JustPearlyThings - November 21, 2023


Social Media Gets BLAMED for Deceiving Women


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30 minutes

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6,421

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2

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In this episode, the guys discuss the dangers of online dating, how to deal with online dating apps, and the perils of using social media as a sexual tool in the 21st century. Join us in this episode as we discuss online dating and how it s changed the way we view sex and intimacy.

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00:00:00.000 what i want to know is because what i think pearl's trying to say is her profile was private
00:00:07.520 so how did you know that she could get paid for money if you said that because i know how boys 0.99
00:00:12.640 work no but you said one guy approached no you okay okay i think you said one guy approached
00:00:18.080 her so how did this guy approach her was it if she was private how did you know that he was going to
00:00:23.520 pay no he no he said that he his partner put his um her instagram on public because he told her to
00:00:32.960 yeah um no i suggested no i didn't yeah i told her i suggested whatever i suggested i said why have
00:00:37.520 you got one then she then within a month someone contacted her and said i can pay you they want to
00:00:43.120 know what her instagram is in the chat
00:00:44.640 opportunity only opportunity bro bro anything that you spoke about there's something they're saying
00:01:05.120 they'll buy it yeah yeah hold on a second you got the super chats going actually men actually want
00:01:09.600 to contribute to what you've been talking about and now you don't want to give the grab no yeah
00:01:12.800 men want to do they want to look and not pay that's the thing no men want to pay they're just
00:01:16.720 paying no listen listen listen i'm not going to blast my girl unless unless there's a contract 0.98
00:01:21.200 oh you're capping stop the cap bro i'm not capping bro i'll tell you your girl will post 10 pictures
00:01:25.680 on instagram and i'll get paid i'll rather my girl post 10 pictures on instagram and get paid for it 0.95
00:01:30.000 okay in a relationship okay so if she's not going to do that get off instagram okay okay you can you
00:01:34.800 can sell the pictures simple that's fine that's fine that's fine that's fine that's fine that's the stop stop
00:01:41.840 that's fine that's fine okay i'm going to ask you guys another question i was going to close out
00:01:45.520 the show but i had this question i thought was pretty good um how has social media distorted
00:01:52.080 people's perceptions and expectations of what sex and intimacy is supposed to be geez
00:01:57.520 what about you being a little quiet is it because i put the red flags by you
00:02:10.400 i deleted some i got rid of some i appreciate it
00:02:15.200 um what was the question again sorry how has social media distorted people's perceptions and
00:02:19.760 expectations of what sex and intimacy are supposed to be um well i feel like my personal opinion on sex
00:02:28.080 is that it's an art form and i feel like it's a very spiritual experience and it's a very intimate
00:02:36.960 and personal experience between man and woman and it's like i feel like on social media it's been
00:02:44.800 portrayed to be something that should just be expected or given away or it's portrayed to be
00:02:51.600 something that it's just like it's nothing like to meet a man and have sex with him right now is just
00:03:00.880 it's so like don't get me wrong it's okay because that's a personal choice for you as a woman but for 0.53
00:03:08.080 me i just feel like to let somebody into you on such an who are you thinking about intimate no no no i
00:03:19.680 just feel like to let someone inside of your body like people that for me people don't really deep it
00:03:26.720 like so do you think social media has made it more casual yes way way way more casual like there was a
00:03:34.160 point when sex was only expected after marriage now it's after a dm or two do you know what i mean
00:03:40.160 so it's just to me it's been downgraded so much and it's lost its value and i think as someone
00:03:48.880 i just feel like yeah sex has lost its value a lot especially because of how much sex has been
00:03:54.240 portrayed through music just people just in general do you know what i mean like i don't know
00:04:01.680 i don't know okay what about what you what about you i don't know who you like follow on social
00:04:08.160 media but i don't see any of that stuff i've got goofy stuff on my instagram like i don't see any
00:04:13.040 expectations of sexual whatsevers because you don't see you don't see what are you what are you
00:04:19.760 talking you don't see the girls with their ass pics oh what does that have to do with sex though 1.00
