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Summary
In this episode we talk about cheating and monogamy in relationships and what it means to be a woman in a monogamous relationship. We also talk about pre-selection and why men cheat and why women should be monogamous.
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question would you give up monogamy for a man give up what monogamy what is that like he what he
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cheats for a guy that you like for the right yeah i i i'm way too for me no i yeah i no i don't think
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i can trust that guy again no i would just i'm too jealous i'll kill people are you monogamous now
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yes oh yeah yeah so in a way it's like in a way aren't you not monogamous now
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like a situationship it's not monogamy like usually the girl is monogamous but the guy isn't
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so it's funny no it's funny so there's girlfriends i had to make this i had to have this like thought
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too but it's like if you've ever been in a situationship in a way you're sharing a guy
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she's really thinking about it now yeah but i'm i'm not in i wouldn't be in a like committed
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relationship with someone and it's like yeah it's us and um and then be okay with him sleeping with
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anyone else would you be okay i don't say okay with it but what about accept it no even if i wanted to
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like i don't like i don't judge other people who do maybe i would like to want to but i'm telling you
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like someone would die i i think i think most girls would for the right guy except they might
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go crazy okay here's the thing about me i am a little bit oblivious because i'm very much in my
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own i i always say i've never been cheated of not that i know of maybe i'm so oblivious like i would
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not check a man's phone i mean he if he did cheat and he would be i'm so dumb for me he would be so
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dumb for me to find like i don't check a man's phone or like but i think you will probably if i
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did find out if i did find out if i walked in on him with someone else i honestly i don't think i
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would accept it i would like to be like why like why did you do that because men like to fuck yeah but
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i would do that four days straight i would i don't know why most women say no like why wouldn't you
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i had one of my friends he was like men like to new girls like multiple you know but what if you
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not all of them you know i i tell you like i coach a lot of men i coach a lot of men
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no not you're talking okay okay not all men okay i have a question like to different women and go
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through the whole thing of meeting a new woman and no no okay i i have a question do you think most men if
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they're in like tiger woods position because i actually no i used to i used to think like you i
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used to think oh they would never like like i know these guys that would never cheat but it's like
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most of those guys aren't in the position where women are chasing them down and hunting them down
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i don't know i've seen those guys and some of them don't yeah i've literally seen those guys i've hung
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out with those guys i've i've got a lot of male friends and they i mean there are there are exceptions
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but i just don't but then i wouldn't go out with somebody like in that's why i wouldn't go out with
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a footballer even if i could i mean when i was younger i could but i wouldn't i why would you
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want to go out with a guy who does have women throwing themselves on him all the time like she
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said about pre-selection but then i was gonna say now like if the guy high value whatever whatever
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you're kept you don't have to worry about anything you can just play football all day and then come home
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yeah do four days straight yeah now and then on on the fifth day he's with becky from no we're done
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what is it that no becky with a good hair really that sounds like a pretty good life yeah no you're
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telling me so you're you're 42 you're 42 you have a daughter and now you get you get to just be a
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stay-at-home wife just once a week just make me think no just once a week yeah he's good looking
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we're gonna have to get the police up here again definitely you're not gonna have to get the
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police but no no that's like that's what i'm saying like my no okay i i would be too jealous i would
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i am way too probably arrogant to no i wouldn't accept what if you listen to what you had to say
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remember what you said before about listening yeah but if he needs new
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whatever like he needs to go and have it like i know i can't live with that i can't live with that
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yeah see it's i'm also listen i'm also a germaphobe you weren't here how i was cleaning this like that
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is the other thing like i can't that even if i could get over it emotionally which i don't think i
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could i could not get over the germs and the the disgustingness of sleeping around i cannot tell you
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yeah see but it's so interesting because in a way like you you had a cat your hat yeah i mean you
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talked about a casual relationship so essentially most women have like essentially you are you're
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getting over that now no but if i've made the commitment yeah no that would be different for me
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the difference would be in yeah there's a commitment i've given my word you've given your word and we're
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going to be exclusive and then if you go and do that behind my back no okay no i know i would
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want to know why no i i under what do you what do you see but this is like a lack of understanding of
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guys do you know a hundred percent guys i mean i think even good guys would have a hard time if
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they're in a position where women are throwing at themselves at them every day but i wouldn't
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most guys but i wouldn't be with a man i would not be with a man but you're saying you wouldn't
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who's got you wouldn't throwing themselves at him all the time i wouldn't but the guy you're with
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probably is that's my point is like the guy you're with he said he's athletic you said he's got a good
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job you said he's tall like he probably is in a position where women are throwing themselves at him
