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Summary
In this episode, we discuss toxic exes, toxic men, toxic relationships and toxic men in general. We also discuss how toxic men affect our perception of men and why we choose toxic men over good ones. We have a panel of 4 women who share their experiences of dating toxic men and how they have dealt with them.
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what percent of guys do you think are over six foot one percent lucky guess 56 56 percent i'm
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gonna say 35 35 42 42 huh um how many i'm not drunk guys um i would say 30 30 30 so it's only 15
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percent of guys wow and now think about it think about it if uh how many people said they have an
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x over six foot you did you did you did all sleeping with the same guys huh yeah that's that's what i
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mean like not not you personally but women in general are sleeping with the same guys because
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80 of women want 20 of men no that is mad so the reason like women think men are trash and they
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think they're sleeping around all the time is because we go for such a small percentage of of
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men and they are sleeping around all the time but the majority of men if you go to tesco you
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think they're getting any play okay so you're saying you're saying it comes to our choice in
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men right that makes us think the rest of the same okay that's the first statement actually yeah i
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agree with that yeah that's a very interesting because i feel like a lot of the time like
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women when they're younger yeah they go for like the bad boy or like something and as you get older
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you kind of realize that like certain traits that you would like find attractive like someone who's
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emotionally unavailable they become unattractive as you get older you're only 22 right
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but you know what i've seen so many like people get into relationships and it's just
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like all flops and it's like yeah i'm scared i'm actually terrified so um have you guys had a toxic
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ex yeah yes um it wasn't an ex but i guess yeah sort of toxic yeah okay um no but i've had people
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who you feel felt like they're obliged by having a say in my life because they like me
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yes or no i need a yes no no no no me i would say yeah yeah okay um how long were you involved with
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your toxic ex a year and a half yeah did you love him yes yes five years five years oh my goodness that
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is mad five years that is crazy did you love him that's how you know it's toxic five years you
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didn't love him i don't know it was i wasn't like in a relationship with him but it was just a very
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toxic situation so okay so you know you didn't love him yes or no um i don't know maybe it was love to
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me at the time but now i see it i don't think it's love like now when i look back on it okay wow five years
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okay so i actually never been in a relationship like properly where i can say oh you know with
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boyfriend and girlfriend yeah but i've been in a lot of situations where i'm dating a guy and i would
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say yeah i'm this girl and he's been quite toxic so yeah you would yes yes and how long were you with
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him um i was with him for about must have been like five months not long five months yeah i'm a busy
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woman i haven't really got time did you did you love him no no okay so question question based on
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this panel two out of four of you said you loved your toxic ex and you were with him for over a
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year would you say by that statement young women love toxic men yes yes do you know what it is i
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think when you're young you don't really know your boundaries properly yet and a lot of people put up
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with stuff that they wouldn't usually put up with like i always say now like men only treat you
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bad if you let them if you let them yeah if you let them treat you bad and you don't if you don't
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respect your boundaries then they're gonna walk all over you and i think that's just bad guys though
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i think that's just bad guys like i think there's something about young women like picking the bad
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boys like i don't think you know what a nice guy isn't gonna walk all over you if you treat them well
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i'm the youngest in here and i will tell you yeah it's because it's exciting it's like almost like an
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adrenaline yeah especially when i have high energy we bounce off each other i knew it when she was
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talking about the following i was like she likes the drama yeah literally but i also feel like yeah
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it's not sorry i also feel like it depends on your circumstances as the young girl because i with me i
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depended on my ex for living for food for everything so i felt like i was chained to him like i was his
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had no one else you know so it was like circumstances made me and be in that situation so what about
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that situation was toxic uh well he was basically like cheating around flirting with other girls at
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work um i didn't know obviously because i was just like at home i didn't have a job i was just like
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living off him you know but i feel like he he um had that power over me because i allowed him to
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obviously so yeah so was it more than cheating or was he a good boyfriend outside of that it was
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more than cheating i was involved in certain things as well so i felt like if he did if he could do i
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could do it too okay so you were cheating you were both cheating on each other yeah then couldn't you
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just done a standstill and then got along um no because i mean we did have conversations about it we
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were very open with each other but then obviously the cheating was lies he because he kept it from me so
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did you keep your cheating from him no i told him i told him how did you you don't want you don't
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know you don't want to know who i cheated on him with but um no you don't no i don't think this is
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he famous no he's not no no no okay do i know who's he do i know him no you don't
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what the hell listen if you break me i will break you back
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i'm a changed person i am a changed person i'm a changed okay so what so why why why his sister
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i'm just gonna sip my drink me and his sister were really good friends i mean clearly
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what we were really good friends and obviously one day she said she wanted to come over and i
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said cool he was at work we got drunk and she started like pouncing on me okay i'm not even
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trying to like i'm so serious like she and i was like no like this isn't right and she was like no
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and then it happened and i was like and then you told him yeah i told him how did he react he almost
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killed me was she younger how old was she she was younger yeah but we had a conversation about it
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and i can't pay out his ethnicity anyway um it's it's almost like common from where he's from
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pardon yeah where is he we can't tell you oh my goodness at this point what's the what's holding
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you back what country what country do we need to not date um let's just say somewhere in africa
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somewhere somewhere in africa yeah okay where where in africa is that common that's not coming
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where i'm from where in africa okay so south africa oh wow guys please don't get onto me i've honestly
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learned something i'm not gonna lie no but um it's not coming but it was like a thing within his
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i'll take your word i feel like it's just getting worse but um the thing within his family and i
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said his family why did you pick that up because you said it you know like i could hear but because
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i'm regardless of whether i did something wrong or not regardless of whether i hurt someone's feeling
