JustPearlyThings - The DELUSION Of This Modern Woman

00:00:00.160 okay um so today our topic is modern women think they're tense so um what made me think of this

00:00:09.520 topic is i went to carnival recently now that was an interesting experience experience i've never

00:00:14.640 been to a festival so it was a lot to take in you went in blind i did not know what i was signing up

00:00:20.800 for um a lot of ass a lot of yeah it was a lot of everything a lot of everything anyways so i went 0.94

00:00:29.600 around and asked people to rank themselves one to ten and the most common answer i got from women 0.89

00:00:35.440 was i'm a ten i'm a ten i'm a ten and to me like a ten is that you're perfect um which to me is a

00:00:42.560 little bit narcissistic so why why are people so quick to say that they're a ten oh i mean

00:00:50.320 you have to kind of think that like people will always be drawn to confidence you can't just go

00:00:58.240 around saying i mean i mean even if you are like subjectively a i don't know five six maybe um

00:01:07.120 you can't you can't let everyone know that you have to be like no listen i'm a ten

00:01:11.600 you don't think it's delusion i think confidence is sexy so even if you aren't like objectively or

00:01:17.440 conventionally attractive someone that is very charming is still seen as attractive or just

00:01:22.480 charming in general but it's not like true confidence or is it just arrogance i don't think

00:01:27.200 it's arrogance because i don't think having confidence makes you arrogant but it's like why

00:01:31.120 are they confident so if they know that they're not they don't really feel that they're a ten but

00:01:34.880 they're just saying that they're a ten it's a good point i guess it's more than like attractiveness

00:01:40.000 as in how you look it's more like i feel confident in myself you cannot be like you might have like

00:01:46.000 pimples or like scars on your face but if you're a confident person you can still be a ten no

00:01:52.080 wouldn't you say that means you have no room to improve i think i understand what you mean but i

00:01:57.280 feel like um i don't really like this idea of like humans having to constantly improve themselves

00:02:03.760 because it means that we're in like a perpetual state of not enough i feel like it's kind of good

00:02:08.320 that some people have accepted like oh i'm just good as i am because then you know it's a happy state to be

00:02:13.920 in yeah but you could be good as you are as a five that's not an insult that's average you know

00:02:19.760 yeah there'll always be someone that will uh like you yeah there's someone for everyone definitely

00:02:25.840 you think there's someone right

00:02:29.840 there's more there's more women on the planet than men 1.00

00:02:33.120 yeah so like by the numbers there's not some people get left behind you know what i mean

00:02:37.200 um so um i have a clip for us to react to where we kind of dives into this a little bit blessing

00:02:48.240 pull up the first clip i i kept my original stance yeah this one so this was you can see how far the

00:02:55.120 show's come because this was an old show but it started from the beginning blessing

00:02:58.480 yeah i started from the i don't know why it started there yeah

00:03:09.120 11 if like being a 10 is you're perfect so do you do you think you're perfect no i think there's beauty

00:03:18.160 in imperfection you know perfection is not uh why are you talking over me

00:03:23.680 the odds are there's glamour and beauty and there's a difference anyway just go chill i believe

00:03:29.120 that i'm an 11 out of 10 just because and i'm allowed to do that way and i genuinely believe perfect

00:03:36.400 i was not done talking um i genuinely believe that perfection is not real but there's beauty and

00:03:42.560 imperfection and i think no like you're you're you're very attractive like i think you're like i think

00:03:48.080 you're attractive but but no no but wait wait can you let me finish so what i'm saying like like

00:03:54.400 to me i would never say i'm a 10 because like a 10 is like perfect and i don't think i'm perfect so i

00:04:00.880 get like is that but we were saying looks wise right yeah and i genuinely see myself as genuinely

00:04:07.520 beautiful i genuinely see myself as someone who is a goddess because at the end of the day

00:04:13.280 society is what decides on beauty standards right right and i can i don't have to follow

00:04:22.240 that beauty standard right i genuinely believe that i'm beautiful yeah well and i'm not taking

00:04:26.640 that away from you i just like i just could i just could i just could never say like i wouldn't say

00:04:31.280 you're perfect do you know what i mean yeah and that's and that's what i mean so i'm just playing

