JustPearlyThings - August 25, 2023


Post Wall Feminist Learns This Hard Cold Truth


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21 minutes

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4,010

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397

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Misogyny

46

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Toxicity

15

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In this episode, we discuss the question "Have you been married?" and why it's a bad question to ask a woman if she's been married. We also discuss why women should have a say in whether or not to stay in a marriage.

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00:00:00.000 What I want to say is...
00:00:01.680 Because you're making it personal.
00:00:03.100 No, no, no, it's not.
00:00:04.340 I'm not making it personal.
00:00:05.800 I'm going to have a general conversation with you.
00:00:07.860 Because I asked Pearl,
00:00:09.200 I'm having a really normal, constructive conversation with you.
00:00:12.680 I shared my experience within my marriage.
00:00:14.660 And I said to you, I got with someone that was 16.
00:00:16.760 We were both young.
00:00:18.120 And I think at 16, like I said,
00:00:20.180 your views and relationship in terms of what you want
00:00:23.060 is very different from what you think.
00:00:24.240 I understand your point of view that if a woman at a certain age, 0.97
00:00:28.400 when they're adults now,
00:00:30.920 should make now healthier choices and better decisions.
00:00:34.320 So when they do make those choices as adults,
00:00:37.600 they should make, you know, healthier and better decisions.
00:00:40.620 So when they are in the marriage,
00:00:42.180 then that marriage actually is a healthy marriage.
00:00:44.380 I understand that point of view.
00:00:45.620 But when I'm giving you examples,
00:00:47.460 I'm saying that there's a lot of context
00:00:48.800 behind your so-called statistics that you get from wherever you get.
00:00:52.140 But when I ask you, are you married?
00:00:54.320 It's not a dig at you.
00:00:55.580 It's because you can only speak of like our knowledge
00:01:00.260 and our knowledge is only, can I just speak?
00:01:03.080 I don't think the person, no, no, no.
00:01:04.940 I don't think the person saying,
00:01:07.040 I don't think the person,
00:01:07.960 I don't think that the person saying something matters.
00:01:12.420 Is it true or is it not true?
00:01:14.320 Is it harder to stick something out or to leave?
00:01:16.500 Like you can only know that if you've been in someone's shoes,
00:01:18.920 you're not.
00:01:19.520 It makes no sense, Pearl,
00:01:21.380 unless you've been in someone's shoes.
00:01:22.660 What's the question you want to ask if she's been married?
00:01:25.380 So if she's been married,
00:01:27.480 what's the experience?
00:01:29.160 The thing is, it's the experience.
00:01:30.380 So if she's married,
00:01:30.960 that she would understand.
00:01:32.180 And I want to understand where her perspective...
00:01:33.860 Do you know why?
00:01:36.460 Because women usually that haven't been married 1.00
00:01:38.540 are usually the women that come at women that have been married. 1.00
00:01:41.340 It's usually the case.
00:01:43.080 So let me say something to you.
00:01:44.400 No happily married people ever try to belittle
00:01:48.440 or take context out.
00:01:50.480 I'm making a point,
00:01:51.180 but you guys want to just make...
00:01:52.160 No, my point is if you say,
00:01:53.360 have you been married?
00:01:54.280 It makes complete sense.
00:01:55.620 Okay, can you change your question then?
00:01:57.640 Let me just make my point.
00:01:58.920 My point is if you ask her,
00:02:00.160 have you been married?
00:02:01.480 And you don't follow it up with a question.
00:02:03.220 I just did.
00:02:04.340 What was the question?
00:02:05.200 She didn't even answer.
00:02:06.240 No, no.
00:02:07.060 Sorry, I know what.
00:02:08.180 She answered everything.
00:02:08.940 Okay, she needs to answer the question.
00:02:09.880 It doesn't matter, doesn't matter.
00:02:10.720 You've not let me say what I want to say.
00:02:12.320 Okay, go on, speak.
00:02:13.060 You've asked her, have you been married?
00:02:15.360 I did.
00:02:16.000 Which isn't really necessarily relevant.
00:02:18.060 In your opinion.
00:02:19.720 Are you going to let me speak?
00:02:22.180 You've asked her, have you been married?