00:04:24.320 but that's no sex and sexuality well what is that well that that signals sexual availability to a guy
00:04:32.080 that's like that's like what a girl's doing she's she's signaling that i'm sexually available to men 0.97
00:04:36.560 and so that where does that lead but it's so it's so common now i don't like
00:04:43.200 i don't associate with sex anymore because the way like like tia said like the way
00:04:47.920 we view sex is it's like a spiritual thing like i'm not looking at your physical when it i'm not
00:04:54.480 thinking about your physical when it comes to sex when it comes to actual making love i'm not thinking
00:05:00.080 like i'm i'm looking at but do you think that's like a woman's point of view because i think guys
00:05:05.440 it's more just like a handshake that's what i've heard just repeat the question is it is sex a
00:05:15.280 spiritual thing for you guys no no no not at all no i think i think we enjoy the chase more than the sex
00:05:23.840 i i don't know it sounds like you guys are trying to trying to put too much on it right like women 1.00
00:05:27.840 don't treat sex as a spiritual thing like women are so empowered sex yeah but making love like actual 1.00
00:05:32.880 people when was the last last time you made love but basically i don't
00:05:39.280 making love is the movies when you grow up you watch movies are making love and realize you don't
00:05:42.880 make love like i don't do you i mean yes no i was gonna say yeah if you're a virgin on your wedding
00:05:49.040 night yeah yeah but if you're not a virgin on your wedding night like what you you're getting your
00:05:54.320 back blown out that's about it so i'm saying no but that's good but that's what you want if girls 1.00
00:05:59.200 be like oh you know he was he was being too gentle but i wanted to come i wanted and that's really
00:06:02.800 what you want right no that's what we had an only fans guy on the show and he said his number one
00:06:07.360 requested um like thing is is great like great fantasies from women that's his number one request
00:06:14.160 okay so i'm not like i know that's an extreme but it just shows like what women want you know any man 1.00
00:06:19.360 you know any man that's been been with women and you will start to discover that women like certain
00:06:24.720 things in controlled environments like you get me and if they become more comfortable with you
00:06:28.880 you're going to discover some of these crazy things like you know what i'm saying i'm a bit of a free
00:06:31.920 but it's because a lot of times women do want to feel in these scenarios where they can get themselves 1.00
00:06:37.200 out of it and they know it's safe so when a woman wants you to grab her throat or do all these things 0.51
00:06:41.520 where you think oh that's a bit whatever it's because generally like she wants that but she wants to 0.99
00:06:46.160 have it in a controlled environment where she can also be like not actually you know what i mean so yeah like um
00:06:51.120 um but do you think that social media gives women unrealistic expectations similar to what we just
00:06:58.160 witnessed yes every type of unrealistic expectation on us i think it's the media too like like disney
00:07:06.400 type shit disney definitely 100 like i think love marriage is supposed to be boring 0.83
00:07:12.800 yeah like the thing i always hear about is is is happiness right i'm happy i'm not happy but
00:07:17.360 you know what rip rp the queen rp lizzie but one thing i'll take from the queen passing away like
00:07:23.840 no matter what you think of her is the duty that she did now so when you look at the rest of the
00:07:27.200 royal family they just do whatever they want they don't want to stick her out and to do what she what 1.00
00:07:31.520 she went and did because in reality that's a very boring existence it's not what it's not it's not you
00:07:36.240 picking the man you want to marry picking the woman you want to marry it's not you living your best 1.00
00:07:39.920 life no it's going to be years and years of duty you're never going to do any interviews you're not
00:07:44.000 going to have a point of view and it's going to be like that and the rest of them are like f that
00:07:48.160 and i think i saw it in social media a lot of modern women they don't have duty anymore and they don't 1.00
00:07:54.000 have to think what the queen had and that was like regardless of what's going on i'm gonna i'm gonna
00:07:58.480 stick it out and i'm gonna go and do this and when i look at my mom and my dad my dad um my dad was
00:08:04.880 a diplomat from the cameroon embassy and he's also back where i come from cameroon he's the paramount
00:08:09.360 ruler so he's the chief of all chiefs um so we come to this country because of my dad and like
00:08:15.440 for me like
