture is not like this the culture is built on family

00:01:18.740 but what happens in law is when people go into like the west coming from zimbabwe it's built on

00:01:23.400 secrets no there's no family it's all secretive everyone keeps everything hidden no no you all

00:01:28.580 try to pretend do you think children are entitled for a parent is able to do you think a parent

00:01:34.640 should be able to explain themselves to a child i think so yes no that's a must you have to explain

00:01:40.280 yourself do not why okay why no i think that's a must because like with my children personally right

00:01:48.400 if there's a situation i will explain to my children like this is a situation like dude

00:01:55.080 between this person that person depends on the situation of course because they're still very

00:02:00.140 young but the children need to be aware otherwise it's going to be like how it was with her where

00:02:04.980 no one told her anything you just kept in a room i think you become westernized and just become

00:02:13.120 entitled to feel like you that they deserve you deserve an explanation because if a parent is

00:02:17.860 providing that is their core value like i'm here to provide for you anything this is the reason why

00:02:23.380 zimbabwean culture is i'm completely you have to be able to speak to your child you can't silence

00:02:29.440 your children you guys do this all the time oh mom i'm going through this shush oh i'm dating this

00:02:35.480 boy you can't take boys yeah but that's because we live in the west with a bunch of whiners where 0.86

00:02:40.880 it's like this problem that problem that they used to live through plagues like they used to live

00:02:46.000 through real problem now we have all this trauma this mental instability i'm not talking about you 0.55

00:02:51.220 personally but it's like it's like in and you don't deserve an explanation from your parents for

00:02:56.200 every little thing i do deserve i do deserve anything i do the world doesn't owe you shit 0.98

00:03:01.040 the world owes me every single thing yes it does yes it does like the world the world owes you nothing

00:03:08.960 but if you don't explain to your children certain situations and they can't feel comfortable coming

00:03:14.140 to ask you things a lot of times you're better for not knowing certain situations i don't want to

00:03:18.840 know what my parents are fighting about i don't want to know what my parents mental health issues are

00:03:23.640 like a lot of times you're better for not knowing things to be honest right now i think you guys are

00:03:29.580 so privileged your parents did you a favor by bringing you into this country right yeah my mom

00:03:34.760 did thank you mom yeah but you think your dad did nothing to play in that role well he had to

00:03:38.980 he had to do it and he owed my mom that at least how did he that's the least he owed my mom how did he

00:03:45.520 owe your mom that he didn't i'm not gonna explain my dad's situation because you guys are trying to

00:03:49.020 make me expose my father i'm not gonna do that okay do you understand me but he owed my mom

00:03:53.520 that but he owned my mom he owed my mom you're coming and saying oh zimbabwean culture is trash

00:03:58.580 when your parent worked hard in a country that right now is suffering from a law and bro no they

00:04:04.740 don't really owe you that when he had me i didn't choose for him to have me now so he has a

00:04:08.960 responsibility he's obligated to look after me i'm your child yeah he has a responsibility to look

00:04:12.840 after you but you don't have a responsibility to go and ask for questions from him i can ask my father

00:04:16.660 whatever i want and he should answer me just like my sons can ask me questions and i'll answer them

00:04:21.120 no that's a western mentality no it's not a western mentality that's the reason why the

00:04:24.980 zim culture don't work you like i was just i'll just say how does how does zim culture not work

00:04:29.660 it doesn't work like i'll say okay what what outcome what outcome so so i'm guessing zim is more

00:04:34.220 traditional right very okay okay so so it's like the woman submits to the her husband right 0.95

00:04:40.180 whether he's cheating on you or not whether he's abusing or not you stay women women are happier in 0.78

00:04:45.340 traditional outcomes every stat will tell you this women have more stds they're more likely to 1.00

00:04:50.520 be depressed they're more likely to be on antidepressants they're more likely to have

00:04:53.460 had an abortion in a more 50 50 modern society in traditional countries operate in traditional

00:05:00.080 outcomes the women are happier they're not happy they're miserable they've been telling no they're 0.84

00:05:04.080 absolutely they're faking it okay you don't think if it's from the zim side of women in modern culture 1.00

00:05:12.200 women are in antidepressants women are depressed more than ever in human history but if it's

00:05:18.200 traditional right no matter whatever culture it is you you can't get out even if you want to get 0.98

