JustPearlyThings - Single Women Get ROASTED by Men Because of This

00:00:00.000 sex in order for um sarah to get sex we need to have some type of value about us we need to be 0.98

00:00:04.080 able to have something present i just walk out on the street baby i'm not like you man i mean i mean 0.94

00:00:09.120 i wish i could be like i'm lying i'm lying so that includes having um finance being good looking

00:00:15.440 being six foot being basically having um six foot two six six six deuce baby basically having all

00:00:22.160 the things that women find attractive right in order for us to sleep with high quality women or 1.00

00:00:26.240 any women in actual fact um in order for you three women here to sleep with with a man all you have 1.00

00:00:31.600 to do is basically say i want to sleep with you and there'll be men that will want to sleep with you 1.00

00:00:35.520 so in order for you to sleep with 100 100 men and and me to sleep with 100 women is completely

00:00:41.120 different you can literally do this and this is why a lot of the times women think that men are

00:00:44.800 having so much sex because they equate it to what they can get but that's not the truth of the matter

00:00:48.800 the truth of the matter is i'm have to take a girl out i'm gonna have to three dates i'm have to do 0.96

00:00:52.400 all these types of things in order to have sex but all you have to do is say i want to have sex 0.82

00:00:56.800 and a man will have sex enough well i think can i just say right like there's two women here right 1.00

00:01:01.120 yeah that are in i'm gonna use this as an analogy there's two women here and you got hoodies on 1.00

00:01:07.120 right women can walk out on the street you women can walk out the street and just hoodies 1.00

00:01:12.400 and even your bonnet right and you can still and you can still garner attention from men you still men

00:01:18.080 will still be like yo no it's actually shocking it's actually shocking right but the thing is

00:01:24.400 men don't get that they don't get afforded that if a man walks out looking quote-unquote bummy 0.63

00:01:31.280 no one don't give a damn do you get what i'm saying but women can women can be mothers of five 1.00

00:01:37.520 children and go on the school run right in their in their pajamas and men will still holler yeah 0.99

00:01:45.200 she got a fat ass men do not get afforded that same thing one in three men are either virgins or 0.99

00:01:52.960 having had sex in the past year yeah so it's not the most men aren't really getting laid like that i 0.99

00:01:58.240 think it goes back to what we were saying earlier about what we see until we get told these things

00:02:02.320 that you know body count i think when more people accept that men and women are built differently we are

00:02:08.960 just we are completely we're built differently genetically the way you guys just get up and kind of put it in

00:02:14.640 anywhere we know as women sorry you know what i'm saying no wait you know what i'm saying it's easy to

00:02:20.640 just do to do that as a woman if you're doing that like that you kind of have to look at you sideways 1.00

00:02:26.080 because it's a different experience for us though we experience it's different and i think for ages

00:02:30.000 i used to get all funny about the body count thing because i think oh yes nasty but not saying that i

00:02:34.880 want to be with somebody that has had a million bodies would you mean it's not nasty under what the

00:02:38.640 man said no yeah that's what i'm saying i used to be like oh man's got too many bodies yeah but now i know

00:02:43.120 how men i have three brothers yeah so the way men operate is different as a woman when you're

00:02:48.160 accepting of that you see things differently but you know i say to you women don't want a man without

00:02:53.120 sexual experience that's the only thing would you want a virgin exactly i'm saying so the fact i would

00:02:59.360 so the fact that right but the thing is that's the difference between men and women yeah that's it

00:03:03.280 yeah men want a woman who has a lower body count and would prefer to teach her yeah right what sex is 1.00

00:03:09.920 women want a man to come to them and know her body right and a man and a man and a man can't 1.00

00:03:15.840 know your body unless he's had sexual experience see when you come with that got got 3000 we're like

00:03:20.320 we're enjoying it but we're like where did you learn that from at the end of the days you're supposed 0.97

00:03:23.840 to learn no but this is the thing no no because we're enjoying it we're like damn but we're like 0.96

00:03:29.920 damn where did she learn how many guys and then your brain starts doing the whole thing so for us men we 1.00

00:03:34.400 don't prioritize sexual experience as anything in actual fact the less sexual experience you have 1.00

00:03:38.800 the better for us we don't look at we don't look at you as sex as being something as a selling point

00:03:43.520 for women they think they is but we don't for men you actually look at is that i want a man that knows

00:03:48.160 what what to do but for us we don't actually want that so a lot of the times when we're trying to

00:03:52.160 speech we're trying to say that whoever's told you this it's a fallacy it's a lie like men don't do 0.87

00:03:57.040 not prize sexual experience when we're looking for women we look at femininity we look at loyalty we look at

00:04:01.920 low body count some of these other things um obviously like um family family oriented but not

00:04:07.920 once have we ever said you know what i want to know know what i had head techniques like but there's

