JustPearlyThings - Reality Hit Her HARD

00:00:00.000 why do you want to be married because if you're a selfish person it seems like marriage just

00:00:04.400 wouldn't be for you um sometimes it feels like you just have to and i apologize sorry i apologize

00:00:12.060 for freezing in the beginning it's my first podcast i got a little bit nervous looking at

00:00:15.820 pearl and i was stuttering i had a speech i prepared i apologize that's not what you won't

00:00:20.600 get you're okay yeah you're not gonna get that yeah so why do you want to be married

00:00:24.400 it sounds like crazy but just the whole thought of the glamour side of it again i'm being selfish

00:00:30.680 the whole look of the wedding being in that white dress but then i'm just thinking about myself again

00:00:36.400 and it's poison and i admit that that's what they say women women want the marriage the wedding they

00:00:41.780 don't want the marriage yeah because being trapped down that terrifies me but why do you look at it

00:00:47.040 as trapped like what about it maybe it's because i'm damaged or i've always been a free spirit ever

00:00:52.640 since i was a child i always do what i want so if you're aware of that why don't you try to heal

00:00:57.940 that yeah but maybe i will get into that process but still now i am that free spirit until something

00:01:03.580 happens to me and i'll be like okay maybe i do need to change that all right and i empathize with you

00:01:09.340 because i've been broken and yeah i've been heartbroken i've been there before so what i said i

00:01:13.380 genuinely mean this i'm not judging you what i'm saying is if you're aware enough to realize that

00:01:17.820 okay i'm broken i've gone through things in my childhood and it's made me the

00:01:21.400 the person i am now okay but once you're aware of that you have the obligation and responsibility

00:01:27.840 to be better than that yeah because because i've i've let a heartbreak my first ever heartbreak i've

00:01:33.440 let that destroy me turn me into an evil person that hated women i've done that and i and i learned

00:01:38.820 from that and you know what i told myself never again i'm gonna be better to me i've been broken

00:01:44.800 in multiple relationships so be better be better now not not later listen now javon is shouting too

00:01:51.600 much listen bro how could she be better bro oh tell the teacher oh all right i'm not a teacher but i

00:01:58.120 will give you some advice from my personal experiences of healing you know like i said it's it starts with

00:02:03.780 awareness for one which i think i've i know you know because i am broken 100 and and that's fine

00:02:11.200 there's a lot of broken people i've been broken before i'm not judging what i'm saying is that

00:02:15.460 when you realize that you are broken you have a responsibility to yourself your well-being

00:02:20.340 mentally spiritually physically to fix that and you have to hold yourself accountable because you can't

00:02:27.100 point the finger at the guys that broke you yeah it's me that's responsible at the end of the day 0.98

00:02:31.420 their pieces of shit for doing what they did 100 i'm not saying like don't hold them accountable 0.97

00:02:35.540 but you have to hold yourself accountable over them because exactly exactly because every girl that 1.00

00:02:40.820 broke my heart guess what i don't give a i don't give a crap about that because you wonder what i 0.85

00:02:45.520 entertain that but i saw the signs that experience and think i can be positive about this and actually

00:02:52.880 realize it's a good thing in a way you turn it around oh 100 like i said in my field message in the

00:02:59.060 beginning because i i didn't think i'd be nervous but i was looking at pro i was nervous all knowledge

00:03:04.840 is given through pain and understanding you have to understand what that pain was there to teach you

00:03:10.080 when you put your hand on on a um when you're a kid and you don't know nobody and you're just

00:03:14.600 playing around and you put your hand on a stove and your mom tells you now you know the lessons

00:03:21.020 learned but you can't learn the lesson and continue to make the same mistakes yeah the same decisions

00:03:26.600 and then get on instagram social media talk to all your friends and play victim and say i don't

00:03:31.720 know no better you know better you've been hurt before so why do you continue to put yourself in

00:03:37.240 the same situations talk to the same people put yourself in the same environments that's going

00:03:42.020 to lead you to the pain that you're saying that i don't like so when i talk about healing and i'm

00:03:48.280 generally trying to help you because i because i understand the reality of women and i understand the 1.00

00:03:52.840 reality men there's a lot of broken people out there and i and i and if there's anything that i

00:03:57.000 want to get forward to this podcast and a message is that you can you can heal yourself i'm talking

00:04:03.000 about literally hundred percent you can heal yourself everybody talks about trauma everybody

00:04:07.320 talks about depression single person everybody ptsd everything struggling i'm telling you right now 1.00

00:04:13.320 if you dedicate this a year fuck social media fuck your friends i don't respectfully how do you 0.99

00:04:20.520 heal a hundred bodies hold on i'm gonna get to it anyway i need you i need you to reel it in a 1.00

00:04:25.400 little bit yeah i'm gonna reel it in i'm gonna reel it in you're going for a while so i'm i'm

00:04:29.240 reeling in so a hundred but the the the the real thing would to do would be just be to be honest

00:04:36.680 which i've done on this podcast i've opened up if you're a woman that's been with a hundred men 0.56

00:04:41.560 if you're a woman that's been with a hundred men the next thing to say to the man that you're

00:04:44.440 interested is in look i i've made these mistakes look accountability i think is the number one

00:04:50.040 trait that men look forward to and women because yeah we can judge you off your past that's natural

