JustPearlyThings - She CONFESSED Why She's Out of Favor with Men in Dating Market

00:00:00.000 If you have all these complaints about him what what's resonating with him really analyzing what you're doing

00:00:05.120 That's what I would suggest. So why don't because in my head like

00:00:10.320 Why wouldn't you avoid this if you could go back you wouldn't avoid the situations

00:00:14.760 Because you I thought in the beginning you said that like you wouldn't change it because of the wisdom you've acquired

00:00:21.180 But to me, it's like oh my god if I if I knew what I know now

00:00:24.560 Like I probably would have waited till I was married. No, I can I I get that I understand that

00:00:29.760 I think that I

00:00:31.760 Have a very influential voice and I have grown to be a voice for women who have gone through what I've gone through and experience what I've experienced and

00:00:41.520 Although I again, I can't speak for the majority because my situation still isn't even average, right?

00:00:46.320 and I'm aware of that, but

00:00:48.640 My voice is important just like your voice is important. And that's why I don't I would not want to change anything because

00:00:55.520 what again, I don't know what my

00:00:57.520 This is a very tough spot to be in right because you're figuring it out

00:01:02.800 You have people who are also trying to figure it out and it's like I'm needed in this space

00:01:09.040 Because I my voice guides those women that you guys talk about right?

00:01:13.920 So that's why I wouldn't change it because there's a greater picture even in my like I told you my last relationship

00:01:18.960 I had the Bentley had the house had the kid

00:01:21.360 And it wasn't enough. Okay, so it may be a small percentage of us women who feel this way

00:01:27.520 But those I feel like that's the voice that I'm I represent. Oh, no. Oh, you know, there's a large percentage of okay. Okay. Well, I mean

00:01:35.520 I don't know

00:01:37.520 They're predicting that 45% of women will be single and childless by 2030

00:01:42.560 So much so that big banks are investing in like cat food wine like things that go with like single women. Well, yeah 1.00

00:01:49.600 Okay, well

00:01:51.200 I feel like my voice does matter so now to navigate through this so so it's like

00:01:57.680 It's like again, it's such a small percentage of men that you're like looking for now. I know yeah

00:02:03.760 How do you want to navigate that like moving forward?

00:02:08.720 Um, do you even want a date like right now because you you um

00:02:13.680 So I know some people when their kids are young like just don't want to date. How do you like feel about that?

00:02:21.040 Um, I think it has more to do with

00:02:25.600 Where I'm at

00:02:27.920 emotionally and

00:02:29.920 It's not even like a jaded thing, right? It's more of I

00:02:34.640 Know my value I

00:02:36.800 Can talk to I can have one conversation with a guy now

00:02:40.080 And I know exactly what he's about 1.00

00:02:42.720 So most of the guys that have presented themselves in front of me just want to fuck me 0.99

00:02:47.600 I'm not interested in that and 0.99

00:02:50.160 I'm going to keep my I'm going to keep an open mind and I'm going to keep an open heart

00:02:54.320 But I know

00:02:55.520 By how a man approaches me how he speaks to me. I know that there's that that he wants more with me

00:03:01.760 It is just I know

00:03:04.160 So that's where I'm like, I'm not going on dates right now. I'm not talking

00:03:09.040 I don't have somebody that we talk every few days every day

00:03:12.320 I have no masculine energy besides like my family our family friend Jerry

00:03:16.720 Um, I have no masculine energy

00:03:19.520 In my in my in my sphere in my bubble. I don't because I think

00:03:24.080 I've focused on men and just dick in general for a very long time 0.93

00:03:28.560 And now i'm i'm just going to get to the business

00:03:31.360 I understand that the window the percentage it's it's it's changed a lot from when I was 22

00:03:37.360 So all I can do is kind of equip myself financially take advantage of the opportunities

00:03:41.600 I have now to set myself up because I can't rely on

00:03:47.440 A man and come someone coming to save me. I can only save myself now

00:03:51.040 So that's why i've dating is not a focal point

00:03:54.320 But i'm not like turning guys

00:03:56.320 Away that that actually want to get to know me like the real me not 0.99

00:04:01.200 Just want to fuck me and say all the right things and fuck me because I can see through that too 0.99

00:04:04.800 So I just use discernment now where i'm like 1.00

00:04:08.160 No guys even really try to talk to me like or I should say um

00:04:12.240 No guys that

00:04:14.240 No, no, no of course of course guys no, no, no, no

00:04:16.000 I'm saying of course those guys in my dm like random people yeah, but guys that I would be interested in they

00:04:21.280 There's really nobody trying to talk to me like that and that's okay

00:04:24.720 That's fine. Would you date a guy that's a normal nine? Okay, would you date a guy?

