JustPearlyThings - April 01, 2023


She Got TRIGGERED When She Heard This About Submission

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Post Wall Woman STOLE His Heart The TRUTH About Modern Women

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13 minutes

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2,604

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21

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In this episode, we talk about the institution of marriage, feminism, domestic violence, and what it means to be a feminist in the modern era. We also talk about what feminism means to us and why we should be fighting for equality in the household.

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00:00:00.000 what age do you guys think traditional women get married by 18 18 yeah traditional like arranged 0.98
00:00:10.000 marriages maybe 21 between 21 and yeah before you're 20 100 so that maybe 19 to 24 25 i would
00:00:17.200 say 20 yeah i would say between the age of 21 and 25 21 and 25 25 okay yeah i would have said 25
00:00:27.920 who do you guys think benefits more from the institution of marriage in 2023 men or women
00:00:33.360 women women women definitely with 20 yo no but i don't think it's just money like i feel like it's
00:00:43.920 like but it's the institution of marriage not the not the values of marriage the institution
00:00:49.840 and women benefit from the institution massively and i think normally the men that like earn a lot
00:00:54.960 of money and they're like the main breadwinner sometimes like um it will end with a lot of
00:00:59.920 domestic like violence and stuff because they feel like they're i think that's a bold assumption
00:01:04.480 okay cool yeah that is a bold assumption let me just shut up
00:01:08.560 but still no but i feel like sometimes like men that make a lot of money they have a lot more
00:01:12.800 entitlement though i think it's definitely so does entitlement equate domestic violence
00:01:17.520 no not domestic violence but like what do you mean by entitlement because they think okay i'm the man
00:01:23.760 you're the woman i'm earning money and you're not so whatever i say like goes it's not a thing where
00:01:30.080 it's like roles where it's like okay cool i can respect that you're cooking and cleaning it's more
00:01:35.040 of a thing where i'm making the money and that's like but we all but we all just said that we would
00:01:39.360 have a hard time respecting someone if we made more money than them when it comes to decision making so
00:01:44.400 don't you think if he's paying all the bills he should have the final say in decision making yes
00:01:48.560 otherwise go find a guy to split it 50 50 with yeah no i feel like he should have the final like
00:01:53.600 but at the same time as you said before i feel like there still needs to be a um conversation and
00:01:59.920 true if you're marrying the right man you will submit to him and yeah there should still be and
00:02:03.600 he'll get the final say but i feel like a lot of men that are earning they'll just blessing i have a
00:02:08.800 question do you want to have a conversation with your girl about every decision you guys make no
00:02:19.600 so it's like you could feel like that but guys don't want to do it and it's kind of like if a
00:02:23.520 dude's providing a lifestyle where you get to be in the top 20 percent of outcomes important decision
00:02:28.640 he can consult you and i think if you're with a guy for long enough he's going to consult you
00:02:33.280 maybe but he also might not it's like the bosses you know like a boss might go to their best employee
00:02:37.840 and ask their opinion but at the end of the day whose decision is it and then the employee doesn't
00:02:44.240 go to the boss and say you need to have a conversation with me okay but is it but you keep doing the
00:02:50.000 employee and boss i think it's very like different a relationship yeah i mean i agree i mean it's different
00:02:55.600 but it's the same principle it's the concept yeah yeah true i get what you mean i i understand what
00:03:02.240 you mean like if if if that's the lifestyle that we want we have to kind of be willing to accept what
00:03:07.200 it comes with but who says that it has to come with control and like having to obey someone i don't like
00:03:16.320 that idea like yes he's providing this life for me but he's also providing this life for his kids as
00:03:21.360 well you know and i'm sure he the men yeah the men that make the money say that no i'm i'm saying
00:03:28.720 that he is obviously providing for his family so some men are actually happy doing that they actually
00:03:36.480 want their wife to stay at home and spend time with the kids and not it's not it's not a bad thing i'm 0.78
00:03:41.600 not hating on anyone for wanting wanting what they want but but what does he get in return and those
00:03:47.680 guys typically want submission in return and submission is and we have to have a conversation
00:03:52.480 every time i want to i think women are kind of confused in a sense like you've got the modern woman 0.82
