Red Pilled Man NARRATES How He Got Married
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about how important it is to be the change in your life and in your business. We also talk about the importance of having a healthy mindset and how to deal with people criticising you.
Transcript
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See, I just sometimes you guys are saying things and I feel like they mean nothing.
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That's because if you feel the hardship and if you feel the, if you've been through the
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hardship and you've gone through the cycle of actually, okay, getting out from this hardship,
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If you don't understand the feeling and if you haven't gone through the process, it's
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If we're talking about business success, it's what, what are you doing?
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When I first started this, all right, it was just me.
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I was in a living room in a small apartment in East London and I was running to the gym
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trying to get people to get the gym to come on my podcast.
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But it's like, when we talk about, oh, this feeling revolving mentally, it's like, it's
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You've come from a privileged place where your mindset has been amazing for you.
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This is like a conversation with a 60-year-old.
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And I started changing my mindset, say, about 27, 28, when I realized that I had to deprogram.
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The results is you still can't have a conversation without getting defensive.
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When you're being attacked from people that don't know your life story or know your current...
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We were talking about being successful in business.
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The subject was about profession, like, in business, being successful in business.
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But the conversation has gone into, like, a spiritual journey and...
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Logic and emotion are two completely different things.
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I can see, basically, I get what you're saying.
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Everything's about feelings, emotions, but that's not what business is about.
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But sometimes people actually don't know business and they need to learn their lessons and then
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And I get your point as well, because I get it when you say, but you're talking about
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feelings and things, but feelings get involved when you learn a lesson and then you need
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I'm going to read the Super Chats really quick.
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Fine, guys, we're going to get Blessing another camera.
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Abby prioritizes winning an argument over learning from others.
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You are being heard, but you are still broke and alone.
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Amelia, have her back in a year to see if she made it.
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Zoroslaw, notice how masculine men in suits and feminine women left to the couch listens
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to understand, but masculine women and feminine men listen to respond with emotion.
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You're a prime example that I've made a great decision to invest in nimble food, wine, and IVF.
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Some women only believe in spousal abuse statistics.
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Matt Butcher, ladies, if you're in a good man's shoes, men lose half their shit in kids.
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Women cannot be honest because they always have someone in mind they don't want to hurt.
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You can't be honest about relationships until you realize the truth about your own parents.
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Women don't like numbers, and they don't paint a pretty picture for them.
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Only women and children are allowed to live in delusion.
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Successful wives of wealthy men are like good dance partners and know how to lead and when to back lead.
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Coming from a sex-positive lifestyle, trauma, a life-changing experience, when changes your entire core belief and or personality.
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Do women understand the importance of sex men require for commitment?
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Unstable people seek out enablers to validate their behavior.
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The others need to pay attention to him and listen to him.
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The panel doesn't deserve to share the room with Dimitri.
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He has so much knowledge, and you are squashing this opportunity.
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I want someone to grow old with equals I want someone to fund my retirement.
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Nothing, by the way, gives me more pleasure than to provide for my wife.
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Like, it's so fun because, man, I went to the airport this morning, and I'm stupid.
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She literally dropped everything, like, got whichever kid was at home in the car and drove
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And as I said, it's her 10-year wedding anniversary.
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You know, if I wasn't married to you for these last 10 years, I would be missing a flight right
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But, you know, but there are so many little things that she'll do to, like, actually make
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But it wasn't because, like, she figured out that, like.
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But, you know, it's like, I'd love to find somebody to fund my retirement.
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But it's like, are you the person, like, are you a person that guy picks?
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It's like that prospect is going to buy that product somewhere at some point.
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But are you being the person that that prospect wants to buy from?
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You know, and so it shifts the responsibility on me to better my.
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I was sitting down with a mentor of mine who had, like, a massive impact on my life.
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He was about 40 years old, like, extremely successful with women, with finances, everything.
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The guy was just a stud, went on to become a VP of a public company that sold for, like,
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Because, because, look, look, I didn't kiss the girl until I was 20.
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Because I needed to, I didn't understand the reality of what I was dealing with.
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Like, I thought I would meet a girl at 20 and marry her because my grandparents were both married
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And I've always wanted to ask Amanda's, obviously, of your level.
