JustPearlyThings - June 10, 2023


Post Wall Woman Gets In Her Feelings


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Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

201.31361

Word count

2,074

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

27

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Hate speech

16

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss why so many women aren t wives because they were not taught how to be wives. Why do you think this is a problem? Is it because women are not being taught to be a wife?

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 okay we do an episode that's just like statistics and just teaching people
00:00:03.900 statistics we can say you're you're what you're talking about a self-selection
00:00:06.720 bias but once you get over about 1400 people you kind of have a pretty
00:00:10.500 standard distribution which is statistically significant these numbers
00:00:13.520 are pretty damn tight so we'll do one episode pro for wife school statistics 1.00
00:00:16.500 what do you think I would love to be honest with you to be honest with you
00:00:21.900 Demetrius yeah I feel like Demetri sorry my apologies Demetri as you said
00:00:28.900 Demetri not Demetrius the one that was gonna take his suit before he got you
00:00:34.240 we stopped him we got him basically what I'm saying is that yes you know not all
00:00:45.540 of us were taught to be wives yeah and maybe that's because our mothers saw
00:00:50.620 what happened to why not all of us were taught to sucka whoa stop wait wait wait
00:00:55.380 no no no okay okay okay um did you hear what I said first yeah so so you say that
00:01:03.860 again yes so just just the one part just the part about you they were not taught
00:01:08.080 what let me not get in my feelings you're right what I'm saying is that don't
00:01:11.920 worry girl woman that raised certain woman in this world they never taught 0.99
00:01:16.840 their children or their daughters obviously that's true wives because they 1.00
00:01:21.460 had experienced what happens to wives and they were like I'm not gonna be a
00:01:25.060 wife because that means I have to stand up with a guy and that's due to right 1.00
00:01:29.680 but what what outcomes are better no but but this is but this is this is the thing
00:01:36.220 like single single single single child single childless women are not happy by and 1.00
00:01:41.260 large they're not over over that I don't think life is about only happiness
00:01:45.760 though I mean what okay what do you want your life to look like okay no no listen
00:01:49.120 listen two seconds just listen what do you want your life to look like at 60 65 what
00:01:55.000 do you want Christmas to look like your family your family I just want okay look
00:01:59.000 whole okay okay not listen listen okay what do you do you want to spend it alone at 65
00:02:05.880 your parents are probably passed away then on 70 65 for myself definitely not okay for me
00:02:12.300 personally all right so what are you arguing about here I'm arguing that community and having
00:02:19.440 family and being a single woman doesn't come with a lonely life the stats disagree no women that 1.00
00:02:27.420 women that don't have children are on antidepressants and they drink disagree that's okay 1.00
00:02:32.500 that's okay because so then what are you what are you probably on antidepressants and they on they
00:02:39.880 drink tap water and they do certain things that sound like it's not fun no no and then you know
00:02:45.200 they're they're just okay are the are the are the single childless women that you know typically happy 1.00
00:02:50.320 are they happy they're in that position typically like majority of the time okay they're they're all
00:02:54.940 happy yes they have children and if they and if they had to pick they would rather be by themselves
00:02:59.860 than with a man they respect love and admire yeah they would prefer that no no pick one what would
00:03:05.080 they prefer typically pick but how can i pick one so that's not an option what if what's i'm giving
00:03:11.160 you two options they'd rather be alone or with a man that they love respect and admire which one
00:03:15.700 would they pick they're off they would but this is like a need to be right it's like because you know
00:03:25.200 according to the stats you're right and i'm wrong but according to my world and my people
00:03:39.960 yeah we're good we're good on the side but it's true what you said not a lot of women have taught 1.00
00:03:46.940 their um girls to be wives because they haven't come from that background no but no no no let me 1.00
00:03:52.760 phrase that no they've been through it because but why is that but why is that your answer it's a
00:03:58.240 painful reality why because when i talk when i'm saying the woman that were not raised to be wives
00:04:04.920 it's because their mothers had experienced something else well i feel like sorry and that might be the
00:04:12.120 majority that's why there's so many women who aren't wives who have to go to wife school i think 1.00
00:04:18.100 she means that it's a knock-on effect to say someone's great grandma went through some sort of
00:04:23.040 trauma as you mentioned earlier they're gonna pass it down to their daughter yeah they ain't gonna teach
00:04:28.580 them how to then it goes down so it's a knock-on effect what they're saying it's generational
00:04:32.200 but the difference is people used to go through trauma together yeah like i mean i know a couple i know
00:04:41.740 a couple that had they they lost a child and that that's real trauma that's they they lost a child
00:04:47.840 and they they stuck it out and they figured out a way to make it work and they ended up having more
00:04:51.600 kids but that ruins most relationships that's real trauma nowadays women's trauma is just not being 1.00
00:04:56.820 happy having to listen to their husband do you feel like let me ask you this part do you feel like
00:05:01.700 in this generation now a lot of women are so quick to throw in the towel is that what you feel like yes 1.00
00:05:08.200 yeah and i agree i agree but that's men and women no i don't know i don't i don't i don't i don't so
00:05:16.120 i'm doing i'm doing a documentary on the court system in the uk and i i can tell you firsthand
