She Gave The Most Shocking Answer To This
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss how to deal with the baggage that comes from the past in a relationship with a partner and what to look out for in a potential partner. We also discuss what to do if a partner has a shady past and how to handle it.
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about the past uh when it comes to your partner so i want the women to also answer and the men
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yep um so start here and go around definitely you care yeah okay so what what's too shady of
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a past for you um it depends when a man is too thirsty and like all the women's on are on him
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and like he's not i like individuals i like like something that is private that no one's like
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touching one you know so yeah i think that one okay go ahead i think um
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the truth for me is that you know you obviously want to accept that that person has a past just
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like you have a past but in my youth in my youth club in church when i was there in high school
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it was every saint has a past and every son has a future so i think that you kind of have to think
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of it in that way and like look at that person as yourself in a way because it's like i have a
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past we all have a past i know i have a future i'm trying to live in the present with this person
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so so you don't care as much it's not about caring or not because of course i care but does it faze me
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that's the question it doesn't is it really gonna bother us every day not really okay we're gonna work
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it out if that's the person i choose okay cool what about you um the past is definitely a concern
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well it would be if there's a lot of baggage coming from that past um you know because it can
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get confusing if a man has like five baby mothers good girl what about what about what about three can
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you get away with three that's me and three of them and three kids like i don't know how many baby
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mamas is too many like one is two and one is two but you you could do two you could do one or no
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i might can you could do one yeah two two yes or no um i don't know it depends it depends how close
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they are what if they're ex-wives is that different well ex-wives are different in it because
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that's much different i think that's much different yeah wait wait why is ex-wife different to the baby
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moms because okay wait they were married before they had the kid yeah so it's like yeah but are we
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gonna continue or we're gonna stick on to that one well i was gonna i just was curious if it's different
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to you well no um with an ex-wife it's kind of it's gone into a legal bind so if they legally
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you know parted it's like okay yeah all right that's why so two ex-wives you could two ex-wives
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with kids you could deal with the two baby mamas it's enough it's drama because you know well there's
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i would say with the baby mom the the baby dad would go to the flat and sleep on the sofa what do you mean
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sleeping on the sofa so you were dating a guy yeah and then he said i'm gonna go sleep on my baby
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mother's sofa what does that even mean you know he's homeless the wife of the baby mom is a totally
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different yeah but what if he slept on the ex-wife's sofa i don't think the ex-wife would don't do that
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because i feel like the ex-wife would kind of have somebody there because it's an ex-husband ex-wife so
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you you feel like in a way you're kind of saying like the ex-wife has more value than that than the
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baby mama maybe maybe because there wasn't in a contract binded and if they depart from that
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contract you know he's probably pissed off that he has to pay for the house so he ain't gonna go
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to the sofa is he what about if if the guy so if the guy is paying um child support on his two kids
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yeah is that it was that could that be a deal breaker for you no no that lets me know that he's
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very supportive and you know what if it's what if he has to live a really frugal lifestyle because of
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it that's what i'm saying like like he spends more he spends more on the on the two kids i don't mind
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because at least you're looking out for the own but i'm a bit i love going out i love doing stuff i love
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the high life and everything so if you got two baby mothers and you got child support to pay babe
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where am i coming into this how are we gonna make this happen you know what i mean and it's it's tricky
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like who who you know i couldn't i don't think i could and i've i've just walked away from it so
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many times like okay i can deal with the one baby mom and i can see the wait wait wait you said times
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you said times how many baby fathers like no no i'm wow i'm thinking when i was a bit younger
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okay when i'm dating in that time but my now time now now okay so now kids are off the table
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not okay okay it depends on the man though okay okay so for the right guy how many baby moms could
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he have the right guy okay but not two not two not two but two ex-wives he could have one ex-wife
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one ex okay because that lets me know how much his pocket is spending out okay you know okay uh what
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about you what do you think about past past mattering yeah um no i don't think someone's past matters for me
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i don't think a man's past matters um i think if he's bringing baggage from his past then that's
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something that would have to be addressed and everything's case by case but if we're talking
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about like you're not bringing no baggage you've just been a hoe and now we're doing relationship
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i don't think i would judge him on his past what if what if he slept with one of your friends
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but it was it was just a casual one night i think i think number one um if the if it was if it was
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just like a one night stand thing i don't care so who who here out of the girls if you slept with one
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of your friends you could you could get over it no i would you could get over it i don't think i care
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so i would say if like he couldn't have just slept with my friend last month and now he's trying to
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talk to me about xyz i would have to assess how my friend feels about there would be factors to it but
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if it was there was no strings attached they both just had a fling they had a one-time thing there
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was no feeling in the situation i wouldn't i wouldn't care okay so you you you're saying no
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she said yes she said yes what do you say uh no i think that if there's betrayal in anything then
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you know things always you just left with i now have to react it wasn't a betrayal it wasn't a
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betrayal before you for me that i knew yeah you're you're you're finding out this is you know the guy
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he's in your circle whatever he's a good guy that's the thing he slept with her a year ago
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it just happened to happen one night yeah we weren't even thinking about yeah yeah so you could
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get over it you could get over it that's cool but he wouldn't be able to get over it i get that
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like men wouldn't be able to get over us doing that today oh we'll find out okay what do you think
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could you get over it um not really because i wouldn't even go to like my man's friend and like
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be with him so it's the same thing okay it's the same thing okay uh you have strong of it go ahead
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go ahead go ahead strong wow right which should i start on firstly if it was with my friend that's
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a negative no no no never no because how are we should no we're not sharing the same no but you
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wouldn't be you wouldn't be sharing no she went there first then i'll be going there yeah and that's
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my friend and then that's all too much there's a lot of men out there yeah i'm all right i'll keep it
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moving yeah and back to the back of the past for me the only thing that really would really go for
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me in a part of a man's past is if there's a history because you see you see when geezers are
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like oh yeah my ex is crazy but my other ex is crazy but my other ex is crazy yeah my other ex is
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crazy that's when it's like yeah that's when i care about your past because i'm like how either
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you just meet all crazy women or you're turning them all crazy has that happened to you before
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no yes yes yes oh yes how what happened yeah everyone was crazy apparently
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did you find out what he did or like or what happened he just he was one of them he just told
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a lot of lies you know when you just tell a lot of lies and make it and this is when and he went
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for younger girls as well so they're a bit more naive and it was like he told him lies and tell
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more lies and then the lies caught up with him and then he then it was he'd keep it moving he'd be
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like yeah she's crazy she's crazy and i'm like yeah no you've met the real crazy now so oh so you
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were the real crazy yeah i'm the real crazy so then what did you do what did you do i said bye
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oh that's it yeah i said bye that doesn't sound crazy no of course not but apparently i've heard i've
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heard i am i am a little crazy oh so now he's saying you're crazy so it's like it's not one of
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them it's a little pattern that that's what i mean but if he slept around or anything i was just
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