JustPearlyThings - March 15, 2023


She ADMITTED This About Women


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8 minutes

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1,566

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120

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22

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14

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In this episode, we discuss the difference between men and women when it comes to breaking up with a partner. We discuss who wins and who loses in a breakup and who is more likely to move on after a break up.

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00:00:00.000 But you said it sounds like you're saying that the women lose and the men win.
00:00:03.740 Yeah.
00:00:04.120 Okay.
00:00:04.700 You said the opposite when you started.
00:00:06.700 No, I thought I said that the women lose. 1.00
00:00:10.700 Am I crazy?
00:00:12.080 Maybe.
00:00:12.660 I thought I said the women lose. 1.00
00:00:13.980 Maybe you did.
00:00:14.820 Okay, go ahead.
00:00:17.020 I think it is a difficult one.
00:00:18.920 It is a broad one.
00:00:20.300 I think if you're looking at high profile celebrity status and breakups,
00:00:24.040 I think generally depending on how they break up,
00:00:30.640 I think it depicts on how it would end up.
00:00:33.100 But probably women would lose in terms of emotionally, 1.00
00:00:37.800 I think especially if there's children as well.
00:00:40.000 Pretty much in terms of men,
00:00:45.080 I don't think they're emotionally attached as much as women.
00:00:47.540 I think women tend to be more emotionally attached than men.
00:00:50.380 So in a breakup,
00:00:52.600 I think when women break up, 1.00
00:00:54.860 they break up way before they actually physically break up with a man.
00:00:58.180 Whereas a man, 0.92
00:00:59.740 I think they're quite flippant and they will do it spur of the moment.
00:01:03.360 It's how they're feeling.
00:01:04.620 So I think in terms of who generally wins,
00:01:08.580 I would probably say men in that aspect,
00:01:10.440 because I feel like they're mentally there way before women are probably there. 1.00
00:01:15.680 Okay.
00:01:16.240 What do you think?
00:01:19.300 See, I think the opposite to you.
00:01:21.340 I feel like a woman knows in her head that she's going to break up with a guy 0.99
00:01:25.540 before she's actually going to do it.
00:01:29.300 Yeah.
00:01:29.520 Like the other way around.
00:01:31.240 Because I think that's what she said.
00:01:32.420 I think that's what I said.
00:01:32.940 Oh,
00:01:33.280 yeah,
00:01:33.860 you just repeated exactly what she said.
00:01:35.480 My bad.
00:01:36.860 My bad.
00:01:37.680 So,
00:01:38.140 yeah,
00:01:38.660 I feel like when it comes to actually breaking up,
00:01:42.360 I feel like women are more prepared for that actually happening. 1.00
00:01:47.120 I don't think men think to,
00:01:49.280 especially if they're comfortable in the relationship,
00:01:52.120 they're not really thinking about it too tough.
00:01:56.320 So I would say maybe men lose more because I just think they're going to, 1.00
00:02:02.880 they don't see it coming as often.
00:02:05.080 So you think men are more hurt after breakups?
00:02:06.780 Yeah.
00:02:07.000 And women, 1.00
00:02:07.280 like women move on quicker. 1.00
00:02:08.560 Yeah.
00:02:08.940 Okay.
00:02:09.680 Or like they start that process before.
00:02:13.020 Yeah.
00:02:13.080 Because by the time the woman does it, 1.00
00:02:14.560 she's been thinking about it for six months.
00:02:16.300 What do you think about dating options after?
00:02:18.200 Do you think,
00:02:18.840 who do you think typically is more dating options after a relationship,
00:02:21.760 men or women?
00:02:25.980 I think it depends on the man or the woman.
00:02:29.120 Right.
00:02:29.460 So in high profile cases.
00:02:41.980 Again,
00:02:42.460 I think it depends on the.
00:02:44.020 If you had to pick one.
00:02:44.860 Maybe men in high profile cases,
00:02:52.620 because I think for a high profile man,
00:02:54.540 you'll have more women wanting to do whatever for you than the other way around. 1.00
00:03:00.700 Auntie,
00:03:01.240 what do you think?
00:03:04.320 At first I was going to say,
00:03:06.840 before you brought the sexism into it,