00:04:12.480 a flip side to me go on let me hear it we know that there's a there's a reason why men go to strip 1.00

00:04:17.120 clubs yeah right there's a reason why men indulge in corn right to such interesting to this degree

00:04:24.560 it's because they fantasize about these women that can do all of these things right we do we fantasize

00:04:30.880 about this woman that can do all of these things but then when we go into our relationship 1.00

00:04:35.600 we don't want a woman like that because that's going to be our wife but there's that there's that 1.00

00:04:41.520 okay if a woman can show you sexual experience and she can show you all of these things we get

00:04:46.800 turned on it turned on by it so there is literally there's a there's a bit of a dichotomy

00:04:51.840 there with men and and i think i think a lot of women struggle to understand that so we understand it

00:04:57.760 as men no i fully like like i fully hear what you're saying and you're right and i've heard

00:05:01.680 women say oh but why do you guys like these like all these girls pictures on instagram yeah yeah

00:05:06.080 you're looking at you're looking at one night versus a lifetime exactly so if you want to be the

00:05:11.760 girl for what there's so many girls like the girl for one night you know like they don't get the ring 1.00

00:05:15.680 they don't get the life they don't get none of these things they just get the one night they get

00:05:19.280 the they get the champagne bottles they get the sparklers they get their back blown out and that's it

00:05:24.000 they might even get a bag from one of these guys they don't get anything other than that and at

00:05:27.680 some point even those girls want something more you know i'm trying to say to you so i think a lot

00:05:32.240 of the times you're just looking at things from a different from a different angle and that's why

00:05:35.600 i agree with you a lot but men we just want these things for now not for a lifetime and you what

00:05:40.400 would you rather be a girl for now or go for the lifetime so i've always said to women like do you 0.99

00:05:44.080 think that you can differentiate attention from men like do you understand when a guy is looking at you

00:05:51.040 and it's giving you attention because he wants to you basically or can you differentiate it when

00:05:56.480 a guy wants to actually make you his long-term partner that i think a lot of women i think a lot 1.00

00:06:02.160 but i think a lot of women struggle with that like they struggle with differentiating between that type 1.00

00:06:06.960 of attention especially depending on the setting and stuff as well yeah and yeah i know that i agree

00:06:13.200 and so what happens is because it is a tension and women like attention they think a lot of the guys 1.00

00:06:19.600 that are trying to pursue them which is why a lot of women think oh i can bag this type of guy because 1.00

00:06:24.480 blah blah blah no he will show you attention because he wants to you but he's not showing

00:06:29.680 you the attention because he wants to be of you long term and so a lot of women have had attention from 0.98

00:06:34.480 guys who are of that top percentage and they think oh i can bag me that guy it's like no but he will

00:06:42.800 you and that is a hard pill to swallow for a lot of women they don't get that they're the woman that 1.00

00:06:48.960 guys just want to and they don't want to have a long-term relationship with do you know what

00:06:53.520 i mean like there's a lot of women there's someone for everyone what i said there's someone for 1.00

00:06:58.240 everyone how how how how when women make up 55 of the population yeah there's more of us than there 1.00

00:07:05.680 yeah but yeah i genuinely think someone's got to be the hookers 1.00

00:07:10.480 someone's got to do it by sheer numbers the world's oldest profession someone's got to do it

00:07:18.880 i would never want someone i love to do it but but someone will and someone's gotta but what you say

00:07:25.200 there is by sheer numbers someone's gonna have to share a man yeah because just if you paired

00:07:30.720 everybody up one one with each other there's gonna be how many millions of women on the sideline like 1.00

00:07:35.920 yo what about me question for the ladies you you have a guy six feet six figures six inches would 1.00

00:07:42.640 you share him they want more than six inches yeah i'd share him you'd share yeah i'd share him with how

00:07:51.120 many just one other like what if it was like oh two as long as i'm honest like living in the mansion

00:07:59.760 yeah you know got the kids driving the bentley you're like see no evil here no yeah i don't

00:08:14.240 most people are actually doing that now anyways it's not it's nothing new yeah so then that goes

00:08:18.240 back to the traditional relationship are they dead so you're saying as a woman you'd be you'd be like 0.77

00:08:23.600 okay okay i can share it man that's not a traditional relationship no but i would argue that probably yeah

00:08:29.440 way back back yeah i would argue yeah i would argue like sorry that's it is a little bit even if

00:08:34.560 they didn't like what pearl used to say like they had you know they had a whole families across the

00:08:38.560 road like they didn't back in the day so they just wasn't so i mean only only 40 of um men have

00:08:45.520 reproduced historically or it's either 40 or 60 i can't remember off the top of my head but there's a

00:08:50.800 good portion of men that have not reproduced there's a reason why i'm asking this because essentially i think

