JustPearlyThings - May 16, 2023


SHOCKING FACTS About Single Mothers


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15 minutes

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3,198

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2

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27

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In this episode, we discuss the dangers of being a single mother home and the impact it can have on a family unit. We also discuss cheating and how to deal with it in the modern world. We discuss the benefits of single mother homes and how they impact on single motherhood.

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00:00:00.000 What does that look like dying alone okay most women you need 2.5 million to retire okay and 1.00
00:00:13.720 and there's a lot of evidence to suggest that the UK is going to start rolling back the benefits
00:00:17.780 that mostly women are on so what does that look like dying alone um I don't know on the streets
00:00:22.720 being homeless could you work it out with your husband not every woman that isn't in a relationship 0.94
00:00:27.480 is alone they might have a family they could have kids it doesn't necessarily mean they're alone
00:00:32.760 just because now you have to mooch off of everyone around you instead of working it out with your 0.98
00:00:37.020 husband I would rather do that I mean I would rather do that I look at it like this if you if you've left
00:00:44.900 your husband you have to understand and you have to take on board the damage that was caused now if
00:00:52.640 I was married and I've I've bought forth 10 children for you and I feel that we've built
00:01:00.680 our empire and we've got our you know our tribe and we're good we're strong and then I was your
00:01:07.920 world and you was my world and then we had our children you have to sit down and think well
00:01:13.460 why is she alone because the damage sometimes is irreversible it doesn't matter how many times you
00:01:20.960 go and you sit down and you talk to somebody and you're like well this is what's happened or have
00:01:25.780 you tried this sometimes if that's not enough so damage but who has to suffer in these situations
00:01:31.520 the kids no no no and I was going to get there and you know at the same time the damage can be
00:01:37.560 unreversible so that's why they tend to be alone and yes you're right it is the children that do end
00:01:44.420 up suffering because you know they've growing up thinking oh mommy and daddy's in love and you know
00:01:49.560 they're always together no no no no no I'm just speaking on this you know and then it turns out
00:01:56.960 that that may not be the situation now I know quite a lot of people that you know you grow in a
00:02:03.800 household you hear an argument parents do it all the time they think oh the children are in bed
00:02:08.840 they're sleeping but actually no we're hearing everything and it does affect the children I've
00:02:13.500 worked with children and I've seen the damage that it's caused you know but the effects of a
00:02:19.480 single mother home are worse and every stat will tell you you're more likely to commit suicide you're 1.00
00:02:23.900 more likely to make homeless they're 80 percent of the prison population like every real problem in
00:02:28.640 society is literally linked to a single mother home and so and so my thing is like I just think
00:02:33.720 once you have a family it's not about you anymore it's about your kids and so it's like this you know
00:02:37.920 this idea that we can't work through cheating I just think it's silly you know it's all about
00:02:41.660 honesty I reckon you know honesty is I think like cheating wouldn't be a thing if it was for the
00:02:47.960 honesty side of things you know I mean depending on what you're looking for see like in in 2023 now
00:02:52.780 yeah um even myself I've been involved in a thruple yeah it was only for a couple of weeks
00:02:58.580 I've got a girlfriend and well I've got two girlfriends and my girlfriends are girlfriends
00:03:12.760 well not currently it's not the situation
00:03:14.520 that's a thruple you know I mean but it's just a case of honesty you know I mean so I was honest
00:03:25.380 with them they were honest with me no one got hurt in the process how the fuck did you pull that off 0.69
00:03:29.740 seriously it was a crafty one it's like 23 percent of women are actually open to that where only six 0.94
00:03:35.260 percent of men are yeah I think it can happen if you're like you said honest and open like I think
00:03:39.660 well I mean how many women like do like we all we all know a lot of women who have no idea they're 0.99
