JustPearlyThings - Single Mother GOT REDPILLED on Cheating

00:00:00.000 um so today's topic cheating yep yep so yeah yeah okay so so my first question is have you ever

00:00:12.480 been cheated on and have you ever cheated um yes i've been cheating on and i never cheat

00:00:21.040 you never cheat how did you find out he cheated uh painful uh well i find out

00:00:30.320 i don't know it's just like sometimes god loves me too much and they just show me little things you're

00:00:37.120 right god god brought you cheating no no no it just happened and i knew he was cheating because

00:00:48.240 i think men when they are cheating their way um they they feel guilty and then try to make it up to

00:00:54.960 you oh so he was he was like buying you stuff and treating you well yeah out of nowhere okay and so

00:01:01.280 then how how do you get evidence or well i just i'm not a person that go into someone's phone

00:01:08.240 okay so phone but yeah but it just it just happened for me to see okay you saw like a message yeah and

00:01:15.040 i i saw a message and then from there obviously i checked and yeah and then like what it was him

00:01:20.000 like messaging come over or something uh no it was more i can't really say it because it's a bit

00:01:27.760 inappropriate so oh it was like some sexual stuff okay i feel like we've got to qualify the question

00:01:33.520 what do you mean by cheating as in going the whole way or what's cheating is such a loose film that's

00:01:39.280 a good that's a good question when i think of cheating i think of like stuff that's like sexual

00:01:45.520 you know i would say kissing someone else is cheating unless you're in like an arrange it's not

00:01:50.960 cheating if you guys agree to the you know what if it's like uh just a flirty text message yeah like

00:01:55.840 text messages like instagram like you replied to something yeah but from there it's starting right

00:02:01.680 premeditated not necessarily because for me there's also emotional cheating like if you invest your

00:02:06.320 emotion emotional energy in someone else that's also cheating because i could be with a guy and then

00:02:10.560 i'm investing my emotional energy into another guy you're still i think i think that emotional cheating

00:02:14.880 that's that's a woman thing i think you know like just you don't really care as a man isn't it 1.00

00:02:19.840 see men men when it comes to men men cheat for different reasons from when women cheat you understand 0.56

00:02:24.640 what i mean yeah that's why when women cheat people say that it hurts more it hurts the man more you 1.00

00:02:30.320 know what i mean because men it's like our penises kind of talk for us you know what i mean like our

00:02:36.960 penises are the ones that are making the decision certain times you know and once you've bust that 0.71

00:02:41.920 knot you're like you you snap back to normal you could go back to loving her i still love her though

00:02:47.840 yeah yeah after you bust that knot you're like oh you come what am i doing here yeah you come to

00:02:51.840 your senses you come to your sense of your senses no pun intended so that's why you're saying man do

00:02:56.320 it just to go bust it or not and then after they come there's a double standard for sure guys guys

00:03:00.480 can have sex without emotions but with females it's different they need emotions it's very much 0.97

00:03:06.400 different yeah men men can can have full-blown sex with a woman and feel less than a woman sending

00:03:11.600 a flirty text message exactly like we can be more upset over them sending a text message yeah than us

00:03:17.520 having full-blown sex with my mom my mom broke it down from a practical standpoint right this is 1.00

00:03:21.840 genius if you let someone into your home that's slightly more personal than you going into someone's

00:03:27.040 home and women from a practical standpoint they are allowing you access to their insides yeah you're

00:03:34.160 just visiting you can visit 100 houses in a day not that i recommend you do that i don't do that by the

00:03:39.760 the way just so big up my mom for that and um but i don't condone it i don't i don't i don't suggest

00:03:47.280 you do it that's it i'm trying to there's some study i'm trying to find it that like backs up what

00:03:52.880 you guys are saying where they asked like married men that cheated if they still loved their wives and

00:03:56.800 it was like 85 percent or 85 80 percent roughly still said they did i mean it's not like they don't

00:04:03.680 they don't love them anymore it's like maybe they want to try something different maybe

00:04:07.760 bro so true have you guys cheated have you guys cheated yeah i've been a serial cheater man

00:04:13.920 come on any man says that haven't cheated they'll lie you but not every guy can't cheat

00:04:20.080 that's true but on the subject that you just said of um married men i remember being in the lift i

