JustPearlyThings - She Kept Justifying Modern Women's Behavior

00:00:00.000 I think that women that have done OF or corn should be able to have children if 1.00

00:00:05.640 they want. However, I think that men should not get them pregnant. 1.00

00:00:10.080 Yeah. Why would I tell a guy to pick her when he could pick someone that doesn't

00:00:13.880 do it? Would you want your brother to pick someone that did corn or OF or your

00:00:17.840 son? No, no, no, no, no.

00:00:21.840 Someone will always do it, though, so that'll, yeah, yeah.

00:00:24.240 But then also, too, that maybe comes from the part that if you do corn, then you're

00:00:30.120 like, like you're written off as a woman.

00:00:32.280 That's what, you know, like it's, you know, it's like like people like what they like.

00:00:38.280 And I just think that if that's the path that you had to take, whether it was your

00:00:43.200 choice or not, then there just has to be some accountability when you do have kids

00:00:48.120 and be like, OK, this was me.

00:00:49.800 And can I just say, when you said choice, that choice, I think, you know, when

00:00:54.200 it even comes to men that say, you know, you don't want to work in McDonald's, you

00:00:57.320 don't want a normal job, you go out there and do whatever it is you want to do.

00:01:00.260 Most of these things normally stem from which is you want more money to do more

00:01:05.140 things that are actually not substantial.

00:01:07.360 They're not things that you need.

00:01:08.660 They're things that you want.

00:01:09.880 So ultimately, that choice isn't coming from a place of need.

00:01:13.280 It's coming from a place of want.

00:01:15.120 You don't want to work in McDonald's because you don't want to wear Primark.

00:01:17.800 You don't want to work in McDonald's because you don't want to always have to eat,

00:01:20.800 let's say, corned beef and rice.

00:01:22.540 You want to be going fat crab and you want to be doing STK.

00:01:25.520 Like, what is the reasons for you making these choices?

00:01:29.200 Is it for a reasonable sacrifice or is it because it's just selfish, again,

00:01:33.980 for the reasons of your own well-being to be heightened?

00:01:38.400 Most people in corn aren't earning big money, though.

00:01:41.040 That's a small percentage of people that are earning big bucks in corn.

00:01:44.960 Do people go into corn to make little money?

00:01:47.440 Is that their intention?

00:01:48.540 Nobody goes into any job to make little money.

00:01:50.680 Okay, so her point is still the same.

00:01:53.820 You do it for a quick money.

00:01:56.740 But people go into...

00:01:58.540 Just because you're bad at it, like you still went in for the same intention.

00:02:02.660 I'd be so embarrassed.

00:02:04.100 I'd be so embarrassed if I started an own for nobody bought it.

00:02:07.800 Like, do you think people go to start a line to make...

00:02:10.400 Guys don't go to start a line or do certain things to be making the same wage

00:02:14.840 as a man that's earning 30k?

00:02:16.800 I think from a guy point of view, as I said, like, I don't think it writes you off as a woman.

00:02:20.500 As you said, there's always going to be men that do go for that,

00:02:24.760 especially if they think the girl's beautiful and everything like that.

00:02:27.420 They'll still go there.

00:02:28.200 But I think it's just...

00:02:30.480 I think where it only just winds me up is, you know, like Mia Khalifa, for example,

00:02:34.820 goes into corn, makes loads of money, does really well, decides it's not for her,

00:02:40.460 and then it's like, well, no one should be judging me for what I've done.

00:02:44.440 And that's just the world that we live in.

00:02:45.900 She didn't make loads of money. 1.00

00:02:47.020 That's why she's annoyed. 1.00

00:02:48.460 She didn't make anything based on it.

00:02:50.260 No, she still did do very well.

00:02:52.040 She was the number one corn star.

00:02:54.100 And she didn't get the money for it. 0.90

00:02:55.340 She got a small pay for what she did initially.

00:02:58.040 This is her whole thing.

00:02:58.840 That's why she's on social media, speaking out against like...

00:03:00.940 How much did she make? 1.00

00:03:02.020 I think it was like £10,000.

