JustPearlyThings - March 26, 2023


Post Wall Woman Dates these kind of Men


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11 minutes

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2,227

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7

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9

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In this episode, we discuss the age difference between men and women when it comes to dating, what age range we should be dating and what we should look for in a potential partner. We also talk about commitment and what it's like to be in a committed relationship with someone older than you.

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00:00:00.000 the reason 18 and 19 year olds are more attractive than 25 year olds is because they've been through
00:00:04.940 les dick i'll say this right here on the fucking internet i don't give a shit people sit there 0.99
00:00:08.840 and go oh you can't say that yes i can a 19 year old is more attractive than a 26 year old woman 0.99
00:00:12.920 i'll tell you why because that 26 year old has talked to more guys been to the club more times
00:00:16.800 been more places been fucked and dumped more times more arguments more heartbreak more bullshit more 0.92
00:00:22.260 mess for me to clean up whereas a 19 year old might have had one guy from high school just broke up
00:00:26.660 she's fresh and i can fucking put my imprint on her make her a good person and without her having to 0.92
00:00:30.420 go through all that detriment to learn about life okay so my first question how old are you and what
00:00:38.040 age range do you date i won't reveal my age but i can tell you my most recent ex i was with him on and
00:00:49.400 four years and there was a big age difference he i think he was 27 26 27 this year so um yeah so i will
00:00:59.800 i would date between mid 20s and i'll go from 25 to 55 20 wow that's a huge range you're enjoying it
00:01:09.220 yeah so i i can i can either date you or your dad or the other way around
00:01:16.820 okay uh i am 29 minus a week uh no 30 minus a week apologies and i date probably
00:01:27.940 up to five years older than me max i think so you won't go like if a guy's 40 that's too old
00:01:36.500 um five years okay that's a hard now wait but you also didn't mention younger though like you just
00:01:51.220 i don't well younger maybe max two years younger max it's a tight tight window for me
00:02:00.340 i'm 20 i'm 25 i wouldn't do younger anymore but max i would do
00:02:11.860 i think round 30s is good for me um maybe just a bit over like 32 33
00:02:20.260 yeah yeah i'm 20 i would date up to 25 just because i haven't got my life sorted yet and i
00:02:25.220 don't want someone that's that's got everything sorted out yeah yeah okay um i'm 20 and i would
00:02:31.700 probably date from like 19 to um like a hard cap maybe like 35. okay uh i'm 34 and i would say so my
00:02:42.740 girlfriend like she's like mid-20s so the bottom end would be mid-20s and top end would be around 1.00
00:02:50.820 late 30s 40 late 30s 40 i'm 29 and the bottom absolute bottom is a 90s baby so 99 um
00:03:04.900 and the top end just depends on the person and where i am in life um so 45 you're in she looks good
00:03:14.020 i'll be honest with you i've seen some i've i've seen some i've seen all sorts that look good so okay
00:03:20.100 so so 50 55 there's gotta be a rough cap i'm just saying a rough cap a rough cap yeah rough cap um
00:03:28.820 obviously j-lo is an exception for me it's a thing it's a combination of things of course like if i'm
00:03:34.820 in the dating space and i don't know she's 50 but she looks she doesn't look like the 50s that society 1.00
00:03:40.820 call 50 year olds then you know i'm not gonna okay anyone that looks good yeah okay okay but
00:03:47.380 running off what andrew tate said like doesn't she have too much baggage are we talking about dating
00:03:52.260 or commitment here well um so tell me that's a big difference tell me both yeah so someone you'd
00:03:57.460 want to take seriously long term and someone you'd go for a short term someone long term no um i can't
00:04:05.540 i can't i can't start a family with a 50 year old um um i know there's some some 50 year olds out there
00:04:10.980 but not for me it's not it doesn't work for me but isn't the aim of dating like like long-term
00:04:16.500 relationships or is it just like kind of fun depends on your accent i'm not i'm not i don't i don't
00:04:22.500 personally date for fun i do i do commitments um so if i'm looking to get married to someone then i'm
00:04:30.260 going to be thinking about my family and who i can build something with yeah so like you'll enjoy being
00:04:35.220 with a 50 year old and like exchanging conversation but like you wouldn't like it wouldn't be serious
00:04:39.700 you know i mean like it would just be kind of i don't know like understanding them meeting them
00:04:43.780 but not like it would never be long time yeah maybe a little kiss here and there yeah no i feel like
00:04:48.260 just just for the purpose of the question it's just purely for the purpose of the question but i think
00:04:53.380 if it came to a commitment scenario um couple years above me at most um but i'll probably look down as
00:05:00.420 opposed to up yeah fair enough that's just how i view dating like i view it as something that like
00:05:04.580 i'm always seeing if you could fit into my life like long term because otherwise it's just going
00:05:08.580 to hurt my feelings yeah i think that's typically more of a female view yeah can i qualify my answer
00:05:13.620 that i just gave so like the upper end i literally just said 40. like romantically if you look good
00:05:22.180 there's no reason why it can't even be beyond 40. the only reason why i cap it at 40 because i presume
00:05:28.260 you're probably in a different stage of life that i'm in and there might be a lifestyle mismatch that's
00:05:34.740 the only reason but even then i could discover that's not the case and then i'd be willing to
00:05:39.380 as long as i you look good to me i'm still attracted to you we're all good i sorry to interrupt um i think
00:05:45.780 ages were irrelevant i mean there's there's a limit to what i would go down to see 25 is the lowest i will go
00:05:52.100 um but i think you could be this is from a woman's point of view to men you could be missing out from
