JustPearlyThings - She Was SHOCKED When She Heard This 😱😱

00:00:00.000 what do you think starts the problem though so it's like if they went to these forums or to

00:00:05.260 these youtube channels or whatever like something had to start it where it's different today than

00:00:08.880 it was 50 years ago what do you think that is i think you know just with with the advent of

00:00:13.340 of social media and stuff like that and there's there's just so much like like this tinder

00:00:17.560 statistics right it's like if guys aren't using professional pictures the first thing we do when

00:00:21.720 a guy signs up for my my eight-week program is we get in professional pictures and then liz and

00:00:25.760 some other girls on the team pick the top five and then we apply face app so they're going from 1.00

00:00:29.820 like average photos to pro photos to the best five pro photos to the face app versions and now

00:00:35.300 they're getting like a night and day difference in the quantity and quality of matches whereas

00:00:39.420 you know before they might have just put up whatever pictures didn't get the result and then they see

00:00:44.980 their friend maybe like you know one of their cool guy friends he's getting a lot of girls but they

00:00:48.520 don't know how to navigate that properly but then when they look on social media they see you know

00:00:53.580 these perfect looking people and they say well i'm not perfect looking right and i have these flaws and

00:00:57.900 people have these different handicaps they place on themselves where they are cognizant of all these

00:01:03.260 different flaws they have and then they think that that makes them not good enough for the girls

00:01:07.500 and then that causes the rejection and that like reinforces the belief and then it just continues

00:01:13.420 in a cycle right and people are you know not many people are called approaching anyways like even

00:01:18.580 even in your generation stuff like that no but it's gotten even less common now much less and with

00:01:23.540 covid and stuff like this you know not many people were going out and i i think that even once

00:01:28.020 like night venues and stuff reopened not as many people go out anymore and a lot of clients i work

00:01:33.880 with their ego is like very tied to approaching a female in public so if that girl rejects them they

00:01:40.120 feel horrible about themselves and it's it's tough for them to go back in and try again and then if that

00:01:45.120 rejection happens again it keeps it's like a it's like a negative momentum and then they they just

00:01:50.780 usually give up so my job is to to show them like look you have you can totally do this and show

00:01:56.240 them real tangible results and that starts a positive momentum and then they end up with a

00:02:00.480 place of options and they can pick the best one for the girlfriend or something like this what do 0.66

00:02:04.100 you what do you think about the men that say they're afraid to approach because of the me too

00:02:07.560 movement i mean that's a very real thing like i live in brazil that stuff's not really going on over

00:02:12.620 there yet but in the western nations it's it's a really bad thing i just did a video on my channel

00:02:16.640 about like in scotland if you're talking about like a sexual conquest and a woman overhears you

00:02:21.820 can be sent to jail you can be sent to jail yeah it's like a new thing why yeah and in england too

00:02:27.920 like i i correct me if i'm wrong but like if you like cat call girl on the street you can get in

00:02:33.140 trouble now right i'm pretty sure that like it depends like it'll have to be something like

00:02:39.100 i don't know it depends they won't arrest you it's not an arrestable offense no it does it says

00:02:45.740 this legislation will this legis wait this legis this legislation will criminal criminalize acts

00:02:52.060 including cat calling and making offensive gestures and walking too closely behind someone at night yes

00:02:59.240 ridiculous and same like the scotland thing it's if you brush up against someone and i've been in tons

00:03:04.680 of nightclubs right so i spent a lot of my time in my life for better or worse but you know 0.97

00:03:08.900 inadvertently you're going to be brushing up against people when you're packed in into a club

00:03:12.800 and that's i can put you in jail now in scotland if you brush up against someone so what do you say

00:03:18.080 to guys that are in countries with laws like that do you tell them not to approach or what's your

00:03:21.880 what's your solution as a dating coach i mean if they i tell them to move if they can i mean that's

00:03:26.260 pretty extreme but like in australia for instance like they have a new thing where women can change 0.99

00:03:31.040 their mind about consent during sex and that's you know i have australian clients and they're just

00:03:36.620 terrified they don't even want to get in a sexual situation because there's no one there to witness

00:03:41.420 that so it's just he said she said right and they're going to take the side of the girl in a lot of the

00:03:45.560 cases i'm not saying that like bad stuff doesn't happen but it makes guys very apprehensive same with

