SHOCKING FACTS About Single Mothers
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the dangers of being a single mother home and the impact it can have on a family unit. We also discuss cheating and how to deal with it in the modern world. We discuss the benefits of single mother homes and how they impact on single motherhood.
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What does that look like dying alone okay most women you need 2.5 million to retire okay and
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and there's a lot of evidence to suggest that the UK is going to start rolling back the benefits
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that mostly women are on so what does that look like dying alone um I don't know on the streets
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being homeless could you work it out with your husband not every woman that isn't in a relationship
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is alone they might have a family they could have kids it doesn't necessarily mean they're alone
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just because now you have to mooch off of everyone around you instead of working it out with your
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husband I would rather do that I mean I would rather do that I look at it like this if you if you've left
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your husband you have to understand and you have to take on board the damage that was caused now if
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I was married and I've I've bought forth 10 children for you and I feel that we've built
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our empire and we've got our you know our tribe and we're good we're strong and then I was your
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world and you was my world and then we had our children you have to sit down and think well
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why is she alone because the damage sometimes is irreversible it doesn't matter how many times you
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go and you sit down and you talk to somebody and you're like well this is what's happened or have
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you tried this sometimes if that's not enough so damage but who has to suffer in these situations
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the kids no no no and I was going to get there and you know at the same time the damage can be
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unreversible so that's why they tend to be alone and yes you're right it is the children that do end
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up suffering because you know they've growing up thinking oh mommy and daddy's in love and you know
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they're always together no no no no no I'm just speaking on this you know and then it turns out
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that that may not be the situation now I know quite a lot of people that you know you grow in a
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household you hear an argument parents do it all the time they think oh the children are in bed
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they're sleeping but actually no we're hearing everything and it does affect the children I've
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worked with children and I've seen the damage that it's caused you know but the effects of a
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single mother home are worse and every stat will tell you you're more likely to commit suicide you're
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more likely to make homeless they're 80 percent of the prison population like every real problem in
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society is literally linked to a single mother home and so and so my thing is like I just think
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once you have a family it's not about you anymore it's about your kids and so it's like this you know
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this idea that we can't work through cheating I just think it's silly you know it's all about
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honesty I reckon you know honesty is I think like cheating wouldn't be a thing if it was for the
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honesty side of things you know I mean depending on what you're looking for see like in in 2023 now
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yeah um even myself I've been involved in a thruple yeah it was only for a couple of weeks
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I've got a girlfriend and well I've got two girlfriends and my girlfriends are girlfriends
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that's a thruple you know I mean but it's just a case of honesty you know I mean so I was honest
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with them they were honest with me no one got hurt in the process how the fuck did you pull that off
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seriously it was a crafty one it's like 23 percent of women are actually open to that where only six
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percent of men are yeah I think it can happen if you're like you said honest and open like I think
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well I mean how many women like do like we all we all know a lot of women who have no idea they're
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being cheated on but like yeah like every guy is going back to his girlfriend me like he's cheating
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now like a lot of women out they just have no idea they're being cheated on so like maybe they would
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be happier if they were just at least honest about it and the mom was like this goes around
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comes around I promise you I've experienced it myself I was in the dark you believe me I promise
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you exactly I'm disagreement I've seen a lot of nice people get fucked over and a lot of assholes
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get great lives but you haven't read the end of the chapter you haven't read the end of the book
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have they died so long we all die in the end I know but there's so long as there's life there's an
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opportunity for karma to be inflicted I'm telling you if you are a man who breaks people's hearts
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and you boast about it and you're proud and you look in the mirror and you feel more of a man
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then there's something right guys let's ask this question get straight to the chase your mom gets
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cheated on how do you feel yeah you'd feel bad you'd feel bad why would you feel bad about something
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that's normal no it's normally to say however we did we said a majority of people cheat so it's normal
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now no no I said throughout history the top 15% of men have always cheated women cheat more than
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men nowadays yeah yeah but still regardless of the statistics and where they sway it's a wrong
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thing you know what it is the side of cheating which is wrong is the emotional damage which is
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provides to the other person that's that's what we fail every time around you know I mean so when
