JustPearlyThings - The LEVEL at Which the LAW Favors Women

00:00:00.000 women that don't give men access to their children i think it's a mix i i i don't know what proportion

00:00:05.680 but i think there's both right like yeah i think there's way more women that don't let men see 1.00

00:00:11.440 their children than vice versa that's my opinion why do you think that pearl can i ask um it's

00:00:16.080 just from interviewing guys like i'm doing a documentary on divorce and you would just be

00:00:21.280 shocked by how many men there are in this country that want to see their children so bad so i

00:00:26.800 actually know someone i will like cry why don't they fight for access i'll tell you why it's

00:00:32.880 because one phone call a woman can ruin a man's life it just takes one phone call so essentially

00:00:38.880 what what a girl can do is if if i'm dating someone right and we have a kid together i can make one 0.99

00:00:44.560 phone call accuse him of um get a restraining order against him with basically no evidence get him

00:00:50.240 arrested and then you are incentivized to do that because you get a free lawyer in divorce court

00:00:56.320 so now you go to divorce court and the crazy thing is especially when covet happened it took a lot a lot

00:01:02.000 of um the cases that i've looked at took one to two years to actually happen so in that time period he

00:01:07.680 doesn't have access to his kids and then um he has to pay child support in the time and the in the time

00:01:14.640 being a lot of the guys were kicked out of their houses and every and he's known by everyone as an

00:01:18.960 abuser again this is all with no evidence because in family court it's not based on evidence it's based on a

00:01:24.560 imbalance of probabilities so so it's not in criminal court this is family court um and so

00:01:30.800 basically uh it's so sad it's like literally the saddest thing these guys will live like a mile from

00:01:36.880 their kids and they don't have access to them they can't see them i know one guy that went through

00:01:41.120 court to see his kid and he lost so much weight he couldn't eat he was depressed because his his uh

00:01:47.200 mrs well he wasn't he wasn't married but his girlfriend took the child away but i know a lot

00:01:51.280 of guys and that was just one i know so much women that have got waist man baby fathers and i think they 1.00

00:01:57.520 both exist but the ratio is nowhere near even this is what i think i think there's two things that go on

00:02:02.880 one women do make bad reproductive choices in my opinion where they they reproduce with a guy that 1.00

00:02:09.360 clearly is a bad pick toxic like abusive control like whatever whatever they'll say right um but i

00:02:15.360 do think that the second thing going on is we only hear the woman's side and i think we have an innate

00:02:20.080 like proclivity to just believe women when they tell us things and i think a lot of times if you heard

00:02:24.720 the man's point of view like i know someone that like is literally destroying like a man's reputation

00:02:30.720 on social media and the husband reached like saying he's a deadbeat dad he left all the stuff

00:02:35.040 the husband reaches out and says that she left with the kid and she hasn't had access to him or he

00:02:41.040 hasn't had access now who who's right who's wrong right we don't actually know yeah but but i will tell

00:02:46.480 you it is a lot more common than people think that men want to see their children and the women will not 1.00

00:02:51.840 give them access out of spite i don't personally and i'm not disagreeing with you i know they exist i don't

00:02:56.800 personally know any women like that not disputing they exist however i think the ratio is not as as

00:03:02.720 much i think the ratio is much larger that women are trying to get help from their baby fathers they're 0.89

00:03:08.720 trying to get financial help they're trying to get emotional help physical help looking after the

00:03:13.360 kids so that she can have a little life of her own social life you know before she's an old woman with 1.00

00:03:17.440 cats you know i mean she might want to date it's okay for him to get a girlfriend she can't get a next

00:03:21.920 man you know it's a lot of double standards you know i think i think if that were true then more women 1.00

00:03:26.240 would let men have 50 50 custody they let them the man doesn't do it no it's not true it's again

00:03:32.320 men only get access 10 of the time do you realize how small of a number that is 10 percent like 0.65

00:03:38.240 they're we can agree they're shitty moms they're shitty dads but 10 percent who um can i ask what 0.66

00:03:45.600 the left will do is they'll say why don't these men fight for custody so i'm going to go back to that

00:03:49.360 story one phone call this woman calls the police the whole community thinks he's an abuser okay now he's

00:03:55.200 lost his reputation he's lost his friends a lot of these men go so crazy they lose their jobs

00:03:59.760 now by the time they get to court the court says why haven't you been in the kid's life for a year

00:04:03.520 and a half and the woman there's no consequence for keeping the man from his kids there will be a

00:04:08.560 consequence it's when the kids grow older it's when you're right it's when the kids grow older but

00:04:13.600 they also don't talk about parental alienation and i mean we have examples of celebrities that this

00:04:18.880 happened in front of our eyes like think of kanye kanye loved his mom comes to find out the his mom that 1.00

00:04:25.200 he loved right he was on her side had never had took him out of i think it was atlanta or like

00:04:31.520 some some somewhere down south and took him to chicago without the father's consent and i've

00:04:36.400 interviewed guy after guy after guy where a lot of times the woman will leave the state or leave the 1.00

00:04:40.560 country and he gets no say and so a lot of guys don't fight because they see all their friends

00:04:46.000 getting screwed in divorce court because and i've even talked to divorce lawyers about this it's like

00:04:51.120 when a man when a woman has a kid that is not your kid it's hers because if you go to court and you 0.92

00:04:56.160 want to spend so now he's been paying child support for a year sometimes a year and a half he goes to

00:05:00.960 court and now he has to pay lawyer fees to maybe get the kid for a 10 chance are you going to do that