00:04:25.760 went to go clubbing with the guys who was in the um lift and we seen all the guy must have been around

00:04:30.080 about say about 65 years old and he was like oh lads you're gonna enjoy like have a good night tonight

00:04:35.040 was like yeah then he was like yeah i'm gonna prom looking for a for a woman tonight and we're like

00:04:39.920 okay he's i'm married by the way but i'm i'm bored he was like she don't do nothing for me but i love my

00:04:45.760 wife a friend of mine once said behind every great looking woman is a man sick of shagna and i'm sorry to

00:04:51.200 like because i know women don't want to hear that but like and it's not all true like obviously there's

00:04:56.480 exceptions there's all good there's good guys out there but i do feel like men we are programmed to

00:05:02.320 want to multiply that is like not it's not a choice we wake up every morning with a full sack and we're

00:05:07.520 ready to go and unfortunately for women if you're not there like that's why women unfortunately have 1.00

00:05:13.120 to be on their a-game because it's not fair but it's just the way it is yeah i beg to differ on that one

00:05:18.800 for the simple fact of you can be that woman or that man absolutely you could be everything that he

00:05:27.920 dreams of i agree and yet still somehow some way i can be submissive i can give it to you as and when

00:05:36.320 you want it multiple times out of the day but the truth is if you want to go out and do that you're

00:05:43.440 going to that works both ways no no and i was going to get to that point um you know it to me it's like

00:05:50.640 i've always looked at cheating i've been on the receiving end of that and i've been there multiple

00:05:56.880 times now it does two things it makes you look inside yourself and think okay have i done something

00:06:05.520 in order to not satisfy him what drove him to look at me but you're telling me that you love me

00:06:14.720 you care for me oh you know you're my world okay show me that i'm your world but then you still show

00:06:20.800 me that but then you still feel all right i'm gonna go out and demand him yeah different area

00:06:26.720 cold they ain't gonna know no it's not about that do you get done something i'm saying it's the same

00:06:30.880 with women as well women i believe if you feel that you have to get to that point where you're cheating

00:06:37.680 why are you still in that relationship why haven't you sat down and had that a and b okay well i could

00:06:43.840 flip it on you and say why did you choose the wrong men multiple times in a row then okay no no no no

00:06:48.960 disrespect no no no and that's a fair um because they're all good guys out there no no no and that

00:06:53.600 is a very fair question every man cheats no i said every man has the urge in them they're programmed

00:06:58.720 to want to fuck every day that's well generally i'll answer because women in general like men that cheat 1.00

00:07:05.600 like it's not like a good thing that makes women look good but look at who women pick 1.00

00:07:25.200 like more two women have always reproduced for every one man and while there have been there 1.00

00:07:29.440 have been monogamy like throughout the last two million years there have been monogamous societies

00:07:33.520 um and the majority like of the population has been monogamous but the top 15 percent of men

00:07:39.600 um have never been monogamous ever and now what's the difference today women um now are completely in 1.00

00:07:45.360 control of sex which has never happened in all of history right and what has happened since we've

00:07:49.760 gotten in control of sex we have been sleeping with a smaller and smaller percentage of men so what

00:07:54.080 does that mean we could have the monogamous guys but none of us pick them so and we don't when we

00:07:59.440 have the most youth and the most beauty because usually like we do go into monogamous relationships

00:08:04.320 but we do it in our 30s because the average age of first marriage isn't 31 so that means we're

00:08:08.240 non-monogamous in our 20s i have a question for the ladies if this is okay have any of you ever

00:08:13.520 knowingly like deep deep down inside been a booty call knowingly have you ever been have you ever

00:08:20.880 knowingly been a booty call like a guy who's just you're you're a side piece you're not serious

00:08:25.440 but you're turning up and you know he's calling you at 11 o'clock for good reason like he ain't

00:08:29.840 taking you out he ain't doing all the nice things you're turning up knowing what this is really about

00:08:35.920 he may be lovely to you he may say all the nice things to you but you deep down in your i'm just

00:08:40.640 i'm just gonna say i'm just gonna say no no i haven't i personally haven't been in that situation

00:08:46.320 um but each people or persons or people that are in that setup yes what about situationship anyone

00:08:54.400 raise your hand situationship never whatever every you every guy you've slept with you've been in

00:08:58.640 a relationship with 100 plus okay okay yeah yeah you have been in a situation no of every person

