JustPearlyThings - July 17, 2023


Red Pilled Millionaire Makes This Dating Mistake

Topics
red flags on first dates
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Length

7 minutes

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232.56

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1,812

Sentence count

142

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Misogyny

21

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Toxicity

7

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7

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In this episode, we discuss red flags on a first date and how to spot them. We also talk about our own red flags and why they are important to look out for in a potential partner. We hope you enjoy, sit down, and have a nice drink.

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00:00:00.000 Try it one more time for fun.
00:00:03.600 I'm here to have a good time, you know.
00:00:20.040 That's all right.
00:00:20.800 Just keep your sound on in case they, I'll let you, you put your sound on.
00:00:26.200 If they call back, feel free to answer.
00:00:28.980 All right, what about you?
00:00:29.720 Red flag on a first date.
00:00:32.020 If we're talking about surface level red flags, it has to be not taking care of yourself.
00:00:38.120 So the way that would show up on a first date would be drinking, vaping.
00:00:43.160 Yeah, those would be the obvious ones.
00:00:44.400 Okay, and will you ghost after or will you send her a text like you're not interested anymore?
00:00:51.540 Either one.
00:00:52.880 Which one do you do more?
00:00:54.860 I don't really go on dates.
00:00:56.620 You don't go on any dates?
00:00:58.340 It has to break a major barrier to even get to that point.
00:01:02.660 So I'm not even risking, I'll never risk being on a date and then finding out about the red flag.
00:01:08.060 You know what I mean?
00:01:08.360 I have to have a high level of confidence to even.
00:01:10.760 So you have to like be friends with her first before you take her on a date?
00:01:13.980 Not to say friends, but be, you know, familiarized.
00:01:16.160 Oh, you have to like know her.
00:01:17.260 You wouldn't meet her off of an app or anything?
00:01:18.940 No.
00:01:19.420 No.
00:01:19.860 I mean, you could meet, but it'd have to be like some, some investigations and some interrogation.
00:01:24.800 You'll go through her IG or whatever.
00:01:27.220 Speak a good amount.
00:01:28.380 Understand.
00:01:28.960 Yeah.
00:01:29.140 What is this person about?
00:01:30.360 Okay.
00:01:31.160 And no, no ghosting.
00:01:33.520 It's like 50, 50.
00:01:35.180 Yeah.
00:01:35.420 Either one.
00:01:35.940 No, no affinity.
00:01:36.740 Could be ghosted, could be very straightforward and just let them know.
00:01:41.580 Dimitri.
00:01:42.440 Back in the day.
00:01:43.500 Well, so again, it's like how you meet the person matters.
00:01:46.240 Like for example, today in 2023, I find that some women, I'm seeing the internet and it 1.00
00:01:51.220 appears some women have penises. 1.00
00:01:52.340 That would be a very big red flag, an immediate disqualification. 0.99
00:01:57.320 But if I were to be honest, like, cause I can talk more honestly now, cause like I have
00:02:01.660 no skin in the game. 0.94
00:02:02.440 It's just be, she's fat. 1.00
00:02:03.620 Like, that's just like, sorry, but like you made a critical error in your decision making
00:02:07.700 and I see you as a risk, uh, to any potential, anything period.
00:02:11.940 And I can go much deeper into that, but that's like a, that's a miscalculation on your part.
00:02:15.520 So it's a no.
00:02:16.440 Okay.
00:02:16.900 So, but you wouldn't know if she was fat before the date. 1.00
00:02:20.200 Well, again, I'm saying it's like the context of what do I know?
00:02:22.720 Because like, like I can see, obviously like we can get catfished into that.
00:02:26.200 So if you misrepresented yourself, that's like, you're immediately an untrustworthy person.
00:02:30.300 What was like a red flag on a first date?
00:02:32.840 Like it's going well.
00:02:33.800 And then she, but she did.
00:02:36.280 Um, my goodness, man.