00:03:04.320 It was more than that.

00:03:05.080 No, I'm pretty sure it was.

00:03:06.560 And then she said the production company took everything else,

00:03:08.600 because that was like the first TikTok I saw from her,

00:03:10.560 was her talking about how, like, she was taken advantage of.

00:03:15.340 Taken advan...

00:03:16.200 Oh, come on. 0.87

00:03:16.920 She was not taken advantage of.

00:03:19.300 I mean, she's a very young girl,

00:03:21.660 and she did some extremely regrettable things.

00:03:23.600 She was like, what, 18?

00:03:25.340 I don't know.

00:03:26.540 In my first job at uni,

00:03:28.780 I took a job very, very silly.

00:03:30.660 It was quite near my home.

00:03:32.500 It was like a recruitment job for like £16,500.

00:03:36.480 I could sit there and say that I was taken advantage of.

00:03:39.280 No, I was just silly.

00:03:40.960 I made a very stupid and dumb choice,

00:03:42.980 and it is what it is.

00:03:43.760 I learned from it.

00:03:44.920 Like, come on.

00:03:45.480 We all have to be accountable for our choices.

00:03:48.140 I can't just say, oh, because she was a young girl.

00:03:50.480 Come on.

00:03:51.300 I think you're underestimating

00:03:52.740 how manipulative these industries are.

00:03:55.400 But she chose to get into it.

00:03:57.280 She chose to get into it.

00:03:59.180 She wanted to make money. 0.55

00:04:00.480 She made money.

00:04:01.240 She's upset about the amount she made.

00:04:03.240 Cool.

00:04:03.880 But she wanted to make that money anyway.

00:04:06.280 So regardless whether she made £20 or £100,000,

00:04:09.500 like, that's what she wanted.

00:04:10.860 And even if...

00:04:11.280 You just saw the stats there as well.

00:04:13.100 Even if she made £10,000,

00:04:14.520 which I know it was more than that,

00:04:15.620 but let's say it was £10,000.

00:04:16.660 That's a lot of money for a girl that age. 0.96

00:04:18.780 Literally.

00:04:19.280 I'm not saying that she didn't get ripped off

00:04:20.600 by the production company.

00:04:21.600 I agree with you on that.

00:04:22.640 But that's still a substantial amount of money.

00:04:25.380 I don't think that's a lot of money

00:04:26.560 for what you're doing

00:04:27.720 and the fact that you then can't go back.

00:04:29.700 And it's the same with, like, Lana Rhodes.

00:04:31.780 That's another one that speaks out constantly

00:04:33.440 about how she was coerced

00:04:34.940 into doing more and more and more.

00:04:36.220 And she was constantly told

00:04:37.120 by these production companies,

00:04:37.960 well, you've done it now.

00:04:38.440 You can't go back.

00:04:39.040 You've done it now.

00:04:39.400 You can't go back.

00:04:40.080 But do you see the tendency

00:04:41.000 with all these stories?

00:04:42.680 It's all time.

00:04:43.580 She was made to drink her own sick 1.00

00:04:45.260 at some point.

00:04:45.620 She chose to drink her own...

00:04:48.000 Like, why do we say coerce

00:04:50.000 when it's a choice?

00:04:51.240 You chose something.

00:04:52.580 This is the consequence.

00:04:53.820 Nobody's going to respect you ever.

00:04:55.840 And the crazy thing is

00:04:57.100 these corn stars,

00:04:58.220 they still use their corn names.

00:04:59.940 If you're so ashamed,

00:05:01.000 why do you still have your corn name?

00:05:02.480 Go back to your legal name.

00:05:03.700 That's the only way

00:05:04.620 that she can make money now 1.00

00:05:05.560 is by influencing, essentially.

00:05:07.440 She has to do that.

00:05:08.200 So she still makes money 1.00

00:05:09.080 off her name and that's... 1.00

00:05:10.280 McDonald's is hiring.

00:05:12.600 McDonald's is hiring.