00:08:18.880 like i don't know like when i just look at
00:08:29.600 i lost myself i just you know what it is i'm just thinking about my dad i was thinking about the
00:08:33.600 sacrifices that my dad did my mom did and there's not there's not there's no one doing anything but my
00:08:38.240 dad like a lot of african people that came first generation or um there might have been one person
00:08:43.360 that came first and the other person stayed over there my dad was quite fortunate because of his
00:08:46.960 job he was back and forth back and forth the things that i saw my mom have to do as a strong woman are 1.00
00:08:53.040 it's not things that many women would want to do today being separated for your husband but because 0.99
00:08:57.120 of her doing that thing now her children were able to go on to become barristers to go on to become
00:09:02.240 business people to go and become doctors but that's because of one woman's um sacrifice you know i'm 1.00
00:09:06.960 trying to say to you and do you so that's one of the things that that i think that's missing
00:09:10.960 i would agree i would actually say that duty comes first before love when you're actually serious about
00:09:15.200 someone in that respect i mean i was raised by my grandparents and i saw that my entire life my
00:09:20.080 grandma was so dutiful to my granddad even in sickness she was by his deathbed looking after him
00:09:26.080 every single day and i think that love was developed from that i think women from the 1950s 40s 30s would 0.91
00:09:32.720 think we're so weak today she's like she's like you left because you weren't half happy my man had
00:09:37.200 a side side family across town she's like and i stuck it out so i i met it i met the other half out of
00:09:45.760 his funeral you know and it's like i even talk about like my family like my mom got pregnant when she was
00:09:51.680 17 by my dad and they ended up giving up the kid for adoption but she stuck it out with him and they 0.74
00:09:56.560 ended up getting married later and it's like a lot of girls like they don't have the like grit to stick it out 1.00
00:10:02.400 when they're not happy and when shit goes south and um i don't know i think it's it's sad because
00:10:07.760 the kids are the one oftentimes you have to suffer um but i'm gonna read the i'm gonna actually close
00:10:14.960 out the show so if anyone has any you know peace i i feel like i i have a feeling i know who's no if
00:10:21.520 anyone has any final thought no no not yet not yet not yet hold it in hold it okay i'm gonna i'm gonna
00:10:28.320 read the super chats first and then everyone's gonna get a chance to say any final thoughts
00:10:34.640 you know you can you can put whatever okay dash token e30 only rich people understand duty duty is
00:10:40.080 hard how eligible as a christian i believe that social media has ruined many people's perception
00:10:44.960 of what healthy sexuality and intimacy is sex is for marriage and marriage isn't just for sex um
00:10:51.680 um paper chasing ask them ask how they would get and keep a man without sex
00:10:56.640 um combi and ashes a fine girl 50 plus bodies or a virgin lizzo 0.94
00:11:02.160 for a life marriage gentleman at least he is a kind pimp he's too natural too self-taught
00:11:10.320 um um h vargas 207 pearl i know you know how to drive a car i'm not worrying about your driving i'm
00:11:16.560 just worried about the other drivers dragon one stallion 1001 if she posts selfies for 300 what will 0.92
00:11:24.160 she do for 50 000 andre stop it i keep telling you andrea d dude when you are referring to when you
00:11:33.440 refer to your girl as a bird and monetizing her face you need to learn to respect her what you have
00:11:38.720 is not a relationship neo moses what's eddie's info so i can reach out to linda everyone loved linda
00:11:44.560 um dm it's his instagram should be in the description but if it's not it's on my um
00:11:49.840 bio just dot pearly things that's my instagram so his um instagram's in my bio matt butcher i think
00:11:56.800 one important thing we haven't touched on is why people do the ig the psych of it the constant need
00:12:01.600 for attention and validation how unhealthy is combi and ashes a girl with 50 plus bodies or virgin lizzo
00:12:08.160 for life um mark o glazers out pearl i want to get to know linda she's late she's speaking my language 0.97
00:12:15.440 intelligent articulate and wants to grow her own food and homeschool let's go um h vargas and alpha 1.00
00:12:21.600 doesn't care what she makes okay so now any final pieces that you guys want to say you could start any
00:12:28.320 final thoughts this was very interesting that's what i have did you go learn anything anything new
00:12:37.680 today that you didn't know before i learned that men don't make love i learned that no i actually did
00:12:47.200 because to me i feel like there is definitely a difference between having sex and making love
