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00:00:00.000 what percent of guys do you think are over six foot one percent lucky guess 56 56 percent i'm

00:00:08.320 gonna say 35 35 42 42 huh um how many i'm not drunk guys um i would say 30 30 30 so it's only 15

00:00:22.080 percent of guys wow and now think about it think about it if uh how many people said they have an

00:00:27.040 x over six foot you did you did you did all sleeping with the same guys huh yeah that's that's what i 0.58

00:00:33.520 mean like not not you personally but women in general are sleeping with the same guys because 1.00

00:00:39.680 80 of women want 20 of men no that is mad so the reason like women think men are trash and they 0.98

00:00:46.320 think they're sleeping around all the time is because we go for such a small percentage of of

00:00:49.760 men and they are sleeping around all the time but the majority of men if you go to tesco you

00:00:54.160 think they're getting any play okay so you're saying you're saying it comes to our choice in

00:00:59.440 men right that makes us think the rest of the same okay that's the first statement actually yeah i

00:01:05.680 agree with that yeah that's a very interesting because i feel like a lot of the time like

00:01:10.800 women when they're younger yeah they go for like the bad boy or like something and as you get older 1.00

00:01:15.680 you kind of realize that like certain traits that you would like find attractive like someone who's

00:01:21.040 emotionally unavailable they become unattractive as you get older you're only 22 right

00:01:29.840 but you know what i've seen so many like people get into relationships and it's just

00:01:32.800 like all flops and it's like yeah i'm scared i'm actually terrified so um have you guys had a toxic

00:01:40.400 ex yeah yes um it wasn't an ex but i guess yeah sort of toxic yeah okay um no but i've had people

00:01:47.600 who you feel felt like they're obliged by having a say in my life because they like me

00:02:00.640 yes or no i need a yes no no no no me i would say yeah yeah okay um how long were you involved with

00:02:08.960 your toxic ex a year and a half yeah did you love him yes yes five years five years oh my goodness that

00:02:17.360 is mad five years that is crazy did you love him that's how you know it's toxic five years you

00:02:23.280 didn't love him i don't know it was i wasn't like in a relationship with him but it was just a very

00:02:27.600 toxic situation so okay so you know you didn't love him yes or no um i don't know maybe it was love to

00:02:35.360 me at the time but now i see it i don't think it's love like now when i look back on it okay wow five years

00:02:41.760 okay so i actually never been in a relationship like properly where i can say oh you know with

00:02:46.080 boyfriend and girlfriend yeah but i've been in a lot of situations where i'm dating a guy and i would

00:02:51.120 say yeah i'm this girl and he's been quite toxic so yeah you would yes yes and how long were you with

00:02:56.240 him um i was with him for about must have been like five months not long five months yeah i'm a busy

00:03:05.520 woman i haven't really got time did you did you love him no no okay so question question based on

00:03:12.400 this panel two out of four of you said you loved your toxic ex and you were with him for over a

00:03:16.960 year would you say by that statement young women love toxic men yes yes do you know what it is i 0.55

00:03:22.800 think when you're young you don't really know your boundaries properly yet and a lot of people put up

00:03:28.240 with stuff that they wouldn't usually put up with like i always say now like men only treat you

00:03:33.280 bad if you let them if you let them yeah if you let them treat you bad and you don't if you don't

00:03:37.840 respect your boundaries then they're gonna walk all over you and i think that's just bad guys though

00:03:43.120 i think that's just bad guys like i think there's something about young women like picking the bad 1.00

00:03:48.080 boys like i don't think you know what a nice guy isn't gonna walk all over you if you treat them well

00:03:54.320 i'm the youngest in here and i will tell you yeah it's because it's exciting it's like almost like an

00:03:58.720 adrenaline yeah especially when i have high energy we bounce off each other i knew it when she was 1.00

00:04:05.120 talking about the following i was like she likes the drama yeah literally but i also feel like yeah

00:04:11.440 it's not sorry i also feel like it depends on your circumstances as the young girl because i with me i

00:04:17.360 depended on my ex for living for food for everything so i felt like i was chained to him like i was his

00:04:25.360 had no one else you know so it was like circumstances made me and be in that situation so what about

00:04:31.120 that situation was toxic uh well he was basically like cheating around flirting with other girls at

00:04:38.960 work um i didn't know obviously because i was just like at home i didn't have a job i was just like

00:04:44.640 living off him you know but i feel like he he um had that power over me because i allowed him to

00:04:51.600 obviously so yeah so was it more than cheating or was he a good boyfriend outside of that it was

00:04:57.920 more than cheating i was involved in certain things as well so i felt like if he did if he could do i