00:05:13.760 She could go to McDonald's.

00:05:14.860 She just wants the lifestyle 1.00

00:05:15.880 and the attention.

00:05:16.860 Or she could make money 0.98

00:05:18.140 off of changing a narrative.

00:05:19.520 Literally.

00:05:20.220 She is.

00:05:20.600 That's what she's doing.

00:05:21.720 That's exactly what she's doing. 0.95

00:05:22.620 But she's not doing that 1.00

00:05:23.300 because she's still using her name.

00:05:24.600 Exactly.

00:05:25.120 And she knows that people

00:05:25.920 are still going to look for her

00:05:26.980 under her name for that reason.

00:05:28.460 And she still uses it

00:05:29.180 because it makes her money. 0.99

00:05:30.320 It's a continuation of

00:05:32.580 what that gave her,

00:05:34.200 the popularity,

00:05:34.780 and she's now using it 0.63

00:05:36.060 to get the income

00:05:37.320 that she now feels

00:05:39.060 that she deserves, basically.

00:05:40.420 I think she is totally

00:05:41.120 entitled to that.

00:05:41.940 She's her own personality now

00:05:43.100 and her whole thing 0.93

00:05:43.800 is speaking out

00:05:44.240 against the corn industry.

00:05:45.120 I support her.

00:05:45.860 But the reason why

00:05:46.320 she's using that name

00:05:47.160 is because it's like,

00:05:49.300 it's funny

00:05:50.220 when your parents talk to you

00:05:51.560 and things come back to you.

00:05:52.420 It's like, you know,

00:05:53.540 that's what they say sometimes.

00:05:54.820 Do the best things

00:05:56.080 that you want to be

00:05:56.780 and be who you want to be

00:05:57.760 while you're young

00:05:58.560 because ultimately,

00:06:00.120 the reason why

00:06:00.540 they're still using

00:06:01.160 these corn star names

00:06:02.040 is because they're

00:06:02.660 on borrowed time now.

00:06:03.900 They wasted all this time.

00:06:05.560 If you notice the bottom line

00:06:07.000 in all these situations,

00:06:08.040 people are angry

00:06:08.620 because this is time.

00:06:10.180 Time is the currency.

00:06:10.940 You can never get back.

00:06:12.040 I mean, I think it's just

00:06:12.800 back to accountability.

00:06:13.900 Like, women don't want 1.00

00:06:14.440 to take accountability

00:06:15.020 for anything.

00:06:16.220 Yeah.

00:06:16.600 Like, she, I mean,

00:06:17.900 I would respect it more.

00:06:20.740 Sorry.

00:06:21.400 I would respect it more

00:06:22.440 if she doesn't use words

00:06:23.480 like I was coerced.

00:06:24.520 Like, and she just owned it.

00:06:25.780 Like, I did it.

00:06:27.020 It was stupid.

00:06:27.720 I'm moving on.

00:06:28.760 Yeah.

00:06:28.920 And changed her name.

00:06:29.860 I just can't.

00:06:30.420 How much can you regret it

00:06:31.520 if you have the same name?

00:06:33.860 Like, if that was me

00:06:35.040 and I was so ashamed,

00:06:35.940 I wouldn't want to have

00:06:36.480 anything to do with it.

00:06:37.460 I wouldn't want anyone

00:06:38.280 to associate that name with me.

00:06:40.220 Yeah.

00:06:40.780 But I think it's devil's advocate.

00:06:41.940 Again, I just believe

00:06:42.880 that they're using these names.

00:06:44.080 Like you said,

00:06:44.460 they're not taking

00:06:44.940 accountability, one.

00:06:46.140 But two, because they feel

00:06:47.120 like they're on borrowed time.

00:06:48.460 So they're trying to find

00:06:49.720 this minimal thing

00:06:50.820 to help them

00:06:51.840 still reap the benefit

00:06:53.680 of that time

00:06:54.660 that they wasted.

00:06:55.460 Do you see what I mean?

00:06:56.140 Yeah, I disagree.

