JustPearlyThings - July 07, 2023


She Cheats With Ugly Men


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In this episode, we discuss infidelity in relationships and why women cheat. We also talk about monogamy vs. polygamy and why it s better for men to be monogamous than it is for women to be polyamorous.

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00:00:00.000 Women actually are out cheating men under 30. 1.00
00:00:03.740 Yeah, women are out cheating. 1.00
00:00:04.760 Good thing I'm over 30.
00:00:05.720 Yeah, yeah.
00:00:07.900 Tinder did his job.
00:00:09.600 But I'm saying, like, what you're saying isn't true, that the men are leaving, it's the women leaving.
00:00:14.100 Yeah, but they're filing for divorce. 0.93
00:00:16.000 They're filing for the divorce, but what's leading to the divorce?
00:00:18.760 If I'm a woman at home with your kids and I'm taking care of the household, I'm being faithful to you.
00:00:23.960 And just because you're paying the bills, you're out, you know, sleeping with every Sarah and Jessica that walks by.
00:00:29.640 So I'll give you a couple numbers.
00:00:31.340 That's only a small percentage of men that can sleep with multiple women.
00:00:35.040 So it's only like 15 to 20 percent of men, maybe 30 tops.
00:00:39.020 I mean, it's so the majority of men cannot sleep with multiple women. 0.74
00:00:43.200 So it's not them cheating.
00:00:44.740 Well, even if they sleep with one woman, it's still cheating.
00:00:46.860 Like women. 1.00
00:00:47.460 No, no, no. 1.00
00:00:48.380 I'm saying like women find 80 percent of men is unattractive, ugly. 1.00
00:00:52.560 Not just OK, not decent. 0.99
00:00:54.200 We find 80 percent of men is ugly. 0.99
00:00:55.840 I love ugly men. 1.00
00:00:57.040 I sleep with ugly men all the time. 0.99
00:00:58.300 So just because you find ugly doesn't mean we're not cheating with them. 0.98
00:01:02.000 That we're not cheating with them?
00:01:03.760 Well, I mean, I'm not a cheater.
00:01:04.940 But I'm saying like as women in whole, like a lot of times women, we're emotional cheaters.
00:01:09.260 We don't necessarily cheat.
00:01:10.620 There's, you know, some women might cheat off of looks. 1.00
00:01:12.820 But when we decide to step out of a relationship, it is always because emotionally at home, something is being neglected.
00:01:18.380 And we found that in somebody else.
00:01:20.080 Yes, thing is both ways, men and women. 0.92
00:01:22.400 When you lack something in the relationship, you look for it elsewhere.
00:01:25.180 If you try to deal with it first and you ask and you address the issue and you try to resolve it within and then another, you know, don't know, 10, 8 years later and nothing has happened to be resolved.
00:01:37.720 Just promises, promises, promises.
00:01:39.260 Then this is where infidelity comes in.
00:01:41.300 And I mean, it's sad.
00:01:42.440 But it's interesting because it's like you guys, whenever the woman does something wrong, like she leaves or she cheats.
00:01:48.420 It's always like, well, why is men the same way that's why I just said, but if I mean, no, no, no, you guys didn't give that benefit of the doubt to the dad who left that there wasn't.
00:01:56.980 No, why did he leave?
00:01:58.000 What four times?
00:02:00.820 You know, it is expected of a man like you expect.
00:02:03.940 It's very hard.
00:02:04.620 Like you got to think about when the earth was made, men back then were having multiple wives. 0.81
00:02:10.000 So now we have this thing where, okay, you know, they're bringing polygamy back, but before they really brought polygamy back, now we have this thing where, you know, it's one and one.
00:02:19.240 Well, that's not in a man's nature.
00:02:20.700 Well, it's actually, women are picking polygamy. 1.00
00:02:22.920 I actually think that monogamy benefits more men than benefits women.
00:02:27.020 Because when we're in monogamy, that means like more men are getting laid.
00:02:30.380 That means like 60, 70.
00:02:32.240 But it's funny.
00:02:33.020 No, I'm serious.
00:02:33.940 It's funny.
00:02:34.560 One out of three men are virgins or haven't had sex in the past year.
00:02:37.220 And that's, that's primarily the switches when women have more mate selection. 1.00
00:02:41.100 So a hundred years ago, that was when women started to move into apartments and be able to basically like be on their own. 0.79
00:02:46.500 That makes sense?
00:02:47.080 Before it was like, yeah, before it was like dad's house, husband's house.
00:02:50.380 There was no in between. 0.99
00:02:51.440 And it's funny because the more mate selection we have, the stupider we are. 0.99
00:02:55.160 Yeah, we'll go for a, yes, yes. 0.99
00:02:56.800 But it's always, the bigger the menu, you don't know what to eat, right?