00:03:59.040 who wants to say traditionally like how she is with in her views but like it's contradicting it
00:04:06.160 contradiction contradicting it um both values because she wants to be a stay-at-home mom but she still 1.00
00:04:12.720 wants to have a say in the household and fight for the equality with the confusion of the feminism thing 1.00
00:04:17.680 okay which is like a challenge sorry let me just jump in there quickly so for example if something
00:04:22.240 happened with your kids um there was an issue in the house um and for example you and your husband
00:04:29.600 did not agree on the way that that situation was dealt with um am i not allowed to have a say as as the
00:04:38.000 wife as the mother of that child yeah or do i just listen to my husband no matter what he says even
00:04:44.160 though i feel that what he's saying is wrong and the way that he treated our son or the way that he
00:04:48.480 decided to deal with that situation feels like what you're doing is wrong you both feel that way
00:04:53.280 okay but then we have to come to some kind of agreement because that's but feelings are temporary
00:04:58.400 feelings aren't really just women are emotionally with their kids and i find men very logical and it's
00:05:03.840 factual that a man would raise his child better than a woman so i think you have to have faith in your
00:05:09.280 partner and if he's a man you have to give him that step above to say you know what you're the man of
00:05:13.680 the household if you don't have that the whole structure of the household doesn't have any
00:05:17.520 foundations really because a woman can't run it it's impossible and statistics say that women are 1.00
00:05:24.080 single-parent households and things like that are really awful for children so i think you have to 1.00
00:05:28.160 give your man the upper hand at some point there's no equality in the household there's the man's role 0.86
00:05:33.520 in a woman's role that's what i believe and the women and the women that honestly do lead their
00:05:39.200 households they're miserable yeah i mean you you guys see the girls that wear the pants in the 0.51
00:05:43.520 relationship do they look happy no tired and stressed it's like you're carrying the load yeah
00:05:52.160 what's oh oh my gosh i have a question all right let's say we go back to the beginning of feminism 0.99
00:05:58.560 with the suffrage movement if you had to fight if your options in order to vote was to fight in the
00:06:05.600 front line of combat would you give it up during war times no nope say the question again please okay
00:06:13.440 so if in order to vote you had to be drafted and in the front lines not just like cooking in the army
00:06:21.360 go to war basically yeah go to war would you still want to vote no yeah i'd go to war forget that
00:06:26.080 war no no no i'll stay home i'll tell you that i'll stay home hell no 0.62
00:06:35.440 i'm learning to cook any recipe yeah i'll cook anything for you get me off the battlefield
00:06:41.840 get me off the battlefield do you guys think the wage gap exists no
00:06:47.120 it does it does but it's only what i don't know eight nine percent but are you taking into account
00:06:56.480 the time the amount of time that women are out of work and the amount of women that work part-time
00:07:01.760 the majority of men like they they work full-time and they work for a lot longer than us so the
00:07:08.080 statistics are saying that there's a wage gap generally doesn't make any sense unless you specify
00:07:12.880 it down to women who are working full-time and men who are working full-time because otherwise the
00:07:17.520 statistics are skewed because obviously there's going to be a gap in the wages if a woman is working 1.00
00:07:22.880 part-time and a man is working full-time and say a woman takes time out to go on maternity leave or
00:07:27.920 whatever like i think that statistic is just silly like if you look at men and women actually in the same
00:07:34.400 job like my job for example guy same age as me both graduates we earn the same i don't i don't think you
00:07:42.800 ever walk into a job and the boss decides she's gonna earn less because she's a girl i think maybe there 1.00
00:07:49.600 might be a bit of bias when employing someone do i want to hire say a 28 year old who's just gotten
00:07:55.280 married versus say a 35 year old man if i was the boss you know thinking financially i would probably pick
00:08:02.800 the man because okay she's just got married she's 28 she's not got much time left she's probably going
00:08:07.440 to have kids soon and you have to pay for maternity oh god yeah you have to pay for like thinking of
00:08:11.920 that from an employer perspective i gotta pay for you to not work for six months no i agree completely
00:08:18.640 yeah and that's the thing women don't want to do the most stressful jobs typically and i say this
00:08:23.360 from like hiring people i've had situations where i'll offer people roles here where they'll make like
00:08:27.840 double triple the amount like but they'd have to recruit and recruiting's hard and they don't