00:04:30.240 Makes 40 000 per year and he's not hot. He's just like all right

00:04:36.160 average guy

00:04:38.320 Average guy is a little a little beer. He's like skinny you know little beer belly

00:04:44.480 No, no, I take care of myself. I'm in the gym four to five times a week

00:04:49.680 At whatever his salary is to me. I feel like I still want to be attracted to the person that i'm with and

00:04:56.160 45 000 you could be in the gym gym memberships 20 a month

00:04:59.040 So if i'm again, I had a kid a year and a half ago. I look damn good

00:05:03.440 So it's like I would want someone who takes care of their body 0.69

00:05:06.400 So the the beer belly is not where you lost me. It wasn't even really the money thing

00:05:10.720 It's like the attractiveness

00:05:12.000 Like dead in the face, but jacked

00:05:15.120 40 000 a year

00:05:17.440 No, I don't like what i'm looking at and then like especially too as they get older like I like the salt and pepper

00:05:24.240 Like they get sexier like I don't want to date someone that i'm not attracted to

00:05:28.240 Would you date someone like 20 30 years older?

00:05:31.600 30 years older

00:05:33.600 He's salt and pepper and fine probably he's okay

00:05:42.720 It's just like even when girls say they're like breaking down their standards like do we really? 0.68

00:05:48.480 I think i i think i'm like you know percent of men most women find unattractive what

00:05:55.120 Not not just okay unattractive okay 80 you you probably find 80 percent of men unattractive

00:06:00.960 So even if like just and that's why i say like even if you find a guy attractive like you just think he's fine

00:06:06.640 That means other girls think he's fine that's top 20 percent of men

00:06:10.800 And again and it kind of just puts us in the same predicament where it's like

00:06:15.200 Through our 20s like this this is what the guys are complaining about it's like okay through our 20s

00:06:19.520 We're gonna sleep around with the the rappers the entertainers and maybe like you know most girls 1.00

00:06:24.960 I would say i know the manosphere says differently don't don't have access to the guys you would access to right

00:06:29.600 But it could be like the town rapper the town like whatever it was right yeah

00:06:34.640 And those guys will never commit and if they do commit they'll probably cheat and then we come at 30 and say

00:06:41.200 Take me now maybe with the kid from someone yeah, and it's like the guy comes in and feels like he's like settled for

00:06:48.000 Because the guys you really wanted were in your 20s

00:06:50.880 And it's kind of like what you're saying is kind of reiterating this because you just said now

00:06:54.640 Like you don't have the guys you want in your dms anymore correct, but this is how it's meant to be because a lot of people have

00:07:02.880 Villainized me and i've played into that actually i'm gonna say people have villainized me

00:07:06.480 And i have villainized myself because it's like well instead of fighting against it and you know

00:07:11.520 Uh, i don't know trying to convince people i'm actually a good-hearted person it's easier to just be the villain

00:07:16.560 um so i do feel like the villain element is a lot of i would say more so what guys fear right because they're thinking she's gonna hurt me

00:07:24.560 She's gonna write about me she's gonna this um

00:07:27.040 So to be honest

00:07:28.560 I wasn't meant to be with any of those guys in my 20s like

00:07:32.640 There it wasn't a match like there's nobody then that i'm like i wish they would take me seriously now 0.97

00:07:38.560 No like they i like them the same reason they like me i'm trophy to them and they're basically trophy dick to me 0.98

00:07:46.080 We both got what we wanted i mean essentially we want to have sex that worked i mean yeah 0.99

00:07:50.560 You have sex and you maybe want to start being in a relationship but you don't i didn't fucking know them like that 0.97

