JustPearlyThings - April 08, 2023


She Gave The Most Shocking Answer To This


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9 minutes

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1,834

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11

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7

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In this episode, we discuss how to deal with the baggage that comes from the past in a relationship with a partner and what to look out for in a potential partner. We also discuss what to do if a partner has a shady past and how to handle it.

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00:00:00.000 about the past uh when it comes to your partner so i want the women to also answer and the men
00:00:05.280 yep um so start here and go around definitely you care yeah okay so what what's too shady of
00:00:13.700 a past for you um it depends when a man is too thirsty and like all the women's on are on him 0.76
00:00:22.040 and like he's not i like individuals i like like something that is private that no one's like
00:00:27.060 touching one you know so yeah i think that one okay go ahead i think um
00:00:34.260 the truth for me is that you know you obviously want to accept that that person has a past just
00:00:44.120 like you have a past but in my youth in my youth club in church when i was there in high school
00:00:49.600 it was every saint has a past and every son has a future so i think that you kind of have to think
00:00:55.780 of it in that way and like look at that person as yourself in a way because it's like i have a
00:01:00.400 past we all have a past i know i have a future i'm trying to live in the present with this person
00:01:05.640 so so you don't care as much it's not about caring or not because of course i care but does it faze me
00:01:12.280 that's the question it doesn't is it really gonna bother us every day not really okay we're gonna work
00:01:18.600 it out if that's the person i choose okay cool what about you um the past is definitely a concern
00:01:25.660 well it would be if there's a lot of baggage coming from that past um you know because it can
00:01:32.320 get confusing if a man has like five baby mothers good girl what about what about what about three can
00:01:38.180 you get away with three that's me and three of them and three kids like i don't know how many baby
00:01:46.140 mamas is too many like one is two and one is two but you you could do two you could do one or no 1.00
00:01:52.220 i might can you could do one yeah two two yes or no um i don't know it depends it depends how close
00:02:00.860 they are what if they're ex-wives is that different well ex-wives are different in it because 1.00
00:02:05.760 that's much different i think that's much different yeah wait wait why is ex-wife different to the baby 1.00
00:02:11.540 moms because okay wait they were married before they had the kid yeah so it's like yeah but are we
00:02:18.460 gonna continue or we're gonna stick on to that one well i was gonna i just was curious if it's different
00:02:23.320 to you well no um with an ex-wife it's kind of it's gone into a legal bind so if they legally
00:02:30.300 you know parted it's like okay yeah all right that's why so two ex-wives you could two ex-wives 0.98
00:02:38.240 with kids you could deal with the two baby mamas it's enough it's drama because you know well there's 1.00
00:02:43.020 drama either way
00:02:43.740 i would say with the baby mom the the baby dad would go to the flat and sleep on the sofa what do you mean
00:02:56.400 sleeping on the sofa so you were dating a guy yeah and then he said i'm gonna go sleep on my baby
00:03:14.260 mother's sofa what does that even mean you know he's homeless the wife of the baby mom is a totally 1.00
00:03:21.820 different yeah but what if he slept on the ex-wife's sofa i don't think the ex-wife would don't do that 1.00
00:03:28.180 because i feel like the ex-wife would kind of have somebody there because it's an ex-husband ex-wife so
00:03:35.040 you you feel like in a way you're kind of saying like the ex-wife has more value than that than the
00:03:39.460 baby mama maybe maybe because there wasn't in a contract binded and if they depart from that 0.94
00:03:45.340 contract you know he's probably pissed off that he has to pay for the house so he ain't gonna go
00:03:50.200 to the sofa is he what about if if the guy so if the guy is paying um child support on his two kids
00:03:57.100 yeah is that it was that could that be a deal breaker for you no no that lets me know that he's
00:04:03.340 very supportive and you know what if it's what if he has to live a really frugal lifestyle because of
00:04:08.700 it that's what i'm saying like like he spends more he spends more on the on the two kids i don't mind
00:04:15.400 because at least you're looking out for the own but i'm a bit i love going out i love doing stuff i love
00:04:20.120 the high life and everything so if you got two baby mothers and you got child support to pay babe 0.89
00:04:23.980 where am i coming into this how are we gonna make this happen you know what i mean and it's it's tricky