00:03:45.680 being cheated on but like yeah like every guy is going back to his girlfriend me like he's cheating
00:03:51.060 now like a lot of women out they just have no idea they're being cheated on so like maybe they would 0.99
00:03:55.800 be happier if they were just at least honest about it and the mom was like this goes around 0.75
00:03:59.820 comes around I promise you I've experienced it myself I was in the dark you believe me I promise
00:04:04.820 you exactly I'm disagreement I've seen a lot of nice people get fucked over and a lot of assholes
00:04:09.720 get great lives but you haven't read the end of the chapter you haven't read the end of the book
00:04:13.980 have they died so long we all die in the end I know but there's so long as there's life there's an
00:04:18.780 opportunity for karma to be inflicted I'm telling you if you are a man who breaks people's hearts
00:04:23.100 and you boast about it and you're proud and you look in the mirror and you feel more of a man
00:04:26.520 then there's something right guys let's ask this question get straight to the chase your mom gets
00:04:33.880 cheated on how do you feel yeah you'd feel bad you'd feel bad why would you feel bad about something
00:04:38.660 that's normal no it's normally to say however we did we said a majority of people cheat so it's normal
00:04:44.580 now no no I said throughout history the top 15% of men have always cheated women cheat more than
00:04:50.700 men nowadays yeah yeah but still regardless of the statistics and where they sway it's a wrong
00:04:55.200 thing you know what it is the side of cheating which is wrong is the emotional damage which is
00:05:00.940 provides to the other person that's that's what we fail every time around you know I mean so when
00:05:06.180 you're in a relationship with a person that you love like for instance I've been in a relationship a
00:05:09.960 long-term relationship I cheated on my missus you know I mean and to me personally it was nothing
00:05:14.900 to do with um whether I love her or not you know I mean I just found out in later life that I like
00:05:20.820 different types of varieties of pom-pom that's just how I roll you know I mean but at the same set
00:05:26.600 time that doesn't mean that I didn't love my girlfriend I definitely agree yeah no for real you can
00:05:32.320 still love your girl but it's just the excitement of another female it's just the excitement you're not 0.96
00:05:38.920 ready to be in a no no but you can be you can still love that female you you're still going 0.65
00:05:43.000 back to that girl you're still wanting to pick her up you're still waiting to do everything
00:05:46.660 basically what you're saying is as a woman if you want to get in a relationship we have to expect the 1.00
00:05:53.560 men to cheat on us you say like the top like 15 to 20 men cheat right so I feel like as women we
00:06:08.780 do need to take the more responsible role of choosing better men because we have that 80 whole
00:06:12.800 percent of men that don't but my thing is what better man means and I've learned that like the
00:06:18.380 last actual couple months only recently and I've learned that and that's big from watching your
00:06:23.340 show is actually and it's opened my mind a lot because it's just like we have a whole 80 percent
00:06:27.820 and we don't want to generalize men because not everyone cheats well and when you think about it so
00:06:32.380 like women used to select for resources right more more so than looks because when because we 1.00
00:06:39.280 like we didn't work and usually you would live at your dad's house and then you would go to your
00:06:42.640 husband until about the 20s when women started to go to work so what happened is when that when women 1.00
00:06:48.400 started being the like selectors of mates our first choice is looks in our 20s and so but what percent
00:06:55.620 of men do we find attractive only 20 percent women find 80 percent of men is ugly so back in the day
00:07:00.800 the dad would like like say oh no he's gonna cheat on you stay away from that boy and then he would 0.95
00:07:05.040 like pick the provider guy maybe we need to be with an ugly guy women in their 30s they'll switch 1.00
00:07:16.740 because it's like they need a kid time's running out um and so they'll switch from um selecting for
00:07:21.480 looks to selecting for more provider first but it's like if you did that in the beginning but this is
00:07:27.080 the thing though these these men we're sitting here going right the top 20 percent cheat why do
00:07:31.480 they cheat because they can't you mean to tell me the other 80 percent if they had it on the table
