She Surrounded Herself With Single Mothers
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about how tall is too tall and how tall should you be in a relationship. We also talk about what it means to be an independent woman in a modern relationship and how to make sacrifices in relationships.
Transcript
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What would you like to man, what would I like, and what would you like?
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Okay, okay, okay, I just, I just wanna, okay, just, just raise it, okay, okay, I'll help you, I'll help you, I'll help you, here you go, here you go.
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Just, okay, okay, so, so couch, just raise a hand, I'm just curious, do you prefer men with jobs or no jobs?
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So, job, raise your hand for jobs, jobs, okay, she's difficult, we don't, we don't care about that.
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So, okay, do you prefer men five foot or six foot, raise your, I mean, you're annoying, so, okay, so five foot, five foot or six foot.
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Six foot, six, six, okay, you know, five foot, so how many of you, it doesn't matter to me anymore.
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It doesn't matter, if you had to pick one of the two, five foot or six foot, yeah, I mean, this is fine.
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Just answer those questions, so I'm not having a comment.
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Oh, no, they're not offended right now, because you're on your show, but they'll be offended when they leave outside.
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I'm almost gonna be offended, why don't you just, I'm not gonna be six foot after the show.
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Oh, don't worry, you could just add on to the video's answer.
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Why don't you, yeah, I'm not gonna wait, so that I won't be offended, it's fine.
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Why wouldn't you want us to answer her questions?
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She's just asking honest questions, man, five foot or six foot.
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I don't need to, I'm not, you answer the question.
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I said, would you date a guy that was 5 foot or 6 foot if you had to pick?
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I said, would you date a guy that was 5 foot or 6 foot if you had to pick?
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If you're not, if you're not going to answer the questions, you can go because it is very
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Would you rather have a guy that's unemployed on benefits or a guy with a job?
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Well, if he's got no job and he's doing it, it depends when you say no job.
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Because we all agree that you have to make sacrifices in relationships, right?
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So what sacrifices are you willing to make in a relationship?
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relationship you know what we had we just had the conversation before you came and we were talking
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about if we see ourself as modern woman and independent woman and i made a transition i used
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to think i was a misindependent modern woman but the recent years i've made that transition and
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i never thought i would give up my career uh you know just like on being in a higher position i
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was looking when i was young i was always looking for status i was looking to go up the career ladder
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making money but over time it has changed i think now i'm getting old and i'm like hey
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have i been wasting some years do you think you have uh now looking back no i like i i don't like
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to think so but if i would were to go back and do some things different i would but i don't regret
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it because that has added to my experience now what would you do different well don't listen to songs
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like neo miss independent first of all right and i think it's like this music culture and
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yeah society i i would have gone back and gone spoke to my aunties more spoke to my mom more from sudan
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the traditions because i see my my parents are still married my grandparents are still married
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and i i would have i wanted to rebel against that when i was younger now i made that transition
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and i'm thinking i'm not that independent woman i don't want to be an independent woman anymore
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so i would if it's the right man i believe that the right man we have we have aligned visions and
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missions so um i'm willing to give up everything i had in my career to go what for what god has put
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us together as a mission together i would do that yeah so you would give up your career for a family say
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okay i would if god wants me to do that i would yeah so one thing you said you said you don't
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regret it uh or you do like if i were to go back i would do some things different but i i'm grateful
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for where i'm at right now so i'm grateful that i had this experience now i have a little niece
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i can teach her those things so she doesn't go the road that i went to but um i just never understand
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when women say they don't regret it if they would change it because then wouldn't you regret it
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i don't understand your question like i've heard girls say that and it doesn't compute to me because
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me if like if i would change something then i regret a certain decision well it's it's the feeling
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if you don't like the outcome if you don't like the outcome like why don't you regret it
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well it's to be honest pearl i don't i again like i'm i'm not gonna apologize for it i'm very
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faith-driven so i speak from that perspective and um regret is a very it's it's a very bad feeling
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and it's i don't believe that we're meant to live with regret so before i was regretting it for sure
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i was feeling those regret i was feeling those oh i shouldn't have done but then because i'm safe now
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because i have a different life now i don't carry those feelings anymore i'm set free from that
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so yeah if i if i was it was why would anyone want to live with regret and why would that be
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comfortable for anybody to live with regret and why would you anybody see that i don't like a way
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that i don't mean in a way that shames but to me like when i hear that it just sounds like the same
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thing that was my question because if i would change something and i regret it well regret if you're
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living regret it's like you're holding on to something then you can't at the same time be grateful
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for who you are now what you've got oh so it's kind of like just not living in like the shame
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of the decision in the past it's okay i did that and like um sorry was it carmen yeah yeah she was
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saying it's it's what she's learned from it so how can you regret that it's like wow i've learned
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from if i didn't go through this path path i wouldn't even know i could have no i mean i could
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absolutely look at certain decisions that i've learned from and be like well i regret yeah i wish i
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didn't do that 100 there are things i've done and i'm not saying you should wallow in it you can't
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change it yeah but yeah i get what you're saying there are certain things that yeah i wish i did not
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do that i did not need to learn in that way i could have learned from other people but so yeah so
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you mentioned you went from being more modern to being more traditional um what what did you do
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specifically um to make that change yeah so uh when i when i came here when i went to germany i lived in
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germany most of my life and then i came to the uk so i was more um i the culture has changed so i
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wasn't into very traditional i wasn't so close to my sudanese background so i was more around people
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who were living a very modern life and there's a lot of my friends were with single parents so in my
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culture it's not this is not happening and um that has shaped who i was becoming so so you didn't
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surround yourself with modern people no i did i did no i'm saying now you you chose to switch it
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to more now i have empathy okay now i have i can understand why they're living this way and why i
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rebelled against my roots and who i came from uh but i made the transition so because i saw this
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yeah i saw i i saw this freedom i saw this empowered woman i can be everything i can do everything
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but that comes with a price so uh and because you moved from your country to a more western and
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more free country could it be that yeah yeah for sure for sure yeah western uh country has definitely
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shaped me and i have to be honest not for the best way how old were you when you came to the uk
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from germany three years three years old three years yeah no when i came from sudan to germany
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no no but from germany to uk how old was he i think 18 19 okay yeah so as many of you know i was just
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