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you're in a relationship with a person that you love like for instance I've been in a relationship a
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long-term relationship I cheated on my missus you know I mean and to me personally it was nothing
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to do with um whether I love her or not you know I mean I just found out in later life that I like
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different types of varieties of pom-pom that's just how I roll you know I mean but at the same set
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time that doesn't mean that I didn't love my girlfriend I definitely agree yeah no for real you can
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still love your girl but it's just the excitement of another female it's just the excitement you're not
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ready to be in a no no but you can be you can still love that female you you're still going
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back to that girl you're still wanting to pick her up you're still waiting to do everything
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basically what you're saying is as a woman if you want to get in a relationship we have to expect the
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men to cheat on us you say like the top like 15 to 20 men cheat right so I feel like as women we
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do need to take the more responsible role of choosing better men because we have that 80 whole
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percent of men that don't but my thing is what better man means and I've learned that like the
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last actual couple months only recently and I've learned that and that's big from watching your
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show is actually and it's opened my mind a lot because it's just like we have a whole 80 percent
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and we don't want to generalize men because not everyone cheats well and when you think about it so
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like women used to select for resources right more more so than looks because when because we
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like we didn't work and usually you would live at your dad's house and then you would go to your
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husband until about the 20s when women started to go to work so what happened is when that when women
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started being the like selectors of mates our first choice is looks in our 20s and so but what percent
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of men do we find attractive only 20 percent women find 80 percent of men is ugly so back in the day
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the dad would like like say oh no he's gonna cheat on you stay away from that boy and then he would
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like pick the provider guy maybe we need to be with an ugly guy women in their 30s they'll switch
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because it's like they need a kid time's running out um and so they'll switch from um selecting for
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looks to selecting for more provider first but it's like if you did that in the beginning but this is
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the thing though these these men we're sitting here going right the top 20 percent cheat why do
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they cheat because they can't you mean to tell me the other 80 percent if they had it on the table
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they wouldn't do the men or just men you know like us labeling these 20 percent as assholes just because
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they have the height the resources uh could we agree that all men cheat then no i i think there's
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there's definitely exceptions to the rule like and like i think me and um my guy over here have a similar
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story you know unfortunately like we have this thing where we're very immature and we mature later
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on in life as men i agree so yeah we we go through this period where like let's be real you want to
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experience more we want to try everything on the menu you know we don't want to be sitting 50 year old
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wondering what was what would that have been like we want to know and actually you kind of have to get
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that out your system before you go you know what this is actually childish and one woman who looks
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after you who's got your back and really cares about you is the real deal but you're not going
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to come to that when you're in your childish state of mind so yeah we have to go through that and
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unfortunately some of you girls are victims during that period and that's yeah it's collateral but i
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also think like women like we should know what we're getting ourselves into like if you go for the
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guy that's rich he's got money he's tall like you know it's a it's a strong possibility he's gonna do
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that so what are you gonna do if he does don't have a kid and then cry cheating later if you know
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that's gonna be a possibility facts because girls are going central London for instance they're
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looking for the guy with a Lambo they're looking for guys with a Mercedes they want a guy with this
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this this this these big chainsy that's what girls that's what girls that you treat to
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like you can have everything you can be tall he can have money he can be good-looking and he's
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gonna be monogamous question though yeah so it's a girl's you you girls um like men are only as
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faithful as their options but are women really any different like let's let's let's say you meet two
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guys at the same time one guy's sweet and lovely and the other guy has all of these things you're you
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are gonna also be a bit more drawn like to this guy who's the provider the the alpha this day and
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age I think I feel like you know years ago wasn't so much accessible well judging by Instagram and
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the way women post anything that is like like outside in restaurants before where a woman has
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literally had a guy taking pictures of her eating her fucking dinner for 15 fucking minutes wondering
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why is she taking a picture in this restaurant because she wants everyone to know what restaurant
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she's in and he's the one paying for it and he's getting laid base off of that so let's not like
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women don't value this because it's literally all over London every week but what sort of what we when
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we keep using this term so it's really are a me women what what a real woman doesn't do that my