00:06:58.080 I feel like

00:06:58.880 it's almost like another bailout

00:07:01.020 for women's bad decisions 1.00

00:07:02.220 that you can go on

00:07:02.800 like a whole apology tour.

00:07:05.000 It's like you can do that

00:07:06.720 and then go back

00:07:07.760 and make more money

00:07:08.500 apologizing for it.

00:07:09.840 It's like a system.

00:07:11.420 Yeah.

00:07:12.120 That needs to be broken

00:07:12.900 to be honest.

00:07:14.060 Do you think that

00:07:14.840 birth control

00:07:15.660 makes women more slutty? 1.00

00:07:18.400 Oh, no.

00:07:20.340 No.

00:07:22.940 If you're slutty, 1.00

00:07:23.980 you're just slutty. 1.00

00:07:25.180 Yeah, I think, yeah.

00:07:26.320 Nothing to do.

00:07:27.060 I don't think it's

00:07:27.600 tucked into your moral compass.

00:07:29.420 If birth control was banned,

00:07:30.940 would you be more,

00:07:31.960 would you be less promiscuous?

00:07:33.640 Like, would you sleep around less?

00:07:35.220 Would you be more careful

00:07:36.020 with who you slept with?

00:07:36.940 I mean, I still don't sleep around.

00:07:38.160 I'm not saying you do.

00:07:39.240 I'm just saying,

00:07:40.060 would you be more careful?

00:07:41.720 Birth control,

00:07:42.620 okay,

00:07:43.280 outside of

00:07:43.960 dorms,

00:07:45.820 it doesn't,

00:07:47.220 it's not like you're

00:07:48.140 blocking yourself

00:07:48.980 from STI,

00:07:50.420 you know,

00:07:50.740 like,

00:07:51.140 so whether you're

00:07:52.500 in birth control or not,

00:07:53.380 you're still at risk

00:07:54.440 of those things.

00:07:55.340 So I don't think

00:07:56.520 it makes a difference

00:07:57.220 if you're in birth control

00:07:58.160 or not

00:07:58.600 in terms of how

00:07:59.540 promiscuous you are

00:08:00.560 because it's not

00:08:01.660 protecting you

00:08:02.400 against diseases

00:08:03.940 and so you're just

00:08:04.900 basically,

00:08:05.660 it's just protecting you

00:08:06.680 from pregnancy.

00:08:07.480 That's the only thing.

00:08:08.320 So you're still at high risk

00:08:09.580 for all the things

00:08:10.620 that are out there.

00:08:11.500 So to use birth control

00:08:13.380 as an excuse

00:08:14.140 to be promiscuous,

00:08:15.280 that's not an excuse.

00:08:16.780 I'm just wondering

00:08:17.440 if you think,

00:08:18.300 so you think a girl

00:08:19.360 that's promiscuous

00:08:20.280 is going to be

00:08:20.880 equally as promiscuous

00:08:22.100 with or without

00:08:22.780 birth control?

00:08:23.560 Absolutely.

00:08:24.120 Yeah,

00:08:24.460 but I think being

00:08:25.460 promiscuous with the partner,

00:08:26.800 I think that would

00:08:27.380 change for me.

00:08:28.000 I'd be a lot more careful

00:08:29.080 with my boyfriend

00:08:30.380 to say then

00:08:31.300 if birth control

00:08:32.420 was not permitted

00:08:33.200 in the UK,

00:08:33.680 I think I'd have to

00:08:34.980 be more careful

00:08:35.960 with my boyfriend

00:08:36.740 but it wouldn't make me

00:08:37.800 not sleep around.

00:08:39.780 That's just not

00:08:40.920 my type of drip.

00:08:41.800 Would you get married

00:08:42.640 like quicker

00:08:44.300 if birth control

00:08:45.340 was banned?

00:08:46.600 I think,

00:08:47.120 I think,

00:08:47.720 yeah,

00:08:48.000 I think,

00:08:48.420 I think I'd probably,

00:08:49.600 I feel like you'd,

00:08:50.760 I feel like taking away

00:08:51.640 birth control

00:08:52.220 would allow people

00:08:53.000 to settle quicker

00:08:53.880 and settle for less quicker

00:08:55.560 if that makes sense.