00:02:23.860 Which is not necessarily relevant
00:02:25.180 to what we're talking about
00:02:26.180 because...
00:02:27.180 But some of us are married.
00:02:29.040 We're talking about marriage.
00:02:30.420 We're talking about marriage.
00:02:31.440 How is that about this?
00:02:32.600 Stop, stop, stop, stop.
00:02:35.540 Stop over talking my producer.
00:02:37.100 I'm just trying to get the point across.
00:02:38.600 He's doing his job.
00:02:38.620 You're not even letting me speak.
00:02:39.920 My point is,
00:02:41.440 yes, the general topic,
00:02:43.060 is about marriage,
00:02:43.900 but we were on a particular trajectory
00:02:45.760 within the discussion
00:02:47.240 and then you brought up
00:02:48.280 have you been married
00:02:48.940 to derail that conversation?
00:02:51.100 Oh no.
00:02:51.680 Because if you're asking
00:02:52.840 if she's been married,
00:02:53.600 what is the relevance of that
00:02:54.780 to what we're talking about
00:02:55.860 in this very second?
00:02:57.220 So you'd have to ask that
00:02:58.840 then follow it up
00:02:59.500 with a relevant question
00:03:00.600 or then it's a dig.
00:03:02.640 No, but your answer...
00:03:04.120 Sorry, go on.
00:03:05.320 And I say this respectfully.
00:03:06.880 Women are meant 1.00
00:03:07.740 to be quiet,
00:03:10.000 docile,
00:03:10.860 and submissive.
00:03:12.060 In almost every case
00:03:13.820 when you see a woman 0.99
00:03:15.200 is the opposite of that.
00:03:17.860 It's a turn off.
00:03:18.480 For example,
00:03:19.540 what's your name
00:03:20.180 in the white top?
00:03:21.360 It's a put off.
00:03:21.380 It's a put off, right?
00:03:21.880 It's a put off.
00:03:22.700 A man doesn't want 1.00
00:03:23.320 a woman like that. 0.98
00:03:24.180 There he is.
00:03:25.140 Go ahead.
00:03:26.440 No, it's just an observation.
00:03:28.780 And to the earlier point
00:03:29.880 about, you know,
00:03:31.640 the question that you said earlier,
00:03:33.520 I was actually once
00:03:34.780 driving my date home
00:03:36.520 and she said to me,
00:03:38.060 I don't need a man. 0.99
00:03:40.680 I said, are you sure?
00:03:42.940 She said, yeah. 1.00
00:03:43.840 I said, so get the fuck 1.00
00:03:44.880 out the car and hitchhike. 0.99
00:03:47.620 Turned out she got kidnapped.
00:03:50.740 And that's a great example
00:03:52.200 of why women need men. 0.84
00:03:55.500 Excuse me.
00:03:56.320 I just want to add something.
00:03:59.520 In my opinion,
00:04:01.920 the woman coming
00:04:03.080 to the relationship
00:04:04.060 with many reasons.
00:04:07.960 Either...
00:04:08.640 I'm finding it really hard
00:04:09.940 to keep a straight face.
00:04:11.660 I'm sorry.
00:04:12.320 I'm finding this so hilarious.
00:04:14.080 Either they want to
00:04:16.120 fill the gap in their life
00:04:17.660 because they feel
00:04:19.000 they are not enough
00:04:21.000 at themselves
00:04:21.740 or they either
00:04:24.280 they want to add
00:04:25.160 something to their life.
00:04:26.540 They think I'm good.
00:04:27.820 I'm in a good point.
00:04:28.780 I know myself.
00:04:29.660 I work on myself.
00:04:31.580 I'm fulfilled.
00:04:32.920 You know,
00:04:33.420 I don't need someone else
00:04:35.180 to give me that positive energy.
00:04:37.080 You know,
00:04:37.660 bring something to me.
00:04:38.800 But I want,
00:04:39.640 I would love to someone
00:04:40.760 come to my life
00:04:41.740 as a man
00:04:42.620 and add something.
00:04:44.000 Like when the child
00:04:44.760 coming adds something
00:04:45.880 and the good friends
00:04:46.880 coming adds something
00:04:47.880 and you have a good
00:04:48.820 brother and sister,
00:04:49.620 they add something
00:04:50.440 to our life.