00:08:32.320 typically want to do it and it's stressful because we can't do the show if you don't do it
00:08:38.160 but women i don't know they just don't want to do those jobs exactly and like if you look at jobs 1.00
00:08:43.200 like for example like labor jobs i mean i don't know a lot about this um but you know the majority
00:08:50.400 of women aren't in labor jobs and people love to scream oh this is inequality and you know women aren't 1.00
00:08:55.840 welcome in these industries no be real with yourself do you actually want to be on a construction site and
00:09:00.400 the majority of women don't want to be there so that's why we're not there that means that's 1.00
00:09:05.120 actually true you just contradicted yourself that means there would be a gap in the working industry
00:09:08.960 with man and woman a wage gap how would there be a wage gap because if a woman got employed in the 1.00
00:09:13.280 labor job same as a man she would still earn the same so there wouldn't be a wage she wouldn't earn 1.00
00:09:17.760 the same because she wouldn't be able to do the job anyway she's not physically strong enough to do the 0.99
00:09:21.120 job and the boss will see that so he he's not going to pay someone full wage knowing that she can't even 1.00
00:09:26.160 partake the full job anyway she's not doing the same work as the guy anyway so it's not inequality
00:09:31.200 she's not capable of doing what the man's capable it would be really unfair to pay her the same and a
00:09:36.800 man break his back every day and her get the same money i'll be livid if my husband come home and as a 0.58
00:09:41.440 woman doing less and he's becoming unbroken and like that's just not right yeah no fair enough i mean
00:09:48.160 i just think like you usually hear things of people saying like you know um i went on a podcast
00:09:54.960 recently and we were discussing engineering and i was on there with a girl who was talking about
00:09:59.920 how she was in engineering and she was really successful in it like she was actually like above
00:10:04.720 the majority of men she was in quite a high power position she she struggled in that position obviously 1.00
00:10:09.840 because getting a group of men to listen to you when you're in in an industry like that is going
00:10:13.440 to be quite hard um but i just think like women the majority of the times aren't in those jobs because 1.00
00:10:21.600 they don't want to be like obviously physical strength is a limitation of course but i i do
00:10:28.560 believe that in this day and age if you want to do something you can go and give it a go and i think
00:10:36.240 if a woman wanted to be in the labor industry she would and could and should go give it a go 1.00
00:10:42.560 but i do agree that well i'll be honest i'm a i'm a build fiber engineer so i'm the one that's picking
00:10:50.080 up the ducks everything and pushing through cables and everything bringing fiber to people's and do you
00:10:56.080 earn the same as your yeah i do i am exactly the same so i i want to ask a question would you guys work
00:11:02.720 in an oil rig in alaska for three hundred thousand dollars a year raise your hand if you would yeah
00:11:08.400 i would purely for curiosity and adventure but that's what i mean if you ask a group of guy that
00:11:19.040 guys that questions half of them are like i'm gone you know they're going for the peace like
00:11:23.280 to get out the crazy households that exist now like yes please
00:11:25.920 do you think women are more masculine today than 50 years ago definitely 100 and have you guys ever
00:11:37.440 struggled with your femininity 100 okay someone anyone who struggled with their feminine i would
00:11:50.400 say i struggle in a sense where i have no choice but to be masculine to fend for myself because there
00:11:55.440 isn't really any man providing for me in that sense so i'm forced to actually be masculine and then
00:12:01.120 you know pay for my rent the car the everything else i have to pay for if i had the choice i would
00:12:06.480 choose to drop that tomorrow and actually just have a guy do all of that are men forced to be feminine 1.00
00:12:11.040 when they're single fathers um yeah because there's no woman in the home not necessarily they can 1.00
00:12:16.160 go find a female to replace that i feel like they would have to tap into certain feminine roles i 1.00
00:12:21.600 i wouldn't say they have to be feminine but they might have to um do something that they wouldn't 1.00
00:12:26.560 have to do like for example if they have a like for example i lived with my dad for a period of time
00:12:30.720 my mom was in the home he had to tell me about which was very awkward monthly your period yeah to
00:12:36.800 have that conversation with me whereas if a woman was in the house right but does he start acting like
00:12:41.280 a girl like is he like hi no definitely no definitely how you doing definitely would not be doing that
00:12:48.880 but it's like i'm in my feminine today as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are
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