Social Media Gets BLAMED for Deceiving Women
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Summary
In this episode, the guys discuss the dangers of online dating, how to deal with online dating apps, and the perils of using social media as a sexual tool in the 21st century. Join us in this episode as we discuss online dating and how it s changed the way we view sex and intimacy.
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what i want to know is because what i think pearl's trying to say is her profile was private
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so how did you know that she could get paid for money if you said that because i know how boys
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work no but you said one guy approached no you okay okay i think you said one guy approached
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her so how did this guy approach her was it if she was private how did you know that he was going to
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pay no he no he said that he his partner put his um her instagram on public because he told her to
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yeah um no i suggested no i didn't yeah i told her i suggested whatever i suggested i said why have
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you got one then she then within a month someone contacted her and said i can pay you they want to
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opportunity only opportunity bro bro anything that you spoke about there's something they're saying
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they'll buy it yeah yeah hold on a second you got the super chats going actually men actually want
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to contribute to what you've been talking about and now you don't want to give the grab no yeah
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men want to do they want to look and not pay that's the thing no men want to pay they're just
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paying no listen listen listen i'm not going to blast my girl unless unless there's a contract
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oh you're capping stop the cap bro i'm not capping bro i'll tell you your girl will post 10 pictures
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on instagram and i'll get paid i'll rather my girl post 10 pictures on instagram and get paid for it
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okay in a relationship okay so if she's not going to do that get off instagram okay okay you can you
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can sell the pictures simple that's fine that's fine that's fine that's fine that's fine that's the stop stop
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that's fine that's fine okay i'm going to ask you guys another question i was going to close out
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the show but i had this question i thought was pretty good um how has social media distorted
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people's perceptions and expectations of what sex and intimacy is supposed to be geez
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what about you being a little quiet is it because i put the red flags by you
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i deleted some i got rid of some i appreciate it
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um what was the question again sorry how has social media distorted people's perceptions and
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expectations of what sex and intimacy are supposed to be um well i feel like my personal opinion on sex
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is that it's an art form and i feel like it's a very spiritual experience and it's a very intimate
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and personal experience between man and woman and it's like i feel like on social media it's been
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portrayed to be something that should just be expected or given away or it's portrayed to be
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something that it's just like it's nothing like to meet a man and have sex with him right now is just
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it's so like don't get me wrong it's okay because that's a personal choice for you as a woman but for
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me i just feel like to let somebody into you on such an who are you thinking about intimate no no no i
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just feel like to let someone inside of your body like people that for me people don't really deep it
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like so do you think social media has made it more casual yes way way way more casual like there was a
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point when sex was only expected after marriage now it's after a dm or two do you know what i mean
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so it's just to me it's been downgraded so much and it's lost its value and i think as someone
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i just feel like yeah sex has lost its value a lot especially because of how much sex has been
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portrayed through music just people just in general do you know what i mean like i don't know
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i don't know okay what about what you what about you i don't know who you like follow on social
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media but i don't see any of that stuff i've got goofy stuff on my instagram like i don't see any
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expectations of sexual whatsevers because you don't see you don't see what are you what are you
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talking you don't see the girls with their ass pics oh what does that have to do with sex though
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but that's no sex and sexuality well what is that well that that signals sexual availability to a guy
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that's like that's like what a girl's doing she's she's signaling that i'm sexually available to men
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and so that where does that lead but it's so it's so common now i don't like
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i don't associate with sex anymore because the way like like tia said like the way
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we view sex is it's like a spiritual thing like i'm not looking at your physical when it i'm not
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thinking about your physical when it comes to sex when it comes to actual making love i'm not thinking
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like i'm i'm looking at but do you think that's like a woman's point of view because i think guys
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it's more just like a handshake that's what i've heard just repeat the question is it is sex a
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spiritual thing for you guys no no no not at all no i think i think we enjoy the chase more than the sex
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i i don't know it sounds like you guys are trying to trying to put too much on it right like women
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don't treat sex as a spiritual thing like women are so empowered sex yeah but making love like actual
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people when was the last last time you made love but basically i don't
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making love is the movies when you grow up you watch movies are making love and realize you don't
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make love like i don't do you i mean yes no i was gonna say yeah if you're a virgin on your wedding
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night yeah yeah but if you're not a virgin on your wedding night like what you you're getting your
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back blown out that's about it so i'm saying no but that's good but that's what you want if girls
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be like oh you know he was he was being too gentle but i wanted to come i wanted and that's really
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what you want right no that's what we had an only fans guy on the show and he said his number one
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requested um like thing is is great like great fantasies from women that's his number one request
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okay so i'm not like i know that's an extreme but it just shows like what women want you know any man