00:12:51.760 with someone and making love doesn't equate to slow sex making love is just when there's a real depth
00:13:00.000 behind the action in that you know that you're taking and you can feel that connection to the person
00:13:05.760 on a level beyond the physical sex is just the physical like i'm just here to get what i need
00:13:12.800 and go making love i i want to feel you do you know i mean and to know that men don't feel like that
00:13:19.520 as well it's interesting it's changed my perspective today is this is new that's just him yeah that's true
00:13:26.400 i didn't say that no he's speaking he's speaking on behalf no no no i'm telling you men can have sex 0.76
00:13:31.840 without a nation no wait i don't know how we got that how did we get that i mean are you speaking
00:13:37.520 on behalf of all men no wait wait he was speaking you you said men don't no no no no no no no no no
00:13:45.520 but let me just let me clarify that of course men make love like i'm not saying men don't make love
00:13:49.760 but we're gonna make love to our wife and to the woman we want to be with but if you're just one of
00:13:53.440 these girls we're gonna bang you and we're gonna blow your back out that's a difference like there's 1.00
00:13:57.120 something that that you reserve for your wife like or for this there's things that we've got
00:14:01.360 to reserve that i swear to god there's some things that we've got to reserve that's all i meant but
00:14:06.320 but i don't think i don't think from the whole of this thing you should get that that's what you
00:14:09.840 should take from this i think from all of this you should probably take that men do want to men do
00:14:15.040 want to be want wives they do want relationships but they want women that are wives and what's it 0.69
00:14:20.000 say in the bible i'm the man that finds a wife finds a good thing that suggests your wife already 0.93
00:14:24.400 when i find you so which means i'm a husband already i want to meet a woman that's good to go
00:14:28.960 i don't need a woman that's been run through that's you know that's decided that actually 1.00
00:14:33.280 or she's got a child already or she decides actually in her mid-30s now i want to pick you
00:14:38.240 when she's to pick me when i was trying to grind and build my business but she didn't did she she 0.99
00:14:41.920 picked the other guys now my business is doing well things are going well all of a sudden i become
00:14:46.160 someone that she wants to pick but guess what i have a i have now a lot of interest from other
00:14:50.960 people and younger girls as well so why do i have to pick you then we get that's not always
00:14:55.600 the case though that's not always the case but i do believe like and what i experienced a lot of my
00:15:00.160 friends who they're all in this predicament like um a lot of them are doing well for themselves but
00:15:04.640 at the time when they women were supposed to look at them they didn't look at them do you feel like
00:15:09.360 you would not give a girl loyalty because she wasn't there along the way no no i would that's not about
00:15:15.280 because there's still many more things to do right i was just wondering no i'm gonna say if she's not there
00:15:19.280 along the way then yeah no i think i think if you if you i'm not i'm not a millionaire so if you go
00:15:26.560 and do something and you become you become really rich or really successful overnight i think then
00:15:31.120 i might be slightly a little bit more like okay cool but at the same time as a man we don't if you
00:15:36.960 didn't like me when i never had the money that's okay as well because if i wanted a woman that was a 0.99
00:15:42.160 certain level i wasn't on that level and i had to gain my value and i understand that i don't think that's
00:15:47.520 bad that another guy that had a more value at me at the time could get that that's the that's the
00:15:51.040 name of the game it's not fair i need to level myself up to a position where i can meet those
00:15:55.440 types of women whereas a lot of times women want things to be fair when us us men know that if a 0.99
00:15:59.520 next man is at a high level at the moment all i got to do is build myself up and get myself that level
00:16:04.880 that's not now when i was 17 18 we had to watch all the men in their 20s and 30s take all the women it
00:16:09.760 wasn't nice we didn't have cars we didn't have certain things but we had to watch it and then we didn't get
00:16:14.560 better what did we do we got better so now when it's us now no one should be getting any feelings
00:16:19.360 yeah but that's that's the motivation because let's say for example about using myself as an example
00:16:25.520 i took a leap of faith and went with the person that didn't have that and i was gonna get there