00:04:52.140 And the same,
00:04:53.780 the men and women
00:04:56.000 can go out
00:04:56.960 of the relationship
00:04:57.780 for many reasons.
00:04:59.460 It can be
00:05:00.020 because they are not
00:05:01.340 compatible,
00:05:02.540 because there is
00:05:03.180 first of the time,
00:05:04.200 you know,
00:05:04.360 when they meet each other,
00:05:05.380 they're with each other,
00:05:06.540 there's a loss
00:05:06.960 of hormone engage.
00:05:08.040 And when the hormone
00:05:09.260 suppressed during the time,
00:05:11.340 they said,
00:05:11.760 oh,
00:05:12.280 she's not thinking like me.
00:05:13.920 He's not behaving
00:05:14.940 the way I want.
00:05:16.040 You know,
00:05:16.580 we are two different
00:05:17.640 personalities.
00:05:18.560 Doesn't mean
00:05:19.000 if we are good or bad,
00:05:20.100 we are just different.
00:05:21.680 Or negative things,
00:05:23.480 they are cheating.
00:05:25.240 They are,
00:05:26.280 you know,
00:05:27.860 at the,
00:05:28.420 they really should a point
00:05:29.520 that's, you know,
00:05:30.620 we don't want each other,
00:05:31.500 we don't like each other
00:05:32.420 anymore.
00:05:32.880 Yeah,
00:05:33.180 but I,
00:05:33.540 I understand that
00:05:34.960 that happens,
00:05:35.660 but I just don't think
00:05:36.340 it's a good reason
00:05:37.000 when you have kids.
00:05:38.480 What do you mean?
00:05:39.080 Because kids are more
00:05:39.920 likely to go to prison,
00:05:40.920 they're more likely
00:05:41.380 to drop out of school,
00:05:42.260 they're more likely
00:05:42.740 to be abused by a step-marent.
00:05:43.920 I don't understand your question.
00:05:44.640 Because when we talk
00:05:45.260 about growing apart,
00:05:46.260 it's like,
00:05:46.940 you're going to divorce
00:05:48.240 over growing apart
00:05:49.260 when you have a kid,
00:05:50.280 because it's not
00:05:50.700 supposed to be about you,
00:05:51.920 it's supposed to be
00:05:52.420 about the kid.
00:05:53.240 Oh my God,
00:05:53.820 I'll give you my,
00:05:55.020 if I give you my example,
00:05:56.860 my son is at university,
00:05:58.200 at Warwick University,
00:05:59.300 I left my husband.
00:05:59.980 I'm not,
00:06:00.500 I'm not talking
00:06:01.140 about you though.
00:06:02.240 Like this is like
00:06:02.920 a lot of times
00:06:03.420 people take this stuff
00:06:04.240 personally.
00:06:05.280 What I'm saying is,
00:06:06.940 in fact,
00:06:08.320 both my kids said to me,
00:06:09.880 and that's a feedback
00:06:10.600 given to a parent
00:06:12.000 by the children is,
00:06:13.640 mom,
00:06:14.320 I cannot believe
00:06:15.380 you stayed in that
00:06:16.200 relationship for so long.
00:06:17.480 We are so happy
00:06:18.160 you did that.
00:06:18.920 They even try to approach
00:06:20.080 their dad on the camera.
00:06:21.580 But what I'm saying is,
00:06:24.080 there is a perspective
00:06:25.720 towards it.
00:06:26.480 But can I interrupt?
00:06:27.540 I have to interrupt
00:06:28.140 because I have two children.
00:06:29.260 I've seen,
00:06:30.640 witnessed everything.
00:06:31.400 I know the world.
00:06:32.060 I know everyone.
00:06:33.240 For a child,
00:06:34.240 not having a personal
00:06:35.400 dig at anyone,
00:06:36.340 hypothetically speaking,
00:06:37.940 for a child,
00:06:38.740 I'm a mom of two.
00:06:40.080 For a child to come
00:06:41.180 to a parent and say,
00:06:43.340 mom,
00:06:43.780 I can't believe
00:06:44.580 you stayed with dad.
00:06:45.960 It's like,
00:06:46.360 what have you said
00:06:47.140 to that child
00:06:48.040 for that child
00:06:48.900 to say that to you?
00:06:50.040 Correct.