00:03:50.140 the scotland stuff guys were already afraid to go to approach and now they don't want to have legal

00:03:55.180 trouble right so as these countries and what they're trying to do is combat harassment of women 1.00

00:04:00.240 these are real problems but when they impose these very strict kind of lockdown measures

00:04:05.260 then it turns men away from speaking and leads to the statistic it's a pendulum swinging too far

00:04:10.880 i'm curious um because you've lived like everywhere yeah what what is your experience dating in

00:04:15.780 different countries so i lived in poland in ukraine and i often talk on my channel that the the women 0.99

00:04:21.160 are just much more family oriented it's almost almost like the u.s like 50 years ago so it's like

00:04:26.400 they're more like feminine elegant um kind of stronger moral system looking for kind of family 0.99

00:04:31.740 stuff like that on on the flip side of the coin they take longer to hook up with which was annoying

00:04:36.780 right like in ukraine it would take like two to five dates to to actually hook up with a girl i added

00:04:41.020 situations where i'd be on a fourth date in public and they weren't ready to kiss yet which i've never

00:04:44.920 encountered anywhere else but there's not a lot of this you know um kind of me too stuff that's happening

00:04:51.220 in the u.s and happening in in the uk and stuff like that but again these are very real problems

00:04:55.920 that need to be addressed but when they say that you can't speak about you know hooking up with a

00:05:00.480 girl with an earshot of another woman or you can't brush up against someone even if it was an accident

00:05:05.460 or stuff like this it starts to blur the line between you know guys just living their life versus

00:05:11.620 potentially encountering trouble and guys want to err on the side of caution a lot of cases

00:05:15.340 and the things we've already discussed about how guys are already apprehensive

00:05:18.920 that adds to it and they just figure you know i'm not gonna even bother with that i'm just gonna

00:05:24.040 watch corn i guess or stuff like this interesting so you really think that the me too movement has

00:05:30.340 contributed to male sexlessness yes they don't want the risk yeah because i because i have access

00:05:36.480 to like thousands of clients and i hear these these things all the time and like you know the guys in

00:05:40.040 australia a lot of them couldn't even leave because of the you know during the pandemic but they're

00:05:44.900 really terrified about getting in a situation where a girl later says hey i changed my mind about

00:05:48.460 consent and then what happens from there right or or a guy you know approaching a girl and she

00:05:54.220 doesn't like it maybe in the uk is he now going to get in trouble right so as we said not many people

00:06:00.520 were called approaching to begin with but when you put these kind of restrictions on guys are even

00:06:05.360 more intimidated right because now there's not just rejection there's also legal consequences

00:06:09.820 has that ever happened to any of your clients or someone you know um getting in trouble for

00:06:15.440 no i can't think of any any instances but i think it's more of a it just makes people gun shy yeah

00:06:21.920 it's more that it could happen yeah yeah they don't want to you know just the fact that that exists

00:06:26.960 and makes them just not want to even be part of that so like why you know they don't want to put

00:06:32.400 their freedom on the line or something like that to get a hookup yeah that's kind of because i and

00:06:36.460 i'm doing the documentary on the court system here and i'm starting to like learn um you don't even 0.94

00:06:41.320 have to be married it's a crazy thing it's just with a kid um just the shit that guys go through

00:06:46.360 um especially with getting access to their kids and they can get a lot of false accusations because 0.90

00:06:51.180 here um they're literally paid um they're given free counsel if you accuse a guy of assault and a

00:06:56.700 lot of the um centers here know that so they encourage the woman to do it um yeah and even though 1.00

00:07:02.680 it doesn't happen to every guy i'm like listening to these stories i'm like if i was a guy i would be so

00:07:08.140 i've heard a lot of stories like that from clients where like basically like like women that 1.00

00:07:11.980 cheat for instance if the the husband finds out like i've heard of a lot of situations where the

00:07:18.280 guy um gets screwed because the woman just says you know the guy that hooked up the woman just says

00:07:23.660 like it was non-consensual just so she can save the marriage and there's no consequence on the woman 0.98

00:07:27.720 again i'm not saying like sexual assault doesn't happen and it's not a real problem but it's like a

00:07:33.000 nice little like roll of the dice in in a bunch of cases where i know people specifically where

00:07:37.380 you know it's like a real danger even even in the u.s like a guy i had a client where he he basically