00:16:31.920 like the person you're saying and they had already got me so they didn't feel the need to continue to
00:16:37.840 working hard to do you know what i mean and that's one thing i'm going to say men the rent is due every
00:16:42.800 single day yeah just because the worst thing you could possibly do is get the woman of your dreams
00:16:47.040 yeah because now you've got her you have to keep her even if you keep her interest for the first few 1.00
00:16:51.040 years you manage to get the worst thing you can do is get a baby out of her now you're like you feel
00:16:54.640 like she's yours okay you got the woman of your dreams and if she is that badness when you let her 0.68
00:17:00.320 out like you said she's gonna get another man or be outside so this thing where men feel they can 1.00
00:17:04.400 lie to a woman push a rental do certain things get the woman then they think they know that like you 0.79
00:17:09.760 don't own that woman and the moment you fall off your job i do believe i don't mean like instantaneously
00:17:14.880 a woman should stand by a man but if you're not willing to keep levitating and elevate 1.00
00:17:19.280 nah man exactly the game's the game hasn't happened you'll lose her clicks aggressively 0.96
00:17:25.440 okay yes i was at your final thought yeah i don't know yeah so basically yeah no like obviously um
00:17:32.080 yeah thank thank you pearl for having us on the show i feel like like not even i feel like i know
00:17:37.280 that it was a good show like i've definitely learned some perspective from other people i do take
00:17:41.200 things on involved like to be honest with you bro same but i'm never gonna agree with what you're
00:17:45.360 telling me but from the ladies i did take i did take a lot obviously you being um a single mother 1.00
00:17:51.440 as well like i just want to just put that out i was never taking those shots at you i was just saying
00:17:55.600 generally like as men you know what i mean i was catching like better because i am too a single
00:17:59.920 one yes i was just i just wanted to hear what you thought about me i'm sure like with like
00:18:12.080 certain things you did say was like i don't know i've never heard it before because i've never had a
00:18:16.640 man come to me and tell me oh i can never date a woman it's a it's a turn of having someone that has 0.98
00:18:23.440 kids it's literally new to me you might i might see on like i don't know on tv or something but
00:18:28.800 i've never had someone in my bed but then when i realized that you don't have kids not in a rudiment
00:18:33.520 no negative you don't have kids you're 38 years old like so it kind of like you don't have much
00:18:41.280 options in that aspect but no i've got no let me let me finish speaking please let me finish speaking
00:18:46.480 because a lot of people people in my generation have kids yeah have kids i don't know how my my
00:18:53.600 friendship group probably one of us don't have a kid yeah but and a lot of us that have had kids
00:18:59.040 younger yeah it would be nice for us to grow up with our partner that whatever but situations happen
00:19:05.200 at no point growing up was it ever good like like sorry how old are you 20 i'm i'm 30 now you're 30 yeah
00:19:10.960 so like at no point i had my daughter at 20. yeah so okay so at no point ever was it ever good to have
00:19:17.600 a baby out of wedlock no one no one no one ideally thinks to themselves when they get pregnant you know
00:19:23.120 what i'm gonna have a child at weather but you have to understand situations no i don't have to
00:19:27.600 understand you're a grown woman no no no no no no no hold on let me land when i say you have to understand
00:19:34.080 situations happen situations do happen situations they do happen it never happened to me it never
00:19:39.920 happened to my boy that's sitting over there there's there's 41 forms of birth control you
00:19:45.200 could like you could like so so so wait wait let me look if there's 41 forms of birth control it's
00:19:51.360 like it's not just a situation that happens it's a choice and my daughter right now she's nine years
00:19:56.240 old yeah for me having my child saved my life because the minute she was born the 10 months after i went 0.89
00:20:05.200 to uni i thought oh you know i'm gonna do better with myself i'm gonna go uni i graduated
00:20:10.400 i became a school teacher i left this if i did not have her i'll probably be in the streets i'll
00:20:15.760 probably be raving because i've got more time on my hand i'll be doing this so for me it's
00:20:21.600 it can be a really good thing like it was a benefit so when you're looking at it like it say oh oh i can't
00:20:27.440 see the woman who have kids it's just like well yeah because you're looking you're looking at it from
00:20:31.200 a woman's point of view like like the point is it's just never going to be a guy's first choice 1.00
