JustPearlyThings - July 27, 2023


She Admits This SHOCKING TRUTH About Herself

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Modern Women Don't Understand The Concept Of MARRIAGE Modern Man Claimed to be FAITHFUL

Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

195.94

Word count

1,890

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

5

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Toxicity

7

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Hate speech

1

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Summary

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In this episode, we have our first guest on the show, Efe, who talks about her experience growing up in a multi-cultural family. She talks about growing up as a single mom and how she dealt with the pressures of being raised in a religious and cultural environment.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 what what was the most surprising thing you've learned from like you learned from the show
00:00:04.940 yesterday i think it was that statistic i can't remember which one it was now so
00:00:11.300 it's not much use but um definitely i think it was like the oh the percentage of men that are
00:00:19.040 over six foot tall is only 15 percent it's really shocking it kind of makes sense though when you
00:00:24.820 think about it yeah like because women are always saying like men are trash yeah and all that you 0.93
00:00:28.920 know it's like oh they always think they're dogs yeah we're the ones yeah literally yeah that 0.93
00:00:37.100 definitely and it was also good to hear other people's views like a few um a few things did
00:00:41.740 actually change my perspective on things men are actually simple creatures i was saying this
00:00:47.260 earlier they don't need a lot what do you think of blessing when he like came in and was like asking
00:00:52.220 the questions what do you guys think no i think it was good to have a men's perspective i actually do
00:00:57.320 because we didn't have any other obviously there was no men on the panel and it's good to hear from
00:01:02.560 the actual male point of view i understood his perspective but i don't necessarily fully agree
00:01:07.900 with it what do you not agree with i don't agree with the fact that if i have something to say i
00:01:13.880 should be like just i get the submissive part but i just don't think it's like right for me not to
00:01:18.740 have a voice or not to have a say yeah yeah but it's understandable i understand but you know i do
00:01:23.920 think though i think the point he was trying to get across is if you're with someone and you're
00:01:28.120 married you guys have the same views you're not going to really disagree on or you you should
00:01:32.460 right yeah you should there's not going to be much disagreement there because if you disagree on
00:01:36.180 everything or you question everything then you guys aren't really compatible i was curious what was
00:01:40.180 it like growing up in a multi like were your parents religious or they weren't religious my mom
00:01:45.480 was religious my dad was kind of religious i mean he wasn't really yeah he was he was just like
00:01:50.740 open the quran close it because just give them a background your your mom is what and your dad is
00:01:55.220 what so my mom's nigerian and my dad is from iran so he grew up as a muslim and a bit spiritual as
00:02:01.320 well and my mom grew up as a christian and spiritual as well so they had like yeah both of those but my mom 0.84
00:02:07.240 has always been really open-minded to other religions so has my dad and that's why i feel like they
00:02:11.680 that was already yeah that was already like an open gate for them to get to know each other 0.80
00:02:18.580 um i moved around a lot countries wise so i was born in germany oh shut up yeah 0.52
00:02:25.780 but i also lived in nigeria and that was a complete switch of like scenario and environment and it was
00:02:39.920 you looked in nigeria for eight years really wow so how old were you when you moved um i was eight
00:02:45.940 years old and i left when i was 14 or 16 no way do you think that was good for you as a kid no no
00:02:52.420 very traumatic yeah extremely just chaos but i don't blame anyone for that i feel like i just need to
00:03:00.520 learn and grow yeah i guess because you're moving around so much you have to like leave all your friends
00:03:04.640 and when you're younger you're not you have to like re-adapt and like build new friends then you
00:03:08.380 you're a complete different country you kind of lose those connections exactly so it's like starting
00:03:12.960 fresh each time it's a lot when you're younger because you obviously when your friends mean so
00:03:16.380 much to you when you're younger when you're older you can kind of pick up exactly 14 where'd you go
00:03:21.580 from 14 here i'm here yeah wow she lived in three wow that is so insane crazy how many siblings did
00:03:28.820 you have three sisters was it easier because you had the sisters at least oh they made they made life
00:03:36.020 so much easier okay keeping up with the kardashian was like a religious thing for us
00:03:40.920 like every i think saturday or friday or whatever it was we would like come together as a family and
00:03:47.220 watch it together just for the sake of like having that family time not even paying attention to what
00:03:51.180 we was watching just having that closeness was very important so i can't imagine doing that as like
00:03:57.360 an only child or like two kids like at least i i came from a big family i had nine siblings total so
00:04:03.400 it was a lot of us but i'm like i can't imagine three countries no siblings yes that would be crazy
00:04:08.300 it's a huge culture shock as well because yeah i'm a big family person out of all of my sisters my mom
00:04:14.860 i'm the biggest like i'm the most attached to my family and so what country was your favorite to live
00:04:20.700 in germany because i don't remember a lot yeah and i still had my dad around there but as we moved to
00:04:29.920 nigeria things just got absolutely just horrible wait your dad wasn't around in nigeria he he did come
