JustPearlyThings - June 23, 2023


She Could NOT Believe How True This FACTS Is


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12 minutes

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In this episode, we discuss the recent video of a plus size woman celebrating her weight gain after getting married and the impact it can have on a relationship. We also talk about the health issues that come with gaining weight after marriage and how to deal with them.

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00:00:00.000 it's funny because I'll be like what the hell I've been going unhealthy throughout the years
00:00:13.140 yes she's celebrating herself but the way it's done with happy music I'd be I'd be
00:00:21.480 actually no I can't say I can't don't want to say anything but I don't know like I put on up I was
00:00:28.080 28 stones and one thing that I know I guess people are different and it's good she's celebrating
00:00:35.340 herself but again that's the type of I see how when skinnier people skinnier than me look at this
00:00:43.500 video I can I can imagine what they think so I know that you guys aren't also what do you think
00:00:49.500 they think oh gosh she's dying she is her insides are growing older and and I'm not gonna lie same
00:00:59.100 with me when I'm when I'm eating certain things I'm thinking oh gosh oh gosh like something and
00:01:06.360 you know with big people as well like yeah let me give some big plus size facts when you have to go
00:01:13.740 to the loo I'm telling you it feels like fireworks are in your belly and and there is a pressure so
00:01:21.180 but like all these plus size okay sorry I think I'm going oh yeah just sorry guys sorry I'm the
00:01:25.920 thing is this for me like so I'm a big fan of love I'm a big fan of like being in love and being in
00:01:31.720 relationship having a good woman in your life and for me I just maybe this is selfish but like you need
00:01:38.660 to fucking stay skinny so you don't die because I don't want to do this again I don't want to fall in
00:01:42.900 love and lose you and all that shit so anytime I'm in a relationship with a girl whether she 0.99
00:01:48.300 works out or not she's gonna start working out when she's dating me so I would just hate to see
00:01:52.500 that as a person dating someone who is gaining weight and then I have to be like looking and
00:01:59.140 dealing with the health issues that come with that yeah so women are more likely than men to gain weight 1.00
00:02:04.520 after marriage so do you guys think it's fair to gain weight after getting married why not I don't
00:02:13.920 think you don't think it's fair drop it on them Pam drop it on them Pam that person met you a certain way
00:02:21.920 and obviously that's what they went for and that's what they desired so that's what they will continue
00:02:28.560 to desire and although they would probably still love you they definitely wouldn't find you still
00:02:34.060 as attractive that's just that's just how it would be yeah I think that's just like a lot of I think
00:02:39.060 that's like really common sense that's really not present in today's generation because it's just
00:02:43.960 like it's unfair it's so selfish to just like that's like a guy getting a relationship with a girl
00:02:50.520 I'll be like oh you know what I'm gonna quit my job and I want you to take care of me
00:02:54.820 that's my next question
00:02:55.520 but guys you guys encourage your partners just encourage them with food encourage them exercise
00:03:02.500 why do we like for example you yeah but he probably was encouraging her but she she literally gained 0.99
00:03:08.800 120 pounds that's a whole other human but they did it together it feels it seems like it was their
00:03:14.380 couple goal it was that goal you know couple no no no no they didn't she she got bigger he didn't get that
00:03:20.440 much bigger yeah let's play it again anyway you guys don't know the world of chop chasers as well 0.99
00:03:26.700 I'm I am big so I can tell you the world of chop chasers as well we're talking about the video like 0.96
00:03:30.920 the he was I know but again he probably likes big women no no come on he wouldn't have made then he 1.00
00:03:36.000 would have married listen wait wait wait he would have married a big woman if you wanted a big woman
00:03:41.300 so I think it's it's one thing if you marry wait if you marry a chick and she's like over 1.00
00:03:46.400 I don't know what 200 pounds is here okay that's one thing but it's like if you sign up for one
00:03:52.300 thing and then she bamboozles you later you think that's fair just like if I marry a guy thinking he's 1.00
00:03:57.840 gonna pay all the bills and I'm gonna get to be a stay-at-home wife and that's what I thought
