JustPearlyThings - July 29, 2023


The DELUSION Of This Modern Woman Is Amazing


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In this episode, we talk about virginity and how important it is in today's society. Are you a virgin? Have you ever lost your virginity to someone else? How many times have you had sex with other people? What does it mean to be a virgin and why does it matter to you? Do you think losing your virginity is more important than your body count?

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00:00:00.400 Today's topic, we are talking about virginity.
00:00:03.200 It seems like that's, you know, disappeared nowadays when it comes to women.
00:00:09.320 However, we are going to get these young ladies' opinions on it.
00:00:13.840 So to start, guys, I actually want to start with what do you think the average body count
00:00:21.040 is for, let's say, a 22-year-old in today's day and age?
00:00:27.000 Um, maybe like between 10 and 20.
00:00:32.000 Wow, 10 and 20?
00:00:33.000 I think so, yeah.
00:00:35.000 Wow, okay.
00:00:36.000 What do you think?
00:00:37.000 I'd say about seven.
00:00:38.000 Seven?
00:00:39.000 I reckon 10 is 20 as well.
00:00:41.000 10 to 20 for a 22-year-old.
00:00:44.000 Well, it depends on relationships as well because if you've been in a long-term relationship,
00:00:48.000 then it's going to be lower than someone else who's always been single.
00:00:51.000 Do you guys know your friends' body counts?
00:00:53.000 Do they tell you?
00:00:54.000 I feel like you have, but I actually can't remember.
00:00:56.000 I don't think it's a big thing that matters.
00:00:59.000 I feel like you should just...
00:01:00.000 I'm just curious.
00:01:01.000 Yeah, yeah, of course.
00:01:02.000 Do you know, like, your close friends, like, do they tell you how many people they've slept
00:01:06.000 with or is...
00:01:07.000 I don't think body count matters.
00:01:09.000 Uh, I don't even know what yours is, do I?
00:01:12.000 I think when you're younger, it's something that you probably talk about more, but as you
00:01:17.000 get older, you're an adult.
00:01:18.000 How old are you?
00:01:19.000 20, like, that's 20?
00:01:20.000 24.
00:01:21.000 Yeah, 24.
00:01:22.000 You're still young.
00:01:23.000 Oh, I feel old though.
00:01:25.000 Um, but so, in general, people don't know.
00:01:28.000 Not really.
00:01:29.000 No, I don't think it's a thing that people really talk about nowadays.
00:01:32.000 It's a personal thing, isn't it?
00:01:33.000 So, how did you guys guess the average?
00:01:35.000 Is that, like, based off of you guys's?
00:01:36.000 Yeah.
00:01:37.000 Oh, okay.
00:01:38.000 No, it's just a random guess.
00:01:40.000 Okay, you said body count doesn't matter.
00:01:43.000 Why?
00:01:44.000 I just feel like if you want to, if you want to fuck, fuck.
00:01:47.000 Mm-hmm.
00:01:48.000 But, personally, I feel like being in a relationship and losing your virginity is so much more better.
00:01:54.000 Mm-hmm.
00:01:55.000 Because...
00:01:56.000 Why is it better if it doesn't matter, if body count...
00:01:59.000 Wouldn't it just be the same?
00:02:00.000 Because body count doesn't matter?
00:02:01.000 I think the first time you want it to be special, because it's the unknown, and it's such, like, a big thing, isn't it?
00:02:06.000 Mm-hmm.
00:02:07.000 When you haven't had sex before.
00:02:08.000 But I think, once you've had it, you realise...
00:02:10.000 Not that it doesn't mean anything.
00:02:11.000 I don't mean anything like that, but...
00:02:14.000 It's common.
00:02:15.000 Everyone does it.
00:02:16.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:17.000 Was losing you guys' virginity special, or no?
00:02:20.000 I was drunk.
00:02:21.000 You were drunk?
00:02:22.000 Always!