00:07:55.360 There's a lot of guys i didn't really know on that level to even it makes sense so 0.99

00:08:00.320 It's not even like you were saying um

00:08:03.680 I'm trying to think of the sentence you said before we started this conversation though this this topic um

00:08:09.440 So it's not even that i'm like oh i wish i had those options it's just more so like that was shallow anyways

00:08:16.000 Everything was shallow about it like you didn't really want to get to know me from me

00:08:20.720 Yeah, but that's like that's like the woman's point of view you know what i mean like but they didn't want to get if they wanted to get to know 1.00

00:08:25.760 me from me

00:08:28.320 It would have been a little different no i'm saying like from the men's point of view it's going to be and this is just

00:08:33.040 You know again what the guys are saying yeah

00:08:35.680 But it's like yeah you made all those like you let all those guys hit for free and now i got to do all this 0.80

00:08:41.680 Well it's not even i don't even look at it as well you did it for free because i'm not a prostitute like and i'm not a glorified 0.82

00:08:46.560 Right and that's that might not be how you look at it but this is that's crazy this is this is just like

00:08:51.600 This is how men see it it's like yeah it's like okay 0.93

00:08:55.200 blessing

00:08:58.880 You have you you took your girl on dates right 0.86

00:09:02.160 Yeah, how would you feel how would you feel if you took her on let's say five dates before you hit i don't know

00:09:08.880 what y'all did i'm not and then you found out that your bob down the street 1.00

00:09:14.480 Hit without taking her on shit 0.99

00:09:18.000 Like it hurts it's like it hurts a man's ego no that's fine and it hurts it's not even it's not 1.00

00:09:22.320 Insecurity either it's just like no i mean but that's where i have to come in and say

00:09:29.040 Okay like i'm not saying your ego shouldn't be hurt i'm saying you're not somebody that

00:09:34.640 Is even like we're not on each other's radar so the man that i want can't can't care about who the

00:09:43.200 Fuck i went on it who i did what with and that's a small percentage so that's why it's like him him 0.91

00:09:48.400 Saying that he's allowed to feel that way i mean that's fine like you're not on my radar 0.99

00:09:53.440 i think the point is like all men think like this

00:09:56.080 I i'm not going to generalize all i just can't like we can say majority but i'm not going to generalize and say all

00:10:02.400 Because it's like what my biggest issue is is like once you hit a certain age you're no good

00:10:08.800 Okay so so women we get where we hit 30 and we're basically useless to society 1.00

00:10:14.400 Okay to most men that's how they're going to feel that our life still has to go on

00:10:18.160 I would say not most men don't feel that way it's again we it's the men that we want that feel

00:10:24.240 That way because those men have options 0.99

00:10:26.800 80 percent of men women find unattractive 0.99

00:10:30.160 Those men will date 30 year olds they'll date single mothers they'll do all of it 0.98

00:10:35.200 It's it's the 20 percent of men that we want when they say 0.98

00:10:38.400 Okay single mom or no single mom i'm going to pick no single mom because it's just less headache 0.98

00:10:43.440 If i could pick a 22 year old or a 32 year old i'm going to pick a 22 year old

00:10:46.800 It's not it's not to say nobody gets through but just like on a balance of probabilities

00:10:51.440 No and that's fine i just think and i think i think the men sometimes get frustrated with us because

00:10:56.480 They feel like we've been sold this fairy tale that's just not real and these men are not real

00:11:02.320 Like to them and that's that's where they come in and say like women are delusional for like wanting these things 1.00

00:11:08.240 i mean and from their perspective that's valid that i don't have to

00:11:12.400 like if that's how however whatever percentage men you want to say that's how they feel you're saying all

00:11:19.200 i'm saying i'm not i'm not going to categorize i don't think all i'll give you i'll give you five

00:11:23.760 percent okay five percent okay well then i'm only concerned about the five like i i have no like

00:11:28.480 i'm not i'm not jehovah's witness i'm not here to convert you guys shouldn't think this way about

00:11:33.360 me you should see me as this see my value i don't i don't know i'm not saying like there's nothing you

00:11:37.920 can do yeah it just is what it is you're where you're at you can't undo the men you slept with

00:11:42.480 yeah and i don't want to it just is what it is you you you have you have a child so you can't undo any