00:20:35.520 yeah and that's and that's okay but when you point it out like it's a negative no but it is
00:20:40.480 not like it's a negative because as a woman i'm not as a woman i'm not gonna see a man and it is a
00:20:46.080 double standard and it's really sad in that aspect i'm not gonna look at a man and be like do you know
00:20:50.560 what he's got four kids three different baby mothers i'm gonna ask but you should though no i'm
00:20:54.960 gonna i should that's a bad man i'd like to say i don't think you should you should discriminate
00:21:01.520 against no i don't everyone for me i sit everyone has a past i might be the woman i might be the
00:21:09.120 woman that he will change for or you can't change no i don't think future's gonna change for anyone
00:21:13.760 what i mean change for do you know listen my dad has 10 children yeah 10 children yeah how many baby
00:21:21.120 moms two two baby moms my mom's got nine kids by my dad and we've got one kid like she's like in the 0.76
00:21:28.480 middle could i never like that she's in the she's in the middle do you know what i mean that's it
00:21:33.840 like so i'm not going to judge my father because of one mistake that he has done because i'm going
00:21:40.240 to dismiss all the good things all the benefits that he has done no i'm not you're probably a really
00:21:45.120 good mother you've come out here you've got to you you've got a school teacher so you're a success
00:21:49.760 right but you can't no you can't have someone from but he's just being honest about how men think
00:21:56.800 it's circumstantial because in that in that that example your child saved your life yeah
00:22:11.920 but in let's say my example i was let's say married in the eyes of the lord i already bought my degree
00:22:19.840 he wasn't married no well according to the bible if the man chooses no you wasn't you wasn't married
00:22:26.400 okay well yeah i had i had already gained my degree my son walks across the stage with me in my tummy i
00:22:32.240 was in a proper relationship and then it just broke down it wasn't like it doesn't matter how
00:22:40.240 it happened and like you guys are you can be perfectly nice people could have benefited your life
00:22:45.200 i mean my mom was a single mother and she ended up giving that kid up for adoption but like um
00:22:52.640 it doesn't make you a bad person but men it's not their first choice my thing is this right
00:22:56.880 i want you to understand something when you say oh some types of men you you girls do this because 0.97
00:23:01.120 you want to act like oh i'm anomaly oh i'm just weird i'm not weird i'm not an anomaly men do not want
00:23:07.040 to typically date single and when we do we want to have fun with you and the types of men that you can
00:23:11.680 have there's certain types of men you can never have now i'm one of them do you understand and you
00:23:15.760 might not want me but i represent a certain type of man that will never do that and we're vocal about
00:23:20.560 it because we want girls to know when i talk to you out in the nightclub and you tell me i've got a
00:23:25.040 child i'm like why you're not home with a baby father not with him all of us i'm like i'm like why
00:23:29.520 are you outside this is for the this is for the other girls now with no kids like but you're trying to
00:23:33.280 and you're trying to be in your 30s outside trying to fight with the girls in their 20s and us and
00:23:37.840 us men in our 30s ain't looking at you and you want to get mad and start saying that oh
00:23:41.440 we want to pick younger girls because we want to manipulate them no we don't but they're not 1.00
00:23:44.960 damaged and they don't come in with all the stuff that you've come in an actual fact they look the
00:23:49.120 actual fact they look at all the women and they say rah they look at how you guys are letting us
00:23:53.120 fly by and how you haven't treated us and they come and get us and you women can't see this and 1.00
00:23:57.440 and this is the thing when a man's speaking to you and saying to you listen to a man and listen to
00:24:01.840 listen to us because you never listen to us and when we speak you don't listen but a man is saying to
00:24:06.640 you whether or not you consider me to represent men or not us men do not want single mothers 1.00
00:24:11.280 we don't go out there thinking that we want a wifey single mothers we might and if a man's got 1.00
00:24:15.680 a child of course you guys should get your blended family and get together but you need to leave us 1.00
00:24:20.560 men with no kids alone because we are we need to be there for the single women and don't take offense
00:24:27.120 to it because no no no no one's also there's a 50 super chat and i try to read those quicker
00:24:32.480 just my point she was talking to a guy with two kids as in she dates guys with kids we can all agree
