JustPearlyThings - She Dated A Feminine Man

00:00:00.000 But I feel like, how can I, but I think that's how guys hear it when we, when we say we have

00:00:05.220 to be masculine because there's no masculine, because there's not a guy around or we have

00:00:09.960 to do masculine things.

00:00:10.960 I feel like for me, when I had to, was in masculine energy is when I was in a relationship

00:00:14.800 where the man wasn't leading.

00:00:17.240 So I wasn't able to be feminine.

00:00:19.040 He was allowing me to make this, I like making decisions, but it was a thing of where I was

00:00:24.860 making all of the decisions like, oh, it's fine.

00:00:27.800 You have the last say.

00:00:28.800 It's like, okay, like, oh, you do this.

00:00:31.300 You do that.

00:00:32.300 I was in a masculine energy because the man wasn't operating in the masculine energy.

00:00:36.380 So I was basically like struggling and fighting every single day for the, why are you picking

00:00:41.440 feminine men? 0.63

00:00:42.440 Do you know?

00:00:43.440 Well, I was very young when I met him, I was 18.

00:00:46.460 So I didn't know about feminine, masculine energy or young, oh, he looks good or he's

00:00:50.800 nice.

00:00:51.800 And you just go with the flow.

00:00:53.360 So I didn't know that then it wasn't until seven years of gone past.

00:00:56.600 Wait, okay.

00:00:59.100 So you didn't notice it for seven years.

00:01:00.100 But I was like ignoring it because I was like, oh, this is who I love.

00:01:03.100 I want to be with and ignore when you're in love.

00:01:05.600 You're blinded.

00:01:06.600 So for seven years, you were masculine, masculine.

00:01:09.600 Yeah.

00:01:10.600 How do you stop being masculine?

00:01:12.100 Because I'd imagine like if you do something for seven years, how do you just break that

00:01:15.100 habit?

00:01:16.100 To be honest with you, I'm still in therapy.

00:01:18.100 I'm still healing and learning.

00:01:20.100 I haven't stopped being masculine.

00:01:21.100 I'm learning how to not be masculine.

00:01:23.100 So I'm single at the moment because I've had to learn that I basically stopped by not

00:01:28.100 being that person anymore.

00:01:29.100 And realizing that, oh my gosh, I was operating in masculine energy because they wasn't.

00:01:33.100 And it wasn't even their fault.

00:01:34.600 It's just something that they couldn't do wasn't within them.

00:01:37.100 So now I'm in a learning process that, okay, I don't want to be masculine anymore.

00:01:41.100 I want to be feminine.

00:01:42.100 I want to be soft, but still, I'm not a type of soft person that just sit at home.

00:01:46.100 No, I like to work.

00:01:47.100 I like to earn, but I want to be able to be for a man to look at me and be like, this is

00:01:51.100 a woman.

00:01:52.100 She's not trying to be strong or aggressive.

00:01:55.100 I don't want to be like that.

00:01:56.100 But yeah, so I'm still in the process of.

00:01:58.100 So for the single fathers, what actually stops the guy from getting a replacement woman? 0.64

00:02:04.600 What stops him?

00:02:06.100 What stops him getting a replacement woman? 0.96

00:02:10.100 I mean, maybe he doesn't like the modern women today, a lack of wives, common law marriage.

00:02:20.100 I mean, the risks that come with marriage, not wanting to bring a bunch of women in and 1.00

00:02:24.000 out of the home, knowing they might leave, like knowing that's hard on a child.

00:02:28.100 Yeah.

00:02:29.100 And even if he just finds a girlfriend to just facilitate the mother being there.

00:02:32.600 So he doesn't have to be a full on feminine single dad.

00:02:35.100 He might not want to be introducing women to his child because it's not easy.

00:02:40.600 He might think, Oh, if I introduce this woman, how long is she going to be there for?

00:02:43.100 I mean, women, I mean, women leave 70 to 80% of the time in divorce, like in marriages. 0.58

00:02:49.100 And so if it's a girlfriend, how long is she really going to be there?

00:02:53.100 I'm sure he can find a solution for that.

