JustPearlyThings - She Got DIVORCED 4 TIMES!!!!!

00:00:00.000 women scream men he feel very bad because his ears he cannot listen very high voice

00:00:08.160 he wants immediately to stop it to shut up it it's very irritating him if women want men to listen

00:00:14.240 here you need to speak very calm and slowly and then you have biggest chance to be heard

00:00:21.840 in your case speak to my man really calm and gentle it's not okay i'm gonna make him carry

00:00:27.440 all the bags i'm learning so much before i get divorced for the fourth time you've been divorced

00:00:33.920 four times pretty much girl how now can i can i ask you about it i won't i'm not i'm not trying

00:00:40.560 to come at you i'm just curious no no sure so the first time um i i always exaggerate my numbers but

00:00:45.920 the first time it was an arranged married in my home country okay it lost it did there was no

00:00:52.560 marriage it was just like my mom said get married we did the islamic marriage okay um we we never

00:00:59.680 spoke he went home after the function i stayed in my home and literally 24 hours i was like mom i can't

00:01:05.600 believe you did this not not gonna do it so it ended up in a divorce but it was a marriage okay um the

00:01:13.280 second one was my husband of nearly 20 years i've got two children i got married at 19 had my first

00:01:21.840 wow you look you look young i wasn't expecting you 20 years wow okay so yeah my son is 18 okay um my

00:01:30.320 eldest is 18 and that lasted about 20 years and that just recently ended in divorce okay and now i'm on

00:01:38.560 number three oh you're married again yeah i've trapped someone else now okay why i'm just curious

00:01:44.080 why did the 20 year one end um i think we took each other for granted okay yeah we i have to take

00:01:51.280 responsibility it wasn't just him we took each other for granted he was always working he was the breadwinner

00:01:58.720 um he was running the home and i was i was i we took each other for granted okay what is it i hear

00:02:09.920 this sometimes i just don't really understand what it means it's uh well they like were you nagging on

00:02:14.480 him didn't appreciate that what you mean on your side that's the problem i never nagged um i mean

00:02:20.480 i felt like there were three of us it's like princess diana there were three of us in this marriage it was

00:02:24.640 me him and his iphone and when i had the kids i put on a lot of weight uh i mean double of what

00:02:32.320 i am now but i put on a lot of weight i became a new i was a full-time mom um i let myself go but

00:02:39.520 he was a gentleman and you know all he did was work pay the bills function the home i bought up the kids

00:02:47.520 and uh one day i just got really insecure because he was speaking to somebody and she said she's going

00:02:56.000 to get liposuction in turkey and i think he was speaking with this woman too frequently i didn't

00:03:02.720 like it but i was a fat mom at home and i thought oh my goodness i need to start losing some weight i

00:03:08.080 lost weight i lost too much weight so i attracted too much attention from outside and sorry excuse me

00:03:18.480 sadly i think um our marriage deteriorated because of the weight loss issue i don't under so you got

00:03:27.680 too much attention from other men and so then you divorced him it wasn't that i think it we i let

00:03:34.400 other people into my home into my life and i that respect wasn't there in a way so you didn't respect

00:03:40.720 him anymore i i i didn't because i was speaking with other people when i know i shouldn't have been

00:03:47.040 and i mean it's i i actually appreciate you being honest about it yeah yeah so so so you were speaking

00:03:52.880 to other people and that kind of deteriorated the marriage it did yeah i did i think it did yes

00:03:58.240 yeah well i mean now you're married again yeah only islamically okay yeah not civil i would never

00:04:07.360 go down the civil route again i just think it's a man-made world out there they want to suck your 0.92

00:04:12.160 money out when they when you do the civil ceremony you pay for it when you get divorced you pay for it

00:04:18.320 when you have a function you pay for it it's just um for me it's a money-making thing i've seen it all

00:04:23.760 and do you do you in hindsight when men men a lot of times will say if your girl starts losing weight

00:04:28.480 you should be worried do you think that's true 100 i think you should lose weight together yeah and

00:04:34.640 just never forget don't disrespect each other who are you doing this for you're doing it for yourself

00:04:39.280 you're doing it for each other you i mean i did it to try and keep my husband to keep him entertained

00:04:45.840 with me so he wouldn't go anywhere else but um we should have done it together if i could go back

00:04:51.680 another 10 years we should have done it together it should have been something we did for ourselves

00:04:57.680 it's so interesting to me it just seems like when i hear the story and i've just done so many of these

