JustPearlyThings - March 25, 2023


SIDECHICK Gets GRILLED by Pearl On Value Of Marriage


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

225.65

Word Count

2,109

Sentence Count

243

Misogynist Sentences

25

Hate Speech Sentences

18


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the difference between a woman that is married and a woman who is in a long term relationship. Is there a difference between them? Do you know who is more likely to get married and who is not?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 If I meet a girl, yeah, and she's 21, 23, whatever, yeah,
00:00:03.720 and she's a single mom, but she was married,
00:00:07.200 and she had that baby in a marriage,
00:00:09.660 I would look at her different.
00:00:11.120 I would look at her different.
00:00:12.060 Different now.
00:00:13.460 It's different now.
00:00:14.660 You get what I'm saying?
00:00:15.440 Different now.
00:00:16.440 It's different, right?
00:00:18.480 It's different.
00:00:19.020 But let me make a point, bruv.
00:00:20.440 Let me make a point.
00:00:21.360 Let him learn.
00:00:22.320 Let him learn.
00:00:22.940 If she was married, and she has a baby in that marriage,
00:00:26.120 and then at some time, the marriage collapse, right?
00:00:29.180 But I wouldn't look at her the same as this road lady.
00:00:35.200 That's just what I'm talking about.
00:00:36.720 Because she's a fucking guy and got pregnant, right?
00:00:39.680 So understand the minds of men.
00:00:40.280 It's different, right?
00:00:41.260 This is the mindset of men.
00:00:42.900 Understand the minds of men.
00:00:43.900 This is our mindset.
00:00:44.820 You are an 18-year-old unmarried woman.
00:00:47.220 I was married.
00:00:48.280 You are married?
00:00:48.820 Yeah.
00:00:49.560 Okay, cool.
00:00:50.140 So you see?
00:00:50.840 I stand corrected.
00:00:52.520 I stand corrected.
00:00:54.560 So you are a married woman of 18 that had a child.
00:00:56.680 Yes, I was married.
00:00:57.060 I didn't even know that, bruv.
00:00:57.980 Right, okay.
00:00:58.560 So what I'm trying to say, do you understand how men's minds differ?
00:01:05.540 No, I can understand that.
00:01:06.660 Because if you were an unmarried woman, right?
00:01:08.960 But maybe because I was young.
00:01:09.580 Hang on, wait, wait.
00:01:10.180 If you were an unmarried woman at 18 that had a child that wasn't committed to a relationship,
00:01:14.440 you were just some random chick having a child.
00:01:16.860 Hence why?
00:01:17.380 Men will be like, nah.
00:01:18.840 Can I ask you guys a question?
00:01:22.320 I hear it.
00:01:22.920 Can I ask you guys a question?
00:01:24.320 I was saying what I was saying.
00:01:24.900 Is there a difference between a woman that's married or in a long-term relationship?
00:01:30.680 We just say that.
00:01:31.460 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, but listen.
00:01:34.460 We've been saying this for hours.
00:01:35.640 No, no, no, listen.
00:01:36.360 You don't sit on the table when you're married women.
00:01:39.900 Don't hold that against her.
00:01:40.960 Guys, guys, guys, guys, let her go.
00:01:41.960 Stop doing that because I'm actually a rational person.
00:01:43.700 Let her go, let her go.
00:01:44.360 See, my brother, two of my brothers, they're Muslim, so they do the marriage thing quick.
00:01:49.340 Right.
00:01:49.500 So they'll meet someone, maybe they'll get married after a couple of weeks.
00:01:52.400 Two of my brothers.
00:01:53.180 Couple of weeks?
00:01:54.000 Yeah, like, it's a quick process.
00:01:55.240 That's how it is.
00:01:55.720 That's how it is.
00:01:56.300 It's a quick process.
00:01:57.220 It's a quick process.
00:01:59.220 In a lot of, in a lot of, a lot of their culture, they'll get married a lot quicker than