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you know any man that's been been with women and you will start to discover that women like certain
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things in controlled environments like you get me and if they become more comfortable with you
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you're going to discover some of these crazy things like you know what i'm saying i'm a bit of a free
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but it's because a lot of times women do want to feel in these scenarios where they can get themselves
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out of it and they know it's safe so when a woman wants you to grab her throat or do all these things
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where you think oh that's a bit whatever it's because generally like she wants that but she wants to
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have it in a controlled environment where she can also be like not actually you know what i mean so yeah like um
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um but do you think that social media gives women unrealistic expectations similar to what we just
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witnessed yes every type of unrealistic expectation on us i think it's the media too like like disney
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type shit disney definitely 100 like i think love marriage is supposed to be boring
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yeah like the thing i always hear about is is is happiness right i'm happy i'm not happy but
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you know what rip rp the queen rp lizzie but one thing i'll take from the queen passing away like
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no matter what you think of her is the duty that she did now so when you look at the rest of the
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royal family they just do whatever they want they don't want to stick her out and to do what she what
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she went and did because in reality that's a very boring existence it's not what it's not it's not you
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picking the man you want to marry picking the woman you want to marry it's not you living your best
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life no it's going to be years and years of duty you're never going to do any interviews you're not
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going to have a point of view and it's going to be like that and the rest of them are like f that
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and i think i saw it in social media a lot of modern women they don't have duty anymore and they don't
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have to think what the queen had and that was like regardless of what's going on i'm gonna i'm gonna
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stick it out and i'm gonna go and do this and when i look at my mom and my dad my dad um my dad was
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a diplomat from the cameroon embassy and he's also back where i come from cameroon he's the paramount
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ruler so he's the chief of all chiefs um so we come to this country because of my dad and like
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i lost myself i just you know what it is i'm just thinking about my dad i was thinking about the
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sacrifices that my dad did my mom did and there's not there's not there's no one doing anything but my
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dad like a lot of african people that came first generation or um there might have been one person
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that came first and the other person stayed over there my dad was quite fortunate because of his
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job he was back and forth back and forth the things that i saw my mom have to do as a strong woman are
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it's not things that many women would want to do today being separated for your husband but because
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of her doing that thing now her children were able to go on to become barristers to go on to become
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business people to go and become doctors but that's because of one woman's um sacrifice you know i'm
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trying to say to you and do you so that's one of the things that that i think that's missing
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i would agree i would actually say that duty comes first before love when you're actually serious about
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someone in that respect i mean i was raised by my grandparents and i saw that my entire life my
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grandma was so dutiful to my granddad even in sickness she was by his deathbed looking after him
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every single day and i think that love was developed from that i think women from the 1950s 40s 30s would
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think we're so weak today she's like she's like you left because you weren't half happy my man had
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a side side family across town she's like and i stuck it out so i i met it i met the other half out of
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his funeral you know and it's like i even talk about like my family like my mom got pregnant when she was
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17 by my dad and they ended up giving up the kid for adoption but she stuck it out with him and they
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ended up getting married later and it's like a lot of girls like they don't have the like grit to stick it out
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when they're not happy and when shit goes south and um i don't know i think it's it's sad because
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the kids are the one oftentimes you have to suffer um but i'm gonna read the i'm gonna actually close
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out the show so if anyone has any you know peace i i feel like i i have a feeling i know who's no if
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anyone has any final thought no no not yet not yet not yet hold it in hold it okay i'm gonna i'm gonna
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read the super chats first and then everyone's gonna get a chance to say any final thoughts
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you know you can you can put whatever okay dash token e30 only rich people understand duty duty is
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hard how eligible as a christian i believe that social media has ruined many people's perception
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of what healthy sexuality and intimacy is sex is for marriage and marriage isn't just for sex um
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um paper chasing ask them ask how they would get and keep a man without sex
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um combi and ashes a fine girl 50 plus bodies or a virgin lizzo
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for a life marriage gentleman at least he is a kind pimp he's too natural too self-taught
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um um h vargas 207 pearl i know you know how to drive a car i'm not worrying about your driving i'm
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just worried about the other drivers dragon one stallion 1001 if she posts selfies for 300 what will
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she do for 50 000 andre stop it i keep telling you andrea d dude when you are referring to when you
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refer to your girl as a bird and monetizing her face you need to learn to respect her what you have
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is not a relationship neo moses what's eddie's info so i can reach out to linda everyone loved linda
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um dm it's his instagram should be in the description but if it's not it's on my um
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bio just dot pearly things that's my instagram so his um instagram's in my bio matt butcher i think
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one important thing we haven't touched on is why people do the ig the psych of it the constant need