00:03:08.400 I was going to say the person with the most money wins initially,
00:03:13.740 because they're out of it.
00:03:14.980 But then the women, 1.00
00:03:16.660 but then it's the man and he's got most money and they split up.
00:03:19.800 Then the woman might think she's winning because she gets like money and the kids and whatever. 1.00
00:03:26.560 But then she's less attractive to the outside world.
00:03:33.180 So she might think she's won initially.
00:03:36.720 But then I think the men in the end win,
00:03:40.020 because they can get any woman out there. 1.00
00:03:41.320 They're the one younger that looks a whole lot better than the old bag that they've left.
00:03:45.000 So,
00:03:45.820 you know,
00:03:46.860 all the stretch marks and everything is gone.
00:03:49.160 Because when you look at all of those,
00:03:50.660 whoever had the most money,
00:03:52.840 got someone younger.
00:03:55.180 And even though their partner's gone,
00:03:57.260 and thought,
00:03:57.620 well,
00:03:57.740 yeah,
00:03:58.260 like,
00:03:58.480 what do you call the guy,
00:04:01.840 the perfume,
00:04:02.440 the aftershave guy,
00:04:03.160 what's his name?
00:04:04.460 The one you just mentioned.
00:04:05.360 Tom Brady?
00:04:06.300 Yeah,
00:04:06.740 that's him.
00:04:07.740 The aftershave guy?
00:04:08.720 I don't know,
00:04:09.240 they're an aftershave name like that or something.
00:04:12.000 You're thinking of Tom Ford.
00:04:13.480 Oh,
00:04:13.760 sorry,
00:04:14.160 see,
00:04:14.420 I don't want to say it.
00:04:15.660 I don't want to say it.
00:04:16.720 Okay,
00:04:17.500 I know it's something to do with sports,
00:04:19.340 but
00:04:19.700 he split up
00:04:21.420 and she's gone
00:04:22.720 and she's got this guy.
00:04:23.600 So when they said about women,
00:04:24.640 I find that
00:04:25.280 in the public eye,
00:04:26.520 sometimes the women move on faster 1.00
00:04:27.780 because the men are less cautious
00:04:28.720 because they've lost a lot of money.
00:04:29.880 So they're not moving on fast,
00:04:31.200 but
00:04:31.440 afterwards they can get a younger person.
00:04:34.220 So the women would go out there 1.00
00:04:35.580 and they would say,
00:04:36.120 oh,
00:04:36.180 we're going to get married again
00:04:37.040 or we're going to get hooked up,
00:04:37.980 we're going to settle down.
00:04:39.060 And the men would just go out there
00:04:39.980 and get a young lady
00:04:40.680 and play the field
00:04:41.300 because they can.
00:04:42.820 So the women might lose out. 1.00
00:04:44.580 You know,
00:04:44.760 the men lose out more financially,
00:04:47.640 but in the long run,
00:04:48.720 of course they got lucky.
00:04:49.960 They can go and get any young brother
00:04:51.240 that they want
00:04:51.800 because when you're a mature man
00:04:53.400 and you've got money,
00:04:54.080 you're attractive.
00:04:55.400 Unlike
00:04:55.760 the women out there 0.99
00:04:57.360 that got money
00:04:58.080 because
00:04:59.380 they don't look all that,
00:05:01.680 all the plastic surgery
00:05:02.440 and stuff
00:05:02.740 that they need to keep up their looks,
00:05:03.920 but men just work out 0.96
00:05:04.880 and they still look good.
00:05:06.440 Can I say something?
00:05:08.760 Tom Brady,
00:05:09.520 so if you've specified
00:05:10.420 it's a high profile breakup,
00:05:11.640 then I'm guessing
00:05:12.040 we're talking about money here
00:05:12.920 most of the time.
00:05:13.960 I'm talking about popularity.
00:05:15.560 Yeah.
00:05:16.980 Can I ask when
00:05:17.860 they actually got divorced?
00:05:19.560 Do you know when?
00:05:21.840 Officially October 2022.
00:05:23.380 I was going to say
00:05:27.300 because as an athlete,
00:05:29.440 Tom Brady's spotlight,
00:05:31.080 the reason why
00:05:31.720 his spotlight
00:05:32.200 is always going to
00:05:32.980 constantly change.
00:05:34.680 Like when he said
00:05:36.060 he was going to retire,
00:05:37.120 the spotlight was on
00:05:37.880 just retiring.
00:05:38.880 Ain't nobody mentioned
00:05:39.620 about him breaking up,
00:05:41.400 but...
00:05:41.900 I don't know.
00:05:42.980 It was all over
00:05:43.740 my YouTube feed.
00:05:45.580 Yeah.
00:05:46.100 It was just on...
00:05:47.460 Meg and Kelly
00:05:48.220 just did a special on it.
00:05:49.600 Yeah, right.