00:02:59.420 We'll go for a smaller and smaller percentage of men. 0.99
00:03:01.900 So it's like, we'll go for 10, 20, 30% of men.
00:03:04.100 I've had so many girls come on the show and say they've dated a celebrity. 0.99
00:03:06.620 They're average chicks. 1.00
00:03:08.320 You think she was the only one?
00:03:09.760 How many girlfriends does Chris Brown?
00:03:11.040 How many girlfriends did they break? 0.92
00:03:12.460 How many girlfriends still like all of these high value, you know, guys have?
00:03:16.400 But did he know he's dating her too?
00:03:18.820 That part.
00:03:19.680 No, I know it's dated.
00:03:22.180 Like they say, but the fact that, the fact that, you know, this shows it's common, right?
00:03:26.580 Where the girl's like, we're dating. 0.78
00:03:28.060 And it's, but we outnumber men.
00:03:29.640 And so really, it's the men that have more choices.
00:03:31.960 Like dating is like one to eight.
00:03:33.840 It's like one man from every eight women.
00:03:35.720 No, it's not.
00:03:36.160 It's 55% men.
00:03:38.560 It's 45% women. 1.00
00:03:39.720 It's not.
00:03:40.340 Sorry, it's the other way around.
00:03:41.540 55% women, 45% men.
00:03:43.540 But if you actually look like eligible men, when it comes to dating, if you look like eligible
00:03:48.240 men, not even just age, the ones that are not in jail, that are not dead.
00:03:54.960 What person of the population do you think is in jail?
00:03:57.220 I like that.
00:03:57.780 Like if you've been running into men in jail, that's you probably.
00:04:01.380 No, but when you really look at like.
00:04:02.380 Is this a comment?
00:04:03.140 Do you date men in jail?
00:04:04.580 I've dated men in jail before.
00:04:06.200 I live in New York.
00:04:07.020 You have to date a man in jail.
00:04:08.160 No, you do not.
00:04:09.300 You don't have a choice.
00:04:10.380 No.
00:04:11.220 Why were you in jail?
00:04:12.780 Why were you in jail?
00:04:13.960 I wasn't in jail.
00:04:15.640 I'm a good criminal.
00:04:16.740 No, I'm not in jail.
00:04:17.340 You're the pro.
00:04:18.740 Yeah, I wasn't in jail.
00:04:19.740 But of course, you might talk to a guy.
00:04:22.040 You literally can go to the corner store in New York and get locked up.
00:04:25.560 Like there is no, you know, so you can be dating a guy and he gets locked up.
00:04:29.140 That's happened to me a couple of times, more than once.
00:04:31.020 It's 1% of the population.
00:04:33.380 For what?
00:04:33.820 That's in jail?
00:04:34.680 Yeah.
00:04:34.840 But I'm saying if you actually think of like eligible single bachelors, right?
00:04:38.720 Who's not married, who's not dead, who's not in jail.
00:04:40.560 I guess one out of every 20 for a lifetime.
00:04:43.020 So 5%.
00:04:43.880 And who's not.
00:04:44.960 This is like taking starter of the menu.
00:04:46.860 All the men now, and I don't want to bring it here, I don't want to offend anybody, but
00:04:50.920 there's a lot of gay men in the world now.
00:04:52.680 So if you add that into it, who's really left for women? 0.99
00:04:56.680 Single men that are actually left for women. 0.91
00:04:58.780 I mean, I would argue what women are left for men. 0.97
00:05:01.680 A lot.
00:05:02.720 No, no.
00:05:03.460 If you look, okay, if you look by, and a lot of people think I hate on women, but it's 0.82
00:05:06.640 just if you look at an evolutionary point of view, most women today would be cast out. 1.00
00:05:12.680 Yeah.
00:05:12.840 As in based on what?
00:05:14.660 Age for one, like over 30, you were kind of done.
00:05:18.920 Kids from other marriages or guys, done.
00:05:22.840 Not being a virgin on your wedding night, your chance of being married was like, no, you're
00:05:27.100 a concubine at that point.
00:05:28.780 But 95% of women are not virgins on their wedding.
00:05:31.640 I'm not saying we have to be, but I'm saying if we're going from a historical point of view,
00:05:36.940 most women today would have been thrown out. 1.00
00:05:39.900 Yeah.
00:05:40.540 But because it was chauvinist male society, that's why.
00:05:43.560 No, no.
00:05:44.040 What percentage of male are virgins on their wedding?
00:05:47.020 Well, but women don't select for that. 1.00
00:05:50.480 Like women don't give a shit about a man's virginity. 1.00
00:05:52.920 True. 0.99
00:05:53.220 Women don't care about purity, so it's not the same. 1.00
00:05:55.580 Stability is what most women after a certain age go for. 1.00
00:05:58.920 Yeah, but women still out-earn men. 1.00
00:06:01.420 You know, it's funny because women, like if we're going to go for traditional values, 1.00
00:06:04.440 like maybe men don't make like enough for one income, but they still make more money 0.97
00:06:09.700 than women. 0.99
00:06:10.880 But I would say most women are more sexually experienced than most men.