00:04:55.960 trait for men but if you don't have any accountability we're not going to feel sorry for

00:04:59.720 you we're not going to be interested but i'm telling you right now if i met a woman that was 1.00

00:05:02.760 like yo i have like 7 500 bodies but you know what those men didn't deserve me and that was at a point

00:05:09.000 where i didn't realize my value was a woman i didn't realize i was giving away the most pure gift that

00:05:13.560 i have as a woman and now i realized that gift and that's what i'm that's how i'm going to move

00:05:18.920 forward i respect that no i respect that listen bov giovanni would you go for a girl that has

00:05:25.480 over 100 bodies as your wife would you do that 100 bodies yeah over 100 bodies would you do that 1.00

00:05:33.880 that's what you're talking about no uh probably not but then again it also depends on the the

00:05:40.440 so wait you're just saying that what would you expect your woman to say to you like

00:05:45.080 do you want to say sorry or what no no not sorry because her decisions is her life and she shouldn't

00:05:49.640 apologize for any decision that she makes just like i'm not going to apologize for any decision but i

00:05:53.560 make but i think that there's there's a point in your life where you have to be accountable and you

00:05:57.240 have to be honest and if you've slept with 100 men you can never take that back okay bro i don't see

00:06:03.480 it's a problem though would you accept that jivani jivani would you accept that your wife has

00:06:08.760 i slept over 100 men would you accept that in general no you mean general what else is there to

00:06:15.400 let's move on and in general subject no because like i said there is such thing as connection and

00:06:21.000 there is such thing as the way why don't why don't you see it as an issue what sleep night with 100

00:06:27.960 yeah like you know because i'm just saying you live in reality reality you know men care about

00:06:32.440 that stuff right yeah so how because you don't think that could possibly be an issue later yeah

00:06:39.720 it might be but i never look at anything negative in life like i just feel like what's the point

00:06:45.880 because you're just going to get down about it anyway you can't do anything about it at this point

00:06:49.400 no what's the point i can't take back what i've done so but what's the point when it was black what

00:06:56.920 16 17 when you lose your virginity you're i mean i wasn't educated on about self-value and what it

00:07:03.080 meant to give like your body to someone so as a young lady if you're sleeping with people from i 0.99

00:07:08.520 mean i lost mine at 17 i didn't have the knowledge that i have now that's when i did then so if you're

00:07:14.680 a young lady having sex when you're older you might look back and think oh maybe i shouldn't have made 1.00

00:07:19.480 them choices because now i'm more aware of the consequences so i think it's a bit difficult to say

00:07:24.840 oh i wouldn't do that i wouldn't marry someone who's set with that many people because they could

00:07:28.360 be a completely different person 10 years exactly i'm glad you brought the point because birkin you're 1.00

00:07:32.920 100 correct i personally would not but when i said i think it i think that's very i'm talking about

00:07:40.520 just for the general man because like me like would you advise someone to do that to marry a girl with

00:07:47.640 a hundred bodies i mean i i encourage people to follow their heart like i don't think it makes

00:07:51.880 it follow their heart bro follow follow their heart because follow what heart bro what you talking

00:07:57.560 about so you're telling me that's right you give advice someone to follow their heart if they want

00:08:02.200 to sleep with or get married to a girl that's had a hundred bodies in a past yeah bro if they loved

00:08:08.040 them i know what i would i know what i would i know what i would and wouldn't do i wouldn't do that

00:08:15.160 but at the same time wow why would you not do that at the same time which one is it bro listen

00:08:19.560 bro which one is it listen man would you or would you know would you go for a girl with 100 plus 0.89

00:08:24.360 bodies or would you know me personally yes i said no i already answered your question so what's your

00:08:29.080 argument about no i'm not arguing are there or are there not men that out there that would accept that

00:08:36.040 there's there's a lot of men but they're not high valuable they don't know what they're doing okay

00:08:39.800 but that's not what the question was the question was you asked me if i would accept that i said no

00:08:45.160 and i said they asked me what the woman in their position would do and i said the best thing that

00:08:50.920 they could do is admit to the wrongs and tell the man that they're interested everyone should follow

00:08:55.880 their heart bro you're saying it's right yeah for a guy to get married to a girl that's got a hundred

00:09:00.920 plus bodies you feel that's right you're putting your views on other people i'm not respectfully i

00:09:12.280 don't respect your opinion but i'm not doing that i like i agree with you mean you're on the same page

00:09:18.120 as far as not accepting that but i'm not going to put my views on other people and tell them not to

00:09:22.760 accept that if they choose that that's what they choose to do and then the result of that is what

00:09:26.920 the result is it just if you like if it's someone you care about you would you like my brother yeah

00:09:33.720 right oh yeah okay but he's talking about men in general but if it's like family yeah that's one

00:09:38.200 that's different you should have said family no wait wait wait wait wait so i'm saying if someone

00:09:43.000 if it's someone you care about you would tell them not to do that someone i can't but yeah

00:09:47.000 we're always talking about people we care about or people in general well i mean people in general but

00:09:50.840 but i mean you know if it's good advice you would tell them not to mess with someone like that no

00:09:55.640 no offense let me tell you something here sorry but sorry to interrupt you as many of you know i was

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JustPearlyThings - May 12, 2023

Reality Hit Her HARD

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