00:08:55.760 traditional relationships are polygynous and polygamy i actually think those are traditional

00:09:01.920 relationships that human beings have engaged in since i think i think for a small percentage

00:09:07.360 yeah i don't think like by and large pull it like that makes sense for societies but i think it does

00:09:12.080 make sense for the small percentage i think i think the western world came in if you there's a book

00:09:16.720 called um out of eden by a guy called um uh robert barash and he he and in that he shows that the majority of

00:09:26.240 humans whether you go to asia middle east africa prior to the coming of like the western type of

00:09:35.360 relationship they were living in some kind of polygamous or polygynous type relationship and so

00:09:40.320 if this new um if this new type of one man and one woman even though if you look at it biblically there

00:09:48.080 were certain people in the bible that had more than one do you know what i mean if it's new

00:09:52.320 is it correct but sarah like how many how many people share baby fathers now that's what i'm

00:10:00.640 trying to say like and they will actively know let's see me personally if a girl's got a girl's

00:10:04.560 got a kid i don't touch her like that's just me personally i don't i don't date women with kids 1.00

00:10:08.000 i'm not going to be the step i just know i just don't do that that's something i won't do um so

00:10:13.040 what do you mean for long term you mean oh well at this stage i know you had sex with a woman who's 0.53

00:10:18.960 got children bro no no no see see let's be honest no no so that's not dating like what what like if

00:10:24.800 you want to get your back you said you wouldn't touch her that's why i was that you know i'm saying

00:10:27.600 i'm like no no okay okay okay let me um let me reiterate right and still now i wouldn't touch now i

00:10:34.080 wouldn't touch her because i have like i just i don't once once i hear a kid i leave that for the

00:10:39.520 guys with the kids and you know i mean i'm sick i don't have any kids so why am i going to entertain

00:10:43.280 a woman right okay and that's and that's my thing and and and that's my thing but if a woman had a 1.00

00:10:49.840 child there's no way i'll be saying by another man that you know i'm going to give you another child

00:10:53.520 but women will happily have a baby with a guy that they know has got a baby mother two of a baby 1.00

00:10:58.080 mothers and a guy that left his woman already like or left her like like there's difference

00:11:03.520 between a lot of a lot of times man just have babies with girls and they just keep it moving 0.86

00:11:06.720 because it's in that top 20 yeah but then you will still go and do that so women always share baby 1.00

00:11:11.680 fathers and that because one guy will have one but that's why women are always fighting with other 1.00

00:11:15.360 women over the man yeah so that polygamy thing they do it whether or not they they do it like 1.00

00:11:19.520 consciously they accept it when they say you know what you've got a kid i'm going to chat to you the

00:11:24.000 moment a man says to you he's got a kid you're supposed to tell him to move on i don't deal with you but you

00:11:27.760 women will still chat to him the moment you still chat to him is the moment you agree with it 0.74

00:11:31.440 me personally you got a kid now that that's never going to happen because i know i'm not going to be

00:11:35.280 a step there that's so you're saying people with children should do people with children

00:11:38.720 people without children to do people without children yeah like see blending the family that's

00:11:42.240 all good like if you got if i got a kid you got a kid we get together you know i mean brady bunch

00:11:46.480 whatever you want to call it but personally if i come out single i hate being out in an in in

00:11:52.080 single environments and meeting people with kids because i'm like where's you like why are you

00:11:55.600 listen i don't i don't disagree i i think you know i i think everyone should set their own standard

00:12:01.040 yeah do you know what i mean like if you don't want to do like if women don't want to deal with

00:12:04.640 me because i've got a child so they're going to want to no but here's the thing they're going to

00:12:08.880 want to deal with you that's the and and this is the real thing in real life right a lot of the

00:12:12.480 times i don't know your situation i don't know if they they're full-time with you um but a lot of the

00:12:16.400 times is is my co-parent okay there's no benefits for us being a stepfather i said this in the last show so

00:12:22.240 if i come into your home and you have a daughter or you have a son and you know i want to move in

00:12:28.720 with you if it was going to be me and you we could have maybe just bought a one bedroom good to go but

00:12:32.960 now i need to automatically buy a two bedroom that's without us having a child right if we want to have 0.98

00:12:37.200 my own child we need to have a three bedroom so automatically now there's a cost incurred women 1.00

00:12:41.280 always say that you know what um it's not going to be your responsibility none of that but you know if we

00:12:46.240 live if the child's in my house now it's under my provision so you know if i if i took out my let's say

00:12:51.120 we both have kids now and i use the example before i take my kid out to thought park you know and you

00:12:56.000 got your kid there if i buy my kid you know mcdonald's in there if i buy my if i go and win my kid

00:13:01.520 things and then your kid wants something i said actually no go and get your father to buy it you're

00:13:05.520 gonna have a problem with that but that's what i mean automatically that child's gonna become a cost