00:05:50.080 So I think my main...
00:05:50.980 So what I'm trying to say here
00:05:51.960 is that the spotlight
00:05:52.600 as an athlete
00:05:53.220 for Tom Brady
00:05:53.740 is going to change constantly.
00:05:54.980 So people are going to
00:05:56.220 eventually forget
00:05:57.500 that he's been divorced
00:05:58.940 if he moves on
00:05:59.720 with another person.
00:06:00.840 So I think for the female 1.00
00:06:02.080 it's more so like
00:06:03.200 she's the one that
00:06:04.120 broke up with Tom Brady
00:06:05.300 is such a big deal.
00:06:07.020 And I think the hate
00:06:07.980 that's going to come
00:06:08.640 for the women
00:06:09.180 is more than it is
00:06:10.220 for the men.
00:06:11.160 Just considering the fact
00:06:11.980 that he's such a
00:06:12.440 high profile athlete.
00:06:13.540 Would you say in society
00:06:14.420 men are valued more
00:06:15.740 for what they build
00:06:16.760 where women are more valued 1.00
00:06:18.280 for the relationships
00:06:19.240 they can keep?
00:06:20.420 A hundred percent.
00:06:21.700 A hundred percent
00:06:22.600 because Tom Brady
00:06:23.620 can now do something crazy
00:06:25.000 and invest in this many stuff.
00:06:26.860 Invest like a billion dollar
00:06:28.000 company maybe.
00:06:29.220 That's what's going to be
00:06:30.020 that's what he's going to be
00:06:30.700 in the spotlight for.
00:06:31.540 Or it's like Elon Musk.
00:06:32.760 I mean how many baby mothers 0.93
00:06:33.800 does he have?
00:06:34.820 But no one.
00:06:36.680 Each to their own isn't it?
00:06:37.920 But no one really
00:06:38.580 talks about it.
00:06:39.740 But if the roles
00:06:41.000 were reversed
00:06:41.560 and it was a woman 0.87
00:06:42.280 and she had the same company
00:06:43.760 but she had like three
00:06:45.460 I don't know how many he has
00:06:46.400 but like three, four baby fathers
00:06:47.780 people would still look at her funny
00:06:49.020 no matter how successful
00:06:50.060 she is.
00:06:50.600 It's going to be long for her
00:06:51.700 and that's just how it is
00:06:52.680 unfortunately.
00:06:54.980 Have any of you ever
00:06:56.860 looked at an ex's
00:06:58.100 Instagram or Facebook
00:06:59.600 to see how they're doing
00:07:00.920 after a breakup?
00:07:02.280 Yeah.
00:07:02.520 All the time.
00:07:03.240 Has anyone ever done that?
00:07:06.320 Anyone?
00:07:08.020 Two?
00:07:08.680 Okay so the majority.
00:07:10.240 What are you?
00:07:11.400 I shouldn't put my hand up really
00:07:12.560 because nobody I've been out
00:07:13.460 has done Facebook.
00:07:15.200 Why are you half open?
00:07:17.020 Huh?
00:07:17.520 I was like why are you
00:07:18.260 half raising your hand?
00:07:19.100 Because I don't know
00:07:19.560 if I should say too much.
00:07:20.700 I'm joking.
00:07:21.780 I'm joking.
00:07:22.160 Anybody that's watching
00:07:22.940 I'm joking I promise.
00:07:24.940 I think you promise.
00:07:25.700 Yeah I haven't.
00:07:28.320 Do you guys get mad
00:07:29.340 if the girl you feel like
00:07:30.900 is prettier than you
00:07:31.780 or better looking?
00:07:32.840 Not just happy.
00:07:34.320 You're happy for them?
00:07:35.360 Good for you.
00:07:36.240 I feel like for me personally
00:07:37.440 it depends on how soon
00:07:39.180 after the breakup.
00:07:41.100 So how soon would
00:07:42.880 would piss you off
00:07:43.960 versus how soon
00:07:44.720 would make you happy for them?
00:07:47.620 After she's moved on.
00:07:48.960 Yeah.
00:07:50.640 If I haven't moved on
00:07:51.720 you can't.
00:07:53.620 Or you can
00:07:54.460 just not someone
00:07:55.440 better looking than me.
00:07:58.240 Does it depend on the ex too?
00:08:00.880 Like how much you liked the ex
00:08:02.160 whether you're happy
00:08:02.860 for them or mad?
00:08:04.040 No.
00:08:05.060 No just happy
00:08:05.800 to move on.
00:08:07.380 So I kind of look
00:08:08.900 at life as lessons.
00:08:09.880 So for me not to be
00:08:11.240 with someone
00:08:11.760 I mean it's taken me
00:08:12.780 a while to get here
00:08:13.460 to be fair
00:08:14.060 but it's my stance now
00:08:15.860 it wasn't previously
00:08:17.060 possibly maybe before
00:08:18.500 but
00:08:19.180 As many of you know
00:08:20.200 I was just banned
00:08:21.440 on TikTok
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