The LEVEL at Which the LAW Favors Women
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss why women should fight for access to their kids and why they don t fight for custody and visitation rights for their kids in divorce court. We also talk about why it s so common for women to allow their kids to see their kids but not their partners.
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women that don't give men access to their children i think it's a mix i i i don't know what proportion
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but i think there's both right like yeah i think there's way more women that don't let men see
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their children than vice versa that's my opinion why do you think that pearl can i ask um it's
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just from interviewing guys like i'm doing a documentary on divorce and you would just be
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shocked by how many men there are in this country that want to see their children so bad so i
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actually know someone i will like cry why don't they fight for access i'll tell you why it's
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because one phone call a woman can ruin a man's life it just takes one phone call so essentially
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what what a girl can do is if if i'm dating someone right and we have a kid together i can make one
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phone call accuse him of um get a restraining order against him with basically no evidence get him
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arrested and then you are incentivized to do that because you get a free lawyer in divorce court
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so now you go to divorce court and the crazy thing is especially when covet happened it took a lot a lot
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of um the cases that i've looked at took one to two years to actually happen so in that time period he
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doesn't have access to his kids and then um he has to pay child support in the time and the in the time
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being a lot of the guys were kicked out of their houses and every and he's known by everyone as an
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abuser again this is all with no evidence because in family court it's not based on evidence it's based on a
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imbalance of probabilities so so it's not in criminal court this is family court um and so
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basically uh it's so sad it's like literally the saddest thing these guys will live like a mile from
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their kids and they don't have access to them they can't see them i know one guy that went through
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court to see his kid and he lost so much weight he couldn't eat he was depressed because his his uh
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mrs well he wasn't he wasn't married but his girlfriend took the child away but i know a lot
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of guys and that was just one i know so much women that have got waist man baby fathers and i think they
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both exist but the ratio is nowhere near even this is what i think i think there's two things that go on
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one women do make bad reproductive choices in my opinion where they they reproduce with a guy that
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clearly is a bad pick toxic like abusive control like whatever whatever they'll say right um but i
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do think that the second thing going on is we only hear the woman's side and i think we have an innate
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like proclivity to just believe women when they tell us things and i think a lot of times if you heard
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the man's point of view like i know someone that like is literally destroying like a man's reputation
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on social media and the husband reached like saying he's a deadbeat dad he left all the stuff
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the husband reaches out and says that she left with the kid and she hasn't had access to him or he
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hasn't had access now who who's right who's wrong right we don't actually know yeah but but i will tell
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you it is a lot more common than people think that men want to see their children and the women will not
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give them access out of spite i don't personally and i'm not disagreeing with you i know they exist i don't
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personally know any women like that not disputing they exist however i think the ratio is not as as
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much i think the ratio is much larger that women are trying to get help from their baby fathers they're
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trying to get financial help they're trying to get emotional help physical help looking after the
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kids so that she can have a little life of her own social life you know before she's an old woman with
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cats you know i mean she might want to date it's okay for him to get a girlfriend she can't get a next
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man you know it's a lot of double standards you know i think i think if that were true then more women
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would let men have 50 50 custody they let them the man doesn't do it no it's not true it's again
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men only get access 10 of the time do you realize how small of a number that is 10 percent like
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they're we can agree they're shitty moms they're shitty dads but 10 percent who um can i ask what
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the left will do is they'll say why don't these men fight for custody so i'm going to go back to that
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story one phone call this woman calls the police the whole community thinks he's an abuser okay now he's
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lost his reputation he's lost his friends a lot of these men go so crazy they lose their jobs
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now by the time they get to court the court says why haven't you been in the kid's life for a year
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and a half and the woman there's no consequence for keeping the man from his kids there will be a
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consequence it's when the kids grow older it's when you're right it's when the kids grow older but
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they also don't talk about parental alienation and i mean we have examples of celebrities that this
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happened in front of our eyes like think of kanye kanye loved his mom comes to find out the his mom that
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he loved right he was on her side had never had took him out of i think it was atlanta or like
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some some somewhere down south and took him to chicago without the father's consent and i've
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interviewed guy after guy after guy where a lot of times the woman will leave the state or leave the
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country and he gets no say and so a lot of guys don't fight because they see all their friends
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getting screwed in divorce court because and i've even talked to divorce lawyers about this it's like
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when a man when a woman has a kid that is not your kid it's hers because if you go to court and you
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want to spend so now he's been paying child support for a year sometimes a year and a half he goes to