00:13:08.960 if he goes to school and if i decide that i want to send my kid to private school because i have the

00:13:13.120 funds for it but i tell your kid not to send tell his father to do it women gonna have a problem with it 1.00

00:13:17.600 if i decide i want to buy my kids jordans but i want to buy your kids some actually i don't want to

00:13:21.600 tell you and this is the thing the thing is i've been for it what you're talking about i've actually

00:13:25.600 lived it if you have a daughter and then you know the daughter grows up in the future and she's and she

00:13:29.760 makes an allegation against me are you going to believe me as the as the guy that's been in the life

00:13:34.080 for 10 15 years or are you going to automatically think that's a these are the things can i discipline

00:13:38.560 your child the way i want to if we break up am i still going to have access to all of these things are just

00:13:43.360 too many variables for a man that hasn't got kids to deal with when i can just meet a woman and we're not going to

00:13:47.440 have any of these issues so i think a lot of the times when women are are single yes and they're

00:13:53.280 single mothers they love their children i understand that they just don't understand how much i'm talking

00:13:58.000 about a new contract would would you guys be um open to dating a guy with kids um ladies um for me 0.99

00:14:06.480 personally i'm not at this stage how do you oh i'm 29 um yeah i'm 29 um but it's you have children no

00:14:16.400 i don't have any children but it's more about what if i wouldn't if i was to get into that

00:14:20.560 situation it is knowing that i would eventually become a stepmom so i want to know that i'd be

00:14:24.400 able to like you said provide it children are expensive like i have niece and nephews i took

00:14:28.720 them out a couple days ago it's a lot it's a lot so i but i'm not i just yeah i'm not at this point in

00:14:34.800 time i wouldn't get into it because i feel like i'd then become part of the unit you know what's so

00:14:39.920 funny every woman breaks their rules for the work for the right guy yeah i'll take that i'll take that 1.00

00:14:51.280 there's no woman on this planet that can make me become a stepdad bro no i'm not saying men no i'm

00:14:55.280 just saying when i hear that i'm like nah i don't give a damn because i've listen i know rihanna i don't 0.75

00:14:59.840 want to talk about personal but every woman breaks their rules for the right guy what about you two 1.00

00:15:04.480 um would you date a guy with kids yes or no or in general sure i'm not sure leaning more towards

00:15:12.560 no at the minute no okay i don't see a problem with dating a man with kids because if he's treating

00:15:18.320 me better than the man that hasn't got any kids i don't see the problem do you know the thing i've

00:15:23.280 noticed is that when as a man if you can show a woman that you are actually a good father yeah 0.99

00:15:30.640 it works in your favor so when as i said when women say oh no i wouldn't date a guy with kids

00:15:34.720 you meet a guy and you can see oh my god he's such a great dad like you're going to start thinking

00:15:39.680 what about our child he'll be like and that's how women start thinking they start thinking oh my god 0.96

00:15:44.400 he'd treat our child great yeah no that's definitely a thing right that's what i'm trying to say yeah

00:15:49.440 yeah but i still i still don't do the kids

00:15:55.920 it's not it's not gonna be me could i could i read a statistic there's nothing that bad about it

00:16:01.920 i just think like it's easier when you don't i i found that my parents relationship is easier

00:16:09.120 because they've only dated each other and they've only had kids with each other and i just think it's

00:16:13.920 easier when there's not exes around right whether it's on his end or her end right i i think it's

00:16:20.560 easier now we're in 2022 it's it's it's wild you know the average age of first marriage is 31 so

00:16:29.360 obviously people are going to have exes but i just think the less baggage that comes with and like

00:16:35.280 that's you know i'm going to read a statistic right yeah go ahead um this was reported by the national

00:16:42.880 um uh it was reported by sky news but it's from the national um statistics on the in the uk so the

00:16:49.120 rate of marriages between men and women fell to a record low in 2019 according to figures from the

00:16:54.320 office of national statistics there were 18.6 marriages per 1000 unmarried men geez and 17.2

00:17:04.400 per 1000 unmarried women the lowest record since it began in 1862 a total of 213 122 heterosexual couples

00:17:17.440 tied the knot in 2019 which is down 50 percent since its peak in 1972 and the lowest since 1888

00:17:27.840 people ain't getting married now like people people don't even believe in marriage and when

00:17:34.720 they're going back to what i said earlier on as marriage being a joke the people don't care about

00:17:40.720 it yeah but why would my so before listen look before we had to fight we had to fight slay dragons

00:17:48.880 man we had to go you know like we had to all it took was the you know she would just drop slay dragons 1.00

00:17:54.560 no no no no where the dragons at no but essentially we had to duel me and you on on guard like right

00:18:00.240 okay for the woman like we were going the dad was sending us on the quest like this is what