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for attention and validation how unhealthy is combi and ashes a girl with 50 plus bodies or virgin lizzo
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for life um mark o glazers out pearl i want to get to know linda she's late she's speaking my language
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intelligent articulate and wants to grow her own food and homeschool let's go um h vargas and alpha
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doesn't care what she makes okay so now any final pieces that you guys want to say you could start any
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final thoughts this was very interesting that's what i have did you go learn anything anything new
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today that you didn't know before i learned that men don't make love i learned that no i actually did
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because to me i feel like there is definitely a difference between having sex and making love
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with someone and making love doesn't equate to slow sex making love is just when there's a real depth
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behind the action in that you know that you're taking and you can feel that connection to the person
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on a level beyond the physical sex is just the physical like i'm just here to get what i need
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and go making love i i want to feel you do you know i mean and to know that men don't feel like that
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as well it's interesting it's changed my perspective today is this is new that's just him yeah that's true
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i didn't say that no he's speaking he's speaking on behalf no no no i'm telling you men can have sex
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without a nation no wait i don't know how we got that how did we get that i mean are you speaking
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on behalf of all men no wait wait he was speaking you you said men don't no no no no no no no no no
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but let me just let me clarify that of course men make love like i'm not saying men don't make love
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but we're gonna make love to our wife and to the woman we want to be with but if you're just one of
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these girls we're gonna bang you and we're gonna blow your back out that's a difference like there's
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something that that you reserve for your wife like or for this there's things that we've got
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to reserve that i swear to god there's some things that we've got to reserve that's all i meant but
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but i don't think i don't think from the whole of this thing you should get that that's what you
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should take from this i think from all of this you should probably take that men do want to men do
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want to be want wives they do want relationships but they want women that are wives and what's it
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say in the bible i'm the man that finds a wife finds a good thing that suggests your wife already
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when i find you so which means i'm a husband already i want to meet a woman that's good to go
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i don't need a woman that's been run through that's you know that's decided that actually
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or she's got a child already or she decides actually in her mid-30s now i want to pick you
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when she's to pick me when i was trying to grind and build my business but she didn't did she she
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picked the other guys now my business is doing well things are going well all of a sudden i become
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someone that she wants to pick but guess what i have a i have now a lot of interest from other
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people and younger girls as well so why do i have to pick you then we get that's not always
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the case though that's not always the case but i do believe like and what i experienced a lot of my
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friends who they're all in this predicament like um a lot of them are doing well for themselves but
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at the time when they women were supposed to look at them they didn't look at them do you feel like
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you would not give a girl loyalty because she wasn't there along the way no no i would that's not about
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because there's still many more things to do right i was just wondering no i'm gonna say if she's not there
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along the way then yeah no i think i think if you if you i'm not i'm not a millionaire so if you go
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and do something and you become you become really rich or really successful overnight i think then
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i might be slightly a little bit more like okay cool but at the same time as a man we don't if you
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didn't like me when i never had the money that's okay as well because if i wanted a woman that was a
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certain level i wasn't on that level and i had to gain my value and i understand that i don't think that's
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bad that another guy that had a more value at me at the time could get that that's the that's the
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name of the game it's not fair i need to level myself up to a position where i can meet those
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types of women whereas a lot of times women want things to be fair when us us men know that if a
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next man is at a high level at the moment all i got to do is build myself up and get myself that level
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that's not now when i was 17 18 we had to watch all the men in their 20s and 30s take all the women it
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wasn't nice we didn't have cars we didn't have certain things but we had to watch it and then we didn't get
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better what did we do we got better so now when it's us now no one should be getting any feelings
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yeah but that's that's the motivation because let's say for example about using myself as an example
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i took a leap of faith and went with the person that didn't have that and i was gonna get there
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like the person you're saying and they had already got me so they didn't feel the need to continue to
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working hard to do you know what i mean and that's one thing i'm going to say men the rent is due every
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single day yeah just because the worst thing you could possibly do is get the woman of your dreams
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yeah because now you've got her you have to keep her even if you keep her interest for the first few
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years you manage to get the worst thing you can do is get a baby out of her now you're like you feel
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like she's yours okay you got the woman of your dreams and if she is that badness when you let her
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out like you said she's gonna get another man or be outside so this thing where men feel they can
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lie to a woman push a rental do certain things get the woman then they think they know that like you
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don't own that woman and the moment you fall off your job i do believe i don't mean like instantaneously
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a woman should stand by a man but if you're not willing to keep levitating and elevate
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nah man exactly the game's the game hasn't happened you'll lose her clicks aggressively