00:02:59.600 I mean, I think that's a feminine point of view because for us, it's like there's always

00:03:04.600 someone.

00:03:05.600 But for men, it's not always, I mean, one in three men are sexless.

00:03:07.600 They haven't had sex in the past year or they're virgins under 30. 0.87

00:03:10.600 And so it's not as simple as, Oh, just find someone.

00:03:15.100 Epic to differ.

00:03:16.100 It's very, very, very easy to actually find just a normal, genuine female that can actually 1.00

00:03:21.100 facilitate her needs because we have the feminists. 1.00

00:03:23.100 I think it's extremely difficult to find anybody in the world today.

00:03:26.100 Like when you say like there's men that have gone without being in a relationship for years,

00:03:32.100 I'm, I'm one of those people, like I've gone years without seeing anyone because I'm not

00:03:36.600 for seeing that particular with what I want in my life.

00:03:39.600 And then in terms of like having someone around my child, I don't believe I could even consider

00:03:45.100 anyone being around my child.

00:03:47.100 Worthy enough to actually.

00:03:48.600 I don't want anybody around my child because I know my partner would be upset about the

00:03:53.100 fact that there's another man around his child.

00:03:55.100 So I don't think that I find that very disrespectful unless your man has specifically said I'm happy

00:04:00.100 with that.

00:04:01.100 So I couldn't disrespect his principles there.

00:04:04.100 But if you really think about it from the beginning, when you're actually dating someone,

00:04:07.100 there's red flags and you've got green flags and it's very easy to actually suss out the

00:04:11.100 red flags that are there.

00:04:12.100 Very easy.

00:04:13.100 People reveal themselves in many different ways.

00:04:15.100 And like I said, we have the feminists out there that's revealing that they want to 1.00

00:04:18.100 be a feminist. 1.00

00:04:19.100 So it's now easy for men to point out, okay, this is what the feminists display as. 1.00

00:04:24.100 I now know what I do not want.

00:04:26.100 It's very easy.

00:04:27.100 I think women are very smart. 1.00

00:04:28.600 I can say not just women, I say men, like once you become entangled in relationships

00:04:33.600 like children, marriage, or living with somebody, I think that's when you really get to know

00:04:38.600 someone, like people change.

00:04:39.600 Like people are pretending to be somebody, whether it's red or green flags, whatever you

00:04:44.600 want to say.

00:04:45.600 But once you generally get to know someone, things change, people change.

00:04:48.600 One in four marriages are sexless and it's usually on the part of the women. 1.00

00:04:52.600 How is a guy going to predict that?

00:04:54.600 One in four.

00:04:55.600 It's very easy for me.

00:04:57.600 Well, no one's a mastermind.

00:04:59.600 No one can actually hide their true self throughout the whole time.

00:05:03.600 People change.

00:05:04.600 Yes, they can.

00:05:05.600 That's based to the decision.

00:05:06.600 That's up to you if you want to let the red flag pass.

00:05:08.600 Some people get married and they'll buy a house together.

00:05:11.600 And like, then the woman or all man will want all of the house, like they will lose everything 1.00

00:05:15.600 and have to start all over again.

00:05:17.600 Then you've got broken men and women in society who are truly broken.

00:05:20.600 They've lost their children and everything.

00:05:21.600 I know someone that got divorced and his ex-wife killed his dog.

00:05:27.600 How would he predict that?

00:05:29.600 From the beginning, she would have displayed some time.

00:05:31.600 No, no, no.

00:05:33.600 I don't think that you're saying from the beginning, but you can meet someone in the beginning and

00:05:37.600 they're amazing.

00:05:38.600 And that was their true self.

00:05:39.600 And then they've gone through a life experience whilst being with you.

00:05:42.600 And they change.

00:05:43.600 People change.

00:05:44.600 People change monthly, daily, yearly.

00:05:45.600 Who are better liars?

00:05:46.600 Men or women? 0.99

00:05:47.600 Women. 0.81

00:05:48.600 Women. 0.81

00:05:49.600 Definitely women. 1.00

00:05:50.600 Men are not very good liars, I don't think.