00:05:07.360 a lot of guys just say screw it i have no say and the rest of my life i access to my child is dependent

00:05:14.480 on how she feels because the other thing is women can do the same process he could win

00:05:19.600 maybe get 50 50 custody which he probably won't she'll still probably get primary custody because 1.00

00:05:24.320 she's been the primary caregiver for the last year so she'll still probably get it they don't ask why

00:05:29.680 and the crazy thing is she can do it again so like i'll talk to guys they got close to 50 50 custody like

00:05:37.360 maybe they'll get three days a week or two days a week and they're happy with that then she he does

00:05:42.320 something she doesn't like boom she calls the cops again i even i have seen text messages of the woman 1.00

00:05:47.360 trying to get the husband to hit her saying i i wish he would just hit me and and they literally

00:05:54.800 in court they didn't care she still got primary custody how crazy is that i'm telling you this is

00:06:00.080 so common like this is the number one dm i do not get any more dms than about this documentary

00:06:07.360 so the way that men can be proactive in this case is to seek legal representation first which is there

00:06:13.920 is a benefit to seeking but i'll tell you i'll tell you the problem is a lot of guys don't see this

00:06:18.640 coming because the women they can go to their doctor and start this process and they can go to 0.99

00:06:23.120 women's shelters there's like nine women's shelters for every one men men's shelter there are not men's

00:06:27.680 shelters like that so women go to the women's shelter and what they do there is they give them 0.95

00:06:32.000 a whole story to tell them about um the the father of their children and this could you know this could

00:06:37.840 just be hearsay but i've heard this from so many different guys where they go to the women's shelter

00:06:42.000 and they'll say okay he's nigerian you have to say this about him he's eastern european you have to say

00:06:46.720 this about them bait like a certain story based on their culture i mean like i've even i've had

00:06:52.400 multiple guys i've had multiple i've had i've had multiple guys no i don't even think it's

00:06:57.200 sociopathic i just think women have so much power in this regard and i i think like okay we we take 1.00

00:07:03.840 female evil right what's female evil it's spite like women can be very manipulative and very spiteful 1.00

00:07:09.520 what's male evil aggression right like they kill someone they get angry and so it's like okay if we

00:07:15.120 legally gave men guns when they were at their angriest what would they do they would kill more when we

00:07:21.120 legally give women the tools to destroy a man's life they're going to do it more because it's 1.00

00:07:27.120 legal because they can't and the women's shelters make this all possible and when you follow the

00:07:32.320 money they all like the lawyers um the number one the lawyers have no incentive to even help the men

00:07:37.680 because who's the lawyer's number one client mothers so if you win too many cases you're not going

00:07:43.600 to be recommended that's the number one client from the lawyer like all of the money it follow like

00:07:48.640 it's a whole system i feel like i feel like it's all extremely sad very very very sad and this

00:07:56.480 conversation is sad i mean even criminals can get supervised visits it would have to be pretty bad

00:08:05.040 can i just finish there is so many kids that are suffering so many that i'm seeing in my family

00:08:12.560 friends like it's sad listen to what we're talking about it's sad they're just bringing children into

00:08:19.840 this world and the child and we're talking about the fight between the mom and the dad and it's crazy

00:08:27.360 and then you've got these children these poor children who i'm thinking of like some of my friends

00:08:35.760 are struggling because he's manipulative she's manipulative and you've got this kid

00:08:40.560 who is just a kid and just wants to be a kid and doesn't want to have to go through all of this crap

00:08:48.800 and i think it all comes down to promiscuous promise like being from if we was taught right if we was taught

00:08:59.920 right because it's not right to sleep around it's not right to to just be like oh i'm just gonna get an

00:09:08.560 abortion it's not and even if you are life pro-life pro-choice you know even pro-choice you know

00:09:16.720 it's not right to be like let's get another version let's get another abortion i'll get another one 0.93

00:09:22.080 it's not right these and it is a life and i get that some people don't believe that it is a life

00:09:29.760 it's got a heartbeat you go to a scan they might have women that i know that have been like 1.00

00:09:35.360 i'm pregnant how do they know like and then they've gone and they found out they are they knew

00:09:41.520 they got pregnant on this certain day like it's it's something spiritual it's something that we cannot

00:09:50.000 explain no science can explain it no like how can we explain a life you a woman create in life we 0.97

00:10:00.880 create life that is that that is the most amazing thing in the world like man and a woman get 0.99

00:10:08.880 together and they can create life but i think it's this is just it's really sad i i totally agree

00:10:15.760 with you i think you bring bring brought out a very important point it's responsibility you know

00:10:21.440 you mentioned that it's your response it's our responsibility to uh give out the birth but it's

00:10:28.240 also think about this if you are now you're homeless and you have you carry a baby but you can't uh you

00:10:35.840 mentally unstable and you can't even afford to uh raise a baby think about you don't want to raise you

00:10:41.600 know well my mom was in that situation my mom gave up um she she had a kid um she gave up a kid for

00:10:47.200 adoption when she was 17. and it's actually really cool he grew up i met him when i was 22 for the

00:10:53.040 first time he's 31 he just got married he just had his first son so i mean a lot of times we act like

00:10:58.320 if you're in a bad situation there's no light at the end of the tunnel there's nothing you can do

00:11:02.240 but you know adoption is really a great option for people that aren't

JustPearlyThings - July 03, 2023

The LEVEL at Which the LAW Favors Women

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