JustPearlyThings - Single Mother REVEALS Why Her Husband Left Her

00:00:00.000 you don't do you but i'm not assuming that i'm not earning any money at this point and he's like

00:00:04.440 i'm also working and providing like equal yeah but men don't care about your money it's like 0.84

00:00:09.720 nothing to them yeah but we're talking about my opinion on it not their opinion no no but i'm

00:00:14.880 saying you just said that you would be working too and i'm saying to the guy like they wouldn't care

00:00:18.840 okay do you not do you not care i'm a little bit i mean i've been quite fortunate to date girls

00:00:25.260 that earn a decent amount of money especially when i've been younger it is nice but it's not like

00:00:30.600 a it's not a it's not a major deal do you know i mean like i could happily date a girl that works 1.00

00:00:35.860 at mcdonald's if she was a nice girl okay really what do you guys think that men look for so if

00:00:41.900 you had to list like five things that men look for what would you say god i've really been out

00:00:46.120 the game for a while so i think i'm not the right person to ask yeah you're in it now so what do

00:00:51.260 you gotta if you wanna if you wanna if you wanna if you wanna get this guy right you gotta know

00:00:56.720 your target i don't really care right now your mark or whatever i'm sort of like it's too soon

00:01:02.220 it's too soon i'm working on me but you didn't learn anything about like what your husband liked

00:01:06.980 if you were married that long well not me um you didn't learn anything how long were you married

00:01:14.440 10 years to you you were married to a guy for 10 years you didn't learn anything about men 0.95

00:01:18.320 clearly not because he left so um i don't know i don't know how to answer that question okay

00:01:27.280 what do you think men want i think they want a woman that gives them space to be them 1.00

00:01:31.880 um i also think they want someone that like supports them i always believe i think i come

00:01:38.720 from quite a traditional um background in terms of like family and like how things run i'd say

00:01:44.460 um so i think a woman that allows him to be the head but still can be the neck that holds him

00:01:50.400 through whatever it is that you both need to go through um i think someone that's his peace you

00:01:56.020 know someone that can bring some form of tranquility into his life when everything feels like it's all

00:02:00.540 over the place or to just actually just you know just be at peace and not bring so much like problems

00:02:06.860 always moaning or plucking things out of thin air to make something happen from past trauma or whatever

00:02:12.540 it is um i think that's what men kind of look and again i'd say that looks or some sometimes it could

00:02:19.200 be body but i wouldn't say it is i think it depends on what stage they're at in their life if they're

00:02:24.040 willing to just like mess around and just want their tings i feel like that's what they focus on but

00:02:28.220 i think when they're ready to settle down it's just a woman that can ground them what do you think 1.00

00:02:33.460 i feel like i wouldn't be able to say like just five things but like i feel like in my relationship

00:02:40.560 i know that like my boyfriend tells me that for him it's important that i can give him space that

00:02:47.280 he can grow into the person he needs to be but as long as he knows that i'm going to be there to wait

00:02:52.960 for him to get to that point then he feels secure in that you know i mean so i feel like men want

00:02:59.500 somebody who's going to be there with them because for men they want to be able to turn around and say

00:03:03.460 yeah i went through a b c d but this woman stood by me the whole time so that's why she gets to reap 0.95

00:03:09.560 the benefits now so loyalty yeah loyalty is really important for men like obviously everybody wants

00:03:15.940 to be with a loyal partner like men or women but for men it's really important like it's so so important

00:03:21.640 that they can have somebody who grows with them because they want to build with their woman they don't 1.00

00:03:26.100 want to like just make the money and then get a girl who's only come after the money you know i 1.00

00:03:31.240 mean they want somebody who's been there the whole time so that they feel like this person actually

00:03:35.540 deserves now to reap the benefits of what i've made because they've been there the whole time

00:03:39.520 anything else that you would add other than loyalty um the dog's loyal i think so how can the girl bring

00:03:49.100 i think how she carries herself as well like if you're somebody who's you know you don't carry

00:03:55.260 yourself well in public you have a bit of a reputation for yourself it's going to make the

00:03:58.900 men look at you a bit sideways like do i really want this person to be associated with me so like

00:04:02.940 purity yeah purity as well like you want to come from a good place you want to have good like morals

00:04:08.540 and stuff like that so it's not it's like if you know one day you end up having to meet their family

00:04:13.700 and stuff their family don't feel like they have anything to like pick at you about like you've

00:04:18.800 got good morals you come from a good place you know you've got yourself together and they can see that

00:04:23.700 as well then that's what they're looking for okay what about you um definitely men want love 100

00:04:30.440 um loyalty um they want peace they want you to be their piece so how can you give it because i always

00:04:38.600 hear women say that like i want to be his piece but i never hear any specifics um it's in terms

00:04:43.680 of like you know leaves the house but work stress got stereotype stress um and then you come home

00:04:51.820 and then you're probably moaning about something that he he didn't call you today like i bring peace

00:04:57.380 to my partner and i'm not just saying that but i i i know that because when he come home and we're

00:05:04.380 together there's this where he can just relax his shoulders basically and not have to be this tough

00:05:11.120 or or watch his back or kind of be like there's a lot of men have to carry a lot basically so the

00:05:18.260 fact that you can be a shoulder to lean on listen to them support them um it's almost kind of like