00:05:24.360 out you can't get out because you're gonna think oh what about my family what would the culture say

00:05:29.200 yeah and that's and that's better because that was when mothers put their kids before them it 1.00

00:05:33.840 wasn't a me me me culture it's not about my happiness about your kids your kids more likely

00:05:38.000 to go to prison they're more likely to be in a mental institution they're more likely to drop

00:05:41.520 out of school you're putting your kid at every statistical disadvantage you can possibly put them

00:05:46.140 at by leaving every statistical disadvantage but modern women don't care because they care about 1.00

00:05:53.320 their feelings and not the kids but sometimes it's better to leave how who is it better for you or the

00:05:59.080 kids so it's better it might be better for you but that's if you're in a toxic environment if you're

00:06:04.440 in a toxic relationship wrong if in a toxic relationship it's better to leave for both for

00:06:09.480 your children's sake and for your but why are you arguing why is the other person arguing with you

00:06:15.160 women it's it's your argument it's not always us it's not always us let's be realistic like you

00:06:20.920 don't have to argue back that's a choice you don't have to argue back is abusing you you have to sit

00:06:26.920 there and take it define no define abuse abuse can be mentally physically define you to define it

00:06:33.320 because a lot of times women women we throw around these buzzwords that don't mean anything anymore 1.00

00:06:37.560 guy is physically assaulting you right it's best to say in that marriage because it's no no physical

00:06:44.920 assault is a very minority of cases it's a minority so that's the exception it's not the rule

00:06:50.520 please give me another example outside of assault there's so many okay yeah what is what is emotional

00:06:58.360 abuse what is it emotional abuse is where they're oh god yeah like they're trying to control you

00:07:07.720 okay you can't do this you can't do that you can't wear this you can't wear that that's that's my problem

00:07:12.600 right there you know when you come from zim culture they give you advice and you guys think advice is 1.00

00:07:18.280 control they give you guys i'm saying they come to give you advice they've been through situations

00:07:32.200 right you have pretty much made into the uk they they left a country where the amount of people that

00:07:37.160 are living in the country are like a small minority right and it's a blessing to actually be able to

00:07:42.120 leave that country because of the situation that's going on in that country so they have all this life

00:07:46.840 advice these are people that used to learn in difficult circumstances right that some of them

00:07:51.160 actually in zim culture went to war as well so they have all their life experience they've had all these

00:07:56.360 things that guidance pretty much they want to give for you for your life but you guys feel like it's

00:08:00.520 controlled because you want to be so liberal you don't want to listen to your parents and that's where

00:08:04.520 i have a disagreement with you guys because you want western culture because it gives you that

00:08:08.520 liberalism that i can just do whatever i want by doing whatever you want you have no responsibility and you have

00:08:13.400 no one to account you like right now you don't want to be accountable to anybody so your parents

00:08:18.440 can tell you to do something you feel like they're controlling you but they can't we're grown you

00:08:24.360 you were 17 when you left the house you can advise me when i left when i got for an hour you have to be

00:08:28.920 clear with that you have to be realistic with that you can't just be like when you left if i picked

00:08:33.400 my i would have had all my stuff if i wanted to leave yeah where would i be going as well i was the

00:08:38.440 one sleeper on the bus they were but you challenged the authority in the house if you tried but when

00:08:42.360 he marched to me kicking me out and i said what i said i said what i said after when he was throwing

00:08:47.000 my seat out of the house already you had to say something to be disrespectful to be kicked out

00:08:50.760 i got kicked off because i didn't move at the house at a certain time because of her

00:08:55.000 and she's got an issue with me hoovering at a certain time because i got school anyway

00:08:58.440 she completed that whole situation for no reason she got mad as usual so you got kicked out

00:09:03.400 to my dad i don't know what she said basically because i didn't do a chore at a certain time

00:09:08.120 she said okay in the mornings you have to do the chore around eight o'clock if you're in someone's

00:09:12.360 house you have to listen to their rules but if the person's changing the times just because they want

00:09:17.400 to get you in trouble you guys would never understand it because you're not in the situation

00:09:21.560 anyway so i don't i don't expect you to understand it and it's fine

JustPearlyThings - June 12, 2023

Pearl Tries To Educate Man Hating Feminist

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