00:04:01.800 and then one day he's like you know what yeah I just don't feel like working anymore
00:04:07.440 or I don't feel like being faithful anymore I'm just gonna go fuck every girl I could find now 0.99
00:04:15.140 or on her side too it just not be cool I just think that you need to be because I think it's
00:04:22.060 common sense when you get a relationship you're like okay this is what I like so let's try to keep
00:04:27.820 this going or make this better right and if it goes both ways yeah and I think that I've I've been
00:04:36.520 there I've been in a relationship and I've put on weight in that relationship so I'm not just talking
00:04:41.220 you know blindly I've gone up to 16 stone at my heaviest so but I also know that as much as you try
00:04:49.420 to put this body positivity on everything at the particular at that particular point in my life
00:04:53.760 I was very unhappy through a lot of reasons because I knew that I wasn't the same person
00:04:59.880 I was when my partner met me and I didn't feel confident in myself but even though I've lost that
00:05:05.040 weight I've still carried that with me so for the Americans at home I was calculating yeah 16 stone
00:05:13.140 is 224 pounds you look great oh my gosh you're 220 pounds you look great 59 like nearly 16 stone
00:05:19.380 wow seriously I know how I fit so as much as people used to say oh you look good me personally
00:05:27.140 for myself I didn't feel that way but you know I felt I I was like that my whole life but I was just
00:05:34.640 sick and tired of being unhappy I'm like do you know this world is so short yeah and if you can get to
00:05:40.100 that point without that then great but me personally it was just a massive thing for me I couldn't get
00:05:45.820 past it's amazing how good you look now that's a key because a lot of the majority of people they
00:05:50.620 when they get that big they it's a large percentage of people that I was at my heaviest I was 19 stone
00:06:00.640 that's more than 16 stone so that wow are you guys friends yeah yeah did you lose it together I was
00:06:11.500 literally the fat kid that ate cake I was the food was my comfort it was it was everything to me
00:06:17.560 Matilda yeah and that's that's all I loved and it was an everyday thing but in my head in my mind I was
00:06:24.880 shifting the weight but the reality of it as I wasn't I wasn't motivated and there was nothing to work
00:06:30.220 toward and I lived with that for most of my childhood I lived with that throughout my early adult years I had
00:06:38.120 children when I was young so obviously after having children you've got the baby weight that stayed
00:06:44.120 on you and then you will have areas of your body then that you can't cover up yeah you know that you
00:06:51.740 can't hide and so that kind of led me to then staying at home and then there's a cycle after that
00:06:59.900 um where you know you you're at home you're socially excluded from from from places and people
00:07:06.980 um and then you tend to put yourself into a box uh a self-hate then um because whatever trauma that
00:07:14.540 you actually had which got you there starts to manifest as you get older and when you look at the
00:07:20.360 people around you when you look at how people respond to you um you're constantly battling yourself
00:07:26.060 and it is self yeah um and and for me I had to heal first I had to first figure out what was the trauma
00:07:33.380 yeah where's the problem um and with that you don't even know where to begin because you don't know what
00:07:39.360 the problem is um then you have to soul search you have to look who you've got around you you don't have
00:07:44.640 to look at your parents um how you grew up your school days um and all of that you have to calculate
00:07:50.920 and sometimes you are the problem sometimes the way that you've behaved is a problem however the
00:07:55.940 but the way that you've behaved isn't necessarily because you've wanted to be that way but you was
00:08:01.420 trying to be something that you was not in the first instance so for me once I discovered all of
00:08:06.700 that um and I and I shifted to to some weight and got to a healthy weight I then chose for me to have
00:08:14.260 surgery that was that was the gift to myself so after I'd healed and I'd recognized where the trauma
00:08:21.000 came from and I dealt with that trauma my gift to myself then was to have surgery what kind of
00:08:26.620 surgery I had a tummy tuck good for you I've had liposuction me too I've had my boobs done I I had
00:08:32.020 I had like so I did so and tying into the whole thing because a lot of people try to like shit on me
