JustPearlyThings - March 30, 2023


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Why do modern women think they re perfect? Why do they rank themselves as a 10 out of 10? What does it mean to be a 10, and why does it matter? We discuss this and much more in this episode of Thick & Thin.

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00:00:00.000 okay um so today our topic is modern women think they're tense so um what made me think of this
00:00:09.360 topic is i went to carnival recently now that was an interesting experience experience i've never
00:00:14.520 been to a festival so it i it was a lot to take in you went in blind i did not know what i was
00:00:20.240 signing up for um a lot of ass a lot of yeah there was a lot of everything a lot of everything 0.91
00:00:28.040 anyways so i went around and asked people to rank themselves one to ten and the most common answer i 0.98
00:00:34.180 got from women was i'm a 10 i'm a 10 i'm a 10 and to me like a 10 is that you're perfect um which to me 1.00
00:00:42.240 is a little bit narcissistic so why why are people so quick to say that they're a 10
00:00:47.420 i mean you have to kind of think that like people will always be drawn to confidence you can't just
00:00:57.940 go around saying i mean i mean even if you are like subjectively a i don't know five six maybe um
00:01:06.520 you can't you can't let everyone know that you have to be like no listen i'm a 10
00:01:10.200 you don't think it's delusion i think confidence is sexy so even if you aren't like objectively or
00:01:17.440 conventionally attractive someone that is very charming is still seen as like attractive or
00:01:22.260 just charming in general but it's not like true confidence or it's just arrogance i don't think
00:01:27.140 it's arrogance because i don't think having confidence makes you arrogant but it's like why
00:01:31.060 are they confident so if they know that they're not they don't really feel that they're a 10 but
00:01:34.800 they're just saying that they're a 10 it's a good point i guess it's more than like attractiveness
00:01:39.900 as in how you look it's more like i feel confident in myself you cannot be like you might have like
00:01:45.200 pimples or like scars on your face but if you're a confident person you can still be a 10 no
00:01:50.780 wouldn't you say that means you have no room to improve i think i understand what you mean but i feel
00:01:57.320 like um i don't really like this idea of like humans having to constantly improve themselves
00:02:03.580 because it means that we're in like a perpetual state of not enough i feel like it's kind of good
00:02:08.240 that some people have accepted like oh i'm just good as i am because then you know it's a happy
00:02:13.260 state to be in yeah but you could be good as you are as a five it's not an insult that's average you
00:02:18.800 know yeah there'll always be someone that will uh like you yeah there's someone for everyone
00:02:23.640 definitely yeah you think they're so afraid
00:02:26.840 there's more there's more women on the planet than men yeah so like by the numbers there's not 1.00
00:02:34.960 some people get left behind you know what i mean
00:02:37.200 um so i have a clip for us to react to where we kind of dives into this a little bit
00:02:47.060 blessing pull up the first clip i i kept my original stance yeah this one so this was
00:02:53.760 you could see how far the show's come because this was an old show but it started from the beginning
00:02:57.860 blessing yeah started from the i don't know why it started there yeah
00:03:03.800 11 if like being a 10 is you're perfect so do you do you think you're perfect
00:03:14.460 no i think there's beauty in imperfection you know perfection is not uh why are you talking over
00:03:23.380 me i was not done talking um i genuinely believe that perfection is not real but there's beauty and
00:03:42.460 imperfection and i think no like you're you're you're very attractive like i think you're like
00:03:47.680 i think you're attractive but but no no but wait wait wait can you let me finish so what i'm saying
00:03:53.940 like like to me i would never say i'm a 10 because like a 10 is like perfect and i don't think i'm
00:03:59.800 perfect so i get kind of like is that but we were saying looks wise right yeah and i genuinely see
00:04:06.380 myself as genuinely beautiful i genuinely see myself as someone who is a goddess because
00:04:12.320 at the end of the day society is what decides on beauty standards right right and i can i don't 1.00
00:04:21.500 have to follow that beauty standard right i genuinely believe that i'm beautiful yeah well
00:04:25.780 and i'm not taking that away from you i just like i just could i just could i just could never say
00:04:30.400 like i wouldn't say you're perfect do you know what i mean yeah yeah and that's and that's what i
00:04:34.760 say 11 out of 10 i'm just playing around yeah i think i'm really a 10 out of 10 like genuinely i
00:04:39.600 feel like i'm a 10 out of 10. yeah i take care of myself what has given you that uh my looks
00:04:44.520 we were only talking about looks we weren't talking about personality or skill or anything
00:04:49.360 like that is is that based on the way people have treated you throughout your life no this is based
00:04:53.680 on how i was raised and how i view myself and how i've worked hard to see the beauty that i deserve
00:04:59.280 to see so you i worked so you see an 11 out of 10 beauty i would bro it's a joke okay okay but we
00:05:07.380 could say 10 out of 10 yeah yeah like i just said i consider myself a 10 out of 10 for sure so you
00:05:12.640 think you're up there with so who would you see in like the media that's like a 10 out of 10
00:05:17.040 why are we going based off of media people no like why does that matter well because based on