00:05:53.600 I think you can always see it in their eyes.

00:05:55.600 I think women maybe act better. 1.00

00:05:56.600 I'm not too sure.

00:05:57.600 I'm not too sure.

00:05:58.600 Women. 0.81

00:05:59.600 Women act better, but I don't know. 1.00

00:06:01.600 Definitely women. 1.00

00:06:02.600 I think we're better at hiding things.

00:06:05.600 Definitely.

00:06:06.600 But seeing someone and living with them is two different things.

00:06:11.600 Yeah, 100%.

00:06:12.600 You never know someone until you live with them.

00:06:14.600 And how much are you going to change in 40, 50 years?

00:06:16.600 A lot.

00:06:17.600 Yeah.

00:06:18.600 A lot.

00:06:19.600 If you really want a long marriage, I mean, people change at times.

00:06:23.600 Yeah.

00:06:24.600 I agree with you.

00:06:25.600 Some guys do ignore red flags, but I just think when it's their kid that's at risk, it's

00:06:31.600 like a lot of guys just would rather avoid that situation altogether.

00:06:34.600 I think that's the most likely person that is to abuse your child sexually.

00:06:39.600 Yeah.

00:06:40.600 It's a step parent.

00:06:41.600 Wow.

00:06:42.600 Yeah.

00:06:43.600 That's actually crazy.

00:06:44.600 Wow.

00:06:45.600 Okay.

00:06:46.600 I'm going to read Super Chats for a second.

00:06:47.600 C. Dumbledore.

00:06:48.600 Men don't meet their real wife until they meet her in divorce court. 1.00

00:06:53.600 Sick lid.

00:06:54.600 Great conversation.

00:06:55.600 Pearl, can you get Jessica X on your show?

00:06:57.600 Yeah, I totally would have her on the show. 1.00

00:06:59.600 C. Dumbledore.

00:07:00.600 As a single father of three girls, it is effectively impossible to find out a woman who I could trust 0.90

00:07:06.600 to be around them, and I need to be more masculine in the role, not less.

00:07:11.600 Cowboy Crypto.

00:07:12.600 She's right.

00:07:13.600 There are certain feminine roles that I have stepped into.

00:07:15.600 My ex refuses to put our daughter in a dress, so I make sure to do so.

00:07:19.600 Tony, imagine managing people actively breaking laws made for equality for men and women and

00:07:25.600 doing the same work for 60 years ago minimum in the Western world.

00:07:29.600 G. Money.

00:07:30.600 As someone who has worked in construction all my life, no general laborer will make as much as a journeyman.

00:07:40.600 Wilson, she tried.

00:07:41.600 True facts.

00:07:42.600 I'm a 41-year-old man who raised four kids from 8 to 18. 1.00

00:07:46.600 Stepfatherhood is stupid. 0.99

00:07:49.600 My decisions made more sense, but it went her way because I was at work longer. 1.00

00:07:56.600 I fought more when I came home and I had two STR.

00:08:00.600 I don't know what that stands for.

00:08:01.600 Bone Man.

00:08:02.600 Thank you, Pearl, for showing neutrality and acknowledging both sides of gender dynamics,

00:08:07.600 which is an aspect of physics necessary to being at harmony at a societal scale.

00:08:13.600 It all begins with the nuclear family and fatherless households with women who have daddy issues. 0.83

00:08:19.600 Shadow V.

00:08:20.600 The blonde woman is truly refreshing to hear from.

00:08:23.600 She is so grounded and humble and, dare I say, beautiful.

00:08:26.600 She is so humbled that she does not believe she's in the top 20%.

00:08:29.600 She is easily.

00:08:30.600 WD-40.

00:08:31.600 You want to put your Instagram?

00:08:32.600 You might have a fan.

00:08:33.600 You got IG?

00:08:34.600 No.

00:08:35.600 Oh, no, she doesn't.

00:08:36.600 Okay.

00:08:37.600 WD-40.

00:08:38.600 Whichever one said that she would go to war is lying.

00:08:41.600 Our countries are already fighting war in Ukraine without officially telling us, pack your bags and head out then.

00:08:46.600 Bone Man.

