JustPearlyThings - March 19, 2023


Society Never Tells Women THIS


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

195.83986

Word Count

1,792

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

4

Hate Speech Sentences

4


Summary

In this episode, we talk about the dangers of abortion, the side effects of birth control, and how to deal with toxic relationships and toxic partners. We also discuss the impact of the term "toxic relationships" and how toxic partners can have on a woman's fertility.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 but also what i would say is like once a woman like when a woman actually falls pregnant
00:00:04.400 it's a very very very difficult decision to make whether to keep it or to get rid of it
00:00:10.360 like you grow pregnant how do you fall pregnant
00:00:14.740 yeah it's true because you get an emotional attachment to that baby
00:00:25.080 yeah it's an actual baby i mean you might tell yourself oh i don't want a baby and then you
00:00:32.780 fall pregnant and you're like oh shit like what have i done yeah what have i done like i actually
00:00:37.580 want to keep this baby now or i'm gonna that's what i feel like a lot of people do you guys don't think
00:00:41.480 about the consequences of your actions you're always relying on i feel like this generation
00:00:45.000 lacks so much awareness yeah are you present are you aware of like what you're doing and the
00:00:51.580 consequences i would say mostly yeah this generation i would say mostly women yeah so
00:00:56.020 we go back to what you said yeah i would say women use abortion as a form i would say we
00:00:59.880 use it as a form of birth control which is not good which is not good by the way i mean i know
00:01:05.040 people might have different um views but i say that's not good that's horrible yeah i think if
00:01:11.180 you don't want to get pregnant then you need to like take the precautions to not get pregnant
00:01:15.680 obviously if you need to have an abortion then like you get an abortion because there's women
00:01:22.000 out there that can't have children and then if you get a lot of abortions that can actually stop
00:01:25.260 you from having kids in the future that is very true that is very true because i took the pill so
00:01:29.900 many times i now suffer from polycystic ovarian syndrome so it's hard for me to actually get
00:01:35.220 pregnant um unfortunately i haven't seen my period for four years but recently i got my period
00:01:40.480 through some prophet that prayed for me and yeah i'm delivered guys miracle wait so from like from
00:01:46.500 what did you get it from the pill like um like do you mean the morning after pill or the the morning
00:01:51.600 after pill yeah i took that too many times and i also went on the pill how many times did you take
00:01:57.320 it oh i think like six seven times six seven times within the span of how long um within oh maybe like
00:02:04.780 six seven in a month wow yeah and did you know that was a possible side effect no i didn't
00:02:12.560 and how did you find out that you had that this was actually well what the polycystic ovarian
00:02:17.280 syndrome when i was in a relationship with my toxic ex because i noticed that he would obviously
00:02:22.060 inside of me and then i would notice that i wasn't like getting pregnant and i was gaining so much weight
00:02:28.420 really quickly and um i started growing excess excess hair in certain places so those are all
00:02:35.540 the side effects of getting um polycystic ovarian syndromes and then i went to the doctors found
00:02:40.500 out i had it and yeah that's what happened what was that like for you it was scary because i love kids
00:02:47.240 i'm i am a child myself you know like i love laughs i love playing i love to just be me everywhere so
00:02:53.660 kids was a big factor for me but i knew that in due time things will work out in my favor and i will
00:03:00.240 get the kids that i want it's not impossible not to have kids but it's harder 10 times harder do you
00:03:06.000 wish they told you about that um before you before i took yes thousand percent yes um thousand percent
00:03:12.040 because i feel like a lot of girls really don't know about the side effects they don't discuss them
00:03:16.040 the doctors don't tell you i've never really been on it because when i heard about birth control i was
00:03:20.300 like you're gonna stop me from getting pregnant yeah education i want education in that aspect
00:03:26.540 when it comes to contraception methods it's not that good the teacher a little bit at school but
00:03:30.740 not completely like the full real deal but even when you go and like get it prescribed the doctor
00:03:35.420 don't really tell you nothing and you know what there's so many women that go on contraception and
00:03:39.660 then they can't they struggle to get pregnant afterwards they're like oh your fertility goes back
00:03:43.800 to normal straight away and it doesn't and some people are trying for a baby and three years down the line
00:03:48.700 they still can't have a child because they've been everyone's body is different as well everyone's
00:03:52.300 body works differently yeah yeah yeah it's hard do you guys believe that the label toxic is overused