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okay yes i was at your final thought yeah i don't know yeah so basically yeah no like obviously um
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yeah thank thank you pearl for having us on the show i feel like like not even i feel like i know
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that it was a good show like i've definitely learned some perspective from other people i do take
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things on involved like to be honest with you bro same but i'm never gonna agree with what you're
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telling me but from the ladies i did take i did take a lot obviously you being um a single mother
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as well like i just want to just put that out i was never taking those shots at you i was just saying
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generally like as men you know what i mean i was catching like better because i am too a single
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one yes i was just i just wanted to hear what you thought about me i'm sure like with like
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certain things you did say was like i don't know i've never heard it before because i've never had a
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man come to me and tell me oh i can never date a woman it's a it's a turn of having someone that has
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kids it's literally new to me you might i might see on like i don't know on tv or something but
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i've never had someone in my bed but then when i realized that you don't have kids not in a rudiment
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no negative you don't have kids you're 38 years old like so it kind of like you don't have much
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options in that aspect but no i've got no let me let me finish speaking please let me finish speaking
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because a lot of people people in my generation have kids yeah have kids i don't know how my my
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friendship group probably one of us don't have a kid yeah but and a lot of us that have had kids
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younger yeah it would be nice for us to grow up with our partner that whatever but situations happen
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at no point growing up was it ever good like like sorry how old are you 20 i'm i'm 30 now you're 30 yeah
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so like at no point i had my daughter at 20. yeah so okay so at no point ever was it ever good to have
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a baby out of wedlock no one no one no one ideally thinks to themselves when they get pregnant you know
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what i'm gonna have a child at weather but you have to understand situations no i don't have to
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understand you're a grown woman no no no no no no no hold on let me land when i say you have to understand
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situations happen situations do happen situations they do happen it never happened to me it never
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happened to my boy that's sitting over there there's there's 41 forms of birth control you
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could like you could like so so so wait wait let me look if there's 41 forms of birth control it's
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like it's not just a situation that happens it's a choice and my daughter right now she's nine years
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old yeah for me having my child saved my life because the minute she was born the 10 months after i went
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to uni i thought oh you know i'm gonna do better with myself i'm gonna go uni i graduated
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i became a school teacher i left this if i did not have her i'll probably be in the streets i'll
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probably be raving because i've got more time on my hand i'll be doing this so for me it's
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it can be a really good thing like it was a benefit so when you're looking at it like it say oh oh i can't
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see the woman who have kids it's just like well yeah because you're looking you're looking at it from
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a woman's point of view like like the point is it's just never going to be a guy's first choice
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yeah and that's and that's okay but when you point it out like it's a negative no but it is
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not like it's a negative because as a woman i'm not as a woman i'm not gonna see a man and it is a
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double standard and it's really sad in that aspect i'm not gonna look at a man and be like do you know
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what he's got four kids three different baby mothers i'm gonna ask but you should though no i'm
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gonna i should that's a bad man i'd like to say i don't think you should you should discriminate
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against no i don't everyone for me i sit everyone has a past i might be the woman i might be the
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woman that he will change for or you can't change no i don't think future's gonna change for anyone
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what i mean change for do you know listen my dad has 10 children yeah 10 children yeah how many baby
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moms two two baby moms my mom's got nine kids by my dad and we've got one kid like she's like in the
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middle could i never like that she's in the she's in the middle do you know what i mean that's it
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like so i'm not going to judge my father because of one mistake that he has done because i'm going
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to dismiss all the good things all the benefits that he has done no i'm not you're probably a really
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good mother you've come out here you've got to you you've got a school teacher so you're a success
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right but you can't no you can't have someone from but he's just being honest about how men think
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it's circumstantial because in that in that that example your child saved your life yeah
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but in let's say my example i was let's say married in the eyes of the lord i already bought my degree
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he wasn't married no well according to the bible if the man chooses no you wasn't you wasn't married
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okay well yeah i had i had already gained my degree my son walks across the stage with me in my tummy i
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was in a proper relationship and then it just broke down it wasn't like it doesn't matter how
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it happened and like you guys are you can be perfectly nice people could have benefited your life
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i mean my mom was a single mother and she ended up giving that kid up for adoption but like um
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it doesn't make you a bad person but men it's not their first choice my thing is this right
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i want you to understand something when you say oh some types of men you you girls do this because
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you want to act like oh i'm anomaly oh i'm just weird i'm not weird i'm not an anomaly men do not want
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to typically date single and when we do we want to have fun with you and the types of men that you can
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have there's certain types of men you can never have now i'm one of them do you understand and you
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might not want me but i represent a certain type of man that will never do that and we're vocal about