00:04:37.720 but he was like in and out of prison he was just like affiliated with gangs your dad was in prison yeah
00:04:43.440 oh my gosh he was like a mafia you should write a book is he still right where's he now oh you don't
00:04:49.600 know he just vanished disappeared off the face of the earth literally yeah crazy do you think that's
00:04:55.380 affected like your dating and relationships and your ability to like understand them it's affected
00:05:00.720 everything i know to be humane because i i i always try to put myself in people's
00:05:11.380 position and just like see things from people's point of view um obviously with my mom i grew up
00:05:19.320 very much with her like from what i remember it was all my mom my mom was my dad my mom was my mom
00:05:24.100 my mom was my grandpa my mom was my grandma so she filled in that role but emotionally i don't think
00:05:29.440 she was there a lot it was more like work keep the kids safe work keep the kids safe so because 0.77
00:05:35.100 just listening to your stories i kind of sense that maybe there wasn't a dad in the picture
00:05:39.520 just because like when you're describing your ex i'm like there's no way a dad would let that happen
00:05:43.600 honestly there's no way this is craziness yeah yeah you're right yeah i definitely think having a
00:05:49.700 father figure there present has a huge impact on the type of men you go for
00:05:54.260 mm-hmm 100 especially when you see how your dad treats your mom yeah has a huge impact on how
00:06:01.580 what you accept as in the dating because you're especially you you're naturally very feminine
00:06:08.240 like because some girls come on and they like act like dudes but you're not like that you act like
00:06:12.600 pretty feminine and that's because i've not had a voice for so long yeah i was i was so quiet i was
00:06:19.240 anxious i was scared of everything and anything because of how much trauma i had been through in
00:06:23.700 my life so i felt like everywhere i went was like a danger zone like i have to be on guard
00:06:28.800 come in thank you
00:06:30.800 we're live so that was
00:06:34.520 hey
00:06:36.760 we're live yeah 1.00
00:06:41.040 oh shit 0.99
00:06:42.320 he's like wrong time 0.98
00:06:46.200 the screen recording isn't the audio like the audio is picking us up but we can't do the screen
00:06:52.680 yeah like when we play the video we can't hear it in the headphones
00:06:58.400 yeah
00:07:00.400 yeah the crazy live 0.67
00:07:02.400 girl 0.91
00:07:03.400 i don't know
00:07:06.120 yeah
00:07:07.120 i don't know
00:07:09.120 i was so young i couldn't
00:07:13.400 uh
00:07:14.120 yeah
00:07:15.120 blessing
00:07:17.120 i was going to be
00:07:18.120 let me hear it now
00:07:19.240 sometimes
00:07:19.760 oh i can hear it now
00:07:20.800 yeah when i was
00:07:21.520 what did i have to do
00:07:22.480 my mom was going to be my
00:07:23.560 i'm sorry
00:07:25.120 but it ended up happening because my dad didn't want to go
00:07:27.680 i'm sorry
00:07:29.120 yeah
00:07:30.120 yeah
00:07:31.120 it's crazy my life would have been completely different
00:07:32.400 it's live i don't know what you want
00:07:34.040 you could have told me when i was coming
00:07:35.520 you could have looked too
00:07:36.840 i looked
00:07:37.440 really
00:07:38.000 you have been looked
00:07:38.880 but you could have looked
00:07:39.800 i said you could always look
00:07:42.000 it was the best trip ever
00:07:43.400 i like it
00:07:44.000 could you while you're here could you switch the thumbnail
00:07:46.240 i'm gonna look at holiday i've been on
00:07:47.040 i'm really
00:07:48.360 yeah it's still a thumbnail from yesterday
00:07:50.440 i thought i was gonna have a holiday on the question i do but it turns out
00:07:53.200 okay fine fine fine i told chris
00:07:56.640 i told chris
00:07:57.640 so yeah and he got picked out of school that i knew
00:07:59.760 because he chased um he chased the boy around the school with a stick on fire
00:08:02.760 okay that's fine
00:08:04.760 and they were like oh we're sending you a holiday
00:08:06.760 just uh text me and i'll tell him to go
00:08:08.760 yeah
00:08:10.760 are you gonna take both of them
00:08:12.760 he got sent to nigeria so he's been on holiday and then left him there
00:08:16.760 are you able to come downstairs yeah
00:08:17.760 yeah of course
00:08:18.760 i'll take one of you who wants to stay
00:08:19.760 oh i don't mind
00:08:20.760 yeah let's go
00:08:21.760 i mean i'll go because you guys have had like a more of a conversation live so
00:08:24.760 okay
00:08:25.760 might as well finish it off
00:08:26.760 yeah
00:08:27.760 yeah
00:08:28.760 yeah
00:08:29.760 bye guys
00:08:30.760 bye
00:08:31.760 bye
00:08:32.760 i think i should put them back
00:08:33.760 it's crazy
00:08:34.760 i have a question
00:08:36.760 what's up
00:08:37.760 why do you do
00:08:38.760 why do you make these so long
00:08:40.760 oh
00:08:41.760 well because
00:08:42.760 guys with the green
00:08:43.760 it's like
00:08:44.760 that's what i was thinking
00:08:45.760 i was like
00:08:46.760 she actually is very pretty 0.51
00:08:47.760 and actually i was like i think men would actually like
00:08:50.760 like her
00:08:51.760 but i'm like why do you market like this is like horror nails
00:08:55.760 like why is this this is like bad advertising
00:08:59.760 well i don't get my nails done very often and i was i went to germany recently to visit my sister
00:09:03.760 uh-huh
00:09:04.760 and so i was like you know what i'm just trying
00:09:05.760 yeah but it's like you can do it like here
00:09:07.760 my answer is the exact same thing too
00:09:09.760 not my real dad but
00:09:10.760 yeah
00:09:11.760 the and it's like the the eye the green
00:09:14.760 yeah you came in today you look like a different person
00:09:16.760 i was like what the why did she do this 1.00
00:09:18.760 actually i love it i love it i love to just i don't know just don't expect anything from me
00:09:26.760 don't expect anything from me
00:09:27.760 don't expect what do you mean
00:09:28.760 i'll be spontaneous like i'm very
00:09:30.760 yeah
00:09:31.760 okay we're gonna show you
00:09:33.760 frickin
00:09:34.760 um all right
00:09:36.760 i actually don't really feel like