00:02:26.000 Special?
00:02:27.000 Was it special first time?
00:02:28.000 Who said I lost it?
00:02:29.000 Oh! 0.60
00:02:30.000 You know, are you a virgin?
00:02:33.000 Shut up, Courtney! 1.00
00:02:36.000 I mean, I definitely am at this point, but...
00:02:39.000 Because it's been so long, you're like a reborn-again virgin.
00:02:42.000 Oh, yeah, yeah.
00:02:43.000 100% celibate.
00:02:44.000 But not a real virgin.
00:02:46.000 No, I'm not a real virgin.
00:02:48.000 Okay.
00:02:49.000 But why don't you think it matters?
00:02:51.000 I just don't feel like it matters.
00:02:53.000 Everyone has different sexual desires.
00:02:55.000 Everyone's more sexual than other people.
00:02:58.000 And if you're horny, go and do it.
00:03:02.000 I think it doesn't matter to men, but it matters to women. 1.00
00:03:04.000 Yeah.
00:03:05.000 Yeah.
00:03:06.000 Really?
00:03:07.000 Yeah.
00:03:08.000 What do you mean?
00:03:09.000 I don't think men's body count matters. 1.00
00:03:11.000 Men's does it, but women's does. 1.00
00:03:12.000 Yeah.
00:03:13.000 So, if a man came up to you and was like, yeah, I've slept with like 247 girls, you wouldn't
00:03:19.000 feel anything at all.
00:03:21.000 You'd just be like, it's calm as if you slept with five.
00:03:24.000 All right.
00:03:25.000 This is how I would think about it.
00:03:26.000 240 if he told me that.
00:03:28.000 I'd be like, well, I'm probably not special enough to make this man slow down.
00:03:33.000 So, I'd probably pass.
00:03:34.000 So, it does affect you?
00:03:36.000 No, no, no.
00:03:37.000 It does affect you?
00:03:38.000 No, wait, wait.
00:03:39.000 Let me finish.
00:03:40.000 But it's not the same because I'm not repulsed by it.
00:03:41.000 I'm not disgusted by it.
00:03:42.000 Like, I don't really care.
00:03:43.000 Like, I don't really care what a guy's past is, but I just think of like on a balance of probabilities
00:03:47.000 if a dude slept with 200 bitches, well, I'm going to be the special one that makes him 1.00
00:03:52.000 Get out of me.
00:03:53.000 It's not that.
00:03:54.000 It's not that.
00:03:55.000 If he loves you, then of course you're going to be the special one.
00:03:57.000 Yeah.
00:03:58.000 And you know, that's great.
00:03:59.000 I just think like the odds aren't in my favor.
00:04:01.000 Yeah, but it's not that.
00:04:02.000 Like 200 and me, you know?
00:04:03.000 It's not that.
00:04:04.000 It's not that.
00:04:05.000 It's not that.
00:04:06.000 Yeah.
00:04:07.000 Let's say you fuck like 240 skits hoes in his past. 1.00
00:04:11.000 You come along, you're a good girl.
00:04:13.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:04:14.000 You're telling me 200.
00:04:15.000 You make his day better.
00:04:17.000 He comes home to you.
00:04:18.000 Yeah.
00:04:19.000 He's like, oh, I'm waiting for Poe at home.
00:04:20.000 He's not going to care.
00:04:21.000 He's going to want you.
00:04:22.000 It's just experience.
00:04:23.000 That's true.
00:04:24.000 That's true.
00:04:25.000 You know, miracles happen, but you know?
00:04:28.000 No, I would just think like out of 200 girls, there had to be some good girls in there. 0.98
00:04:33.000 And he's probably just doesn't want to settle down.
00:04:35.000 That's how I would look at it.
00:04:36.000 But it's not like men, because men are repulsed by it.
00:04:38.000 Like, do you want a girl that slept with 200 dudes? 1.00
00:04:41.000 I mean, like, you know, I agree.