00:06:50.360 It should not have witnessed.
00:06:51.640 It should love his mom
00:06:52.800 and dad equally.
00:06:54.980 That's what you call
00:06:55.900 narcissistic,
00:06:56.800 toxic abuse, 0.52
00:06:58.220 feeding it to the children.
00:06:59.640 At its highest level.
00:07:01.100 It depends what the child
00:07:02.140 or the children
00:07:02.980 are human beings.
00:07:03.720 They are observant as well.
00:07:05.180 And as a good mother,
00:07:06.760 as a good,
00:07:07.420 I'm sorry,
00:07:08.000 don't raise my voice.
00:07:08.840 I have a microphone.
00:07:09.760 But as a good mother,
00:07:10.680 you tell that child
00:07:11.480 it's your father.
00:07:12.800 Have a good relation,
00:07:13.860 healthy relationship
00:07:14.860 with that father.
00:07:15.780 Even if it's toxic.
00:07:16.860 Hang on, hang on.
00:07:17.420 Even if it's toxic.
00:07:18.160 She hasn't finished her point.
00:07:18.920 I haven't finished my point.
00:07:20.240 Let me finish my point.
00:07:21.520 I tell my children,
00:07:23.240 whenever your father is ready,
00:07:24.700 go and meet him.
00:07:25.540 It's not personal.
00:07:26.640 I was hypothetically speaking.
00:07:28.260 I know.
00:07:28.780 But what you are trying to say is,
00:07:30.960 I have always put
00:07:32.060 positive projection
00:07:33.180 towards your dad.
00:07:34.080 I said,
00:07:34.480 he give you birth.
00:07:35.440 He has done his job.
00:07:36.780 After that,
00:07:37.460 there is no responsibility
00:07:38.520 of him.
00:07:39.520 What do you mean?
00:07:40.740 That's not positive projection.
00:07:42.180 that he's an honourable man.
00:07:46.680 He's a good man.
00:07:48.380 He gave birth to you.
00:07:50.340 No, no.
00:07:50.880 I mean,
00:07:51.380 when they feel the need of,
00:07:53.460 he's not financially there.
00:07:54.860 He's not physically there.
00:07:55.540 He doesn't have to be financially there.
00:07:57.040 Why does the kid know
00:07:58.440 if he's not financially there?
00:07:59.860 Why does a man
00:08:01.000 have to be the financial financier?
00:08:05.500 Why does he have to?
00:08:07.000 He doesn't have to.
00:08:08.060 But what I'm saying is,
00:08:09.900 did you marry someone?
00:08:11.100 It's both parents' responsibility.
00:08:12.340 No, no, no.
00:08:13.360 It's both parents' responsibility.
00:08:15.640 But what I'm saying is,
00:08:16.520 during COVID time,
00:08:17.660 my son decided to approach his dad.
00:08:20.360 His dad was so bitter
00:08:22.040 that he got,
00:08:23.800 he came back to me
00:08:24.860 and I said,
00:08:25.300 what happened?
00:08:25.960 Like, you know,
00:08:26.640 go and talk to him.
00:08:27.700 Why was the dad bitter?
00:08:29.700 He was just bitter and angry.
00:08:31.520 But why?
00:08:32.120 With me.
00:08:32.700 Why?
00:08:33.200 For leaving him.
00:08:34.280 Okay.
00:08:34.780 So he was angry that you left him.
00:08:36.620 Yeah.
00:08:36.800 Isn't that a valid reason to be angry?
00:08:38.300 Yeah.
00:08:38.920 I had it.
00:08:39.720 Absolutely.
00:08:40.200 It should be a valid reason
00:08:42.240 for him to be angry.
00:08:43.300 But what I'm saying is,
00:08:44.480 staying in a relationship 0.99
00:08:45.720 where you are miserable 0.99
00:08:47.400 and making, 0.99
00:08:48.360 he is miserable as well,
00:08:50.060 is not healthy for him either. 0.59
00:08:51.620 But I think this is the problem.
00:08:53.020 I disagree.
00:08:53.920 This is such a modern mindset.
00:08:55.740 It's like,
00:08:56.320 marriage isn't supposed to be 0.95
00:08:57.780 about your happiness.
00:08:58.800 Your happiness is going to come and go.