00:02:04.960 say, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:02:05.920 I'm going to get married after a couple of weeks.
00:02:06.560 That's what I'm saying.
00:02:07.020 I'm telling you, they do.
00:02:08.580 Some people get married by the first look.
00:02:10.300 This is what I'm saying.
00:02:11.060 I know, I've heard of that.
00:02:12.640 That's why in Dubai, they get married.
00:02:14.000 That's in my culture as well.
00:02:15.740 In their culture, they have things like arranged marriage.
00:02:17.740 It's like, it's a quick process than in, like, Western society.
00:02:21.200 Like, in Western society, it will take you a lot longer to get married.
00:02:23.920 So, in essence, I'm asking, what's the difference between some, let's say, she got married, say
00:02:29.500 she's Muslim.
00:02:30.160 How long were you married for?
00:02:31.500 Three.
00:02:32.460 Well, I got married pretty quick as well.
00:02:34.040 This is what I mean.
00:02:34.880 Were you Muslim or something?
00:02:35.780 I'm Muslim, yeah.
00:02:36.540 Yeah, this is what I mean.
00:02:37.280 So, how long were you married for?
00:02:39.520 So, I got married after three months.
00:02:42.260 This is, exactly.
00:02:43.020 It's a cultural thing.
00:02:45.960 It's a cultural thing.
00:02:47.940 I think I understand your question.
00:02:50.200 Is there a difference?
00:02:51.380 So, let's say I've been in a relationship with a guy for five years.
00:02:54.100 We've not been married.
00:02:55.100 Yeah.
00:02:55.400 Okay, for whatever reason.
00:02:57.100 Now, let's say she got married after three months.
00:02:59.940 Do you see a difference?
00:03:00.920 That guy is fucking you unknowfully.
00:03:02.880 That guy is fucking you unknowfully.
00:03:04.860 Let her speak.
00:03:05.760 Let her speak.
00:03:06.260 Wait.
00:03:07.100 Okay, so, I'll tell you how men see it.
00:03:09.340 It's like, to them, it's like, why weren't you worth marrying?
00:03:14.400 So, to me, to them, it's like, oh, she got married after three months.
00:03:19.040 I trust men, like, trust each other to vet women.
00:03:22.800 So, to them, it's like, then there's something wrong with you because you were with, like,
00:03:26.060 one, they would ask, why would you be with a guy for five years without marriage?
00:03:28.920 And then, two, like, why didn't he think you were worth marrying?
00:03:32.100 Me, personally, I put value on marriage.
00:03:33.980 And I'm not trying to be, I'm not trying to be, like, rude, but I'm saying, like,
00:03:37.040 that's just how men view it.
00:03:38.540 Me, personally, I don't put much value on marriage.
00:03:41.500 Can I just give you a point?
00:03:42.460 No, no, and here's, and wait, wait, wait.
00:03:44.060 Let her speak.
00:03:44.860 And so, I understand, like, where you're coming from because, like, honestly,
00:03:49.020 the marriage contract is so bad nowadays.
00:03:51.520 Like, it's horrible.
00:03:53.540 And I understand, like, why men don't want to get married.
00:03:57.460 And I, especially in the West and in the UK, yeah, I'm, I'm a hundred percent with you.
00:04:02.940 But, like, to her, so, like, let's say you both had a child.
00:04:05.800 The men would look at her and say, she was so valuable, she was so valuable to that guy
00:04:10.460 that he was, that she was worth it.
00:04:12.800 Like, like, to, like, he was willing to take that risk for her.
00:04:16.020 And so, she gets, like, a higher status.
00:04:18.560 And I'm not, and I'm not saying that's, that's right or fair.
00:04:22.120 I'm just saying, like, this is how, this is how men, this is how men view it.
00:04:26.280 Guys don't care now.
00:04:27.160 Guys, guys will just give you a kid now and just not raise it.
00:04:33.360 Because they don't have to bear it.
00:04:34.760 They don't have, at the end of the day, see, when I have a kid, it's in me.
00:04:37.980 I have to push out and I'm left with it.