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that's like three out of five things that you want most of the time yeah like all right then i'll forget
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about him like no no you got me thinking no no i wouldn't i i i probably actually you're right
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i'll ask him about that i don't know so i think me i don't know that's i think me and my question
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no it's just i had a guy point this out to me once like that like women will say they won't accept
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like non-monogamy yet most women have been in a situationship at some point which is non-monogamy
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so it's kind of like a double-edged but i have friends that their their husband just cheated on
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them a few times and they're still living together yeah no a lot of girls yeah i mean think about it
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it's like okay if you're if you're like 45 right 50 40 let's just say 45 and you get into a relationship
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with a guy or you've been with a guy and you find out he cheated and he pays for everything it's like
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what so you're gonna leave what's on the other side now you get to work for the next 30 40 years
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and this is why i'm saying yeah that's what i think like a man like would a man do that like
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that's what i'm saying my would a man stay with a woman who cheated on him no no but cheating is
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different for men yeah but but yeah that's what i i think my brain is like a matter i could not get
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over that like i am no yeah maybe maybe you couldn't my brain doesn't have that part where he could accept
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that i couldn't but do you see what i'm saying i think i would go with my calling
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you see what i'm saying though but you're in a situation ship now and so in a way you are accepting
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it you think about that do you know what i'm saying because it's it's just like it's a contradiction
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because you're saying i could never accept it but if you're in a non-monogamous relationship i'm not in
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a relationship it's a type of relationship right situation it's a situation ship i'm not trying
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to shame you for it i think i think it's really common that's why i'm going to end it thank you
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very much you know i know she's not saying it she just got me thinking don't jump to conclusions
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it's just interesting how i'll talk to girls about this and they'll be like no i would never i would
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never accept that and then a lot of those girls same girls are in situationships and if you're in
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a situation you're accepting yeah i don't think i could i would like to be one of those i don't think
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i physically could do it i honestly don't think i have it in me i saw that football man it is it's the
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high testosterone i don't think i have it in me no i mean you're not that's common but it's again it's
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still a contradiction because you are you know so you have it in you gotcha you know no because i
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don't know you don't know if if i yeah if i knew that's what i'm saying i told you i'm very oblivious
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i don't i don't stalk man i don't check the phone i don't like i i don't would you look the other what
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about if you just looked the other way and you know he might but no i i would say
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80 he isn't but then i don't know what do you i have reason to believe he isn't but i don't know
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100 he might be you're just trusting it no it's not even trust it's like no it's not even trust it's
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just i'm just looking at the reality and putting situation yeah and i don't think he would be but
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it could be could be but if i did see it or if i had evidence or if i did even think no he probably
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is no i would just ask him i would step over if he doesn't care about you he's gonna tell you the truth
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i i asked him kind of four or five months in and he said he wasn't but i haven't asked him recently
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but i know you said that the the headache that you gave him was within six months and then four
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or five months yeah you asked him if he's sleeping with anyone else so yeah maybe after i gave him my
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headache you said you said you were not in relationship with no but she's saying i'm
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still in a situation ship would you but do you agree that you're in a situation ship oh yeah i am in a
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situation do you know do you do you know it to be true that he isn't sleeping with anyone else i don't
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know 100 no okay you guys are trying to break up these relations yeah what's going on man we have
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a case that's what happens that mandana is that it's good the point she's making i'm i get it and
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i 100 like agree like um but that's why i don't i don't judge me i don't think women who stay with
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their men of truth i don't think oh my god you should leave him i have i don't you know what's
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interesting we had a guy um who um he talked about that he would break up with girls because he just
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felt like he couldn't stay faithful to them like he just couldn't do it no no and this is a dude that
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paid for everything he like 100 would take care of the bills and um the and he ended up like marrying
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this last girl because she said she could accept it and that girl i don't know i mean she ended up
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winning when you think about it because she got the deed to the house she got the well if that's your game
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yeah i mean i guess when you do have your own money i guess that maybe that's what it doesn't
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appeal to me that it doesn't mean anything to be honest for him to pay for everything well
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um it would be nice to be paid for everything and then you can just buy new football boots
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it depends what is important for that for that yeah for me it's more important to have them to
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myself than having but even even if it's just looks like a guy you're really attracted to
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even if it's height like you know i mean most i mean either way it's most guys that you want
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there aren't enough like more women want them yeah you know it's usually not just you
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yeah no 100 i said that tim i was like i bet all the others