00:08:56.700 So I feel like

00:08:57.140 it would take away

00:08:58.020 that option of

00:08:58.940 being able to

00:09:00.300 make more of a choice

00:09:01.760 because I think,

00:09:04.600 yeah,

00:09:04.900 you just,

00:09:05.500 yeah,

00:09:05.780 it just changes everything

00:09:07.000 I think not being,

00:09:07.900 because I think back in the day

00:09:08.880 when people,

00:09:09.440 you did used to fall pregnant 0.99

00:09:10.600 at 16 and stuff,

00:09:11.880 when I speak to my parents

00:09:12.840 and people that are

00:09:13.780 around their age group,

00:09:15.060 literally everyone would know

00:09:16.120 if you went to the clinic

00:09:17.000 to get something.

00:09:17.880 Like,

00:09:18.040 it's not like now

00:09:18.740 where you can go there,

00:09:19.880 it's confidential.

00:09:21.040 And they would make it work.

00:09:21.860 They'd have shotgun weddings. 0.98

00:09:23.380 The dad would get,

00:09:24.420 you're marrying my daughter.

00:09:25.900 You know what I mean?

00:09:27.120 Like,

00:09:27.400 my mom would say

00:09:27.840 she could never go

00:09:29.020 down to the local clinic

00:09:30.660 without her mom

00:09:31.540 or grandma.

00:09:32.440 My mom said

00:09:33.200 there was two girls 0.98

00:09:33.980 in her high school class

00:09:34.960 that got pregnant. 1.00

00:09:35.600 They were both still married

00:09:36.360 to the guy.

00:09:37.600 They just made it work.

00:09:39.000 Are you including condoms

00:09:41.200 when you say birth control?

00:09:42.500 Do you mean everything

00:09:43.280 or do you mean just like

00:09:44.520 birth control pills?

00:09:45.860 I meant pills.

00:09:47.100 Because,

00:09:47.660 I mean,

00:09:48.100 from my personal experience,

00:09:50.040 when I,

00:09:50.460 between the ages of 21

00:09:51.420 and now,

00:09:52.600 25,

00:09:53.480 I didn't take birth control

00:09:54.920 and I was still like

00:09:55.760 having sex sometimes

00:09:56.860 with guys that I dated.

00:09:57.920 I start,

00:09:58.580 I went back on birth control

00:09:59.420 when I went into

00:09:59.860 a long-term relationship

00:10:00.940 where I felt like

00:10:02.240 I know this person

00:10:03.620 doesn't have anything.

00:10:04.340 I know that like

00:10:05.240 I'm not taking any risks.

00:10:07.160 I still had sex before.

00:10:09.500 I still,

00:10:09.980 You would just use condoms before?

00:10:11.460 I just use condoms,

00:10:12.060 yeah,

00:10:12.260 because I don't,

00:10:12.680 I don't want any diseases.

00:10:14.380 Is it because it was less frequent

00:10:15.860 because you weren't dating someone?

00:10:17.580 Is that why you chose

00:10:18.280 to go on birth control? 0.76

00:10:19.740 It was,

00:10:20.500 I think there's a period of time

00:10:21.840 if I was dating for someone

00:10:23.040 for like three or more months,

00:10:25.400 at that point,

00:10:26.460 I'd be like,

00:10:27.200 oh,

00:10:27.400 maybe we should think about this now

00:10:28.800 as a more like viable option for us.

00:10:32.480 But I had sex. 0.59

00:10:33.880 I had one night stands.

00:10:35.100 I still slept with people,

00:10:36.680 you know,

00:10:36.940 and you take a risk

00:10:37.800 when you do that,

00:10:38.400 but.

00:10:39.540 Haram.

00:10:40.320 Just kidding.

00:10:44.000 Oh my gosh.

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JustPearlyThings - April 16, 2023

She Kept Justifying Modern Women's Behavior

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