00:11:47.680 of that there's no point in harping about it and i think that's the point you generally try to make

00:11:51.600 yeah is that i accept the repercussions of my decisions good bad or indifferent but my only point

00:11:57.120 is i'm just trying to like let you know this is how the men see it and this is what they're talking

00:12:01.280 about in the red pill i get it um okay what were your biggest disagreements with me before you met me

00:12:11.200 biggest disagreements

00:12:14.880 or anything on the show that you've that you've disagreed with that i said i think there were

00:12:19.760 maybe three things okay um the first well i had only watched one video on your instagram um because i

00:12:26.720 i didn't want to do too deep of a dive just yet right and it was the women aren't entitled to safety 1.00

00:12:31.120 um and i think it's triggering because like you think of like well why can't like why do i have

00:12:36.960 to fear going down a dark alley right but then when you actually think about it none of us are entitled

00:12:40.960 to safety so that statement is actually true so um that was one thing so i kind of went through my own

00:12:47.440 thought process we move forward i don't even know so many people triggered over that one yeah because it's

00:12:51.600 like you do want to be like well why can't i go down uh an alley at one in the morning well you can

00:12:56.480 but you know whatever uh but i think the other thing we had um on the show again i don't disagree

00:13:04.240 with okay maybe the the fat comments aren't that nice although i can't i can't say i i i would say

00:13:10.960 that i get the large majestic i don't i don't think they're nice um i get they started though okay

00:13:18.880 but i mean so i get you trying to defend yourself and like when somebody says something mean to you

00:13:23.120 or again if someone's not nice to you you're going to be not nice back so even from your

00:13:29.040 perspective i still get it it's like you attack me well i'm gonna you're gonna hit me i'm going 0.84

00:13:32.880 below the belt i'm going you're going low i'm going to hell you know what i mean so i also even 0.88

00:13:37.200 even though i don't agree i understand because if you're going to talk about me i'm gonna talk about

00:13:40.400 you too right and i think the only thing during um our our talk with andrew that i think i got maybe a

00:13:46.640 little hyper was when we were talking about the child support stuff and that's just because that

00:13:51.280 is a close to home topic and it is a very um it is a topic that is to me is talked about a lot and

00:13:58.960 people who don't have a kid who aren't going through this process the lawyers the custody

00:14:05.360 child support all that stuff you don't have a clue you know so every law every state is has different

00:14:11.440 laws so i think that was the only thing where i felt kind of hyper but we talked about that like

00:14:16.080 on the on the show we kind of got into that stuff and why i felt the way i felt so i don't know i like

00:14:20.960 you i'm gonna be honest like i i definitely want to shoot more stuff together and i i the pair of 0.57

00:14:26.640 nobody saw coming yeah like i i think you're cool as fuck so i don't know like i i think that i watched 0.84

00:14:32.160 a lot of videos about about you on tick tock um people were very like ugly to you um and i don't 0.95

00:14:40.960 think they really see your personality and they don't understand that there is a voice 0.66

00:14:47.600 every voice is very important right everybody's voice it doesn't matter how what shitty you think

00:14:52.960 their content is you think they're this their point their perspective is valid and they are

00:14:57.200 representing a group of people so you can't if you care about feelings and you care about truth

00:15:02.160 then you wouldn't try to downplay other people's perception like it's it's valid and there's a lot of

00:15:07.360 things too that we talk about like that you talk about with the marriage and the contracts and

00:15:11.520 disadvantages and biological things those are things that just cannot be argued like from a

00:15:17.040 biological standpoint a lot of stuff makes sense so i like what you're doing personally and i like you

00:15:21.920 as a person and i think if more people actually sat down and talked to you they would like that's just

00:15:27.280 my yeah tell that tell that to the beautiful majestic creatures i'm not saying anymore it's the beautiful

00:15:34.080 the sea creatures um okay guys if you have a question to submit to britney um go on my story i'm

00:15:44.480 gonna pick a couple right now it's on instagram just pearly things one they took away my actual ones i'm gonna

00:15:51.040 go go okay okay oh this is my looking oily am i good do you do you think body count matters

00:15:58.960 for men or women for women well if we're talking about this space that we're in it does matter