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mom would never in a million years go to Nobukov and take a picture and be like hey real woman
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okay can you can we make a general consensus that the women in their 20s today are diff are of a
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different cloth and the women let's say in their 50s today yeah yeah the women in their 50s are more
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traditional than the women in their 20s I have best friends who like who openly say to me like oh yeah
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he's got a girlfriend or he's got a wife and they're happily ready to break a happy home I don't condone
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in that no I don't condone no I think it's wrong again there's all the emotional damage yeah you
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know I mean and I put myself in a category of um I'm like an honest fuck boy yeah that's why
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does that make sense you know I mean I'm an honest yeah and um at that point you know I when I'm when
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I'm honest about my my um my linkups and whatnot other women tend to be more attracted to the
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situation you know I mean they tend to they tend to be more attracted first of all they go away a
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little bit hurt and whatnot like oh Dave you shouldn't have done that and but then they come
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back after a while and be you know they're reasonable you know they okay you do get a little
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bit of pum pum over there that's no problem you were honest about it and then yeah it just seems
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more appealing for some reason I don't know if you're addicted to pum pum like that yeah why not
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just be out here proling and sleeping with a new girl every other day I've done that before but at
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least you're not hurting another individual there's nothing there is nothing nice I don't care whether
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we're talking about the 20th century or the 19th century there is nothing nice about harming
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another individual that's what it is are you mean to say right because you know you you're uh on the
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instagram and all these girls are after you all of them you're right i'm not six okay i'm five eight
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i'll tell you okay so so you mean to tell me that all of these girls who you are sleeping with not one
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of them had ideas above what you had because if i know women and i'd like to think i do i'm like my
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man i keep it straight darling i'm a single but they think they can change you mate they don't they
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don't they're not going to listen they're going to be like i'm going to be the exception yes i
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agree with you bro but then the onus is on them i go to sleep with a clean conscious knowing that
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i've not promised anyone i mean the idea of a relationship is commitment right okay i'm
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confused go on no no tell me let's go let's go you're cool with me talking about your your job
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okay okay so how are you commit like how are you faithful if you're on only fans precisely why i said
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i haven't been in a relationship for as long as i've done only fans oh i thought you said you've
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been in it for five years oh i miss i misunderstood i thought you were saying you're still in that i
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guess what i have had many propositions from female content creators beautiful stunning head to toe
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and i've said no because i know i'm not capable of you know seeing my missus having sex having
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whatever sexual intercourse with some other guys so i know so i'm not in the business of harming people
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and i know that some girls have said to me it's fine i don't mind seeing you of other
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wait so you're 32 now yeah you've been on only fans two years for two years and then you had the
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five-year relationship before that uh prior to it prior to yeah so the day i created only fans she
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left no but bro how i was just i'm just confused i thought you said you cheated before i have when i
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was younger 16 17 18 every single day every day i stopped i stopped the day i realized that there's
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nothing so it's just a little bit like you're confusing me because in the end you did cheat on
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her in a way because you started the only fans i'll break it down i'll break it down right when
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i was young and naive yeah and i was ignorant i cheated because i thought it was cool i thought
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it was a good thing to do right then i lost my job only fans presented itself i had a conversation
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my fiance at the time and i said this is what i'm going to do whether you support me you either
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support me and we stay and i'll do solo stuff or you walk away and that's fine i respect it and i
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will do collaborations she decided to walk away i did it it changed my life i retired my mom i have
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zero regrets but i will never no matter how many people and how normal it is glamorize cheating
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it's disgusting i've seen it firsthand what it does to my family this girl agreed to marry you
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that's a big deal a girl agreeing to marry you and you turn around and go hey by the way i'm
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gonna fuck girls on only fans no no you're wrong you see no no that's not what you said let's be very
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clear about my english i said i was going to do only fans only fans does not constitute having sex
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with other people it could be solo stuff okay like i put on my instagram it could be feet stuff so
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let's not go down there right but it's but it's still like something she didn't agree to in the
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beginning great which is which i'm not and she left no i know but my point is it's a little bit
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like hypocritical of you to go around saying oh i don't cheat like that's a horrible thing to do when
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it's like you kind of did the same as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are
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