00:09:00.960 And you shouldn't rely on another person 0.92
00:09:02.740 to make you happy.
00:09:03.920 I agree.
00:09:04.200 If you don't have no communication
00:09:05.640 with somebody,
00:09:06.500 my marriage was an arranged marriage.
00:09:07.960 I never spoke to the guy
00:09:10.040 on our wedding night.
00:09:11.440 I only met him once
00:09:13.760 before I got married to him.
00:09:15.420 So 18 years living with somebody
00:09:16.820 who doesn't speak to you
00:09:18.040 and you're just living in a house
00:09:19.600 and sleeping together.
00:09:20.760 He never talked to you ever?
00:09:22.340 No.
00:09:22.680 It's literally just about-
00:09:24.000 No, I mean like,
00:09:24.620 you guys never had conversations?
00:09:26.220 Like, this isn't making sense.
00:09:27.260 18 years?
00:09:28.000 Exactly.
00:09:28.720 You can live with somebody for 18 years.
00:09:30.560 But I think a lot of times as women, 0.91
00:09:32.520 like we put our expectations on men.
00:09:34.920 But can I say-
00:09:35.280 But it's like men don't communicate, 0.63
00:09:36.680 but men don't communicate the same way we do.
00:09:40.640 Like men just want to sit, 1.00
00:09:41.540 like they don't want to talk to us.
00:09:42.420 No, but he was from a different place.
00:09:44.420 I was born around six brothers in Pakistan.
00:09:47.800 So my context about men
00:09:52.260 was very different to his context
00:09:55.000 of a woman,
00:09:56.540 a modern woman from England, right? 0.93
00:09:58.380 So it was-
00:09:59.260 But we never communicated with each other
00:10:01.640 for 18 years.
00:10:02.540 Now what I know,
00:10:03.480 if I've known that 18 years ago,
00:10:05.280 that relationship would have stayed for life.
00:10:07.460 But what I'm-
00:10:08.020 I'm sorry to cut you off.
00:10:09.240 This is just getting a bit out of control.
00:10:11.080 I agree.
00:10:11.820 Viewers, this is what happens
00:10:13.900 when it's only ladies 1.00
00:10:15.400 having a conversation in a room.
00:10:18.220 So please everybody-
00:10:19.380 No, I disagree.
00:10:19.460 Please everybody just-
00:10:21.500 Ladies, let's just try to have 1.00
00:10:23.020 a coherent conversation.
00:10:24.100 I think it's very sexist to talk like this.
00:10:26.660 It's not like that.
00:10:27.660 They are telling their experiences.
00:10:30.240 I was-
00:10:30.700 No, I was actually going to say-
00:10:32.420 Excuse me.
00:10:32.800 Excuse me.
00:10:34.400 The ladies are here. 1.00
00:10:35.660 I know many of them.
00:10:37.540 You don't know their background.
00:10:39.460 You will not be in their situation.
00:10:41.580 And you are not-
00:10:42.640 You don't know anything.
00:10:43.980 He's just observing.
00:10:44.980 He's just observing.
00:10:46.080 He's just-
00:10:46.540 Excuse me.
00:10:46.920 Excuse me.
00:10:47.420 No, no, no.
00:10:48.440 It's not yourself.
00:10:49.500 It's not yourself.
00:10:49.880 It's not yourself.
00:10:50.620 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:10:54.920 Please don't stop me like this.
00:10:56.560 Can you mute her mic?
00:10:58.000 No, you don't get to just-
00:10:59.100 No, no, no.
00:10:59.940 Then build your own show.
00:11:01.000 And go build your own show.
00:11:02.260 It's like entitlement.
00:11:03.360 You're not entitled.
00:11:04.560 Like, this is such entitlement.
00:11:06.640 It can't-
00:11:07.320 No, no.
00:11:08.280 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:11:09.840 Okay.
00:11:10.040 Actually, I forgot what I was going to say.
00:11:13.320 Sorry.
00:11:13.660 Did you want to finish your point?
00:11:14.740 I mean, after listening to all of this, I know this might sound crazy.
00:11:21.220 I saw a tweet you did once where you said, women shouldn't be permitted to vote. 1.00
00:11:29.320 Yes.
00:11:30.060 Yes.