00:05:22.320 society's beauty standards and what they think is a 10 out of 10 because that like society's beauty 0.87
00:05:26.960 but i don't give a fuck about society that's the key here is that i i have my own viewpoint right 0.59
00:05:32.400 like okay so who would you class as a 10 out of 10 why does that matter well because like 0.79
00:05:38.080 in order in order to scale someone one to ten someone has to not be a 10 right so so so i fully
00:05:44.000 agree with that yeah and so but i'm not but we asked what i think i am what he thinks he is what
00:05:50.800 you think you are i'm not going based off of anybody else except for what i see in the mirror
00:05:54.720 right so but then like that almost wouldn't be a scale that like because then you have no way to
00:05:59.520 measure it right okay so it's like your way of rebelling against the scale almost forget rebellion
00:06:05.280 it's just genuinely how i feel right and i'm not saying like i like again like i think i think
00:06:10.400 you're beautiful yeah and i generally think you're beautiful too so i think it's just for
00:06:14.000 you to say that you're a five out of ten right but i just think i live like compared to you then
00:06:18.400 are you comparing her to you because you're telling her no no no but i'm telling her in her own right
00:06:23.440 she is beautiful so you would say she's a 10 then yes but like in her own right but i just think if 0.68
00:06:29.360 i was if i was a 10 i would have had modeling
00:06:31.440 but you know what i'm saying like i think if i was like a 10 right then i would have had
00:06:47.280 modeling i would have had modeling contracts by now i would have had people i would have had results to
00:06:51.600 show that i'm i would have had nfl nba players but remember that's all based on beauty standards that
00:06:57.360 are set by that's based on reality i do like that's society that's reality and like but i don't see the
00:07:04.320 same way that other people do though yeah let me ask the question do you think there's an objective
00:07:08.880 beauty standard yes can you describe objective to me as in like what the baseline okay something like
00:07:17.680 an objective society beauty standards so for example art is there good art or is all art the same
00:07:23.440 thing i feel like that's kind of different because art art is also something that's all about
00:07:28.720 perspective but in general it's subjective yeah but in in in if you look at medieval buildings
00:07:35.200 especially americans notice this when they come here they love our ancient architecture right compared
00:07:40.160 to their standard so there is a standard and like a stick figure versus like picasso
00:07:46.160 i guess um when it comes to that you know art is something that you put time and skill and detail
00:07:53.840 into i can't really say the same for people no because my point is that as as genuinely human
00:08:00.800 beings can identify what's beauty and what's not okay so what is your reaction to this clip
00:08:08.720 what he was saying about um you know we have ideas about what's beautiful not i do i do think i'm
00:08:17.920 pretty sure like your brain is kind of programmed to recognize certain things as more aesthetically
00:08:26.560 pleasing and even though subjective it's i'm pretty sure there's even like certain measurements of a
00:08:32.800 specific type of face that humans are more um find more symmetry yeah like that yeah there's been
00:08:41.920 things like studies about women with like neotenic faces like baby faces that men tend to find more
00:08:47.680 attractive and babies like stare stare at for longer so i do feel like there is an objective um scale of
00:08:53.840 attractiveness that you can judge people on obviously it's not like cross-cultural like maybe
00:08:58.880 in the east it's different but i feel like in the west you can definitely say a person
00:09:02.480 you could rate a person on a scale based on what collectively in the west people think
00:09:07.680 and you could like rate that on one to ten do you believe that beauty is in the eye of the aholder
00:09:13.680 the eye of the beholder i guess so because someone in east asia might not find um someone in the west
00:09:21.840 attractive um so it really depends on that person like what they grew up with like what they grew up
00:09:28.240 was um what they their society grew up with that's attractive would affect how they would perceive a
00:09:33.920 person so there's like pictures of people that you might not find attractive in like medieval times
00:09:38.000 but back then people would like kill themselves or done crazy things just to be with this person but
00:09:42.880 like now we're looking like oh i don't see the attraction there so i definitely feel like it's
00:09:47.360 definitely a subjective experience what do you think yeah no i definitely feel that way as well and i
00:09:53.440 also think um your taste changes as you get older what you might find attractive and what you're drawn
00:10:01.840 to initially initially when you're younger will ultimately change as you get older um you might go for
00:10:08.480 like the the obvious pick but then as you get older you might start thinking certain different
00:10:16.080 things are more beautiful do you think that's for men or for women oh because because that sounds
00:10:23.760 like a woman's point of view not necessarily a man's like i think yeah i think when we get older
00:10:28.640 we're like well we don't necessarily need these things but men i it seems like they just like hot likes me
00:10:36.640 yeah they're more uh visually motivated than us as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock
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