00:04:43.000 I agree with you.
00:04:44.000 I feel like it actually doesn't matter when they're with you.
00:04:46.000 It's like whatever happens in the future.
00:04:48.000 Like, but at the same time.
00:04:50.000 Wifey, 200 bodies. 1.00
00:04:51.000 If my wife told me, it's like, yeah.
00:04:53.000 These two guys hit first and now she's on your arm. 0.75
00:04:56.000 I would be like, no, fuck that.
00:04:58.000 I'm not going to lie.
00:04:59.000 Right, right.
00:05:00.000 I'd be like that.
00:05:01.000 But it's not good.
00:05:02.000 It doesn't mean it's good to be like that.
00:05:03.000 But it's just, I think the society we live in, you know, it's not, it's not, it's not good
00:05:09.000 to have a big number, I presume.
00:05:11.000 So.
00:05:12.000 I think that's sad, though, that it's like that society now.
00:05:14.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:05:15.000 Why should numbers matter?
00:05:16.000 Why should you care about what people think all the time?
00:05:19.000 And that evolves around everything in the world we live in.
00:05:21.000 I think your past behavior dictates your future behavior.
00:05:25.000 So it's like if you're sleeping around for 10 years, what are the chances that you stop?
00:05:29.000 And it's the same thing with like the guy that slept with 200.
00:05:32.000 I would think, well, what are the odds he stops?
00:05:34.000 True.
00:05:35.000 But, but isn't that like, you know.
00:05:37.000 I could help, you know.
00:05:38.000 Yeah.
00:05:40.000 Okay.
00:05:41.000 What, what do you think the average body count is for a 22 year old?
00:05:45.000 Uh, uh, now.
00:05:49.000 Yeah.
00:05:50.000 Now, I would say at least about 15 to 17.
00:05:55.000 I'll go about that.
00:05:56.000 15 to 17.
00:05:57.000 I'd say if you're about 22, you probably step to about just under 20 people.
00:06:01.000 Maybe.
00:06:02.000 Unless you haven't been in a relationship that's like three, four years.
00:06:05.000 Mm-hmm.
00:06:06.000 Um, and you've been single and you've just been kind of dating.
00:06:10.000 I think so.
00:06:11.000 I think so.
00:06:12.000 But you know, it's, it depends.
00:06:14.000 It depends on the person.
00:06:15.000 Okay.
00:06:16.000 What do you think?
00:06:17.000 If the guy's a nerd, he's probably slept with like, what?
00:06:20.000 10 people in his life.
00:06:21.000 Like 22, did you say?
00:06:22.000 Yeah.
00:06:23.000 Yeah.
00:06:24.000 22.
00:06:25.000 A girl.
00:06:26.000 Sorry.
00:06:27.000 A girl.
00:06:28.000 Yeah.
00:06:29.000 That's the relationship she's been in.
00:06:30.000 Mm-hmm.
00:06:31.000 Like let's say she's been in a, like, pre-relationship.
00:06:32.000 Mm-hmm.
00:06:33.000 I would assume my body counts three.
00:06:34.000 Mm-hmm.
00:06:35.000 It depends on the girl.
00:06:36.000 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:06:37.000 Move the mic close to you, yeah?
00:06:38.000 The mic.
00:06:39.000 Move it closer.
00:06:40.000 Can you not hear me, bro?
00:06:41.000 Yeah, we can't hear you properly.
00:06:42.000 Oh, cool.
00:06:43.000 Let's say, let's say the girl's like, serious.
00:06:45.000 Sorry, sorry, bro.
00:06:46.000 Sorry, bro.
00:06:47.000 Oh, I'm spooking, bro.
00:06:48.000 He's talking, bro.
00:06:49.000 Move it up.
00:06:50.000 Move it up, bro.
00:06:51.000 Yeah, there you go.
00:06:52.000 There we go.
00:06:53.000 There we go.