00:07:43.700 like um had sex with a girl in las vegas in a hotel room and she said oh i paid for the room like 0.53

00:07:48.280 stay the night and he said i'm gonna leave and she ran down and said oh you know he he graped me

00:07:53.300 basically and you know situations like that or if they cheat and then the partner finds out

00:07:58.120 it's very easy to say it wasn't consensual so they can save the marriage and they don't care what

00:08:02.920 happens to the guy's life right and then it just becomes a he said she said yes i'm just curious

00:08:07.840 for the girls um if you were in the position of guys where the laws were against you i do need to

00:08:12.980 say something about it go ahead go ahead it's interesting right and so a lot of people do

00:08:19.740 mention toxic uh masculinity but i definitely think the crisis that's happening and i can see it

00:08:26.780 it's if i label it is from toxic femininity femininity i can't really say the word properly

00:08:32.640 because how do you how do you expect people to express themselves when they're scared men boys

00:08:41.060 are so scared to express themselves to approach you but the main complaint from all of my girlfriends

00:08:48.780 or the people that i know is the men are not being men enough yeah they're not like literally

00:08:53.460 approaching exactly but look who created that but then when we have laws like that how can

00:08:58.880 because i'm just thinking if i was in their point of view and you guys can tell me if you agree or

00:09:03.340 disagree but i would be really hesitant if that was a law and then also we complain about men not wanting

00:09:09.080 to get married but if you look at the laws in here in the west i won't get married why would i get

00:09:15.900 married and like risk 50 of my income mainly i make the most out of that income and i don't think

00:09:23.100 that's fair as well there is there is a privilege for women and there is a man privilege as well 1.00

00:09:28.060 and i think i'll tell you it's not even marriage it's um it's just having a kid exactly that's the

00:09:32.860 crazy thing i just talked to this guy um the other day and he wasn't legally married he just had a kid

00:09:37.700 here um and what she did was she um went to like a woman's shelter and basically at the woman's 0.63

00:09:45.400 shelter they tell the girls like what to say about the guy based on his background i know he's like

00:09:50.560 these people yeah and so um for him for him he was muslim and she basically said that everything

00:09:56.140 she did the last 10 years she didn't actually consent to doing because it was under his control

00:10:01.360 like control allegedly even though she was fine with it while they were married yes and then

00:10:06.100 they don't really get a fair shot in court yes and and it took him over a year to actually get

00:10:11.300 to go to court so he didn't see his kid for a year with no evidence yeah yeah and that's normal

00:10:16.120 and you know what's funny i think things are changing now after amber heard yeah you know

00:10:22.120 i think the court and people and judges are kind of like looking for more evidence and then thinking

00:10:29.940 okay maybe are there women are using this listen i stand up for women i love women but i think also 0.98

00:10:36.300 abusing men i don't stand for it i think there's have to be a balance between men femininity and

00:10:43.880 masculinity and you have to honor each other and that's the thing is that balance isn't it because

00:10:48.320 i think there was a movement at one point where it was believe all women which goes completely

00:10:52.880 against our tenants of actual you know innocent onto proven guilty it was just if a woman says it 0.92

00:10:57.820 then it's and i get it where it's come from like you said earlier i mean you know there's been a lot

00:11:01.720 of historical wrongs against women so there was a real natural need to you know redress that but i think 0.96

00:11:07.060 the pendulum has just swung so far all over to the other way where it's like everyone's suffering

00:11:12.860 men are suffering but now women are actually suffering because there are like you say a lot 1.00

00:11:16.740 of your friends are single because men are terrified and i i i i i get the cries from some

00:11:23.260 quarters in society where people say it's a deliberate thing to actually completely dismantle

00:11:27.540 relationships because that almost seems the only logical explanation it's like there's almost like

00:11:31.680 this real concerted effort to completely dismantle marriage because that's the only way you can explain 0.99

00:11:37.220 it to a certain extent isn't it because some of the laws are so crazy so stupid almost so sinister it's 0.99

00:11:42.360 like that is not fostering proper relationships proper marriage and we can see the stats of you 0.98

00:11:47.580 know especially boys from single parent families i mean my god from crime to health to life chances 0.97

00:11:53.540 to every stat goes against them so why are we a society pushing this real almost like an agenda

00:11:59.300 to split people up as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily

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JustPearlyThings - April 23, 2023

She Was SHOCKED When She Heard This 😱😱

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