00:06:16.100 I doubt that.
00:06:17.720 This doesn't sound right.
00:06:19.420 Well, because I just, one out of three men are either virgins or having had sex in the
00:06:24.560 past year.
00:06:25.040 I don't see that same trend.
00:06:26.280 I don't see that same trend in women. 1.00
00:06:27.900 When you look at those statistics, you got to remember, that's just like a small population
00:06:33.600 that they sit there and, you know, study and ask these questions.
00:06:37.320 So this is not in the hole.
00:06:39.440 No, they got it from doctors.
00:06:42.080 I think that's how they gathered that data.
00:06:43.780 It was from doctors.
00:06:44.140 Everybody lies to their doctors.
00:06:46.200 Are you kidding me?
00:06:47.220 Well, I mean, we can argue they're lying by 10 percent, but if they do it in multiple
00:06:50.440 cities and they're coming up with the same conclusion in the West, you start to see a
00:06:54.000 trend.
00:06:54.720 But this is where I'm saying, because like, like, I mean, if you want to take like body
00:06:58.140 count statistics for women tend to be way more variable than like men, because again,
00:07:03.560 they'll do it in different cities to see.
00:07:05.200 But what's just but it's still a targeted populated audience.
00:07:09.680 It's not like in whole, because if you actually look at it in whole and you like fairly went
00:07:15.940 to every single different group, every cultural race wise, all of that, those statistics would
00:07:22.020 be so much different.
00:07:23.600 But they sit there and it's a certain audience they target so they can get the results that
00:07:27.900 they want to get in multiples.
00:07:30.100 It's like in multiple cities, they're all talking to each other and saying, try to get
00:07:34.060 these results.
00:07:35.060 When you're talking about worldwide.
00:07:36.740 So when you're in the West, it's like they've done it in different cities and it's roughly
00:07:40.780 the same Europe, but yes, a UK and US.
00:07:44.440 OK, so if you look in the UK and US, right, did they sit there and go to the same demographic
00:07:49.700 as far as like hospitals or whatever?
00:07:51.900 Like, did they sit there and go to maybe all of the well to do hospitals or were they going
00:07:56.960 to the hood as well?
00:07:58.260 Accidents like were they going into every single region, like different cultural regions to
00:08:04.200 get these statistics?
00:08:05.260 Probably not.
00:08:05.800 There was probably one set group that they wanted.
00:08:08.640 What numbers would you like to go off of that?
00:08:11.000 I mean, it's like I said, it's different.
00:08:13.300 I'm a I'm a I'm a I'm a black woman.
00:08:15.260 So the statistics that are given to us is actually one in twenty three, one for black women dating
00:08:20.660 a single black man.
00:08:21.600 So it's that's why I say one in twenty three.
00:08:24.080 What like as far as like to get a single man, one in twenty three for black women to get 1.00
00:08:29.780 a single black man.
00:08:31.080 Like that's that's what we're looking at.
00:08:32.680 Twenty three women at one man. 0.89
00:08:34.060 Twenty three women at one man. 0.89
00:08:35.280 Wow.
00:08:35.960 For a straight, a straight man.
00:08:38.560 I thought it was like forty five percent were single childless and in the middle class
00:08:42.740 of black men.
00:08:44.040 I could be wrong, but I thought it was like thirty five to forty five percent.
00:08:46.760 But a single straight black man, single straight black man. 0.98
00:08:53.260 This is why it's so hard. 0.64
00:08:54.680 This is why so many black women are unmarried. 1.00
00:08:56.640 And it is hard for us to get by because we are fighting with thousands of other women 1.00
00:09:02.400 just to get one man.
00:09:03.640 Well, but but this is the problem as women. 1.00
00:09:05.600 It's like we'll kind of blame the men instead of looking at the quality of women because
00:09:10.420 the trend of women not getting married is across the board.
00:09:12.980 Like like I think white women, it's fifty percent like in every generation, it's coming 1.00
00:09:17.940 less and less and less.
00:09:19.120 So a lot of times it's like we'll blame the men when it's like we don't look at the quality
00:09:22.980 of the women.
00:09:23.760 But these are good.
00:09:24.600 These are good quality women. 1.00
00:09:25.720 These are doctors.
00:09:26.560 These are lawyers.
00:09:27.240 These are good.
00:09:27.960 But you're looking at the things that like men want in like that women want in men. 0.51
00:09:33.680 Like men don't care about your career.
00:09:35.500 They don't care if you're a doctor.
00:09:36.460 They don't care if you're a lawyer.