00:06:54.000 Anyway, if the girl's like, serious about her relationships. 0.75
00:06:57.000 Mm-hmm.
00:06:58.000 And she lost it to a guy that she's in a relationship with.
00:07:00.000 Don't understand, like, if she's had, like, three relationships, four relationships.
00:07:03.000 I would assume, like, three, four.
00:07:05.000 Mm-hmm.
00:07:06.000 But most girls, they get into a relationship. 1.00
00:07:07.000 Yeah, I'd say the average chick. 0.77
00:07:08.000 The average chick? 0.99
00:07:09.000 Yeah, 22.
00:07:10.000 I would say five.
00:07:13.000 Five.
00:07:14.000 That's low.
00:07:15.000 The average girl, five.
00:07:16.000 That's low.
00:07:17.000 At 22, bro.
00:07:18.000 That's low.
00:07:19.000 That's low.
00:07:20.000 That's low.
00:07:21.000 You think that's low?
00:07:22.000 Yeah, man.
00:07:23.000 With the life that we live in now, though, Birkin, just think about that. 1.00
00:07:25.000 That's not normal.
00:07:26.000 That's not realistic.
00:07:27.000 A lot of girls lose their virginity. 1.00
00:07:28.000 It's not realistic.
00:07:29.000 I'm saying five.
00:07:30.000 That's what I'm saying, five.
00:07:31.000 Do you understand?
00:07:32.000 Is that from personal, like, experience, though?
00:07:34.000 Or just what you live?
00:07:35.000 I'm saying the average should be five, and it is five.
00:07:38.000 Do you understand?
00:07:39.000 Because you're the boss, man.
00:07:41.000 Okay, what about you?
00:07:43.000 You said at 22?
00:07:44.000 Yeah, 22.
00:07:45.000 I think at least 20-plus.
00:07:46.000 I think once a girl hits the club, her number skyrockets. 1.00
00:07:49.000 Okay, so question for the girls. 0.82
00:07:53.000 Have you ever lied about your body count?
00:07:56.000 No, actually.
00:07:58.000 Never?
00:07:59.000 I don't think.
00:08:00.000 You've always told the truth.
00:08:01.000 Yeah.
00:08:02.000 Has a guy ever asked you?
00:08:03.000 Um, I think it's come up in conversation, but no one that I'm actually seeing.
00:08:07.000 No, actually, that's a lie.
00:08:08.000 Yeah, they have asked me.
00:08:09.000 Mm-hmm.
00:08:10.000 But it's not like, it wouldn't be the first question.
00:08:12.000 Okay.
00:08:13.000 Maybe like a couple months in.
00:08:14.000 And did you tell, and you told them the truth?
00:08:15.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:16.000 Okay.
00:08:17.000 What about you?
00:08:18.000 Yes.
00:08:19.000 You have lied?
00:08:20.000 Yeah.
00:08:21.000 What did you tell them it was?
00:08:22.000 We did not speak on that.
00:08:23.000 We did not speak on that.
00:08:25.000 But, um, let's just say I said it was five.
00:08:29.000 But, so if body count doesn't matter, why'd you lie?
00:08:32.000 Because, at the time, my ex was quite judgy and I thought he would break up with me if
00:08:39.000 he found out how many people.
00:08:41.000 Right.
00:08:42.000 Did he believe you?
00:08:43.000 No, I told him at the end.
00:08:44.000 Oh, you told him at the end.
00:08:45.000 Oh, you told him at the end.
00:08:46.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:08:47.000 Did he stay with you or no?
00:08:48.000 Yeah.
00:08:49.000 Okay, so he did accept it.
00:08:50.000 Yeah.
00:08:51.000 Yeah, I felt disappointed.
00:08:52.000 He was disappointed.
00:08:53.000 Yeah.
00:08:55.000 Well.
00:08:56.000 It is what it is.
00:08:58.000 Okay, what about you?