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And it's like, what do you think about, what's it called again?
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Man, I have some really controversial opinions on this.
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I had two conditions, three conditions for getting married.
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The first condition was my wife has to take my last name.
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It was that a mentor of mine told me that it signified something.
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My mom didn't take my dad's last name and they got divorced.
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And I saw that my mom didn't respect my dad like I felt he deserved the respect.
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Even though he suffered, he suffered with dignity.
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Like, I told my wife, like, I didn't know if I was ever going to get married.
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But if I went for it, I was going to go all in.
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But I'm going to make a real strategic decision.
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People are going to say, oh, but you're a businessman.
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My wife's told me this many, many times, like, sort of in a playful way.
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Kind of talk, you know, because we have hard conversations sometimes.
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She's like, look, if you divorce me, I don't want any money.
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She just said, I just want to make sure that I have the kids.
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I made that decision to step into that and say, I'm going to risk everything.
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Because maybe it's a courageous, you know, delusion that I had at the time.
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And maybe I'm just lucky that it worked out the way it has so far.
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So would you say that there's no wrong or right when it comes to that kind of decision?
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Because it is like a business kind of decision as well.
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Marriage to me was, look, again, 85% of millions.
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Are the laws different in the country you're in?
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Well, because the Canadian court system just is like Australia or the U.S.
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You know what's crazy is my wife's never had a public Instagram.
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And by the way, people that meet my wife, they're like, wow, Dimitri, like, really?
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Like, they're impressed that I got a girl of that caliber.
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Like, you know, people say, wow, is she like a model or something?
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Because, you know, so I did well in that regard.
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And I have my wife's first and only serious relationship.
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Well, and, of course, like, what bigger decision can a man make than to get married?
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I think when you're looking for a partner, you need to actually look at, do they actually,
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And if the little things match, and if you can deal with one another's differences in opinions, I think that's a winner.
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Because then you're showing that you have respect and you're listening and you're working as a team.
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I was going to say, so I'm sitting with my mentor.
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And then, like, I'm 22 and I'm single and I'm frustrated.
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And my life is not going the way I want it to go.
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I bought my first house at 23 and I was a full-time university student.
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So, like, there was a lot of changes that I was undergoing.
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Like, I took cold showers every freaking morning.
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In fact, my 1988 Toyota Corolla, actual 1988 Toyota Corolla that I took a girl on a date on,
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told me that she'll never go on a date with me again because my car smells like old people.
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And she thought I was a psycho, which makes sense because my Corolla had a Ferrari sticker on the steering wheel.
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Tony Robbins, no, it was Napoleon Hill, secrets of whatever, Napoleon Hill playing.
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And motivational quotes posted on all the mirrors.
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I'm like, and I said, dude, like, how do I get a happy and successful girlfriend?
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You're saying you've done the mentoring for the girlfriend.
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I had a, I went through that other phase too, by the way.
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And if you're listening to Napoleon Hill at 22, wow.
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But, because, well, guys, because I lived in the actual projects.
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Like, I lived, like, you know, the projects are social housing.
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Literally, I was rollerblading and somebody recruited me to go into sales.
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But here's the, and by the way, like, so, so he, I said, how do I get a happy and successful
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At the time, I was just, I just wanted a girl to like me.
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And it comes back to, you know, McConaughey quote.
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He does the thing like, don't chase a butterfly, build a garden.
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So a mentor of mine that had a really huge impact on my life.
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Like, he really told me, like, he's like, just build your own value.
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Focus on you and do everything you need to do to be the most attractive guy to the women
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Because I wasn't an attractive guy to women around me.
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I was rollerblading to university in the 1988 Corolla.
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The driving test I took the first time, he didn't let me drive the car.
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I said, I borrowed my dad's car because he said the car does not look safe.
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So, you know, at 22, I'm not a good prospect for women.
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Like, oh, it's not that I'm not good at getting women.
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Well, because I'm 22 and I was, at the time, I was going to university.
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Why do you think you were able to take that feedback?
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Where most women, if you say the men you want, don't want you.
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As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
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And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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