00:09:37.400 They don't care if you make money.
00:09:38.440 They just want you to be hot.
00:09:39.700 But which is true.
00:09:40.420 But think about it.
00:09:41.540 If you're a man and you have 20 different hot women in front of you, it's like the Hunger
00:09:46.620 Games.
00:09:47.020 You're literally playing the Hunger Games to get a man these days.
00:09:50.220 Just I think that you're kind of removed from the average male's experience dating because
00:09:56.820 I don't think that's the average guy's experience dating at all.
00:10:00.700 That what there's many women to choose from? 1.00
00:10:03.560 No.
00:10:03.780 The average Joe definitely.
00:10:07.680 If you look at each man, right, the average man, he's at least probably talking to six
00:10:12.220 women. 0.81
00:10:12.820 No, no.
00:10:13.320 You don't think so?
00:10:13.940 No, because the data shows the number one way people under 30 are meeting is dating apps.
00:10:19.140 So a lot of people say dating apps isn't real life, but it is now.
00:10:22.760 That's the number one way that people are meeting under 30.
00:10:25.680 So what percent of the time do you think women swipe right and say, yes, I'd like to go on 1.00
00:10:29.860 a date with this man?
00:10:30.740 No idea.
00:10:31.740 Just swipe.
00:10:32.440 Just a swipe.
00:10:33.120 Not even what percent.
00:10:34.120 Yeah.
00:10:34.380 It's vanishingly small, isn't it?
00:10:36.080 Like one in 20 pictures or something like that?
00:10:38.460 One in 20.
00:10:39.160 Okay.
00:10:39.360 What do you think?
00:10:39.840 No idea.
00:10:40.840 I've never been on one.
00:10:41.800 Just guess.
00:10:42.040 But I have actually friends who met on Tinder and got married.
00:10:45.180 Okay.
00:10:45.620 But what percent?
00:10:46.640 What percent?
00:10:47.040 What a percent of?
00:10:48.100 Of men do you think?
00:10:49.440 Oh, how many pics she swipes until she says, yeah.
00:10:51.680 Yeah.
00:10:51.800 What percent?
00:10:54.260 Let's say 35.
00:10:55.800 Okay.
00:10:56.240 35.
00:10:56.740 What do you think?
00:10:57.220 As an avid dating app user, I would probably say less than 10%.
00:11:03.040 It's less than 10%.
00:11:04.400 What do you think?
00:11:05.140 Yeah.
00:11:05.400 I'd say one in 50.
00:11:06.940 It's 5%.
00:11:08.280 So if women, the number one way people are meeting is dating apps, and we're only swiping 1.00
00:11:13.840 right 5% of the time, how is a guy going to talk to six chicks at a time? 0.54
00:11:19.300 Because as soon as you walk out your building, yo, ma, hey, ma, can I talk to you?
00:11:23.200 Volume.
00:11:23.440 Volume.
00:11:23.620 Volume of possibilities.
00:11:26.140 We try to date smarter.
00:11:27.220 As women, we go on these dating apps a lot of time because it's easier for us to, you 0.96
00:11:30.980 know, not waste our time in public.
00:11:32.640 Like some men may be intimidated to come up and walk to a woman and be like, hey, let me
00:11:36.720 come hit on you or whatever like that. 1.00
00:11:38.100 Okay.
00:11:38.400 So how many girls does a guy typically have to approach to get a number? 0.78
00:11:44.040 I would say probably like every 15 to 20 girls, maybe. 0.96
00:11:48.600 15 to 20 girls.
00:11:50.260 Are you?
00:11:51.020 Yeah.
00:11:51.300 I mean, it depends on someone's ability and, you know, how much reference they have.
00:11:54.520 But I mean, if I was out of a guy and seen him throw it down, he's probably going to do
00:11:58.680 10 interactions until he finds one.
00:12:01.060 What kind of average are we talking about, though?
00:12:03.540 Are we talking about, you know, the average for Johnny or are we talking about the average
00:12:09.200 for all men?
00:12:10.360 Average guy.
00:12:10.760 Average guy.
00:12:10.920 All, okay.
00:12:12.280 All men. 0.93
00:12:12.900 How many?
00:12:13.240 Average earner.
00:12:13.660 Like how many women are they going to have to approach to get a number and like they're 0.98
00:12:18.100 not going to, you know, like there's no trickery like, oh, I've got a parcel that's yours.
00:12:24.920 Can I borrow your number?
00:12:25.920 Like this is legitimate.
00:12:27.260 We know what it's about.
00:12:28.280 Yeah.
00:12:29.840 I'm working with these guys all the time.
00:12:31.980 I mean, I think that there's.
00:12:34.480 Well, yeah, but I don't think they're average men, Johnny.
00:12:37.780 You've been taking them to India to meet the Dalai Lama.