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it because we want girls to know when i talk to you out in the nightclub and you tell me i've got a
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child i'm like why you're not home with a baby father not with him all of us i'm like i'm like why
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are you outside this is for the this is for the other girls now with no kids like but you're trying to
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and you're trying to be in your 30s outside trying to fight with the girls in their 20s and us and
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us men in our 30s ain't looking at you and you want to get mad and start saying that oh
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we want to pick younger girls because we want to manipulate them no we don't but they're not
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damaged and they don't come in with all the stuff that you've come in an actual fact they look the
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actual fact they look at all the women and they say rah they look at how you guys are letting us
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fly by and how you haven't treated us and they come and get us and you women can't see this and
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and this is the thing when a man's speaking to you and saying to you listen to a man and listen to
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listen to us because you never listen to us and when we speak you don't listen but a man is saying to
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you whether or not you consider me to represent men or not us men do not want single mothers
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we don't go out there thinking that we want a wifey single mothers we might and if a man's got
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a child of course you guys should get your blended family and get together but you need to leave us
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men with no kids alone because we are we need to be there for the single women and don't take offense
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to it because no no no no one's also there's a 50 super chat and i try to read those quicker
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just my point she was talking to a guy with two kids as in she dates guys with kids we can all agree
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that if a girl with one kid couples with a man with two kids giving the man good feminine energy
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for his family so it becomes more even yeah yeah yeah i don't i don't date guys with kids either
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no keep me out of that if you had if you had a child i have a friend like she's got a child but
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she does not date men with kids and she actually gets men with no kids because that's that energy
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she's like i don't date men with kids i don't want to deal with their baby moms and she doesn't she
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literally only gets and some men will do that but then also when i think to myself she hasn't got a
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ring yet so we judge it by outcomes right not by who's taking you on holidays not by who's treating
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you nice we judge by the final outcome and all throughout all of this all i see is babies i
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don't see no rings i don't see no marriages i heard a joint account how the hell did you have a joint
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i was in a relationship with my ex-partner for a few years it didn't work out but he's a i have an
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issue with him he's a good person he looks after his daughter but that's it it didn't work out
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do you think there's any other option outside of marriage because marriage so disproportionately is
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not advantageous advantageous for men today i know it's not advantageous for us pearl i know
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we put a lot of risk up at the same time i believe it's very important because the reason why my father's
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got three daughters they're all married and a son oldest and they're married obviously i'll follow suit
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it's because what i want but for a man to you know for a man for father to have three daughters and
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every single man looked at your daughter like a wife not a baby mom's each of them said so i'm from
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cameroon so um we have a diary where we come from so traditionally so we have a saying where we come from
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the man that has many daughters is a rich man and then the man that has many sons is a poor man i'll
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explain to you why this is it's because when for example we had three daughters so i'm so anyone that
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wants to marry my dad my sisters would have to come and essentially buy each you know buy each
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each daughter make an offering pay some money towards the village and all the rest of that
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so my dad having three daughters will make him one of the richest men because he would have three
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separate households would have to come and buy and put money towards the women but the man with three
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sons would have to have three separate pieces of money to go out there to go and do it so the reason
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why i say that is because there's there's definitely more value in in that and the women and and we need to
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put that out there as well you know what i mean i understand okay well i'm gonna try to keep the
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final thoughts going um so so if you want to give your final thoughts no it was a very interesting
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discussion i've learned a lot and yeah i really enjoyed myself yeah thanks for coming um you want to
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give yours um final thoughts um i believe men will have preferences and women have their own preferences
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if you want to know what men want you speak to men if you want to know what women want you speak to
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women instead of speaking in the same sex and deciding which opposite sex should believe in and
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what should not i also believe if you're in a relationship and they've got social media
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and then and then and they're using it just for attention and likes then in it in a time like this
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then have a rethink also yeah also i enjoyed myself here pearl and i can't wait to watch the show back
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after okay thanks for coming um what about you final thoughts um yeah i just like to say that i really
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do think that relationships are just about duty first before love and um on that note i'd like to say that
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i don't mean to throw anyone under the bus here but i'm just saying things that i was raised with
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personally if you've been a woman who has a child by a man that you're not married to then there's no
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reason for you to be out here asking for man that's better than your baby father that's all i have to
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say on that note i wanted to say that before i'm sorry i was trying to push that in there many times
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but i just wanted to leave it on that one i don't think you deserve better than your baby father
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you chose to have a child by that man okay um i don't know where she she went um but i guess
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