00:05:02.640 it's like i hear the stories of divorce i never hear like real reasons you know and i'm not i don't

00:05:07.600 mean this to like disrespect you but i just it just seems like this stuff can be worked out it can be

00:05:13.200 yeah it can be and we lie honest you're very honest yeah we lie we make the other person look bad and

00:05:19.360 we don't take responsibility so this is why i'm not out there to look make any man feel or look bad

00:05:26.160 but women they do they hide things they they lie they manipulate i've seen it i've i've seen it all 1.00

00:05:33.760 i've literally seen it all yeah how crazy was that the screaming i don't know how you do it pearl

00:05:40.320 honestly it's usually it's usually not this bad this was a worse show i was like jerry springer

00:05:44.720 you know what i mean i know i know i was like jesus that was crazy and i was so she was like

00:05:51.120 screaming at me about how unhappy i was i'm like i'm having a good day

00:05:57.600 but pearl you called her fat yeah yeah after she was she was insulting me first yeah so almost you 0.76

00:06:03.760 lost them you brought emotion into it too and it's a very feminine thing to do to bring emotion into oh yeah 0.99

00:06:09.120 yeah we i i just think if women you know you're if you want to insult me i will insult you back 1.00

00:06:14.320 yes i will no you don't lower yourself no no i will i will i'm sorry sorry i will yeah i'm not a

00:06:21.120 perfect person technically that's not an insult that's just a description yeah is it true

00:06:29.040 i think it comes with age it comes with wisdom and i think when somebody is saying something you

00:06:34.320 don't lower yourself you don't behave like them because if you do you're as bad as them

00:06:39.040 yeah yeah but i love you paul yeah i i think it's worse yeah yeah technically technically i was just

00:06:45.520 describing her this is what she is based on her that's like saying if a man punched me in the face

00:06:50.960 i shouldn't punch him back in the face no that's self-defense that's self-defense yeah that this was

00:06:55.600 self-defense as well you can't you can't come into someone's home insult them and then when they insult

00:07:01.680 you back you start saying well you shouldn't lower yourself to my level maybe just say leave and yeah

00:07:07.840 which we did and she didn't leave no but it's an insult enough when you've said leave get out of my

00:07:12.640 property that's an insult enough yeah but it's like she's in my home yeah yeah it's like she's in my 0.52

00:07:19.440 right yeah um i was like we're gonna talk about i want to hear more about your experience as a

00:07:26.240 psychologist so what what do you you do psychology uh i have two education clinical medical psychologist

00:07:31.760 sexologist and family therapist okay and i work it was very funny when it's become to be stressed up

00:07:37.840 how immediately he changed topic about sex it's very normally for men if women will wake up every

00:07:44.560 morning your man with blue job goes i promise you it's your man less wars less problems less conflict in this

00:07:52.400 world very often when you start to fight just make a sex and after sex a lot of conflicts will disappear

00:08:01.760 what do you what do you see the difference between russian women and western women 1.00

00:08:06.800 um i work with a lot of american women i work with every world and a lot of europe i never work in russia

00:08:13.920 okay i left when i was a student and i always work on europe and america

00:08:18.560 and i notice but from my for example my mother live with my father 45 years and they are very happy

00:08:26.080 we are three children they have six grandchildren and we continue to be always together and support each

00:08:34.000 other my two ex-husbands they love me a lot they support me a lot they're my best friends we are always

00:08:40.160 common together my stepmother always crazy about me you know divorce it's not end you can

00:08:48.320 love so much each other we go today holidays we make today oh the birthday it's very normal from

00:08:54.480 people who develop and mature for me not normal when people divorce and fight i don't understand it

00:09:00.960 and in my experience you my mother always respect my father but always you're obliged to respect and

00:09:07.840 always she put my father up than children she always said your father sleeping now it's my time with father

00:09:14.000 and until today she so admire him say see how beautiful your father he's 75 and he still work

00:09:20.880 my father until now take care about my mother take her on holiday my gifts flowers all my husband always

00:09:27.120 take care about me until today make me gifts and take care about me because it's normal but i really

00:09:33.600 admire and respect all of them i very respect my father and i will always appreciate him he's not perfect

00:09:40.800 but it's my father and i always loves him i always loves my ex-husband and the father of my child always

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JustPearlyThings - July 01, 2023

She Got DIVORCED 4 TIMES!!!!!

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