00:16:04.960 they like they're literally using body count as a way to it's like it's a scale um of course i'm

00:16:10.640 gonna say no because i don't want to be judged for my body count i wouldn't judge a man for his body count

00:16:14.400 um but we're in a world where women are judged so to a lot of men it does matter there are some men

00:16:20.800 we don't know the percentage whatever there are some men who don't give a so yeah i think yes and

00:16:24.960 no would you would you agree that like better marriages like tend to be formed when they're

00:16:30.560 both virgins or when the woman's a virgin at least i would say from this is from my theory about that is

00:16:38.640 if you don't know about anything else there's a greater chance you're going to stay so what i've

00:16:46.800 come to realize with having different types of sex when you have a big one you know when it's a small

00:16:55.840 one right you know like and these things this experience it shapes how you view what the ideal

00:17:04.640 partner or guy or sex is like and so if i if i take the concept that we're both virgins we both don't 0.98

00:17:10.480 know about you can get choked get spitting in mouths and anal and all this crazy stuff sorry but i'm just 0.99

00:17:16.560 saying wait y'all spit in each other's mouths oh my god you never have no i've done a lot of 0.99

00:17:25.520 shit though girl all right ew no that's ew sorry sorry uh i feel like yeah you only know of each other so 0.98

00:17:33.040 there's a greater chance like your mind doesn't necessarily i would i'm not gonna say it doesn't 0.98

00:17:37.040 wander but i would say that there's a the probability is a lot lower because you don't know anything

00:17:41.360 that's it you know you don't know what a you know a lysol can's like because you never been with

00:17:48.560 your husband's a five inch he's a six incher okay

00:17:56.400 do you think you've peaked and if so what age peaked and what like look wise yeah look wise do you

00:18:02.880 think you've peaked physically and if so what age like when i was in my best shape i mean obviously

00:18:09.120 i've had a baby now so my my body's changed i will say that the the base is still pretty much the same

00:18:15.360 i feel like my favorite body if i'm looking back at old pictures

00:18:20.960 probably 2019 it's probably like i all the pictures i took then i'm like damn how old were you 2019 i'm not

00:18:30.640 good at math but um sorry i can't even so like two years ago yeah i feel like that three years three

00:18:38.880 years ago i'm sorry like i said yeah um i i feel like um body wise 2019 yeah i feel like that was my

00:18:46.000 favorite body um because again i feel like i've always had a really because genetically i've just

00:18:50.080 always had a really nice body and i was always in the gym as well um but i think i was a lot skinnier

00:18:55.920 in the 2015 2016 so 2019 was probably like my favorite and then when do you think most women peak 1.00

00:19:06.000 also probably like mid-20s maybe yeah i mean i like i'm going off of when i look at the girls i went

00:19:13.200 to high school with on my facebook i'm like she used to be that girl and she's not that girl now you

00:19:19.920 know not trying to be mean it's just like they just look a lot it's honest and it's like you

00:19:24.640 can't control a lot of it's genetic so unless you have the money to get like work done you're going

00:19:29.520 to age it's a natural thing so i don't even say that to be nasty i just feel like probably like

00:19:33.760 mid-20s like 25 26 maybe 25 usually yes that would be my guess i i think i actually think most girls 1.00

00:19:41.440 peak at like 19. i think most of the people 19. yeah i really do like still babies i feel like you're

00:19:46.720 still growing into your body and stuff um most girls i know in the u.s got fat like most girls 1.00

00:19:53.200 are in better shape when they're 19 and i think that's like half of it okay um maybe some got a

00:19:59.280 little better style by like 21 22 but i feel like i noticed yeah i think 19 okay for most girls okay

00:20:07.440 blessing my thing isn't loading because of the service can you connect me to the wi-fi for a second

00:20:14.880 thank you this has been fun i'm so glad we got to like talk blessing is top producer

00:20:23.760 thank you um guys go to instagram um follow it while you're there but for real submit questions

00:20:29.920 because i'm gonna have her do them in a second okay um okay have you noticed a difference in dating

00:20:36.800 since you became a single mother yes um okay tell me about that do you do you feel like like that has