00:07:36.100 they wouldn't do the men or just men you know like us labeling these 20 percent as assholes just because
00:07:41.860 they have the height the resources uh could we agree that all men cheat then no i i think there's
00:07:46.760 there's definitely exceptions to the rule like and like i think me and um my guy over here have a similar
00:07:51.300 story you know unfortunately like we have this thing where we're very immature and we mature later
00:07:58.460 on in life as men i agree so yeah we we go through this period where like let's be real you want to
00:08:04.020 experience more we want to try everything on the menu you know we don't want to be sitting 50 year old
00:08:09.240 wondering what was what would that have been like we want to know and actually you kind of have to get
00:08:14.160 that out your system before you go you know what this is actually childish and one woman who looks 1.00
00:08:18.760 after you who's got your back and really cares about you is the real deal but you're not going
00:08:23.440 to come to that when you're in your childish state of mind so yeah we have to go through that and
00:08:27.520 unfortunately some of you girls are victims during that period and that's yeah it's collateral but i
00:08:33.540 also think like women like we should know what we're getting ourselves into like if you go for the 1.00
00:08:37.480 guy that's rich he's got money he's tall like you know it's a it's a strong possibility he's gonna do
00:08:41.820 that so what are you gonna do if he does don't have a kid and then cry cheating later if you know
00:08:46.800 that's gonna be a possibility facts because girls are going central London for instance they're 1.00
00:08:51.360 looking for the guy with a Lambo they're looking for guys with a Mercedes they want a guy with this
00:08:55.740 this this this these big chainsy that's what girls that's what girls that you treat to 1.00
00:09:08.880 like you can have everything you can be tall he can have money he can be good-looking and he's
00:09:18.000 gonna be monogamous question though yeah so it's a girl's you you girls um like men are only as 0.97
00:09:27.960 faithful as their options but are women really any different like let's let's let's say you meet two 1.00
00:09:32.280 guys at the same time one guy's sweet and lovely and the other guy has all of these things you're you
00:09:37.500 are gonna also be a bit more drawn like to this guy who's the provider the the alpha this day and
00:09:46.000 age I think I feel like you know years ago wasn't so much accessible well judging by Instagram and
00:09:51.600 the way women post anything that is like like outside in restaurants before where a woman has 1.00
00:09:57.940 literally had a guy taking pictures of her eating her fucking dinner for 15 fucking minutes wondering 0.96
00:10:02.880 why is she taking a picture in this restaurant because she wants everyone to know what restaurant 1.00
00:10:06.540 she's in and he's the one paying for it and he's getting laid base off of that so let's not like
00:10:11.040 women don't value this because it's literally all over London every week but what sort of what we when 1.00
00:10:15.660 we keep using this term so it's really are a me women what what a real woman doesn't do that my 1.00
00:10:20.220 mom would never in a million years go to Nobukov and take a picture and be like hey real woman 0.99
00:10:24.380 okay can you can we make a general consensus that the women in their 20s today are diff are of a 1.00
00:10:38.660 different cloth and the women let's say in their 50s today yeah yeah the women in their 50s are more 0.90
00:10:47.180 traditional than the women in their 20s I have best friends who like who openly say to me like oh yeah
00:10:54.380 he's got a girlfriend or he's got a wife and they're happily ready to break a happy home I don't condone
00:10:59.600 in that no I don't condone no I think it's wrong again there's all the emotional damage yeah you
00:11:04.800 know I mean and I put myself in a category of um I'm like an honest fuck boy yeah that's why
00:11:11.000 does that make sense you know I mean I'm an honest yeah and um at that point you know I when I'm when
00:11:18.140 I'm honest about my my um my linkups and whatnot other women tend to be more attracted to the
00:11:24.340 situation you know I mean they tend to they tend to be more attracted first of all they go away a
00:11:28.560 little bit hurt and whatnot like oh Dave you shouldn't have done that and but then they come
00:11:32.500 back after a while and be you know they're reasonable you know they okay you do get a little