00:02:39.000 I mean, how transparent, I mean, again, like there's, you can list them all go on.
00:02:42.340 Like, like the thing for me is like, transparently, like I'm a salesman and I know like I am, I
00:02:47.700 am a salesman and like, as a salesman, my goal is always to close.
00:02:50.700 And so when I went on a date, like transparently, my goal was to get laid and it was specifically
00:02:55.880 entirely to get laid and everything I did and the way I optimized my actions through, and
00:02:59.860 that sounds like a psychopath, but the way that I optimized my actions through a number
00:03:03.160 of iterations of dates was like, I want to get laid on this date.
00:03:05.480 Right.
00:03:06.340 Um, and, and, and again, I'm going to get like super castigated for this in the comments.
00:03:11.220 Good.
00:03:11.800 Great.
00:03:12.220 Like I had gone on enough dates because I'd started approaching women and I started like,
00:03:16.160 Hey, what's your name?
00:03:16.960 Hey, I thought you were cute.
00:03:17.660 I want to say hi.
00:03:18.300 I'm not at the level of these risks guys now are, but I was very passionate about that
00:03:22.420 because I like to make myself uncomfortable and cross the barrier into the new comfort
00:03:26.080 zones.
00:03:26.320 Right.
00:03:26.880 Which is, I'm a salesman.
00:03:27.820 Like how did I make, and how do I make money?
00:03:29.440 I pick up the phone, I cold call and I learned to iterate, optimize, and then transform time
00:03:33.540 and energy into money.
00:03:34.260 Right.
00:03:35.160 Um, and I became extremely proficient at like the meet and close.
00:03:38.920 Like I'm going to meet you and, you know, within about three hours, because I'm going
00:03:42.600 to, you know, this dilute time through taking you to various venues, whatever the, that stuff
00:03:46.680 was at the time, that's, what's going to happen.
00:03:49.540 Um, so I don't know if I could, so maybe she stays the night, but she did something and 0.65
00:03:54.880 made you not call her back.
00:03:55.860 I'm asking like, what would make you not call a girl?
00:03:57.840 Um, I think, I think, I think what happens is over time is if you are successful that you
00:04:02.080 start to notice some pretty resounding patterns.
00:04:04.580 Like if a girl says, I never do this, it means she always does it, you know? 0.98
00:04:07.760 Uh, so if a girl starts to give me signals of virtue that I know she's actually covering 0.98
00:04:11.700 for the fact that she is promiscuous, um, which is very, I, okay.
00:04:15.760 I, it is incredibly, um, hypocritical of me to say that obviously if I'm optimizing to
00:04:20.940 get late and I'm saying, well, if you do it, then you're whatever.
00:04:23.000 And you're doing that, whatever.
00:04:24.040 Right.
00:04:24.760 Um, but yeah, signals of non purity and non chastity would be, would be big.
00:04:28.660 Um, one of the things that I absolutely, some examples other than that.
00:04:31.760 So if she says I never do this, what else?
00:04:33.660 Yeah.
00:04:33.900 Like, like, for example, look, when you're in a context of a date, like she absolutely
00:04:38.400 knows what's happening.
00:04:39.260 You're just trying to make it, you know, seem like it's not happening, even though it's
00:04:42.440 like, it just happened, but you know, it's clearly happening.
00:04:45.120 Um, you know, if a woman exhibits more masculine behavior, for example, like it's very clear 0.85
00:04:49.960 that like a woman that makes decisions and acts like a man is, is more promiscuous and science 1.00
00:04:53.920 has actually proven that and backed that up as well.
00:04:55.780 Um, but I'll say this one thing that really attracted me to the woman that became my wife
00:05:00.860 is that it was very apparent to me that she really wasn't that experienced, um, in being
00:05:06.800 seduced.
00:05:07.660 Like it was very clear to me because, and this is why, this is where I have a divergence
00:05:11.820 with a lot of people that follow your channel, because I'm generally a pretty conservative
00:05:14.980 guy.
00:05:15.820 Right.
00:05:16.240 But then guys, and then you would say, well, so you're saying you should date to marry.