00:05:59.300 a really great woman just because you put these restrictions on ages and it's not all about you 0.91
00:06:05.460 know it's popping out babies it might be you might find the woman the love of your life at any they
00:06:10.820 could be any age you don't have to be popping babies out but you could miss out for for amazing long
00:06:16.740 you know lifelong partner with all your restrictions that's just my personal point of view but you kind
00:06:22.500 of contradicted yourself because you said age is irrelevant but then you said you wouldn't go under
00:06:26.900 25 that's you got a point like like what what's wrong with the 24 year old that's got his stuff
00:06:31.620 together okay yeah i said 25 but yeah if it's a 24 year old but i'm not gonna go i'm not gonna go
00:06:37.540 really low because that's not relevant for me and i know i'm not saying how old i am but yes i understand
00:06:42.260 i apologize for if you felt contradictory myself but yeah there there is a limit but an upper limit
00:06:48.820 you could be missing out on a great man or a great woman i agree would you date a guy that was 90.
00:06:59.380 well yeah well yeah like you said it could be 110. it could be 110 treats me well just wants to
00:07:06.900 take me out to dinner and have some company buy me nice things but you still have to be respectful
00:07:12.260 yeah i i i i agree with you to a certain extent given i think ultimately it comes down to your
00:07:18.180 intention so if you're if your intention is to actually have a family i think there's a biological
00:07:24.020 plot that we can't necessarily overlook and you may say that there's also yeah there are options
00:07:28.900 adoption and so forth but not every man may necessarily want to take that route so my response
00:07:34.100 was from the fact of my version of a commitment where i am in my life i need to be with a woman that can i can 0.98
00:07:42.260 have a family with and with my age currently speaking the higher up i go i guess if i want
00:07:53.060 more than one child or so forth that kind of has to be accelerated and as a man you know you've got to
00:07:59.940 you've got to kind of plan these things up but the planning also takes time so
00:08:03.700 you know there's a point when i'm sure it's different for different women's but from what i've
00:08:08.180 learned in school there's a point when women can't provide families so no no i understand that and 1.00
00:08:14.260 i have a very calm point of view when it comes to children i'm not going to go there now um i am a
00:08:22.820 support person to my best friend who's a foster carer and i've seen the value of fostering and adoption
00:08:28.740 there are thousands of children in this country who would benefit from having an amazing loving home and
00:08:35.540 when you look at things differently this is just my personal point of view and it's no attack on
00:08:39.220 anyone here but when you look at the children that don't actually have a home and you've got
00:08:44.660 everyone popping out these babies i get it people say oh i want i want blood it has to be my blood my
00:08:50.100 child but if you actually look into it whether it's adoption or foster okay fostering is different
00:08:56.340 for a short time but adoption it doesn't matter where it is whether it's blood or not the problem is
00:09:01.380 there's a lot of problems that come with adoption like there's a lot of issues like if you don't get
00:09:06.180 the kid before the age of three like it's fully developed and any issues that it had before the
00:09:10.580 age of three a lot of times you can't stop um and i'm not i'm not like against adoption but i just think
00:09:16.020 sometimes it it can a lot of people aren't aware of how hard it is when they go into it and this is as
00:09:22.820 someone like i have three adopted siblings no no i i totally understand that and um i have friends
00:09:30.740 um who adopt adopted children as well but also it depends on the type of person you are what parent
00:09:37.460 you will be um the type of child there's there's so many different variations it's just kind of like
00:09:43.780 if a guy could avoid that headache of like like you'd have to find find the kid hope hopefully it's like
00:09:49.700 coming out of a not too bad situation um and like pay it's really expensive too in the us i don't
00:09:56.020 know how it is here but you have to pay ten plus thousand dollars per kid it's like why would he go
00:10:00.180 through that headache no you don't do that here adoption goes through overseas you know is it free
00:10:04.820 here it is it is free you go through your local council or adoption services and you you don't have
00:10:11.380 to pay for that no but interject i you do have to make a certain amount of money to provide for the
00:10:16.260 child you're not allowed to just adopt a child with no money of course of course ideally you're
00:10:22.420 financially stable anyway for any child if you're going to get pregnant you're going to adopt money 0.94
00:10:27.220 is in the equation because you have to provide a living so it's a complete deterrent for going for
00:10:31.300 older women for guys i guess but what about the women that like you uh like scenario like you find 1.00
00:10:37.220 like your dream girl you're in love with her and then you find out like she can't provide a family
00:10:41.060 for you no matter how old she is then you have to go through adoption anyway so why is like age a
00:10:45.940 hard cap i think it's just like likelihood i mean like geriatric pregnancy starts at 35 um 90 90 90
00:10:55.140 of your eggs are gone by 30. yeah and so it's just like if if you get a 25 year old or 22 year old
00:11:01.220 it's less likely to happen but there's like there's still that chance that she's like completely infertile 1.00
00:11:06.260 you know i mean so like i don't know in my eyes like it shouldn't matter on that it's a chance
00:11:11.860 though it's like if you're going for an older woman then it's more likely so it's kind of it's
00:11:17.620 why waste your time it's kind of like okay if you pick two roads on the highway and one has an accident
00:11:23.140 every week and one and one it's usually fine like which one are you gonna pick yeah as many of you know
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