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or not i am an honest person and i feel like that's very very important if you're if you're talking to
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someone if you're in a relationship with someone if you're just with people anyway you know so i i just
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i clarified that with him he got upset he came back and he was like thank you for being honest
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with me you know so it was like yeah but he was toxic for cheating on you and not telling you
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yes i had to find out would you would you rather have him told you yes do you think men lie to women
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they care about or that they or they tell the truth to women they lie to women they care about and they
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feel like maybe like certain characteristics that they have for example um some because some women are
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really stern like if you cheat on me that's it and because they care so much they don't want to lose
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you so that thought of having to lose you would now be in be in their head obviously and yeah they
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wouldn't they wouldn't tell you so outside of the cheating anything else toxic or just that um
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i guess that was toxic yeah okay um all right what about you
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um what was the question um what was toxic about you said you had a toxic situationship
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yeah what was toxic about it um it was very emotionally abusive so like even though i see
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myself as a strong person but there's only so many times you can like get knocked down and i
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dealt with it and i feel like i didn't respect my own boundaries which led to me being in that situation
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um yeah it was just very unhealthy what is emotional abuse um i think to constantly knock
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someone's confidence down make them feel bad about themselves to threaten them like what specifically
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um i don't know like it could really be anything like you know just i'm asking like to you like what
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did he say like what how was he emotionally abusive oh he just like just used to knock me down i used to
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be a bit slow because i had a history of like doing like party drugs and like i feel like it actually
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affected my like mental development a bit like i had a starter for a long time like i was a bit slow
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and it was one of my biggest insecurities and i used to get dig that a lot for that like oh you're
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so slow you're stupid you're this and that's what he would say to you yeah and also um i lost a lot of
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weight because of stress and i was very insecure in my skin you're so skinny like you lost so much weight
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and it would just make me feel like a bit rubbish about myself um and what did what did you say to
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him back like did you push back or what yeah i would push back i would tell him like don't talk to me
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like that or i don't like that or something because he did used to like threaten me and stuff but he
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used to threaten you yeah he was he wasn't like threatened threatened to do like what kill you or
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no like just to like you know bring his fists up to me and stuff i knew he would never do anything
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but like yeah it was just not a nice situation i would always stand my ground about that but i
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would continue to put up with it for so long so that's why like i was disrespected for so long
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but literally after i got out of it i put on weight like i was i got a glow like life is good
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oh we love a happy ending yeah um what about no you you said yes i mean i can't lie you were sort of
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maybe you know no he told you not to wear something
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i relate to her as well because you know what it is now i'm hearing both the stories maybe i have
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actually been in a toxic um relationship we say or toxic x but everyone has their own meaning of toxic
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at the end of the day obviously i'm sure there is like a meaning by book but everyone has their like
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individual meaning yeah yeah one meaning yeah you know what i'm trying to say but yeah basically i
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think with me obviously um it wasn't for that long i think i think what's toxic is like he was saying
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he wanted to see me but didn't see me and this was about eight months so he would say he'd want to see
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because he constantly like makes promises to you or makes plans with you and lets you down
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consistently and it's like you know with me you cannot take advantage of me i'll be like leave
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then stop leading me on i'm not leaving you on have you ever um promised to go on a date and not
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go went not went have you ever blown off a guy for a date yeah yeah are you guys all toxic yes
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you know yeah i used to be i used to be i used to do the whole life i used to do the whole player
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thing i will lead you on and then just maybe i'm pretty sure all girls have entertained guys like
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plenty of times in their lifetime it's just interesting because yeah yeah but women aren't
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demonized for it men are we call it entertainment entertainment entertainment entertainment right but
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so you can say guys you can say like a rotation entertainment ha ha ha but when a guy says that he's
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toxic yeah yeah that's absolutely correct he says the exact same thing i do think women can be just
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as bad as men though some women are actually demons like yeah evil pure evil yeah tell me who are you
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thinking of what story no i've just like seen how like some women treat men and like you know um some
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women can be very narcissistic i think social media especially has like become a breeding ground for
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narcissism and a lot of people but i do also think the term's thrown around very loosely and a lot
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of people accuse of being a narcissist when they're actually not no but what what girl you said you
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could think of a narcissistic girls or story give us a two yeah um i mean i could use like my i don't
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know like i don't know any narcissistic women but i've like heard stories oh you've heard stories i've heard
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lots of stories and it's it's actually like heartbreaking because a lot of the time these men really care for
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us they're trapped in this abusive relationship you know what a lot of girls trap guys by getting
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pregnant they do but at the same time and then they have all this baby mom and dad job but it's like
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it's mad no but you know what it is yeah when it comes to like trapping a man with a baby you need
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to be careful who you sleep with if you're sleeping with people loosely and you you run the risk of
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getting that person pregnant so you have to you have to sit like you dug your grave
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what we said earlier do you remember we said earlier about if you you only go into place with
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that person you don't have a person you want to be with them and you get into relationship because
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of trust and then you'd only sleep with that person if you're like john mean that yeah at the
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same time at the same time if you don't want a baby then you need to wrap up because yeah as much
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as it takes two to tango you need to protect yourself for your own good like yeah yeah the woman can
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say she's on the pill she's on this she's on that but like at the same time protect yourself you know you
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said you've you've heard of a girl trapping a guy tell me about that oh no we're just baiting
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people's business obviously someone in the media in this channel about who it is
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i can't even show you can if you want uh yeah be careful babes be careful but but what was i gonna say
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obviously um as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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