00:08:36.700 right now because I got liposuction right because I was just in such a bad place you know why because
00:08:42.000 I was reading YouTube comments everybody's just telling me this was in like 2021 March I got it
00:08:47.860 but I also was fully transparent about it and I made a full documentary good about it in Tokyo
00:08:54.400 and but at the time it was so crazy because I was so like just constantly being slammed because I
00:09:02.220 wasn't like huge I just had like a little in there in my midsection and then I was just like a man
00:09:08.760 possessed and then I just like yeah let's do it let's do it pay pay pay pay whatever and the next
00:09:14.080 thing you know I'm laying on the fucking surgery table I'm like oh fuck like this is gonna be 0.91
00:09:18.000 crazy and then I woke up and I was just like oh my god I can't believe I went through with that
00:09:24.240 that you know the same for myself but and you know it's you know it's so crazy too given them because
00:09:29.280 like I said I'm not I'm not hiding it I don't care I tell everybody you know what put it on my
00:09:33.360 tombstone like put it right there here here lies MLD you got liposuction what an asshole 0.78
00:09:37.960 you know um I'm happy when I did it and then I learned a lot of lessons along the way
00:09:45.980 so but even though now I get shamed why for being a man that got liposuction right but I don't care
00:09:54.920 because do you get caught lazy though that you were lazy oh you know everything this guy doesn't
00:09:59.600 this guy has no discipline this guy this this guy that I'm like have you seen the
00:10:04.960 business empire that I run like I didn't run that being lazy but all that aside yeah I would rather
00:10:11.480 personally I would rather be shamed for getting liposuction than being shamed for being overweight
00:10:18.980 and at this point in my life if they because it did people are going to criticize you no matter what
00:10:23.340 and I did use it because you know I wanted to create this documentary and I wanted the
00:10:29.440 fat cells out of my body and so um I'm still I'm even here on the UK on my trip I'm still
00:10:35.640 exercising I still eat clean yeah and I understand to uh is it Alicia Alicia Alicia Alicia I'm so sorry
00:10:44.240 I'm okay you'll forgive her Alicia as Alicia alluded to earlier Alicia was correct when she said the
00:10:51.560 symptom is something going on inside you and then Pam Pam as well said that what was going on inside of
00:10:57.200 you is there is some there's some trauma there's some things so I think what Pearl said is absolutely
00:11:03.080 correct we can't glorify this because at the end of the day what we're doing is we're glorifying poor
00:11:09.360 mental health yes because it's we can't be glorifying that kind of stuff because and you're literally
00:11:14.700 sending people off to an early grave I'm a big fan of being alive
00:11:18.400 you know and it's so it's interesting too that you guys like weren't hand selected for this body
00:11:27.040 positivity thing but no I know I had no idea yeah that's like the universe is coming together that's
00:11:32.560 pretty cool the the thing is there's a perception um when it comes to people that choose to have
00:11:38.440 elective surgery and that is what I try in my day-to-day life try to allow people to see that it's not
00:11:45.900 about just wanting to have surgery to get rid but some people are not best gym candidates I wasn't I
00:11:51.700 mean I'd spent thousands of pounds on on personal trainers on diet plans um I was doing all sorts
00:11:58.220 however what happens is yes you might lose the weight the weight will go down in my case I I had a hernia
00:12:05.380 I'd had three c-sections um my stomach was protruding that's the the the recti muscle in the middle was had
00:12:11.380 opened I needed to have muscle repair and that cannot be fixed in the gym right so when I was
00:12:16.880 losing the weight in fact I actually looked better when I was bigger because I could hold my own
00:12:21.500 when I lost the weight everything dropped and went down south and it looked worse yeah to be fair
00:12:27.020 um so when I saw that happened after I'd lost all the weight well what do I do now because the gym is
00:12:33.000 not going to help this yeah I need to have a tummy tuck yeah I need to have muscle repair
00:12:38.860 so so knowing that I needed to have that done there is there is a you know a number of people
00:12:44.500 out there will be a while you go to the gym well I did yeah many years and my biggest thing is too
00:12:49.100 if we're supposed to like enthusiastically support people chopping off their wieners and becoming women 0.99
00:12:55.140 like you got to shut up about this other stuff too