JustPearlyThings - April 02, 2023


She Got TRIGGERED By This FACT

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
She Claims that Men Don’t like submissive She Tried To DEFEND Sex Workers And THIS HAPPENED

Episode Stats


Length

11 minutes

Words per minute

185.51

Word count

2,078

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

22

sentences flagged

Hate speech

14

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Summary

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In this episode, we are joined by our special guest, Adebanjo, as she shares her story of how she realised she was in a traditional and modern relationship. We discuss the pros and cons of traditional vs. modern relationships, what it means to be a woman in a modern relationship, and how to deal with the pressures society puts on women.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 ever had a conversation with your parents about marriage no go ahead yeah yeah what'd they tell
00:00:06.720 you oh my i mean my mom has been married once she wasn't married to my dad actually
00:00:16.160 um but she had three kids from him so that automatically showed me that you don't have
00:00:20.400 to be married in order to build a life right um are they still together no no they're not
00:00:28.160 um my mom ultimately doesn't really believe in love at the moment oh wow it's like yeah so you
00:00:33.280 really didn't have like an example to look up to well what is like who do you who do you go to
00:00:38.320 about relationship questions um no one not really i don't really i don't really um talk to i'm very
00:00:51.680 like to myself i keep to myself because i feel like that's where i find my peace and um
00:00:58.160 i feel like not everybody can relate to my mindset so i don't necessarily go to anyone
00:01:04.720 i don't know yeah that makes sense um my parents i grew up in quite a toxic household so i wouldn't
00:01:12.480 say that i've gone to my parents for any relationship marriage advice but my friends my best friend's
00:01:17.920 parents have been married for 20 plus years and i really look up to their marriage i see how they
00:01:22.560 are with each other and it also showed me what to like accept and like my like what i expect from
00:01:30.800 a relationship kind of like i don't know like when you see like a a successful like marriage and a
00:01:36.720 successful relationship it kind of was like okay like i strive to have that in the future but have
00:01:42.800 you ever asked them about how they stayed married and like what advice they would have for you
00:01:46.960 communication is that what they said yeah communication is so important okay what about
00:01:52.640 you never um where do i go for advice i thought for relationship advice i don't go anywhere for
00:01:59.360 relationship advice i've never actually thought about doing such thing actually are your parents
00:02:04.640 still married yeah yeah yeah what do you think they would say does your mom listen to your dad
00:02:09.360 dad for the most part yeah yeah so you think that might be a good way to go about it it has its ups
00:02:17.760 and downs coming from an african household so i can't really like touching that too tough where are your
00:02:24.240 parents from nigeria nigeria yeah what are what are some of the cons of submission not having your own
00:02:34.000 mind and somewhat being manipulative you you think that um women are manipulated they're manipulated yeah 1.00
00:02:42.240 yeah how so being controlled she's right yeah there's a potential for that yeah like they have their own
00:02:51.600 mind they know what is right they know what is good but just because that's what the man wants that's
00:02:57.600 what's gonna go because of what they've said even though within them they know no when did your mind
00:03:03.920 start to because i'd imagine it wasn't your whole life that you thought this way no no so when when
00:03:11.120 did you start to think that was bad um properly
00:03:18.800 last year when i realized it and you're 22 yeah 22 so around 21 so you're in school right yeah yeah and
00:03:27.920 when i started realizing it was when i was like 14 15 okay yeah who do you think has better outcomes
00:03:37.360 traditional relationships or modern that's a hard one because the reason why i said that because it
00:03:44.320 all stands from culture as well so it's like it all depends like for example muslims and christians you
00:03:51.200 can't really like put them in the same conversation because there's times when they have arranged
00:03:57.440 marriages and they have to go with what their family says or what the husband says and they're
00:04:03.520 not allowed to have like maybe like businesses of their own is that right is that wrong i don't i
00:04:08.880 don't think that i think a lot of them work in like family businesses yeah but i'm talking about having
00:04:13.840 their own businesses do women don't want to work with do women typically want their own businesses 1.00
00:04:19.680 are women typically good at business yes yes there's a lot of successful no black and white women 1.00
00:04:25.600 who are having successful businesses but you know what i'll actually like stop you there for a second
00:04:30.720 because like i think it's modern day society that has pushed women to want their own businesses and to 0.99
00:04:36.080 become like ceos and stuff because traditionally a lot of women like they stay at home the man is the 1.00
00:04:41.840 breadwinner you know they look after the kids they they do whatever they do but like modern day
00:04:46.880 society is like like oh women should be bosses too and women should go for this i think there is 0.98
00:04:50.880 definitely added pressure for that i think every single one can be a business woman and be a boss 1.00
00:04:56.000 but there is that added pressure with the media that definitely is that is that you can scroll on
00:05:00.480 tick tock and then it's not it's not a good or a bad thing i guess it just kind of depends what
00:05:06.240 so that goes back to when women didn't have the rights to vote is that i think we should go back to
00:05:10.880 that i decided that yeah is that good or bad like that was good pardon it's good yeah it's good yeah
00:05:16.880 yeah okay cool thank you yeah i'm done i think that women are bad at business you think there's 1.00