00:11:30.460 Take it away.
00:11:31.180 Repeal the 19th. 0.57
00:11:32.440 Yeah.
00:11:32.920 Yeah.
00:11:33.380 So I saw it, you know, and I could see how you would think that.
00:11:38.400 You know, I could see how you would think that.
00:11:40.860 But I've actually spoken with some women. 0.99
00:11:42.860 Pearl, did you say that?
00:11:44.400 Oh, yeah.
00:11:45.200 Oh, yeah.
00:11:45.900 Get rid of it.
00:11:46.940 No, but really, I realize this might sound crazy, but the tweet you said, women, it should 1.00
00:11:52.120 be illegal for them to vote.
00:11:53.800 And I can see how you would think that.
00:11:57.500 But I've actually had some conversations, personal ones, with women. 1.00
00:12:01.760 And I now firmly believe that not all women are complete morons. 0.99
00:12:11.760 That's actually off of King rule number 202. 0.99
00:12:15.620 Some women can actually be pretty smart sometimes, including yourself, Pearl. 1.00
00:12:23.600 Thank you.
00:12:24.720 Well, you are married, so I assume your wife is a wonderful woman.
00:12:27.980 And she's my pride of joy.
00:12:31.020 Exactly.
00:12:31.640 So there you go.
00:12:32.660 So there are women. 1.00
00:12:33.700 Pearl is a great example of a unique one.
00:12:38.080 Wow.
00:12:38.460 Thank you.
00:12:38.600 Oh, unique.
00:12:39.500 Okay.
00:12:40.140 Yeah.
00:12:40.540 Well, she's a successful entrepreneur. 1.00
00:12:41.900 She organized everything here.
00:12:43.240 No, no, no.
00:12:44.420 I'm not taking it.
00:12:45.840 The irony, one last thing here.
00:12:47.720 One last thing.
00:12:48.220 The irony here would be that someone like Pearl would be viewed as someone like a far right,
00:12:55.100 maybe, but in reality, if you look at all her staff, she embraces quite a bit of diversity
00:13:00.840 in her staffing.
00:13:02.320 So, you know, for example, she's created jobs in this neighborhood. 1.00
00:13:06.620 She's an employer. 0.95
00:13:07.760 She put aside capital.
00:13:09.220 She saved capital.
00:13:10.080 She built the equipment.
00:13:11.020 She took the office space. 0.64
00:13:12.300 She built a couple studios.
00:13:14.600 Right?
00:13:14.920 She's not counting on a man to take care of her. 0.98
00:13:17.440 She's doing everything all along.
00:13:18.680 Same as me.
00:13:19.600 So can I say something on that point?
00:13:21.380 I don't know what Pearl is doing right now on this thing. 0.68
00:13:22.960 But you got to respect.
00:13:23.640 There is some respect there.
00:13:24.540 No, I don't take nothing away from Pearl.
00:13:26.740 We have different opinions.
00:13:29.340 So it's nothing towards Pearl as a human being and what she does.
00:13:32.700 We have difference of opinion.
00:13:33.820 She doesn't have to respect my opinion.
00:13:35.220 I don't have to respect her opinion or agree, let's say.
00:13:37.820 So, because just like she said, she wants to take voting away wherever you said. 0.91
00:13:41.480 Yeah, take that.
00:13:42.460 Do you know what I mean?
00:13:43.060 Take that. 0.98
00:13:43.280 So for me, I find that's the biggest bullshit because the only reason why I say that, okay, 0.97
00:13:47.920 is, for example, I'm not going to mention a name because we're not allowed, 0.94
00:13:50.580 but during the period that we've just passed, what countries had the best rates, right,
00:13:59.720 or the lowest in terms of management were led by who?
00:14:04.420 Were led by who?
00:14:05.220 Not men. 0.69
00:14:06.120 Oh, you know what?
00:14:07.540 You know what?
00:14:07.840 Wait, wait.
00:14:08.140 This would actually prove my point.
00:14:10.020 Because all of the countries that followed that stuff, right,
00:14:15.220 because you're talking about the jab, right?
00:14:17.820 I'm trying not to say the names.
00:14:18.540 Yeah, yeah.
00:14:18.920 Do you know who pushed that?