00:18:04.080 traditionally what men would go and do just for the smell of a woman and the virgin woman right 0.98

00:18:08.560 now men don't have to do that men just need a nice car if that a rental and tinder yeah tinder

00:18:13.600 men just need a a good profile picture they've got and then essentially the abs the standard has

00:18:19.200 been dropped so soon so women control the standard if they required marriage in order for us to have 1.00

00:18:24.240 sex you think the standard really has dropped though of course it has i don't think so i think women 1.00

00:18:28.880 have higher standards than ever no average men used to be able to get average women they can't anymore 0.98

00:18:34.240 where it's it's for a small percentage of men sure standards have dropped but for every other man

00:18:38.800 standards are definitely higher i think i think women's expectations are higher but the standards 1.00

00:18:44.480 have dropped so the expectations of what they want standards for themselves yeah but they don't

00:18:48.320 they don't settle 50 they're they're predicting that 50 of women will be single and childless between

00:18:53.200 the ages of 25 and 45 no they don't settle after chad and tyrone because they get mad so they don't

00:18:58.000 understand what the level is so that's so but it's because the expectation is so high if they actually

00:19:03.120 was more realistic about it they'll get better results as long as you keep wanting the same as long as

00:19:07.200 a hundred percent of women keep one of the 20 20 of guys you're going to still be getting the bad 0.99

00:19:11.760 results because it's the expectation versus actually what your reality is right women have 1.00

00:19:16.880 always wanted the 20 of guys always the difference is now they they have the option not to do it

00:19:23.200 no but also the difference now is hypergamy is on steroids right now yeah yeah but then you're

00:19:27.760 going to get to the point of where where you're gonna you're going to do all this for your 20s

00:19:32.000 and if you don't cash out if you don't select a guy you're going to get in your 30s and then

00:19:36.000 you're going to be competing with the women in the 22s that don't mind actually having a guy with 1.00

00:19:39.840 a kid so now automatically you're in your 30s saying i don't want a guy with a kid then you've

00:19:43.760 got a girl that's in 22. that says she doesn't mind i i agree with you but my point is that like i

00:19:49.760 think standards are higher than ever before and that's why like that's why there's so many shows

00:19:54.960 based off of this because you think in 1950 that the women there were saying six feet six figures six

00:20:01.840 inches no they want to marry joe joe down the block okay he's got a secure job it's harder than

00:20:08.880 ever for men to get sex the small percentage of men sure sure the the the good looking men over six

00:20:16.480 foot with good jobs sure it's easy for them most men like life is hard for most men okay let's remove 0.98

00:20:22.320 ourselves out of this for a second so we'll remove ourselves out because i'm thinking it from my

00:20:26.080 perspective right but i would still say that that expectations are higher and maybe their standards

00:20:35.280 are raised but what are you what are your reality what do you get in re in the real world your

00:20:39.520 results and the results don't match the expectations or the standards that they place well i've always

00:20:43.360 said that to him and i've said do your do your expectations match your results you said you want

00:20:48.000 that guy that that that that x y z i'm like okay but do your results match that and a lot of the time

00:20:53.920 they don't but they still want it and which is why so many women as they get older become are still 1.00

00:21:00.080 single and become in my personal point of view bitter because they started making expectations for

00:21:06.160 themselves and standards for themselves that they wouldn't that that were never realistic in the first

00:21:10.560 place uh sorry i have a question would you ever get married oh in this current this current version of

00:21:18.720 marriage no i i'm not gonna lie in this current the way it's so heavily skewed towards women i couldn't

00:21:26.320 see myself what version of marriage could you see i just told you i got a whole contract no no i'm just

00:21:32.960 saying like it would have to be like i'm because of the cut and that's what i'm saying it's because of

00:21:37.680 the you would be with a woman long term though of course like 100 20 30 years 100 and you would love

00:21:43.200 her right and you would be very devoted and committed to her right but you probably would

00:21:48.000 have a hard time signing the contract right because the contract is my point the contract does not

00:21:53.200 favor me and so i believe in love i believe in companionship i believe in men that the union

00:21:58.800 between men and women i believe in all of that but that contract that you asked me to sign i'm like

00:22:03.360 yeah that's the problem is what are guys like you supposed to do sure sure maybe maybe you had a good

00:22:09.120 experience of marriage in your family but that's not everyone like some people watch their dad get

00:22:12.880 taken to the cleaners some some men have like watched their dad commit suicide some some men

00:22:18.720 thought that they their dad was a deadbeat just to find out he wasn't allowed in their life after 20

00:22:23.040 years and so it's like what are what are those guys supposed to do sign the same contract they watched

00:22:28.400 everyone else get wrecked by i was in a 10-year relationship and it doesn't mean he doesn't love

00:22:33.200 the girl could have been classes of marriage but even after going through that and having the the isms and 0.91