00:04:39.460 Well, but, how about women?
00:04:40.780 And not care.
00:04:41.780 But women pick, but women, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:04:46.820 Please respect the fucking host, guys.
00:04:49.760 Okay, you're going to get muted.
00:04:50.820 Stop.
00:04:51.480 Okay, so, this is the thing.
00:04:53.800 Like, women pick those men.
00:04:56.560 And I just don't buy that women are bamboozled and they have no idea that these are.
00:05:01.120 No, I don't believe that.
00:05:01.960 Right.
00:05:02.340 And so, we are in control of sex.
00:05:06.220 We have 41 forms of birth control.
00:05:09.400 Abortions are free here and legal.
00:05:11.800 So, we are completely in control of who is born.
00:05:14.660 I can't lie.
00:05:15.160 That woman deserves what she gets.
00:05:16.620 Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
00:05:17.660 Yeah, yeah, because.
00:05:18.620 I'm 30 and I have no kids for a reason.
00:05:20.900 Right, right.
00:05:21.620 That's what I'm saying.
00:05:22.160 I believe, the girl that gets pregnant by a guy that has no.
00:05:26.560 Have you had an abortion, though?
00:05:27.280 Ah, exactly.
00:05:28.680 Go ahead.
00:05:29.200 Everyone agrees on abortion, so.
00:05:31.900 No, but what I'm trying to say is.
00:05:32.920 If you don't believe in abortion, don't let a man bust in you.
00:05:35.480 And don't have sex without contraception.
00:05:37.160 But you could have contraception and still get pregnant.
00:05:39.300 I think what Cole's saying is we should be responsible.
00:05:41.280 But it's very, it's very, and I'm not, I'm not.
00:05:43.640 I know you have a kid, so I'm not trying to come at you.
00:05:45.660 Yeah, yeah, of course.
00:05:46.140 But you get an IUD.
00:05:47.300 That's 99.5% effective.
00:05:49.280 You only really get pregnant three to five days in the month when you're ovulate.
00:05:52.480 I know there's exceptions.
00:05:54.180 But every girl, every girl that I know personally that had an abortion or had an unwanted pregnancy,
00:06:00.220 personally, I just go off of what I see in real life and the numbers.
00:06:03.820 They were irresponsible in some way.
00:06:05.440 Like, some of the girls weren't on birth control and you were letting him finish in you.
00:06:09.700 What is wrong with you?
00:06:10.880 If you know you're not on birth control, if you know you're not on birth control and you get pregnant
00:06:15.540 and you don't believe in abortions, personally, I feel like that's your business.
00:06:20.120 Let me ask you a question, though.
00:06:21.500 As the woman who has, who is seeing another man's woman, right?
00:06:26.540 Or has seen another man, right?
00:06:27.900 Who's got a woman.
00:06:28.720 Yeah.
00:06:29.260 If you got pregnant, would you keep his baby?
00:06:30.780 No, no, no.
00:06:31.460 You wouldn't?
00:06:31.820 As much as I'm in it, I'm rational.
00:06:34.640 Because you were saying that you love him and all this.
00:06:36.960 Would you keep his baby?
00:06:37.560 When I say love, I used to love the word love very loosely.
00:06:40.700 However, no, I would never put myself in that position.
00:06:43.580 It's loyalty about love for me.
00:06:44.200 I just know he's willing to cheat and I like him and his.
00:06:49.640 And you're happy with being a sidekick.
00:06:50.980 On that, actually.
00:06:51.880 Is he simping for you?
00:06:53.060 Because that's what it kind of sounds like.
00:06:54.620 He don't simp for me.
00:06:54.640 No, but you said when he calls you, when you call him, you don't pick up.
00:07:04.000 But when he calls you, you pick up.
00:07:05.380 He calls you two, three times a week.
00:07:06.840 Let him, let him, let him, let him.
00:07:07.920 Yeah, yeah, do you know why?
00:07:08.680 That sounds like simping to me if I'm being older.
00:07:10.100 No, let me explain.