00:14:20.120 Women. 0.81
00:14:21.040 Yeah, women. 1.00
00:14:22.520 Yes.
00:14:22.800 So who created the thing?
00:14:25.480 Well, that was an L. 0.96
00:14:26.880 I'm not even going to lie.
00:14:27.680 That was an L. 0.98
00:14:28.560 But also, it's very funny how when we talk about leadership and countries that are led by women,
00:14:34.420 women, yes, the president might be a woman, but does that mean that it is the president that is running the country? 1.00
00:14:43.060 Not necessarily.
00:14:43.680 Not necessarily.
00:14:45.440 You might be right, you might be wrong.
00:14:46.760 So what you're saying is not facts neither.
00:14:48.280 No, but then you can make an analogy in the sense that if you were to look throughout all of human history,
00:14:54.320 whenever you see a woman at the top of anything, there's usually a team of men, 0.99
00:14:58.620 usually very competent men, helping her to achieve her goals.
00:15:01.660 So we need each other.
00:15:02.280 Can I just say, we need each other.
00:15:04.500 No, no, no, no.
00:15:05.440 I would say women need men and men do not need women outside of reproduction. 0.99
00:15:10.940 Oh, my God.
00:15:11.600 Yes, yes.
00:15:12.240 We need each other to reproduce.
00:15:13.320 We need each other.
00:15:14.420 So when I'm talking about, this is, okay, I'm going to clarify what I mean, okay?
00:15:18.140 So I'm going to clarify.
00:15:19.000 When I'm talking about running society, so making society run, take out the reproduction, 1.00
00:15:26.800 like raising the kids part.
00:15:28.440 I don't think we need women in society for it to run. 1.00
00:15:32.700 Now, I'm going to tell you why.
00:15:34.760 Because when you look at all the jobs that men mainly do, it holds the infrastructure of society. 0.57
00:15:42.500 For example, I like to think of myself as young and successful,
00:15:46.900 but I couldn't do what I do without this building that was built by men, 0.82
00:15:51.180 by this microphone that was built by men,
00:15:53.780 by the plump, without the plumbing that was built by men,
00:15:57.100 without the electricity.
00:15:58.660 Because, again, I do look up numbers.
00:16:01.980 You know what I mean?
00:16:02.600 I do, I do.
00:16:04.060 And, yes, I am.
00:16:05.420 I am a numbers gal.
00:16:08.260 And if you look up the sex makeup in those industries, it's 90-plus percent men.
00:16:15.400 And another observation I had is all the industries we complain about are mostly run by women. 0.99
00:16:22.520 Now, I'm not saying there are not exceptions of high IQ.
00:16:25.160 Wait, wait, I'm going to go into them in a second.
00:16:27.640 I am not saying there are not exceptions of high IQ women that cannot make an impact, right? 0.98
00:16:34.040 But are they necessary?
00:16:36.200 Not really.
00:16:36.900 Now, the industries that, I'm going to give you an example.
00:16:40.700 Let's talk about the industries that women run. 1.00
00:16:42.680 One, I found out, in the U.S., we have something called the DMV, driver's license.
00:16:47.400 It is known as being so slow and inefficient that the last movie about the DMV,
00:16:52.600 they made a sloth play the DMV person because they're so slow. 0.80
00:16:56.600 Education, we're always whining about education and how bad the education system is
00:17:00.720 and how they're indoctrinating children.
00:17:02.700 Women run that industry. 1.00
00:17:04.320 Healthcare is another one I always hear people complain about.
00:17:07.860 And the other thing is, the healthcare is still roughly 50% men.
00:17:13.360 And the highest jobs in those industries are still men.
00:17:16.620 I'm going to echo what you're producing is.
00:17:18.820 And the fourth part, I'm sorry, one more part and then I will let you go.
00:17:23.780 The thing that when you look at successful female women, you know, they do monetize beauty. 1.00
00:17:29.480 And so we can look at industries where women dominate. 1.00
00:17:33.300 It's really beauty.
00:17:34.100 Like, it's social media modeling and, like, selling makeup.
00:17:39.380 Kim Kardashian, Kylie Jenner, they all monetize beauty. 1.00
00:17:42.160 All right.
00:17:44.120 Yes, that is my case as to why I do not think we need women to run the infrastructure of society. 1.00
00:17:50.920 I will let you go and then I'll let you go.