00:09:00.000 So, back in the day, I did actually used to lie, I can't lie, but now I'm very open
00:09:05.000 about it.
00:09:06.000 I don't care what people think about me.
00:09:08.000 I'm very expressive, but I have lied in the past about my body count.
00:09:12.000 I'm not ashamed about it.
00:09:13.000 What did you say it was?
00:09:15.000 Like 10, 20.
00:09:16.000 10, 20?
00:09:17.000 Yeah.
00:09:18.000 And will you say what it is?
00:09:20.000 You seem open to saying it if you want.
00:09:22.000 Yeah, I'll say it's probably over a hundred.
00:09:24.000 You're saying over a hundred, dude?
00:09:26.000 No way.
00:09:27.000 So it's what?
00:09:28.000 Maybe or 80, I don't know.
00:09:29.000 Wow.
00:09:30.000 Good it, girl.
00:09:31.000 I don't care.
00:09:32.000 I'm just wondering, how do you go through that and like, how?
00:09:35.000 How do you meet a hundred men you want to sleep with? 1.00
00:09:39.000 I just enjoy life.
00:09:40.000 Like, I go through a lot of experiences, I go on holiday, I do all these things and
00:09:45.000 I'm just thinking, why should I care about what people think?
00:09:48.000 You're just jealous.
00:09:49.000 You're living.
00:09:50.000 Because, yeah, you're not living my life.
00:09:53.000 Don't live again.
00:09:54.000 Because it ruins your future, you know?
00:09:56.000 You're here for a fun time, not a long time.
00:09:58.000 Yeah, exactly.
00:09:59.000 We all die at some point in our life.
00:10:01.000 Yeah, but that's not a way to think about it, bro.
00:10:03.000 What?
00:10:04.000 I'll be real.
00:10:05.000 If you're horny, go for it.
00:10:06.000 Like, a hundred plus, like, let's say you meet a girl with a hundred plus.
00:10:09.000 That wouldn't bother me.
00:10:10.000 Would you judge me?
00:10:11.000 That wouldn't bother you?
00:10:12.000 No.
00:10:13.000 A hundred plus is like, a stretch and I can't like, do you understand?
00:10:16.000 No, I think if she wants to have fun, she can have fun and do what she wants to do. 0.95
00:10:20.000 Okay, her man can do it.
00:10:21.000 Have you ever caught an STD from that?
00:10:23.000 I've once, yeah.
00:10:24.000 But that's normal, like, you would, out of all them people.
00:10:27.000 Yeah, I'd imagine.
00:10:28.000 And I own that, I'm not going to lie.
00:10:30.000 Right.
00:10:31.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:10:32.000 What's the point?
00:10:33.000 I'm going to be honest, of course.
00:10:34.000 No, I appreciate you being honest, but I'm just thinking, like, that's a hundred.
00:10:38.000 How?
00:10:39.000 But there's so many people out there that have got that body count, but they won't own
00:10:43.000 up to it.
00:10:44.000 I know plenty of people out there.
00:10:46.000 Really?
00:10:47.000 With that amount.
00:10:48.000 How common do you think it is?
00:10:49.000 What percent of girls have slept with that many people? 1.00
00:10:51.000 Probably over 60 to 70, I reckon.
00:10:55.000 There's a lot out there, but they just won't own up to it.
00:11:00.000 You're just experienced.
00:11:01.000 That's even better.
00:11:02.000 Exactly.
00:11:03.000 I don't care what people think.
00:11:05.000 And that's why I'm in the place I am now, because I don't care.
00:11:08.000 But don't you think that you should care about what the man you want thinks?
00:11:11.000 Yeah, but I'm not in that right head space right now to care what that man thinks, because
00:11:16.000 I'm enjoying my life.
00:11:18.000 So you're focused on yourself?
00:11:19.000 Yeah, very focused.
00:11:20.000 So when do you think you'll be ready to focus on the man?
00:11:23.000 Maybe when I'm like 30.
