JustPearlyThings - She Claims That Men Are Insecure

00:00:00.000 But at the same time too, like, again, like, let's just, like I said, make it with me and you,

00:00:04.620 like, if you're my girlfriend and you don't want to sleep with me, the, the, my first go-to isn't

00:00:10.000 to go try to sleep with someone else. I'm not getting it from you. I would want to explore

00:00:13.340 the emotional depths of whatever you're feeling. What am I not doing? Why do you not want to be

00:00:18.040 close to me? I want to be intimate with you. But you're thinking like a woman and that's how a 0.99

00:00:22.400 woman, right. Right. But like, like men, it's just, come on, you know how guys are. Like,

00:00:26.780 I'm sure you, you especially like, like, like being, being as beautiful as you are. Like

00:00:31.800 most guys, if you put yourself on a platter in front of them would be down. Yeah. I mean,

00:00:37.940 yeah. Yeah. That's saying much, but yeah. Yeah. I mean, but that's, that's what I'm saying. Like

00:00:42.460 men, men have, if you're giving him sex, you'll still cheat because there's options. I would say

00:00:47.760 most men that have women on them on a silver, for them on a silver platter will cheat. Yeah. Like I

00:00:54.100 would say most, but not all men, most, most men work a normal nine to five. They go to work,

00:01:00.200 they come home. There's maybe one or a couple girls in the office, whatever they, he might

00:01:05.180 cheat there. But most men, girls aren't really checking for. So if you date an average guy,

00:01:10.720 unless you're starving him of sex, it's a lot of work for men to go out and get sex. That's 0.96

00:01:16.180 why I say, what part did you have to play in him cheating? Like, okay. If you were, you were

00:01:20.700 with elite athlete, right? They're just going to cheat. That's just, I see the normal. I saw

00:01:26.900 D three basketball players. I can't, I can't look at NBA. I was like, I can't, but okay. But

00:01:36.920 like your average nine to five, Joe, it's a bunch of work for him to go out and get a girl. So

00:01:42.220 it's like, what part did you have to play? A lot of women are always nagging on their husbands. 1.00

00:01:46.760 They got, they gained a bunch of weight after they had a kid, Brittany showing us firsthand. 0.98

00:01:51.340 You don't have to do that. And, and it's like, then they stopped sleeping with him. And the

00:01:56.000 men are like, wait, wait, wait, wait. I thought I got 120 pound wife. That was going to sleep 1.00

00:02:01.080 with me all the time. Now she got the ring where I'm locked into a contract for life. And you could

00:02:07.040 take my kids with me and my money and put me on child support, all this stuff. And now you're

00:02:13.080 going to gain a bunch of weight and not sleep with me. Like, what did you expect to happen?

00:02:17.420 You're not holding up your, yeah. And so men, like, that's another reason men don't want 0.81

00:02:21.180 to get married. Cause I'm like, Oh, I even had a guy tell me this. He's like, I don't want

00:02:24.020 to get married. I don't want her to get fat. But you know why, why a lot of the time as 1.00

00:02:28.360 well, I may just say one thing. A lot of the time, the reason why some, some men get a little

00:02:34.940 bit messed up comes down to insecurities and let me land. And I'll explain to you why

00:02:42.920 a lot of the time, the women that let themselves go in a relationship or in a marriage is also 1.00

00:02:49.260 down to the fact that men, now that they own the woman, they do not want the woman to be 0.99

00:02:54.760 approached. They don't want the woman to be desired by other men. It comes down to the

00:02:57.780 whole territorial thing, which then means that you are now going to punish or going to complain.

00:03:02.800 Are you going to put the woman in a position where she feels like whatever she looks like 0.85

00:03:06.760 is a problem. So she'll let go of it and she won't even work for it. That's also another 0.99

00:03:10.820 thing. Another side of things. Women don't just let go of themselves for no reason. They start to 1.00

00:03:15.420 let go of themselves because there's no desirability in general, many to understand as a woman for you 0.99

00:03:21.900 to be beautiful and to feel beautiful. It's not just about you telling me that I'm the most

00:03:25.140 beautiful girl in the world. You know, I just, to me, like that's just nonsense. Girls let 0.99

00:03:30.320 themselves go because they eat too much and they're lazy. I know a couple girls that got 1.00

00:03:34.240 married and gained like 50 pounds. None of them are happy they gained the weight. They

00:03:38.460 all wish they were thinner, but they're too lazy to fix it. It's like, I don't know. And

00:03:43.320 now they have the ring. It's like less incentive. You know, when you get, you guys know, when

00:03:47.180 you get breakup with someone, you are in the gym, you're trying to look like you're not me

00:03:52.000 too. Me too. I'm not saying I'm special. Me too. Or in the gym, we're trying to like get

00:03:57.260 our bodies right. All this stuff. And then we get a man and we don't, we don't keep it.

00:04:01.300 I mean, the way I was raised, you cater to your man. So you've got, this is your king.

00:04:06.460 And I'm not, I'm not saying you, you need to look good for him. So I don't know about

00:04:10.380 letting yourself go. No, I've got him now. I need to keep him.

00:04:14.680 I, I, I agree with you, but I'm not saying you in particular. I'm saying this is what the

00:04:19.020 men are saying. This is, these are the issues they're saying.

00:04:22.260 Yeah. Obviously I think it's wrong. Like when you get into a relationship, I don't think

00:04:27.320 like letting yourself go, I think it's a problem as a woman. Like why should you do that? Because 1.00

00:04:31.920 it's going to leave you. So I do agree with that.

00:04:34.460 Do you think a man can leave a woman if she lets herself go? He's asked her multiple times

00:04:39.400 to lose the weight and she won't do it. I wouldn't say. Assuming, let's say there's no kids involved 1.00

00:04:43.860 because kids kind of change things. Well, let's say there's no kids. Well, to be honest, yes,

00:04:49.260 because no, but it's not unfair. You'll be telling your guy, how many times do you say,

00:04:55.500 listen, I told him a million times to not this, to not do this. I told him a million

00:04:59.300 times to get up off his ass. I told him a million times to do this. He didn't do it. 1.00

00:05:03.260 I left him. If you as a man, you're speaking to your girl and you're trying to make sure

00:05:07.580 that she improves and she is better and she is not doing that. The problem is not that

00:05:11.460 she's not losing the weight. The problem is the mentality, which is the fact that you are

00:05:15.100 not willing to be better and get better so that we can both be happy and have the spark for life.

00:05:19.740 See, this is what I mean when I say it's like, there's little things that are open

00:05:24.940 misandry against men and we don't always realize it. So like in this instant, you kind of hesitated.

00:05:30.860 But if I came forward and I'm not saying I don't think it's intentional, but if I said,

00:05:34.940 yeah, I left him because he wouldn't work. He wouldn't get a job. You would be like, yes,

00:05:39.260 girl. And you know you shouldn't be with a bum. And it's like, that's a female bum, 1.00

00:05:46.140 a 300 pound whale. I'll say it. I'll say it again. As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok

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JustPearlyThings - April 23, 2023

She Claims That Men Are Insecure

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