00:20:43.360 been the biggest difference what was bigger than having a kid or the book the book really oh i thought

00:20:49.760 the kid would be bigger than the book the book for sure like there was a time i'm telling you at one

00:20:57.440 point the dms were looking like a nike store with all the checks right after the book must be nice

00:21:04.320 i'm saying but after the book it was it was quiet i feel like it took a i don't even really want to

00:21:11.520 say when it picked back up i don't even know probably maybe like eight seven or eight months after the

00:21:18.800 book it started to kind of bounce back out but i'm talking it was quiet and that was how old

00:21:24.240 i think i was 26 when i released my book yeah 26 yeah they say the wall the wall is undefeated it's like 27

00:21:30.480 would you date someone like tate would i date someone like him yeah could you do the multiple

00:21:39.040 wives if he was open with you from the jump

00:21:45.520 it's like i would want him to myself um but i like the way he carries himself i feel like he has that

00:21:54.960 mufasa energy and i do think it's a lot different if you are it's full transparency i'm never going

00:22:03.680 to say never because a lot can happen between now and never but i like the idea of someone just being

00:22:10.160 fully transparent and i don't know exactly i don't know if i could be one of several but i just don't

00:22:17.680 want to say never i don't know i'm just going to keep an open mind so i like transparency i like

00:22:22.080 honesty i can respect honesty if you could have a perfect man that you wanted six six six

00:22:28.640 you know what that means no i was like what okay six six feet six inches um six inches six figures

00:22:36.320 oh my god i love all these terms would you would you give up your career give up my career yeah for

00:22:43.040 the perfect guy so i'm just what i'm at home doing nothing or what am i doing you're being a mother being

00:22:50.960 a mom kids yeah i have to have more kids is that a part of the deal do i have to offer on my uterus 0.99

00:22:58.160 or can't we just be in love um you don't want to have more kids i don't know never say never i i

00:23:05.440 again i don't want to like make i don't say i never want to have more kids i would never do this

00:23:09.760 because i just feel like i've been humbled in a lot of ways so right now unless a man wants to marry me

00:23:16.400 why would i have more kids i already have maybe daddy you know like i can't imagine more you know

00:23:21.760 especially with all that commitment again if something we get married it doesn't work out

00:23:24.240 that's a whole you know whatever but if what i give my career have the perfect guy like he sees the

00:23:31.440 beauty in the grand canyon and dance like does the bachata in the restaurant and is romantic

00:23:36.400 god i don't know that's hard sometimes when you talk it sounds like la la land

00:23:44.320 respectfully i mean just because you'll talk about these guys and i'm like these men aren't real

00:23:49.520 see what man sees the beauty is talking about the beauty in the grand canyon

00:23:54.800 but why can't i have a guy that sees the beauty in the grand canyon why why would i want someone

00:23:58.960 that doesn't see the beauty in the grand canyon why can't why can't i have a millionaire 1.00

00:24:02.240 but he doesn't see the beauty in the grand canyon so you're gonna be able to make your own money so

00:24:08.320 why like at the end of the day you grew up with money so why would that even really impress you

00:24:13.600 no my point is like it's just sometimes i think when we talk about like these perfect guys

00:24:18.640 and it's look it when i was younger oh god it's so embarrassing i don't really want to say it online

00:24:23.680 everyone's gonna roast me why would they roast you because embarrassing when i was a kid like oh my gosh

00:24:29.360 like i totally had like a list of like what i wanted in my future husband what's that's not dumb 0.96

00:24:34.000 that's really smart it does but when i read it back i was like god damn i was delusional no i i think 0.86

00:24:39.840 like god damn i think for me that i've i'm not looking for like a perfect guy i just want a guy that

00:24:46.960 has similar values and yeah like i don't know how to be to be quite honest with you like why would a guy 0.96

00:24:54.000 see the value in me if he doesn't even see the value in this is going to sound so crazy i don't

00:24:59.120 care if you don't see the beauty in like the world and the land and all these things why why the

00:25:06.000 fuck would you think i'm valuable you don't even think the great in the grand canyons like its value 0.90

00:25:10.880 speaks for itself so you're not going to see the value in me like so yeah i mean for me i i don't i 0.99