00:08:47.600 Women want equal rights but refuse to be drafted and or participate as equal under the law in context to what the substantial rights are for men and woman. 0.99

00:08:57.600 DAS token E-30.

00:08:59.600 Wear a flannel.

00:09:00.600 Cutting your hair and talking deeper doesn't make you a XY in the slightest.

00:09:04.600 XX.

00:09:05.600 A woman can never be men. 1.00

00:09:07.600 C. Dumbledore.

00:09:08.600 For the blonde, admitting you're not 20% puts you in the top 20% for men. 0.79

00:09:13.600 Keep that attitude.

00:09:14.600 Stay feminine. 0.89

00:09:15.600 Keep your body count under 500 and you'll get a good man.

00:09:18.600 Zero follow.

00:09:19.600 Throughout history, women have always worked in some form. 1.00

00:09:23.600 The fairy tale of women staying at home was always the rich. 1.00

00:09:26.600 Only in recent times was the stay-at-home mom a thing for the masses. 1.00

00:09:30.600 Elite Gamer876.

00:09:32.600 Why do modern women think being submissive to their boss is better than to her man? 1.00

00:09:36.600 My wife is the CEO of our family.

00:09:38.600 I am in the top 20%.

00:09:40.600 She wins.

00:09:41.600 Luke Clark.

00:09:42.600 A blonde girl.

00:09:43.600 You're doing great.

00:09:44.600 Keep it up.

00:09:45.600 C. Dumbledore.

00:09:46.600 Women look for romance because it's foreign to them. 1.00

00:09:47.600 Men feel romantic love.

00:09:49.600 Women only feel lust or conditional love. 1.00

00:09:51.600 It's just biology and Griffalt's law.

00:09:54.600 DAS token.

00:09:55.600 Women is the new man role. 1.00

00:09:57.600 How?

00:09:58.600 Does she have to steal toe shoes? 1.00

00:10:02.600 Does she work after work? 0.98

00:10:03.600 Does she sleep in bed during the weekends? 0.90

00:10:05.600 Women can never be men. 1.00

00:10:06.600 90 frito pie.

00:10:07.600 First woman to be honest about how they love.

00:10:10.600 David Rivas.

00:10:11.600 I make six figures a year and the lady on the far right with the child is going to be alone. 1.00

00:10:15.600 He has to make more and take care of her and the child.

00:10:19.600 Mr. Unmerciful.

00:10:21.600 A man can't be the head of the household if his woman makes more than him. 1.00

00:10:24.600 Sorry.

00:10:25.600 You pay the cost to be the boss.

00:10:27.600 Brandon Colon.

00:10:28.600 You can count on Pearl to ask the question.

00:10:31.600 Some.

00:10:32.600 Most people don't want to answer.

00:10:33.600 Honestly, she keeps.

00:10:34.600 She does her best to keep them honest.

00:10:36.600 You rock Pearl.

00:10:37.600 Auntie Jen.

00:10:38.600 Hi Auntie.

00:10:39.600 Men who are not the product of single parent mother homes make the best partners and husbands.

00:10:43.600 They have less issues and are more masculine.

00:10:45.600 Prove me wrong.

00:10:46.600 C. Dumbledore.

00:10:47.600 Any woman who says I am the table has literally objectified themselves. 1.00

00:10:51.600 It is an uncomfortable admission that they bring zero to the table.

00:10:55.600 The greater the bravado behind it, the greater the lie.

00:10:58.600 It 2298.

00:11:00.600 Keep up the good work.

00:11:02.600 C. Dumbledore.

00:11:03.600 I don't believe that men do that.

00:11:04.600 It doesn't matter what you believe.

00:11:05.600 It's how we feel.

00:11:07.600 We call it post-nut clarity and all men feel that way. 0.97

00:11:10.600 It is easier for us to have connectionless sex. 0.94

00:11:14.600 And for Dom, feminism leads to Islam. 1.00

00:11:17.600 I'm going to refresh the page real quick, guys, just to make sure there's no more.

00:11:21.600 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.

00:11:24.600 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - April 01, 2023

She Dated A Feminine Man

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