00:11:25.000 How old are you now?
00:11:26.000 I'm 24 now.
00:11:27.000 So that's six years.
00:11:28.000 That's six years for me to enjoy my life.
00:11:30.000 You gotta understand, the way you're living now, I'm not judging you.
00:11:32.000 I'm not judging you.
00:11:33.000 No, of course.
00:11:34.000 You're living your life.
00:11:35.000 He's definitely judging you.
00:11:36.000 Not judging you.
00:11:37.000 A lot of people judge me every day.
00:11:38.000 You said like 100 plus on average, right?
00:11:41.000 Mm-hmm.
00:11:42.000 All right.
00:11:43.000 So you tell me in six years, what would that be?
00:11:45.000 Yeah, but what...
00:11:46.000 Yeah, but...
00:11:47.000 When did you lose your virginity?
00:11:48.000 I'm just like calculating this per year.
00:11:49.000 I think 16.
00:11:50.000 So 16, you said you're 24?
00:11:52.000 But it sounds really bad me saying that.
00:11:54.000 That's just average.
00:11:55.000 I'm not saying it was literally over 100, but like there has been a lot of, yeah, it's
00:12:00.000 been an estimate and I have had a lot of experiences and I will never regret how I am as a person
00:12:06.000 and how open I am about it as well.
00:12:08.000 You shouldn't...
00:12:09.000 What's the most people you've slept with in like a week?
00:12:12.000 Probably only three or four, I think.
00:12:15.000 What do you mean only three?
00:12:16.000 That's fine.
00:12:17.000 But if you're on a day...
00:12:18.000 Sorry, I'm sorry.
00:12:19.000 I don't mean...
00:12:20.000 I just...
00:12:21.000 This is so crazy to me.
00:12:22.000 And I know people probably looking at me online and thinking, oh, what a slag.
00:12:26.000 But people do this as a living as well.
00:12:29.000 You've got to remember that, like, just enjoy your life and be who you are as a person.
00:12:35.000 And if you like having sex all the time, then go and do it and be open about what you do.
00:12:39.000 Would it bother you if like the consequence of that would be not being able to get married later?
00:12:44.000 Yes, I know.
00:12:46.000 Because I do want to be married one day.
00:12:48.000 I want to have children.
00:12:49.000 I want to have my own family.
00:12:50.000 So you have to think about what the man wants.
00:12:52.000 What I was speaking about earlier.
00:12:53.000 Yeah, but I'm a very selfish person.
00:12:54.000 I want to enjoy my own life.
00:12:56.000 And I don't think about things in the future.
00:12:58.000 I just think about the moment I'm in right now.
00:13:01.000 But I understand where you're coming from in that concept.
00:13:03.000 I understand that.
00:13:04.000 But I think that the goal for every woman is to get married and have children and create a family one day, right? 1.00
00:13:08.000 Yeah.
00:13:09.000 So I understand that you're living your life, you're enjoying yourself 100%.
00:13:12.000 I agree with that.
00:13:13.000 You should 100% do that.
00:13:14.000 But I also think that you should think about what the man that you want is going to think about a woman that has such a high body.
00:13:20.000 But what if he was the same as me though?
00:13:22.000 It's not the same.
00:13:23.000 Like we just spoke about that earlier about a man having 200 men and women aren't the same.
00:13:28.000 Like men care about that stuff.
00:13:30.000 Women don't. 1.00
00:13:31.000 I really don't care about my ni ์‹œered for 2 and 4 times.
00:13:34.000 Yeah.
00:13:35.000 Oh no.
00:13:36.000 It's the opposite.
00:13:37.000 It's the opposite way.
00:13:38.000 It's the opposite way.
00:13:39.000 And like the other day, we have like a little kid at home.
00:13:40.000 Totally?
00:13:41.000 Everything in that space has to honor and meet up really someone else, she's like,
00:13:42.000 So we can tell her that village of the males being better and looks a little bit.