00:17:53.760 Okay, go ahead.
00:17:54.320 I have a question for you.
00:17:57.060 Are you suggesting the healthcare system is not running well because there is a less woman taking highest responsibility? 0.99
00:18:04.880 Or what was exactly what you said about that?
00:18:08.080 I've noticed, I didn't make a definitive statement about healthcare.
00:18:11.980 I'm not going to pretend I know your ins and outs of your healthcare.
00:18:15.460 I've just noticed a trend where the industries that women tend to dominate, so one of those is nursing, right? 1.00
00:18:22.340 Although women dominate physicians, but they don't dominate the, like, brain surgery, like, the highest form of medicine. 1.00
00:18:31.720 But I've noticed a trend that a lot of the industries that have a lot of women in them are, there are a lot of complaints about efficiency. 1.00
00:18:41.040 For example, healthcare is one.
00:18:42.760 I hear a lot of complaints about healthcare, both here and in the U.S.
00:18:45.640 I hear a lot of complaints.
00:18:46.660 I have to stop you here because complaint, it exists.
00:18:51.240 I've worked more than 22 decades working in healthcare system.
00:18:55.340 Yes.
00:18:55.780 I work in Ministry of Health in one of the very large countries in the world.
00:19:00.400 Okay.
00:19:01.400 So there's a woman here. 1.00
00:19:03.120 Okay.
00:19:03.500 We say as advisor and consultant, Ministry of Health.
00:19:06.940 Okay.
00:19:07.240 We are a researcher there.
00:19:08.960 We work in many universities.
00:19:10.900 Raised lots of students to be midwife and nurse and whatever.
00:19:14.740 Yes.
00:19:16.220 The same, we had lots of men.
00:19:18.420 We've worked together.
00:19:20.080 Correct.
00:19:20.380 There are a lot of men in those industries too.
00:19:22.140 What does it mean that because men working or women working in the house, just an example, that system doesn't work because of the portion of men and women. 0.99
00:19:31.920 No.
00:19:32.760 The healthcare system doesn't work because of the policy that politicians makes and, you know, I've heard that politics.
00:19:40.480 Okay, so this goes back to my women voting, okay, because, because, no, no, no, but let me, let me, let me, let me talk. 1.00
00:19:46.600 Yeah, yeah.
00:19:47.060 So, so I'll give you an example.
00:19:49.040 This goes, who passes those policies?
00:19:51.440 If you talk to politicians, which I have, because I wanted to know why the child support system was so unfair to men.
00:19:56.540 So I was asking, why does this stuff, like, why is it so biased?
00:20:00.060 And the reason is most politicians are catering to women because they have to, single women are the largest voting bloc where, where men tend to stay the same. 0.99
00:20:10.260 So, like, men are much more loyal, right, relationships too, but also in politics.
00:20:15.540 So, so, so, so, so, so when men, so when men vote, when men vote, this is true, when men vote, when men, okay, you don't, you don't have to, you don't have to believe it, but it is true, okay?
00:20:28.600 Men, men tend to stay with their voting bloc, where women tend to switch more.
00:20:33.580 Women can be bought a lot more than men.
00:20:35.540 And you see this in marriages, you know, they, they give you guys free housing.
00:20:39.260 Women are like, we're leaving the men. 1.00
00:20:40.720 Now, this is true, look it up, 60s in the U.S., they give women free housing and government handouts, and then they start to divorce their husbands.
00:20:48.740 Are you actually comparing society, systemic?
00:20:53.440 Oh, Lord.
00:20:54.540 And you know about statistics.
00:20:56.720 That is, yes, yes, yes, I know, I know, I know, I know, I know, I know, I know, I know, crazy, crazy. 0.57
00:21:00.120 Come be realistic.
00:21:00.800 Okay, you seem like a statistician.
00:21:03.540 No, no, no, no, but I'm just saying, well, you're not saying facts.
00:21:06.280 Yes, yes, yes, yes, I'm giving you, I'm giving you, I just said this is.
00:21:10.480 I'm comparing, I'm just comparing racism, I'm just comparing.
00:21:13.400 I am one, I'm not, I didn't, I didn't bring up race.
00:21:15.560 Let's not.
00:21:16.180 I'm not saying.