00:22:39.680 the schisms that happen after that when you've got a child with somebody etc etc i was like imagine if

00:22:45.200 i was married but i'm having these problems without being married imagine if i was married i'm curious

00:22:52.320 how long was it until the problem started coming i would say how many years i would say six years in

00:22:58.000 six years and i would say about six years in would you would you say there was like a switch that was

00:23:02.160 flipped or what did it did you see signs early on i would say that i could say looking back hindsight

00:23:09.600 is 2020 i would like you missed that yeah you missed that oh you missed that didn't you but because

00:23:16.160 there's a whole thing of when you're in a relationship you're just in one and people

00:23:20.880 from the outside can see it which is very interesting about love people from the outside can say yeah i saw

00:23:25.920 some things and you're like no i love them i'm cool everything's fine and that's what and the thing is that's

00:23:32.320 essentially what people are supposed to do in relationships they're not supposed to allow

00:23:35.200 people from the outside into there i don't believe in allowing outside people into your relationship

00:23:40.240 i don't believe that because i believe that's one of the best ways for a relationship to break down

00:23:44.640 so when you're in the relationship i get why people say oh we were just in it and it was happening

00:23:50.480 and i didn't listen to anybody else because i am i am a firm believer that if i'm with you and you're with

00:23:55.840 me we should only listen to each other because we are the ones in the relationship no one else is in it

00:24:01.360 it's just us so i'm curious though don't you think you would have seen it sooner had you

00:24:06.320 listened to other people i would have seen it sooner if i had educated myself better

00:24:12.000 that like i i can take full responsibility and say there were certain things that i did not know

00:24:17.760 when i entered that relationship there are things that now i know after being out of the relationship

00:24:23.680 and so for me it's it's growth as a human being it's like sometimes you you do you have to grow you

00:24:28.720 have to go through certain situations to understand exactly what it is so i would say

00:24:35.760 because the reason why i would say no because even my i'm a stubborn individual i know that about

00:24:41.040 myself it's if somebody from the outside is telling me you can't do or you shouldn't do i'm like 0.92

00:24:46.080 fuck you i'm gonna do it like i know that about myself so i have to learn i know that i have to 0.99

00:24:51.280 learn the hard way that's just me as an individual but once i learn i'm like you're not going to fool 0.99

00:24:57.440 me again i'm not going to go through that again because i'm also a learner so yeah um if somebody

00:25:03.200 from the outside could have seen it would have been great if they told me i probably still want to

00:25:08.400 listen because i'm a hard-headed individual this is one of the comments the reason it's six to seven

00:25:12.400 years is that's about how long women can quote unquote live a lie before they have to unburden 1.00

00:25:16.960 themselves with the torture of the lie that they don't actually want the man they're with

00:25:21.760 probably that's what i said the thing is the things that i've learned as a man and being in a

00:25:26.160 relationship like that for me are they're priceless for me i'm just saying for me that they're absolutely

00:25:32.960 priceless would you do it again hell no like i wouldn't because i'm smarter now that's the thing i like

00:25:38.960 i'm smarter now so i've learned from the mistakes that i made and and i've always said

00:25:44.720 the only way a man becomes i say the only way one of the ways that men become men is going through

00:25:50.480 tough times it's going through things that we don't think we're going to go through and we think we're

00:25:56.000 invincible and then life says ha you here's a curveball right and i think that tough times produce

00:26:04.240 tough people i think easy times produce soft people so i would say that any man that's gone

00:26:11.680 through something tough in his life he's probably like a man that people would want to be around

00:26:19.440 and and he's speaking like that because he's gone through those things that's what i would say

00:26:24.480 love you sarah oh shit i got some love i ain't got none um i'll take a second i'll read super chats 0.86

00:26:36.720 and then we'll roll yeah yeah um okay guys all the super chats as you already know we're trying to shoot 0.81

00:26:42.240 in 8k i told blessing he could order it when he finishes our second reaction area right blessing

00:26:48.320 he's building that right now so we're almost there um make sure you guys like the video um i believe

00:26:53.840 we're only at a thousand likes when we had 2500 people in here so we should at least be at 2k

00:26:59.520 like so make sure you guys like the video okay anthony cole shout out to the crew i have statistics

00:27:06.160 there are 164 million males and 167 million females in the u.s alone if men historically dated down and

00:27:14.560 women date up who's settling for who the uk economist please ask your guests if divorce laws were abolished

00:27:20.640 do you think women would choose more average men to marry oh that's that's a good question a quick 1.00

00:27:28.320 quick do you guys yes or no you know i think they would i think they would choose more average if

00:27:34.720 they would you know there's an easy way out but yeah what do you think yeah yeah yeah i agree okay um

00:27:42.000 um jalen montgomery can someone tell me one way modern women make men's lives easier when simple