00:25:18.800 don't want a millionaire over someone who would want to do that with me that's just where i'm at

00:25:23.280 and i'm okay with that it's not like it's like grand canyon is a big ditch in higher

00:25:30.480 oh my god whatever but that's what i'm saying like you're looking at the world with a feminine lens

00:25:36.880 you know what i mean like the man will see the grand canyon like i just think of my brothers okay

00:25:41.440 and they're not they're not trying to look at the grand canyon and see the beauty in it and my dad is

00:25:46.240 i look up to my dad more than anyone in the world he is a great he is a great man okay and like i

00:25:51.760 go to him for like everything and i'm like he would think it was cool but he's trying to bike it

00:25:59.120 but that but that to me is cool no but yeah that's what i'm saying though like somebody who would want

00:26:03.920 to bike is someone who would want to hike like that to me it's not about like oh wow just the grand

00:26:09.120 canyon it's more so that like i think that's cool him even wanting to bike is cool to me that's the kind

00:26:14.320 of guy i would want like i would love to bike the grand canyon with someone that i love that it's

00:26:18.720 like but it's like see this is where i often like kind of see where the guys are coming from because

00:26:24.080 it's like my dad probably would be looked over by most women when he was in his 20s he was a little

00:26:28.560 nerdy guy the university of chicago shout out dad shout out yeah shout out shout out father um

00:26:36.000 i already know these comments are hilarious oh my god can i read you one it's kind of mean though

00:26:43.360 i won't i won't i won't that's fine i just had to ask her to stop being a hoe what did they think 1.00

00:26:48.640 would happen like what she's gonna say yeah um okay oh guys the tate and the tate britney pearl video um

00:26:59.440 it's probably coming out friday my thumbnail guy is out of town this week um so he's out of town until

00:27:04.880 thursday so friday we're gonna do it um how did you feel about that conversation like as a whole

00:27:12.240 good um i think i'm saying i think if i had to do it over again i would have had one maybe two less

00:27:18.880 people on the panel okay just because i really wanted to hear you more and i felt like there was

00:27:25.440 some people on the panel that just like kept talking for a very long time yeah and i think too i want to

00:27:30.640 clarify because i like i know that they're gonna love that video like i love that you even put that

00:27:35.360 together and thought about adding me to that um when i am in a group setting especially like that

00:27:40.800 that type of panel i'm an active listener so when somebody's talking you be quiet you don't talk so i

00:27:47.280 think that's why for me when people are going around and there's three people that have made a point

00:27:51.680 whatever i had to say i'm just like i kind of didn't get to say it because again i believe in just

00:27:55.920 listening and let people letting people talk and then when it's my turn to talk i'll talk so i didn't have a

00:27:59.600 lot of times it was my turn to talk yeah and when i did i thought i kind of had to like hey actually

00:28:04.720 you know so yeah it wasn't like like i and again i liked a lot of the stuff that we talked about you

00:28:09.440 know yeah i think if i had to do it again but something tells me you know there may be uh yeah

00:28:15.120 another one in the future yeah do you want to get married

00:28:21.520 and are you okay would you be okay with a long-term relationship without marriage

00:28:24.880 yes i've actually thought about this because i would i don't even think it's really the paper

00:28:33.040 that i want i think it's just the commitment and like i would i think i like the idea of a wedding

00:28:38.960 more than we have to go sign this and then when we divorce the courts are in our business because of 1.00

00:28:44.000 like what i'm going through with the child support custody stuff um getting out of that contract is

00:28:48.320 going to be hard right um so yeah i would be i would want like still i want to ring still want

00:28:55.360 a wedding but i wouldn't have to i don't think we would have to do it in front of the courts yeah

00:28:59.840 it would just be a commitment to each other and i've like i said i've actually thought about that

00:29:03.360 because i think i was watching one of your videos where a lot of women just want the celebration the 1.00

00:29:06.880 wedding and they and they don't actually care to get married um so yeah i would be open to that would

00:29:12.320 you be okay with like because i always say i would be cool i want to say a courthouse wedding okay but

00:29:19.040 you know i then i'm like you know if he doesn't want to do the contract that's fine but yeah i was

00:29:24.320 thinking like just like a small thing with like my parents and my immediate family like i i think that