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court and now he has to pay lawyer fees to maybe get the kid for a 10 chance are you going to do that
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a lot of guys just say screw it i have no say and the rest of my life i access to my child is dependent
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on how she feels because the other thing is women can do the same process he could win
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maybe get 50 50 custody which he probably won't she'll still probably get primary custody because
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she's been the primary caregiver for the last year so she'll still probably get it they don't ask why
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and the crazy thing is she can do it again so like i'll talk to guys they got close to 50 50 custody like
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maybe they'll get three days a week or two days a week and they're happy with that then she he does
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something she doesn't like boom she calls the cops again i even i have seen text messages of the woman
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trying to get the husband to hit her saying i i wish he would just hit me and and they literally
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in court they didn't care she still got primary custody how crazy is that i'm telling you this is
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so common like this is the number one dm i do not get any more dms than about this documentary
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so the way that men can be proactive in this case is to seek legal representation first which is there
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is a benefit to seeking but i'll tell you i'll tell you the problem is a lot of guys don't see this
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coming because the women they can go to their doctor and start this process and they can go to
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women's shelters there's like nine women's shelters for every one men men's shelter there are not men's
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shelters like that so women go to the women's shelter and what they do there is they give them
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a whole story to tell them about um the the father of their children and this could you know this could
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just be hearsay but i've heard this from so many different guys where they go to the women's shelter
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and they'll say okay he's nigerian you have to say this about him he's eastern european you have to say
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this about them bait like a certain story based on their culture i mean like i've even i've had
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multiple guys i've had multiple i've had i've had multiple guys no i don't even think it's
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sociopathic i just think women have so much power in this regard and i i think like okay we we take
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female evil right what's female evil it's spite like women can be very manipulative and very spiteful
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what's male evil aggression right like they kill someone they get angry and so it's like okay if we
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legally gave men guns when they were at their angriest what would they do they would kill more when we
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legally give women the tools to destroy a man's life they're going to do it more because it's
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legal because they can't and the women's shelters make this all possible and when you follow the
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money they all like the lawyers um the number one the lawyers have no incentive to even help the men
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because who's the lawyer's number one client mothers so if you win too many cases you're not going
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to be recommended that's the number one client from the lawyer like all of the money it follow like
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it's a whole system i feel like i feel like it's all extremely sad very very very sad and this
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conversation is sad i mean even criminals can get supervised visits it would have to be pretty bad
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can i just finish there is so many kids that are suffering so many that i'm seeing in my family
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friends like it's sad listen to what we're talking about it's sad they're just bringing children into
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this world and the child and we're talking about the fight between the mom and the dad and it's crazy
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and then you've got these children these poor children who i'm thinking of like some of my friends
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are struggling because he's manipulative she's manipulative and you've got this kid
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who is just a kid and just wants to be a kid and doesn't want to have to go through all of this crap
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and i think it all comes down to promiscuous promise like being from if we was taught right if we was taught
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right because it's not right to sleep around it's not right to to just be like oh i'm just gonna get an
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abortion it's not and even if you are life pro-life pro-choice you know even pro-choice you know
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it's not right to be like let's get another version let's get another abortion i'll get another one
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it's not right these and it is a life and i get that some people don't believe that it is a life
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it's got a heartbeat you go to a scan they might have women that i know that have been like
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i'm pregnant how do they know like and then they've gone and they found out they are they knew
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they got pregnant on this certain day like it's it's something spiritual it's something that we cannot
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explain no science can explain it no like how can we explain a life you a woman create in life we
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create life that is that that is the most amazing thing in the world like man and a woman get
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together and they can create life but i think it's this is just it's really sad i i totally agree
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with you i think you bring bring brought out a very important point it's responsibility you know
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you mentioned that it's your response it's our responsibility to uh give out the birth but it's
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also think about this if you are now you're homeless and you have you carry a baby but you can't uh you
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mentally unstable and you can't even afford to uh raise a baby think about you don't want to raise you
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know well my mom was in that situation my mom gave up um she she had a kid um she gave up a kid for
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adoption when she was 17. and it's actually really cool he grew up i met him when i was 22 for the
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first time he's 31 he just got married he just had his first son so i mean a lot of times we act like
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if you're in a bad situation there's no light at the end of the tunnel there's nothing you can do
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but you know adoption is really a great option for people that aren't