00:27:49.360 direct communication turns to advanced linguistics why get married oz-o-matic tell the blue teletubby

00:27:56.480 to stop playing with her feet that ratchet af um beach has um they have some good points on some issues

00:28:02.880 but they really need to stop using they really need to stop using their google search law degrees the

00:28:08.400 ignorance is a lot on that first topic 90 free toe pie um the appeal on corn um is that they try

00:28:15.840 participate make tell by logic this is actually a great show these modern um fee fail guests are

00:28:21.440 showing exactly why trad relationships ships are dead um well done pearl i see what you did there 90 free

00:28:27.280 toe pay um that hafiz show was awful repeat the question because you don't have an answer

00:28:33.840 um john telly guy in the black tea needs a blue a blueberry flavor pill um beach has a 52 the bible

00:28:43.360 doesn't own marriage the concept outdates the bible people have been having ceremonies and unions way

00:28:48.320 before that ancient book 90 frito pie um what's the difference of modern women's standards from an 1.00

00:28:53.280 escort and prostitutes back then both want security and resources from high status um alexander roof and 0.97

00:28:59.440 shout out to coach uh gang um free agent lifestyle is the way to go i will only get married when i

00:29:05.200 move to thailand philippines or vietnam i would never get married in the u.s mike gardner i'm bothering you

00:29:11.920 to find out the dm um jonathan lake now she's got ps oh i read i read that one already um let me refresh

00:29:20.160 let me refresh it really quick no let me just to make sure there aren't anyone marriage causes divorce

00:29:25.840 the reason it's six to seven years is that how long that's how long it takes to buy a house and have

00:29:29.760 two kids after this the guy is a hundred percent getting divorced um anthony cole cat shout out oh i

00:29:35.760 read that one okay um so now we're going to close out the show no problem let's close out the show let's

00:29:41.600 get people's final thoughts on the show yeah any anything you want to speak yeah like traditional

00:29:52.320 relationships traditional marriages um to me i still believe in them it's what i was it's what i

00:29:57.520 what i was raised in what my siblings have it's what a lot of my friends have as well even the ones

00:30:04.080 that that aren't married they might have been long committed relationships just without the contract

00:30:08.400 like you said sarah um i think it's important for women to to if they want to understand their outcomes 0.99

00:30:16.720 if they want these outcomes that there's some certain things that need to go and do need to ask

00:30:20.000 himself i want a traditional man or am i a traditional woman or at least in the new

00:30:26.480 version of traditionalism you know i'm trying to say to you right okay um and i like for me this

00:30:31.120 is quite educational as well obviously learning from some of the things that you say and i understand

00:30:35.600 it like like i understand this whole contract without marriage thing but it's just also how i've

00:30:40.800 been grown up so it's kind of hard for me to conflict yeah like because if that was the case then bro

00:30:44.640 i could have had a kid already by now you know what i mean and i always just think to myself any girl that

00:30:49.280 i would have had a kid with before i just i just really have no interest in them like i just

00:30:53.600 actually you know what i mean like what if you married them it's crazy they'd have half

00:31:00.720 yeah but i would have see i would have gone through that process to marry them i would have thought 0.99

00:31:05.280 about there's a there's a process before actually getting married this is oh you know but see just

00:31:09.520 buying the ring pro you know putting that money down going to hat and garden like like you said go and

00:31:14.320 that's where i would go hat and garden and putting that money down it's a whole process like there's a you

00:31:18.240 know arranging it doing i'm african so we would do the traditional and the white reading so there's

00:31:22.800 a whole process to go if i didn't want to do this i would know about it so imagine doing that and it

00:31:27.840 and it up i know i know but that will be the l i'll take like that that's that's just my l

00:31:32.720 yeah maybe he's not a money guy like happy

00:31:37.680 i saw you down there bro bro no no no no not broke it's it was it was a it was a thing that

00:31:43.920 happy you can you can lose money right who cares about money yeah but you can make it you can make

00:31:49.760 it back yeah you can just make it back but you can know it's only money but no it's only money

00:31:54.560 that you ain't taking my money no no so you see the way we're talking about it's like i want to get

00:31:59.360 ripped i don't want to get ripped bro like that's not something that i want to do but i also believe

00:32:03.600 there's a certain type of woman just like this certain type of man that's going to look at marriage

00:32:06.800 and say i want that she doesn't want to be outside here like in her 60s trying to still trying to find 1.00

00:32:11.680 man like that's not what she wants to be doing like because there's many people's aunties that are 1.00

00:32:15.840 still outside now with no man you know and they're acting like they're happy listen no one's happy at 60

00:32:20.720 trying to look for man like you're supposed to have kids and grandkids and people around you if you're

00:32:24.880 still out no one's checking for no badass 60 year old man trust me like no man's checking for it