00:05:02.880 could do it too okay so you were cheating you were both cheating on each other yeah then couldn't you

00:05:06.640 just done a standstill and then got along um no because i mean we did have conversations about it we

00:05:14.080 were very open with each other but then obviously the cheating was lies he because he kept it from me so

00:05:20.560 did you keep your cheating from him no i told him i told him how did you you don't want you don't

00:05:25.760 know you don't want to know who i cheated on him with but um no you don't no i don't think this is

00:05:32.480 he famous no he's not no no no okay do i know who's he do i know him no you don't

00:05:37.760 oh okay i cheated on him with his sister 1.00

00:05:44.160 what the hell listen if you break me i will break you back 0.98

00:05:48.560 i'm a changed person i am a changed person i'm a changed okay so what so why why why his sister 0.98

00:06:05.200 i'm just gonna sip my drink me and his sister were really good friends i mean clearly

00:06:09.520 what we were really good friends and obviously one day she said she wanted to come over and i

00:06:18.960 said cool he was at work we got drunk and she started like pouncing on me okay i'm not even

00:06:24.560 trying to like i'm so serious like she and i was like no like this isn't right and she was like no

00:06:28.880 and then it happened and i was like and then you told him yeah i told him how did he react he almost

00:06:34.720 killed me was she younger how old was she she was younger yeah but we had a conversation about it

00:06:40.560 and i can't pay out his ethnicity anyway um it's it's almost like common from where he's from

00:06:48.800 pardon yeah where is he we can't tell you oh my goodness at this point what's the what's holding

00:06:56.880 you back what country what country do we need to not date um let's just say somewhere in africa

00:07:04.880 somewhere somewhere in africa yeah okay where where in africa is that common that's not coming

00:07:10.160 where i'm from where in africa okay so south africa oh wow guys please don't get onto me i've honestly

00:07:18.480 learned something i'm not gonna lie no but um it's not coming but it was like a thing within his

00:07:27.040 i'll take your word i feel like it's just getting worse but um the thing within his family and i

00:07:31.840 said his family why did you pick that up because you said it you know like i could hear but because

00:07:38.560 i'm regardless of whether i did something wrong or not regardless of whether i hurt someone's feeling

00:07:43.360 or not i am an honest person and i feel like that's very very important if you're if you're talking to

00:07:49.840 someone if you're in a relationship with someone if you're just with people anyway you know so i i just

00:07:55.280 i clarified that with him he got upset he came back and he was like thank you for being honest

00:07:59.360 with me you know so it was like yeah but he was toxic for cheating on you and not telling you

00:08:05.840 yes i had to find out would you would you rather have him told you yes do you think men lie to women

00:08:11.840 they care about or that they or they tell the truth to women they lie to women they care about and they 0.55

00:08:16.720 feel like maybe like certain characteristics that they have for example um some because some women are 1.00

00:08:23.440 really stern like if you cheat on me that's it and because they care so much they don't want to lose

00:08:27.520 you so that thought of having to lose you would now be in be in their head obviously and yeah they

00:08:33.440 wouldn't they wouldn't tell you so outside of the cheating anything else toxic or just that um

00:08:39.760 yeah we smoked a lot of stuff

00:08:44.400 i guess that was toxic yeah okay um all right what about you

00:08:53.440 um what was the question um what was toxic about you said you had a toxic situationship

00:09:02.960 yeah what was toxic about it um it was very emotionally abusive so like even though i see

00:09:08.640 myself as a strong person but there's only so many times you can like get knocked down and i

00:09:12.720 dealt with it and i feel like i didn't respect my own boundaries which led to me being in that situation

00:09:18.320 um yeah it was just very unhealthy what is emotional abuse um i think to constantly knock

00:09:26.000 someone's confidence down make them feel bad about themselves to threaten them like what specifically

00:09:32.640 um i don't know like it could really be anything like you know just i'm asking like to you like what

00:09:39.040 did he say like what how was he emotionally abusive oh he just like just used to knock me down i used to

00:09:45.360 be a bit slow because i had a history of like doing like party drugs and like i feel like it actually

00:09:52.000 affected my like mental development a bit like i had a starter for a long time like i was a bit slow

00:09:58.160 and it was one of my biggest insecurities and i used to get dig that a lot for that like oh you're 0.96

00:10:03.280 so slow you're stupid you're this and that's what he would say to you yeah and also um i lost a lot of 0.99

00:10:08.560 weight because of stress and i was very insecure in my skin you're so skinny like you lost so much weight 1.00

00:10:14.080 and it would just make me feel like a bit rubbish about myself um and what did what did you say to