00:05:27.120 certain aspects depending on what it is you can't say no they're not good at hair business or eyelash
00:05:32.640 businesses because i got what i think that men make more logical decisions and women make a lot of
00:05:38.080 decisions based off emotion yeah no because men have had more time yeah because we do know we do
00:05:43.920 know that females are more emotionally wired than men yeah yeah 100 100 and i do feel like women make 0.98
00:05:50.000 a lot of decisions based off emotion a lot of the time yeah they do they do and that's why that's why
00:05:55.120 they may not necessarily be as if i get in an argument i literally like if i'm dating someone i get in a
00:06:00.080 fight an argument i'm really heated i literally have to give myself like a three hour four hour break
00:06:06.080 just to like control my emotions then go back on it on a calm head because i was i would say some
00:06:11.360 rash things out of emotion like i said emotion is you know women us females all about like the feeling 1.00
00:06:17.680 and emotions but men just don't really care you know what i just looked up i was just curious
00:06:21.920 founder i i just did the first big beauty brand i could think of l'oreal who founded it guy
00:06:28.320 oh it's a guy yeah actually that's a lot with fashion designers
00:06:34.160 if you look at women i just don't think women manage people well and to get a really really big 1.00
00:06:38.720 business business is about money and men are all about their money their income and they're all 0.97
00:06:43.520 about the numbers they don't care about feeling they care about emotions which is good and which is
00:06:47.840 which is good yeah like which is why they're very driven in okay money numbers like pretty little
00:06:53.840 fingers own bad guy knife it is it is and they're all about you know driving that and they'll and
00:06:58.480 they get rid of people that like are bad immediately yeah where it's like women we're like oh we'll keep 1.00
00:07:03.280 them on yeah and i say this i say this are all about good customer service but i say this as someone
00:07:10.480 that's like doing it i'm like 90 percent of women couldn't do what i do and i don't and i couldn't 1.00
00:07:14.880 do it without men like i could i couldn't if i didn't have the structure of guys around like i couldn't
00:07:19.840 do it 100 even with me when i'm filming my music videos and doing all these shows and like tools
00:07:24.800 or whatever like a lot of them are men actually that's the reason why a lot of women yeah that's 0.96
00:07:30.640 the reason why a lot of women go to men for advice because they're not like what's that word they're 0.99
00:07:35.920 just logical they're just straight up yeah yeah yeah and also like to be a ceo or like an owner of a
00:07:43.760 business you have to be ruthless like yeah you have to be ruthless like not a lot of women have that in 1.00
00:07:48.720 them to have that stern like control you know what phrase do you know what phrase i think is
00:07:53.200 reversed when they say behind every successful man is a successful woman i think it's the other 0.99
00:07:57.760 way around behind every successful woman is a successful man i agree because if you if you look 1.00
00:08:02.800 at even like pop stars like a lot of times there's always a mentor isn't there someone mentoring them
00:08:07.760 that is so true yeah that is true and if you look at it i think like even from my personal experience
00:08:13.600 as well yeah i look up to like a lot of guys who are like big in the music industry who i'm close
00:08:18.640 with and who are like famous famous and i've learned a lot like so much even even yeah i talked to i talked
00:08:26.640 to someone in the freaking um i forgot who someone that worked in the music industry and they said the
00:08:31.920 reason that record labels are like slow to sign girls is because they'll meet a boy and then just
00:08:39.440 yeah just like stop yeah yeah but then that's because they haven't got control over their emotions
00:08:44.480 you've got a lot of women yeah they get into a relationship and they just forget about everything 1.00
00:08:48.480 else so yeah again like they make their relationship their whole life and then we keep saying about how
00:08:54.560 you need to love yourself and have con self-control boundaries and like yeah don't just drop everything
00:09:00.240 for this i think i mean it just it depends what outcome you want yeah so it depends if if you want to
00:09:07.280 make a bunch of money and that's your number one priority then sure but i mean i know girls that 1.00
00:09:12.880 want 13 kids yeah so how old do you want how old do you want a baby so for a girl that wants 13 kids 1.00
00:09:20.160 what's the best in the blink of an eye yeah what's the best outcome for her oh there's a guy that'll pay
00:09:24.960 the bills he wants a lot of kids drop everything that's why they'll stay because it's what they want 0.75
00:09:31.040 that's why that's why so the girls that like oftentimes if you see like the girls that say 1.00
00:09:35.680 don't drop everything you know they don't usually have better outcomes than the girls that do 0.99
00:09:41.920 um i mean when it comes to relationships yeah what i would say as well though like behind
00:09:46.480 every like that phrase behind every man there is a successful woman i wouldn't necessarily say 1.00
00:09:50.880 like successful in like the financial like sector or something but a woman that's supportive and pushes
00:09:56.800 him to do better like maybe she's there to help him emotionally like he comes home and he's been
00:10:01.840 working a really long day and he knows that he's going to come home to a cooked meal and he's going
00:10:05.760 to come home to love and support no matter no matter what i think that's really motivating for him
00:10:11.680 i'm going to name i'm going to name three billionaires bill gates jeff bezos elon musk
00:10:16.720 he's divorced divorced single what he's single he's got like he's got like six baby mama
00:10:30.320 he's a jamaican at all he breeds them he's a jamaican at all 0.91
00:10:35.040 yeah jamaican guys they always they breed anything 1.00
00:10:37.760 oh literally oh no no no no no no no forget non-shirts
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