00:03:59.500 in relationships today yes yeah i mean look at me like what 10 minutes ago i was like yeah
00:04:07.420 when you've been like come on now like really and then hearing them stories that you know there's
00:04:11.740 different like i said there's different um heights of toxic levels of toxicness and again it's what you
00:04:17.660 perceive the word toxic to mean so i do think that toxic relationships and like just with anyone
00:04:25.180 like friends yeah partners and stuff it's like really like promoted on social media it is it is
00:04:31.260 like the toxic relationship lifestyles like toxic love like everyone yeah like with kushan and and
00:04:37.340 what's his name blue face yeah yeah yeah that's why i don't understand why they get so much attention
00:04:42.860 for that and it's like so unhealthy they're probably so both so depressed and unhappy i feel like to be
00:04:47.980 toxic you have to have a very strong head yeah like for them to be toxic they know what they're doing
00:04:54.140 it's like they don't it's not like they don't know what they're doing it's like it's like it's
00:04:57.100 calculated yeah they're doing it on purpose but what i've seen that's what it looks like yeah i mean to be
00:05:03.020 honest i feel like with toxic relationships you get that adrenaline rush from like when things are
00:05:08.060 good and then when it goes like really bad you just think about the good times which is why you stay
00:05:12.460 with that you're making excuses for yourself to stay yeah and obviously it's so up and down like
00:05:18.300 once it goes down you're like oh my god i can't wait for it to like go back up again like and
00:05:21.660 everything to be good because you guys go through like really good you cling on to that little bit of
00:05:26.060 hope almost yeah that good part or sometimes you're just used to it this is your comfort zone now
00:05:31.340 yeah the cons will eventually outweigh the posed i mean that's when you know how do you get used to
00:05:38.540 it no but some people are growing up in even like a toxic household like with toxic families
00:05:44.220 like also like how someone's been raised has a big impact on like the type of men they go for women
00:05:49.420 also like drama yeah they do they do they love it i mean why don't women watch sports that's camaraderie we
00:05:55.740 like the kardashians watch me in a year's time i'm going to be sitting with kim kardashian
00:06:12.540 she's going to be me and her i'm going to be telling me now manifestation
00:06:17.020 i'm going to be over each other working on you know skims x i've got a kovaland dropping soon as
00:06:22.060 well joining my music so mad madness i told you i'm such a east dennis fan so i can't you know what
00:06:30.380 no but it's then there's christmas specials yeah they're drama every day every day i used to do
00:06:35.740 yeah i used to do that i used to send us every single day but then the the storylines is just
00:06:40.620 too dark for me like it's so negative up to a point you might be able to handle it but like it got to a
00:06:46.220 point where i could not i could not anymore but that is toxic actually question what is
00:06:52.300 toxicness and where does it come from i think something that's not good for you but you want
00:06:57.420 it you go for it anyway but something that's genuinely like bad for your your mental health
00:07:03.580 and you do it anyway a long duration as well where does it stem from though
00:07:08.460 where does it stem from i think well toxic relationships stem from lack of boundaries i'm
00:07:11.980 talking about toxic not toxic relationship there's two different that's like toxic itself what does
00:07:17.100 it stem from toxic it's something harmful something dangerous people use that for food
00:07:24.700 it's like poison wouldn't you say yeah because that's what it can lead to it can like damage and
00:07:29.340 it's harmful to your mental health and then it can generally lead to other things the environment have
00:07:33.740 have you guys ever been labeled a toxic ex like would your exes say that you're toxic yes yes yeah
00:07:41.020 no haven't no no but i would say i could be toxic if i choose to be toxic oh yeah yeah exactly that
00:07:51.740 that's the energy yeah yeah i agree with that i agree with that that's why i said for you to be toxic
00:07:57.340 you have to have a strong head and people know what they do when they be toxic it's not like no
00:08:01.740 it's like a mind game 100 i agree what do you think have you ever been labeled a toxic ex would your
00:08:08.300 exes say you're toxic they would they would say i'm toxic only because i'm not as lit as me that is
00:08:13.660 why i don't know if i'm toxic because um because um we're not going to talk about the whole liking
00:08:19.660 and following that thing because i was in the past that was 10 minutes ago but yeah i don't think i
00:08:24.780 would be called toxic how how do you guys how do you guys think past relationships shape future
00:08:31.260 relationships you know the difference between lust and love oh my goodness you know the difference
00:08:37.660 that is i feel like if you're able to reflect if you're able to reflect and not carry on the patterns
00:08:43.820 that you had in as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily
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