00:29:28.720 sounds nicer than like this big like who needs 300 people at a wedding yeah i don't even know 300

00:29:34.160 people that would show up so no i i love the idea of just like the ceremony and reception and people just

00:29:40.080 celebrating your your guys's union and it doesn't have to be in front of like i said on paper so

00:29:45.520 that's kind of where i have changed my views a little bit where i'm like it's not even really

00:29:49.920 the contract that i'm wanting because like whatever who gives a i just want you and like all the fun

00:29:55.840 stuff that comes along with it that you know sorry i just know how the guys are gonna see they're like

00:30:02.400 the fun stuff that comes with it they're like they've been sold they're not i mean it is what it is but

00:30:08.400 it's like yeah i mean because it's not just about like i want to be able again if especially if i'm

00:30:14.160 marrying someone who has all of this i've always been open to prenups like because it's never about

00:30:19.840 like oh i want to take half of everything um even when i was with my ex like we had talked about

00:30:25.600 prenups like whatever you know i'm cool with that but i think that's just where it's like yeah you you

00:30:30.400 want the the cute stuff that comes with marriage but i don't even really know if people actually want to

00:30:34.880 go through the process especially of getting out of it i don't think they really want can i ask you

00:30:39.120 because um i was just thinking can i ask you about child support and like that so yeah they're saying

00:30:45.680 you have you get 10 000 a month on child support no i don't i do not i don't get 200 000 i don't get

00:30:51.520 10 000 and right now we are going through the process of child support and custody so unless we

00:30:59.520 can work something out between us we will be going to trial probably in a few months right now i'm

00:31:05.680 getting 2500 a month okay could you do just like 50 50 custody with him would he want to do that

00:31:13.440 because of his career he most likely would not be awarded that because he play he's on the road so

00:31:19.520 much um i'm very open-minded whenever he wants to see our son and come get him like he's getting them

00:31:26.000 from the the 29th to the 7th like because he's traveling on this two-week period right now so

00:31:30.960 anytime he wants him i let him see him like i mean he's i love pj that's why i had a baby with him so

00:31:37.840 despite like all our that's been out there and how hard it has been transitioning from romantic to like

00:31:44.880 basically strangers that we got a co-parent now um i still love him i love him to death you know but um

00:31:50.640 yeah so with the custody stuff i'm very open-minded i just think with his career it would be

00:31:55.360 hard for a judge to like award him 50 50 just because he travels so much because in my head like

00:32:02.000 isn't it something that could be worked out like outside of court it is but hearts don't break even

00:32:07.920 and he i think in his mind he has a number which i won't say but he has a number that he wants to stick

00:32:15.840 to and basically when you're going through this process for north carolina law because it's very

00:32:20.160 different other places you don't get a percentage if you both combined make a annually over 300 000

00:32:26.720 you're considered off the charts off off grid so then at this point you have to prove how much you

00:32:31.760 need in child support so any bills that my son occupies rent car note cable groceries those are

00:32:38.960 things that my son occupies and in charlotte um the least amount that i could that i could get would

00:32:44.720 be 50 of each of those expenses right the most depending on his career and what the judge sees

00:32:50.720 fit it could be up to 97 so whatever bills he occupies would be covered whatever for his clothes

00:32:57.680 and diapers and all that and then that's accumulated in a financial affidavit is what it's called right

00:33:02.880 and then you present it to him his team if he wants to settle outside if he's like actually no that's too

00:33:08.560 high i don't want to do that i'd rather try my chances in court then that's when you go to trial do you

00:33:12.800 do you think that he would give you nothing if it was up to him for the first two months he gave me

00:33:18.080 nothing do you think that moving forward he would continue to i think he would would just give me 2500

00:33:26.560 um you don't think that's i think that's plenty to raise a kid well when you go based on the laws

00:33:32.000 for north carolina it's all the bills that my son occupies so my car note is i think it's 2000

00:33:40.080 um our rent is 27 50 um all these bills so i'm saying it's those two bills alone are already

00:33:51.600 around but so this is just like the way the map

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JustPearlyThings - November 07, 2023

She CONFESSED Why She's Out of Favor with Men in Dating Market

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