00:05:24.600 therapy but not in that sort of way men want their women to be therapists not therapists not in that

00:05:29.200 way but men want to have somebody that they can open up to as much as they feel like they want to

00:05:33.400 be tough they want to be they want to have their person and that and their partner is that person

00:05:39.160 we're not judged not feeling like they need to be something that they have to be on the road in the

00:05:46.040 house that sort of thing um and men want love they want genuine wholehearted love um because

00:05:55.080 you know it's that sort of thing you can tell when a guy's in a good relationship how they act and

00:06:01.400 when they're in a bad relationship it affects their whole world around them as much as they

00:06:05.620 might be tough or not so that kind of deep genuine love is one of the things that they're looking for

00:06:12.340 because when guys are in the young age and they're sleeping around they're not looking for those um um

00:06:18.620 they're looking for family orientated um a strong woman somebody like all those things that they're 0.99

00:06:25.900 looking for when they want to settle down actually i have one question do you think women like men that 1.00

00:06:32.920 are opening up to them emotionally um i think so yeah funny enough um i know someone who

00:06:39.560 she appreciates that um because you get to know the real person when they open up um in terms of

00:06:49.560 partner because there's a lot of things that shape a man you know like family history um what they

00:06:56.960 went through childhood adulthood like there's a lot of things that shape them so when they open up to

00:07:02.440 a woman that's how they get the full picture of a man for example my mom always said when i started 0.99

00:07:07.860 dating a man can only act for so long so he might approach with this tough exterior and then

00:07:15.500 or he's chasing after something and then he can't act for that long and then you kind of realize

00:07:22.200 who that real person is so yeah they appreciate when men open up i don't think so i was gonna

00:07:28.540 you know i don't know i don't know there's studies that show that like women like their husbands less 1.00

00:07:35.060 when they open up or cry to them and i hear guys telling me all the time that like they'll open up

00:07:40.020 to like this is women what we kind of do is we kind of like we don't realize we're doing it but

00:07:45.320 we start to psychoanalyze men and it pisses them off so like they'll say oh this happened in my

00:07:49.540 childhood or whatever they'll open up to us and then we'll be like every time we're in an argument

00:07:53.760 well it's because of his childhood and it's like throwing it in their face that's women leading from

00:07:59.320 a different angle there's this thing about listen to understand rather than listen to respond and

00:08:05.780 people who that's that's basically you're throwing something back in someone's face so there's women 1.00

00:08:10.340 like that because they're not i think it's common though it is i don't even think i don't even think

00:08:15.400 it always comes out of a like a place of maliciousness actually i think so no well i mean for some women 1.00

00:08:21.340 yeah but i've heard girls do it and it's more of like them explaining like why he's doing it but guys

00:08:25.780 don't want to hear that oh they're trying to correct him basically yeah yeah yeah but i genuinely think

00:08:31.780 that telling men to like open up to women is bad advice overall i don't think like you're telling

00:08:36.340 them to open but like i think they should open up to other men do you think so all right because i

00:08:41.640 don't i don't want i look at a guy i want him to be my rock yeah i don't i don't want a guy that's

00:08:45.800 more emotional than me but when he crumbles all of a sudden it's like who's this person how do i deal

00:08:51.620 with it because i've never seen this side or i never saw it coming and it's like whoa whoa whoa

00:08:56.040 now he's really soft and who is this i'm not saying leave him the second you see any emotion

00:09:01.900 but i think by and large like the more he does it the more likely you will leave

00:09:06.740 because you don't like do women want weak men or do they want strong men it doesn't make you weak to

00:09:11.960 open up i don't think i think there's a time and place and i think i think as you said it depends on

00:09:18.240 what the woman's there for i think that also plays a part because sometimes you know when you're in a

00:09:22.540 girl chat or i feel like sometimes it does stem from i wouldn't say actually it stems from any age range

00:09:28.140 of women or anything i think it's off a perspective and how like you said you want your man to be but

00:09:32.340 nine times out of ten i do feel like if a man opens up or he gets emotional i feel like if you've not

00:09:37.460 been together for a very long period of time or it's quite new women tend to go yeah but i don't

00:09:42.340 actually know why he opened up to me like why is he acting bare soft or like it's just a bit like what

00:09:47.560 do i do do you know what i mean a lot of women do get turned off by that kind of stuff yeah of course 0.99

00:09:51.660 yeah that's why it is always better to open up with your boys yeah but sometimes your boys just

00:09:57.120 can't support you like that yeah not always or even reach out to a coach or a mentor an expert in that

00:10:03.180 field i'm not even just saying no but that's that's actually the reason why i got into it but like um

00:10:08.420 yeah unfortunately let's admit that your words do get used against you in an argument

00:10:13.280 and women do sometimes tend to go to that that that because when they want to get a reaction out of you 1.00

00:10:19.240 they want to see some emotion they will go to that soft place so i always tell men just yeah not not

00:10:25.460 to open up and put your girl and i think it goes back to like all them like old time saying you know

00:10:29.700 like you treat him and mean keep him keen so it's like that's what women like kind of sometimes that

00:10:37.160 chase and that play with men i feel like they don't always like what they want sometimes they

00:10:41.680 like to be put in their place they like a man to be able to know he can do that as many of you know

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JustPearlyThings - April 16, 2023

Single Mother REVEALS Why Her Husband Left Her

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