00:11:37.300 bit of pum pum over there that's no problem you were honest about it and then yeah it just seems
00:11:42.540 more appealing for some reason I don't know if you're addicted to pum pum like that yeah why not
00:11:46.540 just be out here proling and sleeping with a new girl every other day I've done that before but at
00:11:50.840 least you're not hurting another individual there's nothing there is nothing nice I don't care whether
00:11:54.640 we're talking about the 20th century or the 19th century there is nothing nice about harming
00:11:58.860 another individual that's what it is are you mean to say right because you know you you're uh on the
00:12:03.600 instagram and all these girls are after you all of them you're right i'm not six okay i'm five eight
00:12:14.720 i'll tell you okay so so you mean to tell me that all of these girls who you are sleeping with not one 1.00
00:12:20.140 of them had ideas above what you had because if i know women and i'd like to think i do i'm like my
00:12:26.120 man i keep it straight darling i'm a single but they think they can change you mate they don't they
00:12:30.860 don't they're not going to listen they're going to be like i'm going to be the exception yes i
00:12:34.060 agree with you bro but then the onus is on them i go to sleep with a clean conscious knowing that
00:12:38.620 i've not promised anyone i mean the idea of a relationship is commitment right okay i'm
00:12:44.140 confused go on no no tell me let's go let's go you're cool with me talking about your your job
00:12:50.580 okay okay so how are you commit like how are you faithful if you're on only fans precisely why i said
00:12:57.700 i haven't been in a relationship for as long as i've done only fans oh i thought you said you've
00:13:01.100 been in it for five years oh i miss i misunderstood i thought you were saying you're still in that i
00:13:05.880 guess what i have had many propositions from female content creators beautiful stunning head to toe 1.00
00:13:11.300 and i've said no because i know i'm not capable of you know seeing my missus having sex having 0.64
00:13:17.300 whatever sexual intercourse with some other guys so i know so i'm not in the business of harming people
00:13:22.160 and i know that some girls have said to me it's fine i don't mind seeing you of other
00:13:26.800 wait so you're 32 now yeah you've been on only fans two years for two years and then you had the
00:13:31.860 five-year relationship before that uh prior to it prior to yeah so the day i created only fans she
00:13:36.540 left no but bro how i was just i'm just confused i thought you said you cheated before i have when i
00:13:41.420 was younger 16 17 18 every single day every day i stopped i stopped the day i realized that there's
00:13:47.180 nothing so it's just a little bit like you're confusing me because in the end you did cheat on
00:13:52.460 her in a way because you started the only fans i'll break it down i'll break it down right when
00:13:56.660 i was young and naive yeah and i was ignorant i cheated because i thought it was cool i thought
00:14:01.040 it was a good thing to do right then i lost my job only fans presented itself i had a conversation
00:14:06.980 my fiance at the time and i said this is what i'm going to do whether you support me you either
00:14:11.320 support me and we stay and i'll do solo stuff or you walk away and that's fine i respect it and i
00:14:15.940 will do collaborations she decided to walk away i did it it changed my life i retired my mom i have
00:14:20.420 zero regrets but i will never no matter how many people and how normal it is glamorize cheating
00:14:25.320 it's disgusting i've seen it firsthand what it does to my family this girl agreed to marry you 0.65
00:14:29.240 that's a big deal a girl agreeing to marry you and you turn around and go hey by the way i'm
00:14:33.420 gonna fuck girls on only fans no no you're wrong you see no no that's not what you said let's be very
00:14:38.740 clear about my english i said i was going to do only fans only fans does not constitute having sex
00:14:44.680 with other people it could be solo stuff okay like i put on my instagram it could be feet stuff so
00:14:49.980 let's not go down there right but it's but it's still like something she didn't agree to in the
00:14:54.000 beginning great which is which i'm not and she left no i know but my point is it's a little bit
00:14:58.940 like hypocritical of you to go around saying oh i don't cheat like that's a horrible thing to do when
00:15:03.160 it's like you kind of did the same as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are
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