00:05:21.280 men are not the first to throw in the towel they're not they're not i've heard this multiple times
00:05:25.840 there's a guy there's a guy so it might be for the kids but that the men are more selfless than the
00:05:31.440 women because they care about the kids they'll stick it out for the kids there is there is a man i just
00:05:36.200 i just interviewed a guy i just i just financially though i am talking about marriage he was married
00:05:41.580 he he has three daughters and he was married to a narcissist and he said that he would have stuck it
00:05:49.600 out but she wouldn't wow so then one day he gets a call he can't go home she got a restraining order 0.80
00:05:57.520 against him she accused him of abuse and now he can't see his children three daughters and he hasn't
00:06:04.000 even gotten to fight in court in the last year and all he wants is just to see his kids to bring
00:06:10.240 his family together we hear this and this woman had had no real reason and i'm telling you i'm doing
00:06:15.540 a documentary on this it's like the same story over and over again because here the courts think about
00:06:20.380 if you're if you're in a contract right and person a gets everything by leaving they get the house they
00:06:25.620 get the kids they get everything and person b um they lose everything person b is always trying to
00:06:31.500 to please person a because they have more to lose so it changes the way we interact in relationships
00:06:36.900 in my opinion where that's why we always have like women wearing the pants especially in the west 1.00
00:06:40.880 because the men are always trying to appease the women because they lose everything if they leave
00:06:45.400 so yeah i do i do think women today throw in the towel and partially it's because they're paid to 1.00
00:06:49.620 hey pearl i've had clients cry to me i've had like in law offices the partners i've had them cry to me
00:06:56.960 over the years because of the divorce they're going through and not being able to see their kids
00:07:02.160 and it's and it's like and we know statistically it's 80 percent of women that leave the relationships 1.00
00:07:07.180 i've had grown ass men cry to me about it like i've had that relation where they're like dude and they 0.81
00:07:12.540 just fall yeah i know many men i know i've met many men who are actually depressed and that's how they
00:07:19.900 go into depression because they've lost their kids and the mother is usually being sparked for just not
00:07:25.160 letting them see their kid not giving them the right and then i say something though um i don't
00:07:29.600 want to justify the thing that um women sometimes they can be evil and uh take their kids and use 1.00
00:07:35.600 them against their husbands but you have to check how many marriage are made where the woman she does 0.99
00:07:41.940 everything she goes to work she take care of kids she does everything and the man just goes to work 0.99
00:07:46.340 and goes home and chills like you don't really know the reason why people divorce and like i believe
00:07:51.640 there's so many marriages nowadays well why did she have a kid with a guy that just sits at the 1.00
00:07:55.480 couch all day i mean why did she pick him not because the most of the men they say that like
00:08:01.080 men in business or whatever men by and large make more than women sorry men by and large make more
00:08:07.380 than women yeah i know but because they make more than women they they feel that they are able to like 0.71
00:08:13.180 just go home and chill or watch the tv or go with their friends to drink a beer while the woman she goes to 0.93
00:08:18.600 work she looks after the kids she takes care of the house she pays the bills she does she does
00:08:23.920 everything basically please please okay this is literally we talked about this today with karil so
00:08:28.920 this is really interesting and again this is going to be super offensive so let's go viral
00:08:33.120 first thing okay like
00:08:38.240 messi the football soccer football player his wife isn't leaving him because he doesn't do the dishes
00:08:45.520 when the wife's like i left him because he didn't do the chores it's like
00:08:48.780 is lebron's wife leaving him because he doesn't do the dishes that's a bullshit reason it's not true
00:08:54.180 let me tell you what is true okay cleaners the answer is he's not if if a wife is like i'm leaving
00:08:58.900 because my husband doesn't do chores it's because he's not making enough money that's the reason now
00:09:03.300 and and the stat wow i'll make it very simple i hate this i told it's gonna be here it's true so so i 0.67
00:09:09.120 listen that makes sense listen up i come i come home if you do the logic i come home and i'm like i just
00:09:13.980 work like a 14 hour day i'm super tired you know i whatever pull my portion next to my wife's g wagon
00:09:20.340 that i got her she's very cool everything's great and i'm freaking tired and i can see my wife which
00:09:24.660 we got four kids she's working really hard around the house and i'm like honey listen um let me just
00:09:30.760 get a maid to come in and clean the house and my wife's like no no i i want to do this myself 1.00
00:09:36.080 and i'm like look i know i'm not gonna do it i'll tell you i'm not gonna i just work 14 hours i'm gonna
00:09:39.940 touch a dish in my life and i told her if i'm single i have a full-time live-in maid and my 0.99
00:09:43.480 like i'll literally get a nanny for myself if i'm single and she will just do everything 1.00
00:09:46.900 so finally i convinced my wife to get a lady to come in and help around the house 1.00
00:09:51.760 so in comes like this hot 23 year old ukrainian girl that's now living in estonia as a refugee and
00:09:57.560 she's in there wiping the everything i see my wife do the side she never showed up again 1.00
00:10:02.140 she never showed gentlemen why you shouldn't have hired her why is he scaring people i didn't what
00:10:08.060 i'm saying is gentlemen this is going to be offensive listen up if you ever if you don't
00:10:11.560 want to do dishes and you are successful enough to hire a maid hire a hot maid and i promise 0.98
00:10:16.520 your wife will do the damn 1.00
00:10:18.000 the damn