00:04:36.640 around yeah i think i'm really a 10 out of 10 like genuinely i feel like i'm a 10 out of 10 yeah

00:04:40.960 i take care of myself what has given you that uh my looks we were only talking about looks we

00:04:47.200 weren't talking about personality or skill or anything like that is is that based on the way

00:04:51.600 people have treated you throughout your life no this is based on how i was raised and how i view myself

00:04:56.400 and how i've worked hard to see the beauty that i deserve to see so you i worked so you see an 11

00:05:02.880 out of 10 beauty i would bro it's a joke well okay okay but we could say 10 out of 10 yeah yeah

00:05:09.120 like i just said i consider myself a 10 out of 10 for sure so you think you're up there with so who

00:05:14.560 would you see in like the media that's like a 10 out of 10 women why are we going based off of media 1.00

00:05:19.280 people no like why does that matter well because based on society's beauty standards and what they 1.00

00:05:24.160 think is a 10 out of 10 well because that like society's beauty but i don't give a fuck about 0.84

00:05:28.080 society that's the key here is that i i have my own viewpoint right like okay so who would you

00:05:34.480 class as a 10 out of 10 why apart from yourself well because like in order in order to scale someone

00:05:40.720 one to ten someone has to not be a 10 right so so so i fully agree with that yeah and so but i'm not

00:05:46.400 but we asked what i think i am what he thinks he is what you think you are i'm not going based

00:05:52.480 off of anybody else except for what i see in the mirror right so but then like that almost wouldn't

00:05:56.960 be a scale that like because then you have no way to measure it okay so it's like your way of

00:06:02.240 rebelling against the scale almost forget rebellion it's just genuinely how i feel right and i'm not

00:06:08.400 saying like i like again like i think i think you're beautiful yeah but it's just but it's just for

00:06:14.160 you to say that you're a five out of ten right but i just think i live like compared to you then

00:06:18.640 you're comparing her to you because i'm not making no no no but i'm telling her in her own right she

00:06:23.920 is beautiful so you would say she's a tendon yes but like in her own right but i just think if i was 0.98

00:06:29.840 if i was a 10 i would have had modeling but you know what i'm saying like i think if i was like a

00:06:45.600 10 right then i would have had modeling i would have had modeling contracts by now i would have

00:06:50.400 had people i would have had results to show that i'm i would have had nfl nba players but remember

00:06:55.040 that is all based on beauty standards that are set by that's based on reality i do like that's

00:07:00.560 society that's reality and like but i don't see the same way that other people do though yeah let me

00:07:06.880 ask you a question do you think there's an objective beauty standard yes can you describe

00:07:13.200 objective to me as in like what the baseline okay something like an objective society beauty standards

00:07:19.840 so for example art is that good art or is all art the same i feel like that's kind of different

00:07:26.560 because art art is also something that's all about perspective subjective yeah it's subjective yeah to

00:07:31.600 do but in in in if you look at medieval buildings especially americans notice this when they come here

00:07:38.160 they love our ancient architecture right compared to their standard so there is a standard and like a

00:07:43.920 stick figure versus like picasso i guess um when it comes to that you know art is something that you

00:07:52.240 put time and skill and detail into i can't really say the same for people because my point is that as

00:08:00.160 genuinely human beings can identify what's beauty and what's not okay so what is your reaction to this

00:08:08.640 clip what he was saying about um you know we have ideas about what's beautiful no i do i do think i'm

00:08:18.080 pretty sure like your brain is kind of programmed to recognize certain things as more aesthetically

00:08:26.720 pleasing and even though it's subjective it's i'm pretty sure there's even like certain measurements

00:08:32.640 of a specific type of face that humans are more um find more symmetry yeah like that yeah

00:08:41.680 there's been things like studies about women with like neotenic faces like baby faces that men 1.00

00:08:47.280 tend to find more attractive and babies like stare stare at for longer so i do feel like

00:08:52.160 there is an objective um scale of attractiveness that you can judge people on obviously it's not

00:08:56.640 like cross-cultural like maybe in the east it's different but i feel like in the west

00:09:01.120 you can definitely say a person you could write a person on a scale based on what collectively in

00:09:05.920 the west people think and you could like write that on one to ten as many of you know i was just

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JustPearlyThings - April 07, 2023

The DELUSION Of This Modern Woman

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