00:09:05.920 i've okay fine i've had any interviews with i've been with these recruiters need to stop their game

00:09:10.800 they're too nice you see what he's saying though because a situationship is the same thing

00:09:30.560 you are both single yeah and if you both agree it's like if you know what the setup is and you're like

00:09:36.960 okay look i've got an itch i need you to scratch i'll call you if that's the setup then fair enough

00:09:42.800 each of their own but personally i've never been in that situation were you married are you you're

00:09:47.840 married am i you're married somewhat i just couldn't remember what you said in the beginning i didn't

00:09:55.040 answer that question okay i see a ring i'm just not yes there is a ring there okay yeah no it just

00:10:01.520 surprises me because if you're still single at 35 i'm like every guy you're in a relationship by 35

00:10:07.280 i wouldn't say every guy that i've been with i would say in my younger days um you know when you're

00:10:14.320 finding yourself and you don't really women sometimes want a little bit more than men and

00:10:22.080 what i wanted is not necessarily what he wanted but they sell you this dream take you down the stream

00:10:29.600 oh and kind of just leave you there kind of thing you know and that was my experience right but but

00:10:36.080 that's still a situationship if you weren't together no we was in a relationship oh you were in a

00:10:40.320 relationship yes we were in a relationship and then he then went on to go and find what was

00:10:47.680 appealing to himself and that's how that relationship dissolved he cheated on you yes i i've never gone

00:10:55.600 out i've never cheated on an individual but i have had it happen to me twice i'm not picking the wrong

00:11:02.720 guys because it doesn't matter if you're you could be a really good guy i mean like what one of you

00:11:08.160 said where you know they went out and this guy was married but he was still out there looking for

00:11:12.640 something else do you know what i mean so sometimes you can't really how how tall were the guys how tall

00:11:18.560 um oh i don't know i'm like five two so they were a little bit i don't know probably six okay six

00:11:27.360 foot and like how much money did they make roughly well at the time we were like teenagers so we were

00:11:32.800 all just grafting we arrived some of us were either still in college or you know doing a little saturday

00:11:39.200 job and stuff like that we wasn't in a state where as i am now in my 30s where i'm more established

00:11:47.680 so give and take you know we were still in college working so they had a bachelor's degree or they're

00:11:53.680 in college so they got a degree yeah so they were yeah they were working i have i have a point i'm

00:11:58.480 just gonna i'm just gonna read i'm just gonna read some stats so once once a man earns over 300k um

00:12:04.080 the odds of him cheating increased by roughly 50 percent with a third of men um in that in that higher

00:12:09.760 income bracket cheating on their wives only six percent of these unfaithful men report that their

00:12:14.320 marriages were coming to an end or didn't love their wives anymore not the remaining 94 percent

00:12:19.200 still love their wives goes without saying that men don't cheat more um or women don't cheat more 0.86

00:12:25.280 when they're in a higher income bracket beyond wealth the men who are over six foot tall are

00:12:29.920 statistically 38 percent more likely to cheat which is presumably just down to the opportunity

00:12:35.760 intriguingly um university degrees are 34 percent more likely to cheat

00:12:40.960 okay so it's like if we're going after the guys with all of these qualities like do you think we

00:12:45.760 should maybe expect it on some level yeah i reckon of course you can expect it more if a guy's over

00:12:50.560 six foot kind of thing he he believes he's got more power if you're making more money then that female 1.00

00:12:56.480 you know you've got more power so girls have no i feel like all of these external things right 1.00

00:13:02.960 they only draw out what is innately in you already yeah you can be a billionaire and seven foot five

00:13:09.440 but if you have morals and principles and you genuinely love the woman that's with you you're

00:13:12.480 not going to go it's just it's just nowadays bro there's there's there's so much options

00:13:17.360 accessibility i disagree with that i'll tell you i'll tell you why because if you if you look at like

00:13:23.600 nba players and like and professional athletes there are women that go to those games and seek 1.00

00:13:28.160 those men out trying to get them to cheat on their wives like there are girls that have said word for 0.55

00:13:32.720 word i i it took me years but i finally got him to cheat yeah but what is it so so my point is even

00:13:39.600 a good guy if you're telling me some of the most beautiful women you've ever seen in your life are