00:24:37.520 that if a girl with one kid couples with a man with two kids giving the man good feminine energy 1.00
00:24:41.760 for his family so it becomes more even yeah yeah yeah i don't i don't date guys with kids either
00:24:52.080 no keep me out of that if you had if you had a child i have a friend like she's got a child but
00:24:58.400 she does not date men with kids and she actually gets men with no kids because that's that energy 1.00
00:25:02.000 she's like i don't date men with kids i don't want to deal with their baby moms and she doesn't she 1.00
00:25:05.840 literally only gets and some men will do that but then also when i think to myself she hasn't got a 1.00
00:25:09.920 ring yet so we judge it by outcomes right not by who's taking you on holidays not by who's treating
00:25:16.080 you nice we judge by the final outcome and all throughout all of this all i see is babies i
00:25:21.200 don't see no rings i don't see no marriages i heard a joint account how the hell did you have a joint
00:25:27.200 i was in a relationship with my ex-partner for a few years it didn't work out but he's a i have an
00:25:33.280 issue with him he's a good person he looks after his daughter but that's it it didn't work out
00:25:40.560 do you think there's any other option outside of marriage because marriage so disproportionately is
00:25:45.840 not advantageous advantageous for men today i know it's not advantageous for us pearl i know
00:25:51.200 we put a lot of risk up at the same time i believe it's very important because the reason why my father's
00:25:56.720 got three daughters they're all married and a son oldest and they're married obviously i'll follow suit
00:26:00.720 it's because what i want but for a man to you know for a man for father to have three daughters and
00:26:05.040 every single man looked at your daughter like a wife not a baby mom's each of them said so i'm from
00:26:09.680 cameroon so um we have a diary where we come from so traditionally so we have a saying where we come from
00:26:14.880 the man that has many daughters is a rich man and then the man that has many sons is a poor man i'll
00:26:19.680 explain to you why this is it's because when for example we had three daughters so i'm so anyone that
00:26:25.680 wants to marry my dad my sisters would have to come and essentially buy each you know buy each 1.00
00:26:30.080 each daughter make an offering pay some money towards the village and all the rest of that 0.99
00:26:33.760 so my dad having three daughters will make him one of the richest men because he would have three
00:26:37.920 separate households would have to come and buy and put money towards the women but the man with three 0.99
00:26:43.040 sons would have to have three separate pieces of money to go out there to go and do it so the reason
00:26:47.360 why i say that is because there's there's definitely more value in in that and the women and and we need to 0.88
00:26:52.400 put that out there as well you know what i mean i understand okay well i'm gonna try to keep the
00:26:58.240 final thoughts going um so so if you want to give your final thoughts no it was a very interesting
00:27:04.240 discussion i've learned a lot and yeah i really enjoyed myself yeah thanks for coming um you want to
00:27:10.400 give yours um final thoughts um i believe men will have preferences and women have their own preferences
00:27:20.000 if you want to know what men want you speak to men if you want to know what women want you speak to
00:27:23.760 women instead of speaking in the same sex and deciding which opposite sex should believe in and 0.99
00:27:28.640 what should not i also believe if you're in a relationship and they've got social media
00:27:37.440 and then and then and they're using it just for attention and likes then in it in a time like this
00:27:44.000 then have a rethink also yeah also i enjoyed myself here pearl and i can't wait to watch the show back
00:27:52.800 after okay thanks for coming um what about you final thoughts um yeah i just like to say that i really
00:27:59.200 do think that relationships are just about duty first before love and um on that note i'd like to say that
00:28:07.360 i don't mean to throw anyone under the bus here but i'm just saying things that i was raised with
00:28:12.960 personally if you've been a woman who has a child by a man that you're not married to then there's no
00:28:20.400 reason for you to be out here asking for man that's better than your baby father that's all i have to
00:28:26.480 say on that note i wanted to say that before i'm sorry i was trying to push that in there many times
00:28:31.200 but i just wanted to leave it on that one i don't think you deserve better than your baby father
00:28:35.200 you chose to have a child by that man okay um i don't know where she she went um but i guess
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