00:04:29.940 like who who you know i couldn't i don't think i could and i've i've just walked away from it so
00:04:36.440 many times like okay i can deal with the one baby mom and i can see the wait wait wait you said times
00:04:41.720 you said times how many baby fathers like no no i'm wow i'm thinking when i was a bit younger
00:04:52.760 okay when i'm dating in that time but my now time now now okay so now kids are off the table
00:04:59.180 not okay okay it depends on the man though okay okay so for the right guy how many baby moms could 0.81
00:05:08.720 he have the right guy okay but not two not two not two but two ex-wives he could have one ex-wife 0.75
00:05:16.400 one ex okay because that lets me know how much his pocket is spending out okay you know okay uh what
00:05:22.280 about you what do you think about past past mattering yeah um no i don't think someone's past matters for me
00:05:29.420 i don't think a man's past matters um i think if he's bringing baggage from his past then that's
00:05:35.900 something that would have to be addressed and everything's case by case but if we're talking
00:05:39.940 about like you're not bringing no baggage you've just been a hoe and now we're doing relationship 0.99
00:05:45.100 i don't think i would judge him on his past what if what if he slept with one of your friends
00:05:48.900 but it was it was just a casual one night i think i think number one um if the if it was if it was
00:05:56.620 just like a one night stand thing i don't care so who who here out of the girls if you slept with one 1.00
00:06:01.560 of your friends you could you could get over it no i would you could get over it i don't think i care
00:06:05.760 so i would say if like he couldn't have just slept with my friend last month and now he's trying to
00:06:19.900 talk to me about xyz i would have to assess how my friend feels about there would be factors to it but
00:06:25.800 if it was there was no strings attached they both just had a fling they had a one-time thing there
00:06:30.680 was no feeling in the situation i wouldn't i wouldn't care okay so you you you're saying no
00:06:36.740 she said yes she said yes what do you say uh no i think that if there's betrayal in anything then
00:06:44.440 you know things always you just left with i now have to react it wasn't a betrayal it wasn't a
00:06:50.160 betrayal before you for me that i knew yeah you're you're you're finding out this is you know the guy
00:06:56.800 he's in your circle whatever he's a good guy that's the thing he slept with her a year ago
00:07:00.860 it just happened to happen one night yeah we weren't even thinking about yeah yeah so you could
00:07:06.480 get over it you could get over it that's cool but he wouldn't be able to get over it i get that
00:07:10.900 like men wouldn't be able to get over us doing that today oh we'll find out okay what do you think
00:07:18.120 could you get over it um not really because i wouldn't even go to like my man's friend and like
00:07:23.860 be with him so it's the same thing okay it's the same thing okay uh you have strong of it go ahead
00:07:30.360 go ahead go ahead strong wow right which should i start on firstly if it was with my friend that's
00:07:37.220 a negative no no no never no because how are we should no we're not sharing the same no but you
00:07:44.240 wouldn't be you wouldn't be sharing no she went there first then i'll be going there yeah and that's
00:07:48.420 my friend and then that's all too much there's a lot of men out there yeah i'm all right i'll keep it
00:07:52.320 moving yeah and back to the back of the past for me the only thing that really would really go for
00:07:58.300 me in a part of a man's past is if there's a history because you see you see when geezers are 0.97
00:08:04.160 like oh yeah my ex is crazy but my other ex is crazy but my other ex is crazy yeah my other ex is
00:08:09.720 crazy that's when it's like yeah that's when i care about your past because i'm like how either 0.99
00:08:14.180 you just meet all crazy women or you're turning them all crazy has that happened to you before 0.93
00:08:18.140 no yes yes yes oh yes how what happened yeah everyone was crazy apparently 0.90
00:08:23.120 did you find out what he did or like or what happened he just he was one of them he just told
00:08:34.920 a lot of lies you know when you just tell a lot of lies and make it and this is when and he went
00:08:40.260 for younger girls as well so they're a bit more naive and it was like he told him lies and tell
00:08:44.900 more lies and then the lies caught up with him and then he then it was he'd keep it moving he'd be 0.95
00:08:49.320 like yeah she's crazy she's crazy and i'm like yeah no you've met the real crazy now so oh so you 0.98
00:08:54.960 were the real crazy yeah i'm the real crazy so then what did you do what did you do i said bye 0.97
00:08:59.080 oh that's it yeah i said bye that doesn't sound crazy no of course not but apparently i've heard i've 0.86
00:09:03.920 heard i am i am a little crazy oh so now he's saying you're crazy so it's like it's not one of
00:09:09.520 them it's a little pattern that that's what i mean but if he slept around or anything i was just
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