00:05:19.500 I'm like, no, as a man, you should date to get laid because you want to learn about
00:05:23.060 the nature of women, understand the patterns that they exhibit and make yourself the best 1.00
00:05:26.680 version for the woman you'll eventually marry and be dangerous and have those options. 0.92
00:05:30.060 And a lot of guys are like, you can't say that you're just giving out your body.
00:05:32.540 It's like, no guys, nobody wants your body. 0.93
00:05:34.920 Like you got to learn how for a woman to actually, to actually want you. 0.98
00:05:37.980 Like that's, that's a really difficult skill to learn and a worthy one.
00:05:41.640 Um, but for me, like if I can tell that she's more promiscuous, um, and you can tell 0.93
00:05:46.340 those patterns very quickly once you've seen enough times, obviously that's like, okay,
00:05:49.240 I can't escalate, but I'll, but I may have kept her around for other means and
00:05:52.820 purposes, right?
00:05:54.380 Transparently.
00:05:54.940 Tell them about the one girl you dated.
00:05:57.100 Well, so she was, I mean, I, I got what I deserved.
00:05:59.620 She was a stripper, but I was, I was young at the time.
00:06:01.680 Yeah.
00:06:02.460 Um, and she was like, just, she actually approached me.
00:06:05.520 It was at the W hotel in Dallas, Texas.
00:06:08.500 I was living in Texas at the time.
00:06:09.840 And there's a club and like, I think the sub penthouse or the penthouse floor in the
00:06:12.620 W hotel.
00:06:14.100 And she came up to me and we started talking.
00:06:15.840 I was just like, oh my God, she's so hot. 1.00
00:06:17.780 And she was like, to me, she was a 10.
00:06:19.680 Like she just looked like, I was like, I was blown away that she's talking.
00:06:22.820 And then, and then I find out she's a sports fan.
00:06:25.760 We go to a sporting event and there's all these, you know, players on the, on the, uh,
00:06:30.040 in the arena playing whatever I was in the sport.
00:06:32.080 And, and there was, I think 10, 10 players on, it was a hockey game.
00:06:36.720 And she had like gone through and she had slept with eight of them.
00:06:39.280 No way.
00:06:39.980 Dude.
00:06:40.660 No way.
00:06:41.840 And then, and then she started like, this was after a few months that we'd been like
00:06:44.680 kind of seeing each other.
00:06:45.540 I was young and, but, but she was so hot and sexually, she helped me grow so much 1.00
00:06:48.900 because she was so sexually, like, she was just like taking me on a ride.
00:06:52.240 I was like, this is, I'm calling my friends, guys, this is the greatest thing I've ever
00:06:54.820 experienced.
00:06:55.480 It's amazing.
00:06:56.340 And she owns a house. 0.98
00:06:57.420 I don't know how she owns a house. 0.99
00:06:58.400 And it turns out, I mean, I was inexperienced.
00:06:59.840 This is what made me wake up.
00:07:00.880 I'm like, I thought this was the greatest chick ever.
00:07:02.560 It's like, no, she had, she owned a house in the early twenties.
00:07:04.780 Cause she was a stripper. 1.00
00:07:05.980 And then, and then it came out all the famous, cause she's asking me one time, did you ever
00:07:08.980 sleep with anyone famous?
00:07:09.920 So my other time I'm like, no, at that time I hadn't.
00:07:12.280 And then she's like, oh, I should tell you.
00:07:13.940 And I was this guy.
00:07:14.620 And then, and then I realized that for her, she was one of those groupie chicks that like 0.84
00:07:18.420 her, her confidence grew because she was able to get guys that other women couldn't 1.00
00:07:23.340 because these guys actually could reject women.
00:07:25.100 Right. 0.99
00:07:25.720 And then I'm like, and I'm like, holy crap, man. 0.99
00:07:27.840 Like, no wonder she's blowing my mind sexually. 1.00
00:07:29.740 And I realized right away, I'm like, oh, I can't take her seriously anymore.
00:07:32.260 But I was infatuated because I just, you know, I, I was in my early twenties and when a woman 0.74
00:07:36.840 that's that hot that she can sleep with eight list celebrities is giving you some, you're 1.00
00:07:40.880 just like, ah, I'm living in a movie.
00:07:43.680 But, but obviously like, no, as a wife, like that, that would be a terrible decision.