00:32:29.200 some of them young boy though you know but they're just blowing your back out they're not yeah and

00:32:32.960 then you're going to be financing them you're going to end up going to the dom dom dominica republic

00:32:37.360 and getting young man and that wow okay final thoughts final thoughts well when it comes to um

00:32:42.800 traditional marriage i don't really as i said because i'm not really at that place i don't really

00:32:49.760 know if i believe believe in it because i'm not really thinking about it that much

00:32:54.000 so there's not much that i can say more on that topic if i'm honest but if it was to come to um

00:33:00.640 someone asking me if i believe that in a relationship man or woman should go 50 50 i could

00:33:05.680 you know speak more in depth on that should they should they go 50 50 well i believe personally if

00:33:14.080 a man is trying to get to know you he has to wow you at first like you want to win the prize i'm the prize

00:33:21.760 you think so once you've what yes why are you the prize because if if the guy wants me he's got to

00:33:27.600 show me that he don't want him no no no but i'm saying he has to show you interest yeah i know but

00:33:32.480 you don't you want him though yeah yeah so why are you the prize because he wants me like he wants me

00:33:38.560 more than i want him ah so you want to oh so you want to get with a guy who wants you more than you 0.99

00:33:42.960 want him of course of course and how do you think that turns out well in the long term like if if if

00:33:49.360 you if he loves you more than you love him do you think you're more likely to leave no because i could

00:33:55.280 grow to love him more i hate to be that guy i could go to love him more you know and you think that's

00:34:02.800 the right mindset to have like to get a guy who loves you or likes you more than you like him so you

00:34:09.040 want to be chased you want him to wow you blah blah blah all that kind of stuff and then what are you

00:34:13.680 doing for him once he's proven to me that he's worthy of my energy then he'll be getting the same

00:34:19.440 energy back well all right so this is great because this is final thoughts but why why does he why does

00:34:25.120 he have to prove to you and you don't have to prove to him no i will prove to him he said i wasn't going to

00:34:30.880 prove to him i just want to see that he's worthy of of me proving to him and why why are you so great

00:34:38.640 why are you so great like you say worthy of me as if you're like this queen or something like why

00:34:43.440 you're like everyone has their own different personality everyone has their own like i'm i'm

00:34:47.920 probably like he probably sees something in me that he doesn't see in any other girl

00:34:51.520 you you you you think that okay so when i said and the reason i'm sorry i'm sorry but i don't know

00:35:02.800 why you guys laughing but i'm just trying to like flesh it out and the reason why you say that he

00:35:07.120 probably sees something and you doesn't need everybody right you see because so you so you see

00:35:12.400 when i was saying that most women choose like 20 of men right do you think that he hasn't seen

00:35:19.760 what you've got is what you're saying like he hasn't like in all his life he's never seen someone

00:35:23.920 like you well as i said traits there's like different traits that women have so maybe there's 1.00

00:35:28.640 something that he sees in me that he hasn't seen another woman hmm i'd say this right if you want

00:35:36.800 something and that's and that something has access to multiple things it's probably best for you to study

00:35:45.280 the thing that you want and i and i find that a lot of women don't study men the men that they want

00:35:50.880 right because the men that women generally want have access to 80 of women but those women are telling

00:35:57.280 these men oh you chase me i'm the prize i'm this i'm the but you but you want that more than he wants

00:36:03.440 you and that's what you don't realize because you're of the 80 he's the one that is in high demand

00:36:10.560 and if you don't study the thing that is in high demand for you to get it then you'll always lose

00:36:16.240 so for me if i want a woman and i know what women want i'll study women because i'm trying to get them 1.00

00:36:21.920 the problem is is that modern women don't want to study men and understand how men think and that's 0.96

00:36:26.320 why you don't get it you don't get what you want because you're not because you're saying i'm okay i'm

00:36:30.720 just me if i just be me that should be enough no you're supposed to study the thing that you want

00:36:35.840 understand what that thing that you want wants and become the thing that he wants

00:36:42.560 and if you're doing that you'll get the man that you want if you ain't you ain't gonna get

00:36:48.880 does that make sense it makes a lot of sense right so study the thing that you want yeah

00:36:53.520 oh sorry go on final thoughts yeah sorry um just emily music uh wishing you the best in whatever

00:37:02.400 relationship status you're in traditional relationship whatever it be and um yeah rub your

00:37:10.080 own feet it's good for you you know i'm saying stay human peace

00:37:18.640 my final thoughts are that um i think there is a new form of tradition and you make your own

00:37:25.280 traditions with that person that you wish to get married to and i think when you have that

00:37:30.480 understanding with that person you're good that's it if you when my parents got married

00:37:35.280 is a different town to now when i'd get married so yeah okay um my final thoughts is if you have

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JustPearlyThings - October 26, 2023

Single Women Get ROASTED by Men Because of This

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