00:13:44.400 chasing you down hunting you they know everything about you trying to get you to cheat i i think like

00:13:50.640 people are human over the course of like a 20-year career not once yeah but if your relationship is

00:13:55.680 solely based around a sexual experience then of course there's always going to be someone with

00:13:59.440 more curvaceous booty just around the corner but if you're dealing with a actual woman on a spiritual 1.00

00:14:04.640 financial physical realm then there is nothing that you're going to give me that this woman doesn't 1.00

00:14:09.600 satisfy me with already and i'm talking from experience i'll be honest before any of my ex-girlfriends

00:14:13.280 call me out in the comment sections i was a serial cheater when i was young but i've seen firsthand my

00:14:17.520 elder sister my youngest sister what they've gone through and the heartbreak that a man was able

00:14:21.440 to cause and it was almost god's way of showing me this is what you're doing to these other women

00:14:25.440 i can tell you i can tell you you're pretty to be speaking

00:14:35.600 can i just ask you a quick question what's the longest you've been monogamous to a girl

00:14:39.280 five years five years okay but that's not 25 that's not no no but in the last in the last four year in

00:14:44.640 the last three and a half years in the last three and a half years yeah i've never ever ever ever

00:14:49.680 cheated it's never been across my mind and because of my line of work i can go on my instagram right

00:14:53.360 now and i've got blue ticks with two three million followers asking me to go to the estates to have

00:14:58.320 sexual intercourse and i say no why because from a mature standpoint i know that what i want in a

00:15:04.560 woman isn't just sex you know look at your mother look at you it's so much deeper than sex yeah but i'm 0.96

00:15:11.040 saying like that happens but i'm just saying like i think that even a good man can do it on a bad day

00:15:17.520 facts yeah that's my point like it's not that it's not that you should or you shouldn't not if you're in

00:15:22.320 love martin luther king didn't you know he had a stable of hoes bro muhammad ali was out here every 1.00

00:15:27.760 other day with a different one the one thing i want to say is that um when you talk about these high

00:15:32.240 achievers these men who earn over 300 000 those men they they don't like that doesn't just happen overnight

00:15:38.400 you have to train your brain into being a mogul and all of this like you be selfish every single

00:15:43.760 day you're thinking me me me me me so any woman who wants to then weave in with that's that way of 1.00

00:15:49.040 way of life you can't just come up here and expecting a man to change who he is and be a different

00:15:54.080 person because he needs you to weave into his life and a lot of women aren't willing to do that these 1.00

00:15:58.560 days you know and also part of the problem is these men are like the alpha males and i know that's

00:16:03.600 such a like a ridiculous word to use these days because people have used it and bastardized it but

00:16:07.760 i feel like these men like they're bred to be as successful as possible to provide and also part

00:16:13.840 of the problem is they all want to like every day and they like they're not in control of themselves

00:16:18.960 around women in the way that a man who well actually i wonder a lot of these men who aren't in that

00:16:24.000 situation who are like slugging these men off if they were in that situation would you have these

00:16:28.080 morals that you claim to have when no one's trying to you i don't know i just think cheating is wrong

00:16:32.480 man just like even though i've done it before i've done it before there's nothing cool about it should

00:16:36.400 not be glamorized we should not normalize it we don't know i'm not saying to glamorize but i'm

00:16:40.800 saying the last two million years the world has been one way i'm not going to tell the world how

00:16:44.720 to be and i think a lot of times women go into relationships with like delusional expectations 1.00

00:16:49.440 like the top 15 of men for the last two million years have always cheated and now you're coming

00:16:55.040 in and saying well he's going to be faithful to me okay good luck my message to women is conduct 0.57

00:17:00.000 yourself in a certain esteem yeah and if a man is cheap enough into cheating he's going to lose out and

00:17:04.160 he will potentially go with a woman who's going to cheat on him don't don't change your standards

00:17:08.080 by any way and i think that sounds really nice but it's not nice when they can't replace the guy

00:17:13.440 and that's the sad thing is like i'll talk to girls and they'll talk about how their mom or their mom

00:17:17.600 left their dad because he cheated and now she's dying alone and so it's like is it is it really a

00:17:22.400 better option and that's why they don't talk so you'll be happy staying with someone that's consistent

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JustPearlyThings - May 02, 2023

Single Mother GOT REDPILLED on Cheating

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