00:10:20.320 him back like did you push back or what yeah i would push back i would tell him like don't talk to me

00:10:24.640 like that or i don't like that or something because he did used to like threaten me and stuff but he

00:10:28.240 used to threaten you yeah he was he wasn't like threatened threatened to do like what kill you or

00:10:34.160 no like just to like you know bring his fists up to me and stuff i knew he would never do anything

00:10:38.720 but like yeah it was just not a nice situation i would always stand my ground about that but i

00:10:43.680 would continue to put up with it for so long so that's why like i was disrespected for so long

00:10:50.400 but literally after i got out of it i put on weight like i was i got a glow like life is good

00:10:55.840 oh we love a happy ending yeah um what about no you you said yes i mean i can't lie you were sort of

00:11:07.440 maybe you know no he told you not to wear something

00:11:12.080 i relate to her as well because you know what it is now i'm hearing both the stories maybe i have

00:11:25.360 actually been in a toxic um relationship we say or toxic x but everyone has their own meaning of toxic

00:11:31.360 at the end of the day obviously i'm sure there is like a meaning by book but everyone has their like

00:11:35.920 individual meaning yeah yeah one meaning yeah you know what i'm trying to say but yeah basically i

00:11:42.960 think with me obviously um it wasn't for that long i think i think what's toxic is like he was saying

00:11:50.080 he wanted to see me but didn't see me and this was about eight months so he would say he'd want to see

00:11:55.440 you and then he wouldn't see you

00:11:56.640 because he constantly like makes promises to you or makes plans with you and lets you down

00:12:07.440 consistently and it's like you know with me you cannot take advantage of me i'll be like leave

00:12:12.160 then stop leading me on i'm not leaving you on have you ever um promised to go on a date and not

00:12:17.040 go went not went have you ever blown off a guy for a date yeah yeah are you guys all toxic yes

00:12:22.720 you know yeah i used to be i used to be i used to do the whole life i used to do the whole player

00:12:28.640 thing i will lead you on and then just maybe i'm pretty sure all girls have entertained guys like

00:12:32.720 plenty of times in their lifetime it's just interesting because yeah yeah but women aren't 1.00

00:12:37.200 demonized for it men are we call it entertainment entertainment entertainment entertainment right but

00:12:46.160 so you can say guys you can say like a rotation entertainment ha ha ha but when a guy says that he's

00:12:51.840 toxic yeah yeah that's absolutely correct he says the exact same thing i do think women can be just 1.00

00:12:57.120 as bad as men though some women are actually demons like yeah evil pure evil yeah tell me who are you 1.00

00:13:03.920 thinking of what story no i've just like seen how like some women treat men and like you know um some 1.00

00:13:12.320 women can be very narcissistic i think social media especially has like become a breeding ground for 1.00

00:13:18.640 narcissism and a lot of people but i do also think the term's thrown around very loosely and a lot

00:13:23.920 of people accuse of being a narcissist when they're actually not no but what what girl you said you

00:13:28.560 could think of a narcissistic girls or story give us a two yeah um i mean i could use like my i don't 0.97

00:13:38.400 know like i don't know any narcissistic women but i've like heard stories oh you've heard stories i've heard 1.00

00:13:43.440 lots of stories and it's it's actually like heartbreaking because a lot of the time these men really care for

00:13:48.640 us they're trapped in this abusive relationship you know what a lot of girls trap guys by getting 1.00

00:13:54.160 pregnant they do but at the same time and then they have all this baby mom and dad job but it's like

00:13:58.800 it's mad no but you know what it is yeah when it comes to like trapping a man with a baby you need

00:14:02.960 to be careful who you sleep with if you're sleeping with people loosely and you you run the risk of

00:14:08.400 getting that person pregnant so you have to you have to sit like you dug your grave 1.00

00:14:12.480 what we said earlier do you remember we said earlier about if you you only go into place with

00:14:16.080 that person you don't have a person you want to be with them and you get into relationship because

00:14:18.960 of trust and then you'd only sleep with that person if you're like john mean that yeah at the

00:14:23.520 same time at the same time if you don't want a baby then you need to wrap up because yeah as much

00:14:28.480 as it takes two to tango you need to protect yourself for your own good like yeah yeah the woman can 1.00

00:14:33.360 say she's on the pill she's on this she's on that but like at the same time protect yourself you know you

00:14:38.880 said you've you've heard of a girl trapping a guy tell me about that oh no we're just baiting

00:14:45.040 people's business obviously someone in the media in this channel about who it is

00:14:51.920 i can't even show you can if you want uh yeah be careful babes be careful but but what was i gonna say

00:14:58.800 obviously um as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis

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