00:07:10.900 Because basically, he has a girl, right?
00:07:13.140 So I don't have a man.
00:07:14.400 So I have no attachments.
00:07:15.520 No one has to hide the secret from him.
00:07:16.720 You do have a man.
00:07:17.560 It's him.
00:07:18.300 True.
00:07:19.120 All right.
00:07:19.600 So potentially, if I call him.
00:07:22.000 Don't make her believe she has a man.
00:07:23.080 Why she don't?
00:07:23.900 No, no, no.
00:07:24.580 I'm not delusional.
00:07:25.660 That's the one.
00:07:25.980 In her head, she has a man.
00:07:26.760 Listen.
00:07:27.140 Okay, okay.
00:07:27.600 If I call him, potentially, he might be with his girl.
00:07:29.880 All right.
00:07:30.240 So do you have.
00:07:30.660 So hang on.
00:07:31.520 Let me ask you a question.
00:07:32.560 So do you have other men then?
00:07:34.300 Yes.
00:07:35.960 What are you doing?
00:07:36.980 He says, start again.
00:07:38.260 Can I ask you?
00:07:39.160 How wrong?
00:07:39.940 How wrong?
00:07:40.600 How wrong?
00:07:41.960 Can I ask you?
00:07:43.320 Can I ask you, Jen?
00:07:44.780 Do you want to be married?
00:07:46.200 Do you want to have kids?
00:07:47.100 No, you see me.
00:07:47.780 Maybe not married.
00:07:48.700 No, no, no, no.
00:07:49.320 You can't get married.
00:07:50.100 100%.
00:07:50.560 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:07:52.040 Can I just, wait, wait.
00:07:53.240 So you do?
00:07:54.080 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:07:54.460 How long?
00:07:55.540 Because you're 30.
00:07:56.540 I know.
00:07:56.840 No, I'm just genuinely, wait, wait, wait.
00:07:59.540 So geriatric pregnancy starts at 35.
00:08:01.760 35.
00:08:02.080 Right.
00:08:02.440 So how?
00:08:03.260 I've got five years.
00:08:03.780 Yeah.
00:08:04.340 And in that time, you have to get to know someone, convince them to do, you know, because
00:08:08.280 wait, wait, wait.
00:08:09.700 How long do you want to play these games for?
00:08:11.400 No, no, no.
00:08:12.000 Realistically, I have guys that I could just give me a baby, would look after a baby.
00:08:14.980 They're good friends to me.
00:08:15.980 Yeah, but you want to give me.
00:08:17.160 But you'll give me.
00:08:18.500 Right, right, right, right.
00:08:19.340 Realistically, if I really thought, listen, my time's up, I need to have a kid, there's
00:08:24.560 guys I could do that with, if that's what I want you to do.
00:08:26.440 Right, but I'm just, no, I'm just, no, I'm just, no, I'm just genuinely asking.
00:08:30.080 You can't have a kid with anyone.
00:08:31.280 No, no, no, it's not, it's not, it's not a ting.
00:08:33.760 So, so I'm just asking.
00:08:34.680 Can I ask you a question?
00:08:35.460 Let me get rid of a baby.
00:08:36.740 Wait, wait, wait.
00:08:37.840 How speak.
00:08:39.040 So, so I'm just genuinely asking, like, how long do you want to play these games for?
00:08:42.240 See me.
00:08:43.120 I don't know.
00:08:43.580 Can I?
00:08:44.460 Let her speak.
00:08:45.760 No, let her speak.
00:08:47.120 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:08:48.240 She's, sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry.
00:08:49.480 I thought that was the end.
00:08:49.860 No, no, no, no.
00:08:50.640 It was the end.
00:08:51.780 Sorry.
00:08:52.340 Sorry.
00:08:52.640 But I just, I'm saying, don't give me a long sentence.
00:08:55.600 Just how long do you want to play these games for?
00:08:57.480 Don't, just answer.
00:08:58.760 Until I meet someone I want to have a kid with.
00:09:00.500 Okay, can I ask you a question now?
00:09:01.900 If that happens to me, please.
00:09:02.760 Can I ask you a question now?
00:09:03.380 Okay, wait.
00:09:03.960 At this moment.
00:09:04.540 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:09:07.700 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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